Things I cannot say out loud....

[Ozzieshunni]

These LOs sure know how to scare us silly! Alex was on the bed propped up with a pillow while I was cleaning the storage drawer under the bed and I heard him make a noise and he had fallen to the side and his face was in a blanket My heart skipped a beat!

 

[Lettuce]

To mum and dad: please please don't go on holiday! How will I manage without you guys? Me and Jennifer mss you so much! she's getting her jags next wed, DH is going down south for a meeting and has asked his mother to go with me (I was going to ask my bro or SIL!) I want my mummy!
What I actually said was "have a lovely time!"

 

[Kalah]

These LOs sure know how to scare us silly! Alex was on the bed propped up with a pillow while I was cleaning the storage drawer under the bed and I heard him make a noise and he had fallen to the side and his face was in a blanket My heart skipped a beat!

They really are good at scaring us! That must have been so scary for you!
Just yesterday I put Kili into her play pen and put her activity table and a couple toys in there. I went in the kitchen (right next to the living room so wasn't far away) and started cleaning, I expected that she couldn't get into any dangerous situations in her play pen...I was wrong! I kept peeking in ever couple minutes then one of the times I look in and she is perched ON top of her activity table!! Just looking around at the ground and around the room like "ooh, this is cool!" I said "OMG!" and she looked at me, smiled, then slowly stepped down off of it! I had no idea she could get on top of that let alone get down!

The a couple weeks ago I had a 30pack of diet coke on the floor in the living room, she was playing on the floor with her toys, I was looking at the computer screen and just occasionally looked back to check on her. Well at some point she moved the diet coke up to the coffee table so when I turned around she was sat calmly on the table watching tv! She had climbed up the box to get up on the table! No more climbable objects in this room.

And before that she attempted to climb on top of a BALLOON to reach a toy that was on the desk! I picked her up and took away the balloon and gave her the toy before that situation went any further, should would have been so hurt.

Danger baby!

 

[divadexie]

Lol! that image of Killi sitting on the coffee table watching tv made me laugh. Amazing the way they think of these things!

 

[caity88]

SIL: You are a spoiled little brat who not only thinks you're always right but that everyone should bow down to you. I'm sorry. I bow down to noone. Don't tell me theres something wrong with my child because she spits up. Yes, she spent the first few weeks not spitting up at all and now she is. Its because she's a baby. Also, you don't get a say in what she wears in her first pictures. What made you think you did? I wanted to laugh and slap you when you said "I want her to wear that khaki skirt," which is ridiculous because it is 4 sizes too big and doesn't stay where a skirt is supposed to. No, I will not safety pin it so it will fit. Shut up! And yes, I brought up the fact that you went behind our backs and swapped names for the Xmas drawing. I'm not going to let you act like you deserve a different name because you're who you are. SO what if you had that uncle last year. I had the same people for the past 3 years and when I said "Fine, give me that cousin you've had for 3 years," you said no. Throwing a baby fit and saying that you aren't doing Xmas at all is not going to make me feel bad for bringing it up. I don't care if you buy me a present and I'm certainly not going to beg for one. And its rude to buy my children toys and then tell them they can't have them because they are supposed to go to your house (if you ever move out of your moms). Don't tell me I'm acting like a baby because for once I didn't bite my tongue and I stood up for my family. Also, don't throw a fit because you didn't get to pick which 5x7 you got when we did DDs first pictures. If it was up to me I wouldn't have given you one at all. All you do with them is let people assume they are your children when they come in for a haircut. I think you should consider finding some idiot to marry you and have your own children if you want to have a say in how one is raised. Don't think I will hold off and not say this out loud next time. Stupid little girl. Grow up.

