Things I cannot say out loud....

[divadexie]

Oh Kalah that is great
Don't worry too much about him- not your problem any more.
The flight will be hard- but just keep on thinking about how great it is going to be when you get to the other end! I can see the beam on your face through your words xxx

 

[divadexie]

Dear OH- I wish you understood how much you piss me off, you really, really make me MAD sometimes!

I wonder, why I possibly went mad, that I come back in from having some ME time walking two of the dogs that you have left the bedroom door open and the cat runs out the door- and you KNOW the reason he is shut in is because he follows me and runs out infront of cars. I don't care that I swore at you infront of your friend. I wouldn't have got mad if it wasnt a reoccuring thing, me dealing with the fact that YOU have left ONE door open and let the stupid cat out!
Which made me mad and even though I told you I am SICK of doing the same shit over and over, that you are not blind nor stupid, you see something that needs done, do it, dont just fucking walk past it....
you sat there on your arse watching the telly ignoring me while I fed the dogs, put the tea on, cleaned the kitchen, took all the plates etc out the livingroom, stacked everything that needs to go in the dishwasher out of the way, put the dogs to bed, put the dog food away, and the bowls, tidied all LO's things away and cleaned her high chair, put the tea out you were STILL SAT THERE!!!! And then went OUT leaving your damn plate on the table!!!!!!!!!!
Also, I WILL be dog sitting next month as it is a tiny bit of extra income. And sorry that you thought YOU were getting the money when I sell the washing machine to our friend- who pays for the new one? Oh thats right, ME so the £30 is MINE and is going on the bloody phone bill that you wont let me downgrade packages on I cant bloody afford £60 a month on phone/internet.



to the dog (lol) thank you for a lovely stress free calming walk I feel much better

 

[tanya]

To mil&fil I trusted you completely and you have totally destroyed that, you were upset before that I wouldn't let you babysit Flynn yet (he's six bloody weeks old ffs) after that performance today you are bloody lucky I'm still going to let you SEE him!
I took mil and fil shopping today as they had no lift and would need a taxi, I was nice enough to get Flynn ready and take them, when we walked into tesco Flynn was cryin so I took him and changed his bum and fed him, went and met up with mil&fil, works in town near tesco and is constantly going on about takin Flynn to "show him off" he's not a new fucking toy! And weve taken him twice, do you want him to bloody move in? Anyway fil asked if he could take Flynn to work and I said no, he has only just calmed down after being upset, he hasn't finished his feed yet (he likes a little break) and I'm still struggling to let him go places without me, I'm working on it and have managed it on my terms a few times but I need to take it slow. Mil&fil ignored me and ganged up on me basically saying I didn't trust them and that I was being silly not letting him go and (as I hear it) that I was damaging Flynn by not letting other people look after him and that he needed independence! Excuse my language HE'S SIX FUCKING WEEKS OLD HOW INDEPENDENT COULD HE BE!! then while I was still trying to argue my case I don't even know what happened but the next thing I know fil is walking away with my baby and mil is chatting away like nothing happened, I hate making a scene otherwise I'd have run after him taken my baby home and left them there! I was too stunned I didn't know how to react so I just followed mil round the shop barely speaking, she finally realised I was upset (I was trying to hide it as hysterical crying doesn't go down well in tesco) she asked me what was wrong and I told her that i was upset that they had gone against my wishes and taken my baby away, I asked mil if she would have liked it if someone had done that to her with her kids and she said no it was an awful thing to do to me, so why do it, next thing I know mil has phoned fil and told him to get back, sil has phoned from her hol in scotland (by chance right in the middle) and pretty much ripped mil a new one (thanks sis) so mil is stood in tesco crying because she thinks I'll never let them see Flynn again, fil is extremely interested in a frozen pizza and trying to wipe his eyes with his hanky without anyone seeing, I told them I'd not stop them seeing him but that I was upset by it and surprised that they would do it at all, also that I was upset that fil had taken Flynn out of the buggy at his work and let some woman I've never met feed him!! Eventually the shopping got finished and we got out to the car, I was still really upset but dudnt want to show it and kick it all off again and was sondistracted and upset I crashed my car into a pole! Luckily the airbags didn't deploy and everyone was ok, front bumper has a lovely piece missing and I'm sure it'll help when we are trying to sell it.
When I got home dh came on skype to talk to Flynn(he's trainig away for a week) and ended up getting the full story through lots of sobbing etc, he was all for phoning mil and having a go at her, he wants to tell her that if they even try anything like that again they will never see Flynn. I asked him to leave it, I'm already disowned from my family I don't want him to go through that too and it wouldn't be fair on flynn.

