Things I cannot say out loud....

[StarlitHome]

SIL - oh really, I can "go ahead" and see the movie I was planning to see this weekend with you if "I cannot wait"??
Thanks, chick. Thanks very much. See, I wanted to see the movie this weekend because it's been kind of my thing to see these movies opening weekend since the first one. They are my guilty pleasure, along with the books. (yes, Twilight).
And I did want to go with you. I fucking made fucking plans to go with you, this weekend.
But no, you decided to "hang out with your friends" instead (the friends you see all week at school, me and your niece you see once a week). AND, once again, you changed your plans at the LAST minute.
Just like your mom did the last two times plans were made with me.
SO....

SCREW YOU. Don't make me feel bad about getting out of the house for a bit and having some fun. You AND your mother are the most thoughtless people I've ever met when it comes to this kind of thing and I swear, aside from HOLIDAYS which HAVE TO HAPPEN on certain days (aka Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years) I am just not making any more plans with you. At all. Ever again.

Edit to add: THANK you DH for dropping LO and I off at the theater and taking us out for lunch after the movie. I had a lovely time with my guilty pleasure and I'm glad your doctor's appointment (which he went to while I saw the movie) went well. Love you.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Wow!!!! 3000 posts on this thread. Damn, we must be major complainers

vixiepoo, here's what you do: Express off/make up enough milk to last about 4ish hours. TELL him you are going out and don't come back for four hours. I betcha anything he'll change his tune and begin to appreciate what you do.

 

[keeks1987]

Mike

You've been off two weeks from work and I've loved the help with Ethan. I'm really anxious bout you going back now because my PND is pretty bad at the moment. I don't want to tell you because you'll worry, and suggest I hang out with your mom. I love your mom, just right now I can't stand her husband

 

[MissFox]

So we're working on "us" and you want more communication but when I give more communication about how your horrendous mood makes me feel I get it pushed back on me for making you angry. I hate when you're in moods like this and it makes me not want to be around you at all. So maybe instead of staying at the house that I'm house sitting you should go home. Or just give me space and let me relax a little.
Also- when I make a comment about how DD is latching now a days with her fancy teeth don't tell me it's only going to get worse and that "[you] said [you'd] by done by now." My pumping is not efficient and if I don't keep BFing on the breast then I'm going to have to suppliment more and more with formula. You'd like that for some reason but really it's just MORE WORK FOR ME.

 

[Lettuce]

Glad you all enjoyed the party, I didn't, I appreciate the thanks...

(sarcasm)

 

[Ilikecake]

Apologies or any swearing...

Dear OH, when I tell you that we need to see the emergency doctor in 20 minutes because OUR son is very poorly, don't fucking carry on sitting on your god damn x box and it's nice to pissing well know that while we've been in hospital for the last 3 days you've been chatting up exes and randomers. Fuck right off!!!! Wanker

 

[LadyRoy]

Apologies or any swearing...

Dear OH, when I tell you that we need to see the emergency doctor in 20 minutes because OUR son is very poorly, don't fucking carry on sitting on your god damn x box and it's nice to pissing well know that while we've been in hospital for the last 3 days you've been chatting up exes and randomers. Fuck right off!!!! Wanker

You what??!! What a selfish pig! Even if he doesn't care about you (and believe me that is bad enough) how can he not think about your poor bubba! I hope your LO is ok and you can give your Oh a good kicking xxx

 

[Lettuce]

Ooohhh, unplug, smack over the head with it and sell it. Arse.

Hope your wee boy is ok. x

 

[Ilikecake]

Thanks ladies, I have never felt so angry. His son is lying there ill and he's chatting up girls. Grr!!

James seems to be on the mend now, (hes currently laughing in his sleep ) hopefully he'll be home in a couple of days.

 

[MizzDeeDee]

Apologies or any swearing...

Dear OH, when I tell you that we need to see the emergency doctor in 20 minutes because OUR son is very poorly, don't fucking carry on sitting on your god damn x box and it's nice to pissing well know that while we've been in hospital for the last 3 days you've been chatting up exes and randomers. Fuck right off!!!! Wanker

Holy shit. I would kill that man.

 

[fi79]

To OH - fuck you, fuck you, fuck you. Yes I grimaced when you suggested at one this morning that Sophie may want to be fed again but it's only because she had been on me and either nursing or occasionally taking very short naps for the previous 9 hours because she would wake up and cry every time she was put down.