MIL: While I enjoy spending time with you, you are the reason your daughter is the way she is. When she throws a fit and says she's not buying Xmas because she can't afford it, don't jump in and say you will pay for it all. Thats not helping her at all. And if you have a question for me about the kids, ask me. Don't ask them to ask me. THey are 2 and 2months. They don't have the foggiest idea of what you're saying. Sometimes you annoy me as much as your idiot daughter. And don't tell me my child is ready for 4 oz. She's not. Just because she's eating more often, if you give her more ounces she throws up. I will make those decisions. Its my job as her parent not yours. And if you are so okay with us living here rent free don't bring it up every chance you get. Its considered rude.

FIL: You annoy me because you sit back and let your wife and daughter act this way in public. Instead of shaking your head and walking out, try telling them to shut the **** up! And don't tell me I need to pick up my child's toys each night when everyone else can't even manage to take their dishes to the kitchen or put the newspapers in the recycling bin. You guys are absolute pigs!

OH: I don't believe you when you say you don't hear LO when she cries in the morning. Seriously, count your blessings. You have an 8 week old baby who's been sleeping through the night since she was 3 weeks old and doesn't wake up before 6am. It would be nice if you got up with her more often because I can't take being awake from 5am to 11pm with a 2 month old and a two year old all day by myself without a chance to nap. You've been helping out more and more but seriously...just tell me you don't want to get up. I would rather be made because you said that then listen to you lie to me again.

WOW! I guess I've been holding back a little.

 

[dizzy65]

hehe awesome

 

[carbafe]

Mil - LO goes to bed at 9pm every night so don't Skype us at 9.30 and act upset that he is in bed. Also you should not be the only one who holds him when he sees you esp when I have told you a million times he prefers to lie on his mat and watch us all.Also it is very weird that you cry when lo does something cute.

 

[missVN]

To oh-
Please don't ask why when I tell you I'm tired Yes I know Ryan usually sleeps through but he didn't last night and I didn't get any sleep in-between him being up because you were snoring so bloody badly

To Lo-
Please don't wake me up by kicking me in the head! You're only in our bed cos you were awake at silly o'clock and wouldn't go back to sleep

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Dear Vaccines, I know you are good for my little guy, but why do you have to make him so sleepy and fussy? Don't you know how nervewracking that is for a new mommy?

Stupid receptionist at the GPs: Don't try to fucking tell me to phone the health visitor! A baby throwing up three times in less than an hour is NOT good, especially if he's fussy at the breast and not taking his feeds. Also, don't try and tell me it's a milk allergy! He's not allergic to my breastmilk!

 

[Natsku]

Dear Vaccines, I know you are good for my little guy, but why do you have to make him so sleepy and fussy? Don't you know how nervewracking that is for a new mommy?

Stupid receptionist at the GPs: Don't try to fucking tell me to phone the health visitor! A baby throwing up three times in less than an hour is NOT good, especially if he's fussy at the breast and not taking his feeds. Also, don't try and tell me it's a milk allergy! He's not allergic to my breastmilk!

That can happen, very rare though. Someone I know, her little boy was allergic to her breastmilk and would projectile vomit everything after every breastfeed and then be starving for more, just to vomit it again.

 

[Lettuce]

DH: I hate you sometimes, you are so freaking lazy. I've been up since 4am on and off with our daughter, I finally got into the shower at 10.30 after putting on a washing, taking down the dry stuff, hanging up the wet stuff I asked you to do last night that you didn't, fed Jenny 3times, played with her- no naps for me. Tidied up the bath stuff from last night. Go into the bedroom to get ready and you are still in bed! And you say - "I was just about to get up but you went into the shower so now ihave to wait til the water is hot again." you lazy b******!!!! you could have got up and started work (he works from home) you could have spent so,e time with Jenny, you could have cleaned out the cats, or changed Jenny, or tidied up! But no, you have to moan how tired you are! You wouldn't know tired if it bit you on the bum!
Oh yeah and just watch you play the doting father at the party tonight, whinge about lack of sleep nappy changes and how wonderful she is. Shove it up your ass. It's your hous too, fecking do the dishes for a change!
Oh yeah, how about applying for tax credits, and the central heating and the thank you cards. Screw you, I'm off to my parents t sort it all out. I clearly can't relay on you. I've got to laugh that your family think you provide for us! Ha! You pay nothing but the mobile phone bills. I pay the mortgage, the bills, the shopping, all our daughters things. And you moan when my mother buys me or her stuff cos it looks bad?! Why do you put your hand in your goddamn pocket then?! I have got nothing from you on the birth of our daughter- not even a bunch of flowers from asda. Pig. You got fathers day presents and everything! I was in hospital and you still got gifts!
I'm away out, I can't even look at you today.
Oh yeah and enjoy your night out. If you think I'm keeping jenny quiet tomorrow morning you are sadly mistaken! In fact I'm off out to buy her a noisy toy.
Why can't you just do any job that is asked of you?! The brake light in the car is out still! I bought the bulb and everything! Do I have to do everything myself? Yes, it seems so.

