Things I cannot say out loud....

[Cupkake.Luver]

No no, not like that Lettuce. haha.

OH hates them because he loses almost all feeling. Its more of a struggle to have sex now than a pleasure. I have to find something thats gonna make him happy.

On my end, I don't care if we do it with a plastic bag...I can feel it all.

 

[lindseymw]

Dear OH - I love you and appreciate you telling me not to do the dishes that you'll do them, but you acctually have to DO THEM. Now I have to do the dishes & it would've been easier to do them yesterday.

Is my DH having an affair with you?

To my DH, if you say you're going to do the washing up please see above quote. Thank you

To my Mam, why oh why are you still womping on about giving LO water? We had this out with DS1, I still haven't changed my mind! So in other words, if LO wakes up in the middle of the night, I will offer him my boob & not a bottle of water. Why? because a) it's easier to get said boob out & b) if he wakes up in the middle of the night, I'm 99% sure he's hungry!

 

[elephant29]

OH;

I take it I must be repulsive to you now? Considering you are, by nature, a very sexual person, I find it highly odd and insulting that when I become pregnant you come no where near me It makes me feel even more emotional than normal but I refuse to ask you to sleep with me, I shouldnt have to. However if you dont start treating me as your girlfriend and not just a buddy (who you love and stuff) then I don't know where to go from here because I've lived like that once before and my confidence was shattered because of it and at 31 years old I am not going back to feeling like that.

Mum;

Unless LO comes out of her childminders with a limb missing or something equally as serious then I dont want to see your worried face and teary eyes! She is playing with other children, she is sometimes going to be bitten (I hate it as well) or hit etc etc....it's normal! It's how she will learn to socialise, to share to play and to trust other people! I know you want to wrap her in cotton wool but I don't and as we are talking about my daughter and doing it my way then I would rather you tried to control your facial expressions! Also her dress isnt too tight, you've seen her for 2 seconds how could you possibly notice it was 'digging'into her? And her face isnt 'marked from being hit with something' there is absolutely no marks there at all!!

xxx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

What happened to my baby? Please go back to your sleep schedule!

 

[tommyg]

Don't know where I read up to.

However glad we have made it south for a couple of weeks. Pissed off our new house still isn't ready, Scottish Power, please get your finger out your arse and get us a date.

MIL Please do not feed my baby Muller Light Fucking Yougart! Especailly when I am trying my bloody hardest to get him to eat proper food and no yougart is not proper food. It is full of saccerine and other sugar subsitutes - I'd actually rather give him proper sugar than chemical shit but at the moment I really really want him to eat proper food - NO SHIT!

 

[shambaby]

Don't know where I read up to.

However glad we have made it south for a couple of weeks. Pissed off our new house still isn't ready, Scottish Power, please get your finger out your arse and get us a date.

MIL Please do not feed my baby Muller Light Fucking Yougart! Especailly when I am trying my bloody hardest to get him to eat proper food and no yougart is not proper food. It is full of saccerine and other sugar subsitutes - I'd actually rather give him proper sugar than chemical shit but at the moment I really really want him to eat proper food - NO SHIT!

sorry, going ot - don't know if you'd be interested or not to know that you can get yogurts just sweetened with fruit juice. it's one of hayden's favourites, and has lots of calcium. we get little yeo's, rachel's organics, or plum ones. only place to get them where i live is sainsbury's. my mother is hell bent on feeding hayden chocolate buttons. apparently i was weaned on them and it 'never did me any harm!'

 

[Lettuce]

To those horrible fake beatches in work... In your face! I have the most beautiful, clever, funny baby ever. I don't care that you can afford designer shoes and handbags, I have something worth much much more, so you can stop laughing at me behind my back.

To everyone else- thanks for the gifts! We're so so lucky. Xx

 

[ClaireMuir123]

To my sister - can you please stop annoying me? I know you don't mean to but I don't want to leave my son with you because your son is a destructive wee shit and last time they played together Jayden ended up with a 3in bruise on his thigh where he was pushed into a shed. Kids will be kids, this I completely understand but it's not the 1st time he's hit him and yet nothing has been done about his behaviour. Also, I don't want you to take Ava for an hour for me because I want her with me. And, no, my SIL doesn't see the kids all the time so stop feeling sorry for yourself that you don't get to spend time with them.

Seriously, it's starting to really bug me that I need to constantly make excuses not to go out with them. When the boys are together D is a monster, you have no idea. He;s been pulled up so many times at nursery for his behaviour. Last week my sister called to say D had been hitting at nursery and she'd been spoken to about it so he wasn't going to soft play. But she took him shopping and got him sweets and toys instead?! She's not a stupid woman, she's got 2 girls who are very well behaved (sometimes lol) but she babies D something awful. I know it's awful but I don't actually like my nephew I love him but I don't like him - that make sense?? xxx

 

[MissFox]

I hate that things have gone south. I hate that you don't care for anything thy is mine. I hate that you don't help much. I hate that I'm scared to leave. Well to tell you to. You're right its mine. My house!!! I don't need you. I never have. I love this little girl but you make me crazy. I want out. I need out. I don't like how I feel with you anymore.