Also to mil, when we say we don't want you to smoke near Flynn I do count standing at the back door 5 feet from where he's napping to be near him and I am aware that it's your house so don't look upset when I ask you to go outside, fil, not smoking around Flynn also includes wandering slowly through the room where he is with a lit cig in your hand ffs!! It's not hard!!

Usually I love my inlaws, I don't knownwhats happened to them today.

 

[MissFox]

I don't know how to leave him. I want to but I love him. F u borderline personality disorder.

 

[Lettuce]

Shoot the inlaws! It's the only way to stay sane... I can't believe they did that! That is truly terrible. xx

 

[tanya]

Shoot the inlaws! It's the only way to stay sane... I can't believe they did that! That is truly terrible. xx

Icant believe it either, they know I struggle to trust people with Flynn and I struggle to leave him, i think they just got overexcited and didn't even think about it. I think everyone would be happier if Flynn and me werent a package deal, I bet everyone would prefer to see him without me there.

 

[Kalah]

Ouch, I know what you mean! The flight is hell! You'll have to give me some tips about managing it with a one year old!

I'll let you know how it goes, no guarantees it will go well enough for you to want tips from me though

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Kalah

Thankfully, my MIL was wonderful to me. She passed away over a year ago and never got to meet LO. It makes me sad every day because she would have been so pleased with him and loved him to bits.

 

[Lettuce]

Shoot the inlaws! It's the only way to stay sane... I can't believe they did that! That is truly terrible. xx

Icant believe it either, they know I struggle to trust people with Flynn and I struggle to leave him, i think they just got overexcited and didn't even think about it. I think everyone would be happier if Flynn and me werent a package deal, I bet everyone would prefer to see him without me there.

I'm sorry, I'm about to be super rude now.... You don't "have issues with leaving him" you're his mum and hes 6weeks old!!! It's perfectly normal not to want to let him out of your sight!! In fact, I'd go so far as to say the opposite would worry me more. What they did was wrong and cruel.
Hunny, I go all anxious if anyone takes Jennifer out of my sight, even to change her in a different room!
As for them wishing you didn't come together... I hear ya, sometimes I think I was just the incubator for her! I love bfeeding cos Others can't do that! xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I must be a freak DH and I are leaving him with SIL tomorrow night for four hours

 

[Lauki]

you're not a freak!
I left Sophie with my MIL for 5 hours on our first wedding anniversary. We did phone up during the day though and we were back for 7.30pm. It was scary, but we managed !

Don't feel bad for not wanting to leave your LO though, that day was the only time I left her and I wouldn't do it again any time soon!

 

[Lettuce]

I must be a freak DH and I are leaving him with SIL tomorrow night for four hours

Lol! Sorry, I didn't mean that! I meant if you hadnt chosen for someone to take him!

Ohhh, you doing something nice ozzie?!

Oh and just a little rant, since I'm here! DH, get up you lazy lazy man.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

We're meeting up with some friends until 10 and then coming home for an hour before getting wee man

 

[Kalah]

We're meeting up with some friends until 10 and then coming home for an hour before getting wee man

Hmmmm I wonder what that extra hour would be for!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

 

[tanya]