Sorry girls, feeling really angry about it all today and just don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him but it changes nothing. Xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Yeah, I know it's possible, but if he were allergic he would be throwing up all the time, not just this cluster of times.

 

[Natsku]

Your post just reminded me of it and how weird it is. Must be so horrible if you do have a baby allergic to your own milk Glad your baby isn't though!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Sorry, I'm just really irritated and worried

 

[Natsku]

Hope he's ok

 

[chichestermum]

Your post just reminded me of it and how weird it is. Must be so horrible if you do have a baby allergic to your own milk Glad your baby isn't though!

i had a mummy friend whos baby was allergic to her breastmilk, she paid to go to a private consultant because the health visitors and Drs kept fobbing her off saying he was just greedy and having too much (he was a really big baby for the amount he puked up!) anyway the consultant told her that he was allergic to her breast milk, she had to go on a really odd diet and take tablets to make her milk ok for him to drink, she was also not allowed to have any form of dairy or soy or anything like that so she had to have a specially formulated powdered milk! it used to make me chuckle that she was having to drink what looked like baby formula!
i used to admire her strength for doing all that just so her baby got the benefits of breastmilk!
unfortunately her 2nd child had the same problem, but she decided against going through it all again and swapped to the bottle.
must of been an awful position to be in!



Dear baby, yes my womb is your home atm but if you read the small print in the tenancy agreement you will find that being excessively unruly is a violation of the agreement and i have the right to serve yuo with an eviction notice giving you 2 weeks to move out... oh you cant read? ...well in that case you can have 6 weeks.
ps jumping on my bladder at 4am so i jump up and run to the loo in fear off peeing myself just to move off it and squash whatever part of my bladder allows me to pee so that i cant go is not acceptable! please just let me pee! no a trickle is not worth it! xxx

 

[Louppey]

DH: I hate you sometimes, you are so freaking lazy. I've been up since 4am on and off with our daughter, I finally got into the shower at 10.30 after putting on a washing, taking down the dry stuff, hanging up the wet stuff I asked you to do last night that you didn't, fed Jenny 3times, played with her- no naps for me. Tidied up the bath stuff from last night. Go into the bedroom to get ready and you are still in bed! And you say - "I was just about to get up but you went into the shower so now ihave to wait til the water is hot again." you lazy b******!!!! you could have got up and started work (he works from home) you could have spent so,e time with Jenny, you could have cleaned out the cats, or changed Jenny, or tidied up! But no, you have to moan how tired you are! You wouldn't know tired if it bit you on the bum!
Oh yeah and just watch you play the doting father at the party tonight, whinge about lack of sleep nappy changes and how wonderful she is. Shove it up your ass. It's your hous too, fecking do the dishes for a change!
Oh yeah, how about applying for tax credits, and the central heating and the thank you cards. Screw you, I'm off to my parents t sort it all out. I clearly can't relay on you. I've got to laugh that your family think you provide for us! Ha! You pay nothing but the mobile phone bills. I pay the mortgage, the bills, the shopping, all our daughters things. And you moan when my mother buys me or her stuff cos it looks bad?! Why do you put your hand in your goddamn pocket then?! I have got nothing from you on the birth of our daughter- not even a bunch of flowers from asda. Pig. You got fathers day presents and everything! I was in hospital and you still got gifts!
I'm away out, I can't even look at you today.
Oh yeah and enjoy your night out. If you think I'm keeping jenny quiet tomorrow morning you are sadly mistaken! In fact I'm off out to buy her a noisy toy.
Why can't you just do any job that is asked of you?! The brake light in the car is out still! I bought the bulb and everything! Do I have to do everything myself? Yes, it seems so.