Any advise on breaking up/leaving DH? He has borderline personality disorder and bipolar.I've never broken up with someone I am so in live with but its not healthy anymore and now I'm just angry too often. Help

 

[Lettuce]

Oh miss fox I don't have any real advice. I'm sorry tho. Xx

 

[MissFox]

I'm sick of crying every day. I wanted to be with him forever but I can't do it anymore.he has changed so much and I feel like a failure. I've given up and it hurts so bad.

 

[Odd Socks]

dear heartburn,

seriously? 5am?

xx

 

[tanya]

Dear Flynn, I don't know if you are constipated or have trapped wind but I know nothing I'm doing seems to be helping, please don't scream when you are straining it's breaking my heart.
Dh, thanks for getting up at 4 am to go sit on the sofa, no I will not give you sympathy for your tummy ache it's your fault you ate 6 giant hotdogs and then had a cupcake! I also think it takes a special kind of stupid to lay in bed drinking red bull then complain you can't sleep! When you got up at 4am you woke Flynn who then cried and since he has tummy ache already he didn't stop crying, it's now 9:20 you've gone to work and between your moaning and you waking flynn up I've had about 1/2hr sleep and that wasn't proper sleep coz Flynn was on my chest.
So sleep deprived I dreamt that I called an ambulance for Flynn left him on there with the doctor and ran away with a female to male preop transexual who we apparently had been living with in a polygamous relationship fir a while. I feel really guilty now im awake because I didn't even care that I'd left him. silly dreams.

 

[Kalah]

I hate that things have gone south. I hate that you don't care for anything thy is mine. I hate that you don't help much. I hate that I'm scared to leave. Well to tell you to. You're right its mine. My house!!! I don't need you. I never have. I love this little girl but you make me crazy. I want out. I need out. I don't like how I feel with you anymore.

Any advise on breaking up/leaving DH? He has borderline personality disorder and bipolar.I've never broken up with someone I am so in live with but its not healthy anymore and now I'm just angry too often. Help

I am right there with you. I don't know if you saw my posts a few pages back but it's very similar to yours. Since it's your house it's probably even easier. You could call the police and they will come "escort" hiim out basically. Although if you're married I don't know what the law is but as long as it's your house you should be ok. If it were me in your situation I would contact a lawyer, get the divorce papers started (however much of them you can do without him knowing) then have some close friends with you when you present the papers to him in case he goes mental. Keep those friends with you until he's out of your house, then change the locks.
You don't have to keep going through that, we can be newly single mom's together =) Message me if you need to talk.

___________

In other news, my OH found out I was planning on leaving last night. He started off angry but quickly calmed down, I think because he realised I was absolutely terrified of him. So we had a calm normal talk about it and have agreed on everything. And yes I was supposed to be gone by now, back in the US, but my flights keep getting cancelled =(
Now I'm off to look up how to divorce...

 

[tanya]

Well as an update I still haven't run away with a pre-op transexual and Flynn is not constipated, he's just had the biggest poo in the world! I think he's got trapped wing and the infacol has stopped working.

Kalah, well done for telling him, I'm glad you are safe and I hope you finally get your flight soon.
I would say be careful though as with his problems he could have a normal adult convo about it and then blow up later.. Be safe and make sure someone knows where you are. Xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Well done Kalah! You might hit a snag because your OH is on Kili's birth certificate. Not sure how that will work. I've only been through divorce in California and that didn't involve kids.

 

[Kalah]

Well done Kalah! You might hit a snag because your OH is on Kili's birth certificate. Not sure how that will work. I've only been through divorce in California and that didn't involve kids.

Yeah we're thinking that might make it a little more difficult, but neither of us are in any hurry to have the divorce finalized. I'm not interested in dating anyone else and I don't know if he is but I wouldn't care if he did now once I'm gone. I was just looking up divorce law in the UK and it seems a little too complicated so I'm going to talk to him about having me file it once I'm back in Missouri, since that's where we got married and where I'll be staying I think it will just be simpler so I can write the correct address and information on everything. I'm just glad he's not taking it as bad as I expected.

 

[MissFox]

Thanks kalah. He has to know its been coming. He haven't been very talkative with eachother since a couple weeks ago when we got into it big. I think I'm going to see about having it annulled since it hasn't been a year and he was supposed to be back to work last January. Ugh. I should sleep its 4am.

 

[cowboys angel]

Can you get it annulled? In the states you can only get a marriage annulled if there are no kids involved and you both swear that the marriage was not consummated....I think?

 

[missVN]

To all the pregnant ladies in my area- please stay indoors until you have popped, seeing all these baby bumps everywhere is making me broody as hell