I have left him a few times, we live with his aunties and they have taken him for a walk to the park while dh ad I ha the quickest pub meal ever lol, sil has taken him to the park so I could have a shower and a nap and they are always willing to have a cuddle with him while we eat meals they take him to their lounge for a bit. But all that hemas been on my terms, they made it clear early on that they loved him and would do anything to help us and would have him whenever I wanted, they don't push it and they never go near him unless they've asked. They offer to change nappies but don't expect me to let them (as if I'd say no lol!) and they are ecstatic when I ask them to help feed or bathe him. What mil did was horrible and has actually destroyed the trust I had I think it's going to take a long time to get that back and although I'm not going to stop them seeing Flynn I don't think I'll be visiting as often, I've been going 2-3 times a week sometimes for the full day (10am till about 6pm) whenever we are at their house they decide that I need a break and apart from changing him, they still can't work out how disposable nappies work, I barely see him, fil will take him in the lounge to watch TV and mil expects me to stay in the kitchen with her, if he's hungry I make the bottle then someone takes him away and if I say anything then I get the guilt trip of "ohhh you see him all the time and we don't see him much.. We only want to help and give you a rest" sometimes I dont want a rest I want to cuddle my baby without someone hovering waiting to take him off me. Also I dont need a rest, he is the most placid baby ever and excepting a couple of bad days we've had he's been really easy, I enjoy spending time with him, I dont need a break from something I enjoy.
We've all been invited to mils house for tea on Sunday but tbh I don't really want to go.

 

[Kalah]

I have left him a few times, we live with his aunties and they have taken him for a walk to the park while dh ad I ha the quickest pub meal ever lol, sil has taken him to the park so I could have a shower and a nap and they are always willing to have a cuddle with him while we eat meals they take him to their lounge for a bit. But all that hemas been on my terms, they made it clear early on that they loved him and would do anything to help us and would have him whenever I wanted, they don't push it and they never go near him unless they've asked. They offer to change nappies but don't expect me to let them (as if I'd say no lol!) and they are ecstatic when I ask them to help feed or bathe him. What mil did was horrible and has actually destroyed the trust I had I think it's going to take a long time to get that back and although I'm not going to stop them seeing Flynn I don't think I'll be visiting as often, I've been going 2-3 times a week sometimes for the full day (10am till about 6pm) whenever we are at their house they decide that I need a break and apart from changing him, they still can't work out how disposable nappies work, I barely see him, fil will take him in the lounge to watch TV and mil expects me to stay in the kitchen with her, if he's hungry I make the bottle then someone takes him away and if I say anything then I get the guilt trip of "ohhh you see him all the time and we don't see him much.. We only want to help and give you a rest" sometimes I dont want a rest I want to cuddle my baby without someone hovering waiting to take him off me. Also I dont need a rest, he is the most placid baby ever and excepting a couple of bad days we've had he's been really easy, I enjoy spending time with him, I dont need a break from something I enjoy.
We've all been invited to mils house for tea on Sunday but tbh I don't really want to go.

I'd tell them 2-3 times a week is hardly not seeing him much! When I told my mom I'm coming to missouri she was super excited about finally meeting Kili and started talking about all the places she wants to take her and told me I can come too if I want! I was like "umm.. she's my baby, you aren't just going to take her to all these places without me!" Especially considering she's never met her, Kili would be terrified if that happened!

 

[chichestermum]

Shoot the inlaws! It's the only way to stay sane... I can't believe they did that! That is truly terrible. xx

shooting inlaws should be classed as self defense!
defending our sanity! lol!
i cant believe your FIL actually took him! i remember OH gran trying to do the same thing to DD when she was 3 weeks old and crying for a bottle, she told me she was going to take DD for a walk to settle her while i finished paying for the toys we just bought, after explaining twice she would not settle because she was hungry and so she wasnt taking her she attempted to just walk off with the pram, she got a slap on her hand and never attempted it again lol! IMO brute force and ignorance to their feelings is the best way to deal with imposing in laws lol! xxx

 

[MrsPOP]

Sorry for being awol guys, been a bit low.

Dear lottery: please let us win you so DH can quit his job and stay home with us. We miss him so much.

 

[chichestermum]

oooo yea dear lottery please can we win next week! just enough to buy our own island somewhere warm and to hire armed guards that stand around the outside shooting any inlaws that try visit! that would make me soooo happy!