Sorry girls, feeling really angry about it all today and just don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him but it changes nothing. Xx

I went through a stage like this with my DH

Suddenly it just got better! I think when the babies slightly bigger and more "interactive" they suddenly get more interested and helpful.

There's hope honey

ETA I am ashamed to admit it, but there was many a time when I would actually hate my Husband. Full on hatred. Like if I had a gun, I would have shot him in the head. But it did pass, and I love him again now Oh the joys of being a woman & mood swings LOL

 

[MissFox]

DH: I hate you sometimes, you are so freaking lazy. I've been up since 4am on and off with our daughter, I finally got into the shower at 10.30 after putting on a washing, taking down the dry stuff, hanging up the wet stuff I asked you to do last night that you didn't, fed Jenny 3times, played with her- no naps for me. Tidied up the bath stuff from last night. Go into the bedroom to get ready and you are still in bed! And you say - "I was just about to get up but you went into the shower so now ihave to wait til the water is hot again." you lazy b******!!!! you could have got up and started work (he works from home) you could have spent so,e time with Jenny, you could have cleaned out the cats, or changed Jenny, or tidied up! But no, you have to moan how tired you are! You wouldn't know tired if it bit you on the bum!
Oh yeah and just watch you play the doting father at the party tonight, whinge about lack of sleep nappy changes and how wonderful she is. Shove it up your ass. It's your hous too, fecking do the dishes for a change!
Oh yeah, how about applying for tax credits, and the central heating and the thank you cards. Screw you, I'm off to my parents t sort it all out. I clearly can't relay on you. I've got to laugh that your family think you provide for us! Ha! You pay nothing but the mobile phone bills. I pay the mortgage, the bills, the shopping, all our daughters things. And you moan when my mother buys me or her stuff cos it looks bad?! Why do you put your hand in your goddamn pocket then?! I have got nothing from you on the birth of our daughter- not even a bunch of flowers from asda. Pig. You got fathers day presents and everything! I was in hospital and you still got gifts!
I'm away out, I can't even look at you today.
Oh yeah and enjoy your night out. If you think I'm keeping jenny quiet tomorrow morning you are sadly mistaken! In fact I'm off out to buy her a noisy toy.
Why can't you just do any job that is asked of you?! The brake light in the car is out still! I bought the bulb and everything! Do I have to do everything myself? Yes, it seems so.

Sorry girls, feeling really angry about it all today and just don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him but it changes nothing. Xx

I went through a stage like this with my DH

Suddenly it just got better! I think when the babies slightly bigger and more "interactive" they suddenly get more interested and helpful.

There's hope honey

ETA I am ashamed to admit it, but there was many a time when I would actually hate my Husband. Full on hatred. Like if I had a gun, I would have shot him in the head. But it did pass, and I love him again now Oh the joys of being a woman & mood swings LOL

I feel like this a lot. I don't like it but I NEED MORE HELP! Don't watch me getting ready for work and stressing about being on time and then not help with the baby. I shouldn't have been the one to bathe her this morning- it should have been you. YOU are the SAHD. Please act like one or go get a job- disability or not.

 

[elephant29]

DH: I hate you sometimes, you are so freaking lazy. I've been up since 4am on and off with our daughter, I finally got into the shower at 10.30 after putting on a washing, taking down the dry stuff, hanging up the wet stuff I asked you to do last night that you didn't, fed Jenny 3times, played with her- no naps for me. Tidied up the bath stuff from last night. Go into the bedroom to get ready and you are still in bed! And you say - "I was just about to get up but you went into the shower so now ihave to wait til the water is hot again." you lazy b******!!!! you could have got up and started work (he works from home) you could have spent so,e time with Jenny, you could have cleaned out the cats, or changed Jenny, or tidied up! But no, you have to moan how tired you are! You wouldn't know tired if it bit you on the bum!
Oh yeah and just watch you play the doting father at the party tonight, whinge about lack of sleep nappy changes and how wonderful she is. Shove it up your ass. It's your hous too, fecking do the dishes for a change!
Oh yeah, how about applying for tax credits, and the central heating and the thank you cards. Screw you, I'm off to my parents t sort it all out. I clearly can't relay on you. I've got to laugh that your family think you provide for us! Ha! You pay nothing but the mobile phone bills. I pay the mortgage, the bills, the shopping, all our daughters things. And you moan when my mother buys me or her stuff cos it looks bad?! Why do you put your hand in your goddamn pocket then?! I have got nothing from you on the birth of our daughter- not even a bunch of flowers from asda. Pig. You got fathers day presents and everything! I was in hospital and you still got gifts!
I'm away out, I can't even look at you today.
Oh yeah and enjoy your night out. If you think I'm keeping jenny quiet tomorrow morning you are sadly mistaken! In fact I'm off out to buy her a noisy toy.
Why can't you just do any job that is asked of you?! The brake light in the car is out still! I bought the bulb and everything! Do I have to do everything myself? Yes, it seems so.

Sorry girls, feeling really angry about it all today and just don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to him but it changes nothing. Xx

I know exactly how your feeling. It's horrible aint it?

My OH is really lazy. He will do something if I ask but it's getting to the stage that I dont want to ask anymore as he completely over reacts. For example I was at work yesterday and he was at home with the baby. We both work fulltime so in my eyes we both should do equal share of house work. However when he is home nothing gets done. I got home yesterday and the place was a mess, dishes in the sink from the morning, washing all over the kitchen floor and the worst was he left a mug of coffee on a table in the living room and I walked in and LO was holding it splashing coffee all over herself. What if she had drank it or dropped the mug on herself? It had been sitting there since this morning and I have asked him hundreds of times not to leave cups there. The bedroom was a mess. The laudry basket was sitting there yet his dirt clothes were still on the floor. He ended up storming about and cleaning up but he had such an attitude about it and made me feel like shit. Being pregnant and hormonal I was sat giving LO her dinner in tears.

It might seem trivial to some people. However some people just get on with it and dont ask or expect their OH to help them but I expect it and am always so disappointed when he doesnt do it. I went to bed last night without saying goodnight. I got the baby up this morning, fed her and put her back down and went to work all whilst he was in bed so I didnt speak to him. he called and txt and I did answer but he was acting as though nothing was wrong meanwhile I am actually feeling really down about the whole situation. I dont know how to deal with it anymore either. He's a brilliant dad but at the moment he is letting me down and no matter what I say or do he doesnt get it. He thinks he 'helps' by looking after LO but to me that's his job. Helping is doing his share at home so that I am not having to come home and do everything.

I actually said to him last night that I didnt think he loved me anymore. I know that might have been a bit dramatic but it's how I'm feeling. How can you love someone but let them work themselves silly trying to keep a nice tidy house for everyone, work fulltime, look after a 10 month old and be 4 months pregnant? I feel like something is broken and I just dont have the tools to fix it anymore. I love him, I want to be with him but I cant handle this situation anymore.

Would it be easier being on my own? Probably not and I would be heartbroken but at least I wouldnt be disappointed.

Sorry that rant has been building for a while now.

xxx

 

[MissFox]

I know it would be easier on my own. HE would still watch her during the day with no issues at all... Mine is lazy too. Hardly helps me and when I nag he looses it. So half the time I end up doing it myself but I need to stop that because it makes me hate him.