My nipples are burning, my c section wound aches and I'm exhausted because you've slept through everything the past two nights and you have the audacity to say in an accusatory tone "fine we'll just put her on formula then will we". Don't you dare make me feel like a bad mother. I'm doing my best. You said I'd feel guilty in the morning for grimacing. No I won't. What I already feel guilty for is the fact that my milk doesn't seem to be enough to satisfy Sophie.

Oh and to say you "don't care" about how I'm feeling, that all you care about is Sophie. Well I'm glad you're concerned about her but you have succeeded in making me feel like a cow that's there for nothing but the milking. It's now 5.20am and I'm sti up with LO. She's calm now and sleeping but won't be put down so I've stayed awake to hold her. Enjoy your sleep asshole.

 

[MizzDeeDee]

He should feel guilty for being such an asshole.

 

[steph.4192]

To OH, can you please come and help me when i ask and not delay it, and then when i ask to help wash up, you just say, "can we do it tomorrow" No i dont want to do it tomorrow, you'll be at work all day and im not waiting all day for you to come home and then say the exact same thing.
It really annoys me aswell when i ask you to help and you sit there and ignore me, until i say "Oh dont worry about it" and then you get off your goddamn arse.
And i wish you would stop complaining when i ask you to help with Dec, he is your son to and that means he is also your responsibility, i hate how when i need to do something i have to ask you whther you want to do that or feed him, and you always pick the non feeding one all you have to do is sit there and hold him with his bottle in his mouth!
I know your not as bad as some dads, but i really feel like im a single mum sometimes :S

 

[StarlitHome]

Dear everyone in my building - the clothes Boo is wearing are size 6-9 months. She's not quite 3 months old. So, no, she is not "so tiny".
Please stop saying that!!!

On the other hand - good LORD, I feel sorry for you, your babies must've been GIANTS.

 

[Lauki]

To OH - fuck you, fuck you, fuck you. Yes I grimaced when you suggested at one this morning that Sophie may want to be fed again but it's only because she had been on me and either nursing or occasionally taking very short naps for the previous 9 hours because she would wake up and cry every time she was put down.

My nipples are burning, my c section wound aches and I'm exhausted because you've slept through everything the past two nights and you have the audacity to say in an accusatory tone "fine we'll just put her on formula then will we". Don't you dare make me feel like a bad mother. I'm doing my best. You said I'd feel guilty in the morning for grimacing. No I won't. What I already feel guilty for is the fact that my milk doesn't seem to be enough to satisfy Sophie.

Oh and to say you "don't care" about how I'm feeling, that all you care about is Sophie. Well I'm glad you're concerned about her but you have succeeded in making me feel like a cow that's there for nothing but the milking. It's now 5.20am and I'm sti up with LO. She's calm now and sleeping but won't be put down so I've stayed awake to hold her. Enjoy your sleep asshole.

Just wanted to give you some support . What Sophie is doing is called clusterfeeding. It doesn't mean your milk is not enough, it means she's building your supply up. It should calm down a lot after 6-8 weeks. As long as she's getting plenty dirty and wet nappies you're okay! My Sophie used to feed from 7pm-2am every night and only after that I could lay her down to sleep for 2 or 3 hours.

It's normal behaviour, don't let your clueless husband get to you and make him realise that yes, he has a newborn daughter and it's wonderful he cares so much for her, but he also needs to support his wife. I think I cried about non stop every night the first 6-8 weeks, about how hard it was, how much it hurt, how I wanted to go onto formula. But during the day I would tell my husband to just be very supportive at night and just tell me everything will be alright, give me a hug or hold my hand and help me through it.

You'll get there! And once your supply is established it's going to be a whole lot easier!

 

[Natsku]

Exactly what Lauki said. Its cluster feeding and is perfectly normal and will calm down soon. I made the mistake of giving formula top ups thinking my milk wasn't enough and it messed up my supply and just made the cluster feeding carry on longer.

 

[Lettuce]

Same as lauki and nats, it'll be over soon.
As for you DH, maybe you should take one night and wake him every time she does so he understands.
My DH didnt realise how much bf could hurt til he put a finger into her mouth and felt how strong a suck was! He said "ouch, that's quite sore", "try it on I nipple." I said! It kinda made him realise! (he didn't take me up on my offer! )

 

[Lauki]

Btw, Sophie is a gorgeous name !!

Give your hubby a kick up the backside and hopefully he'll understand what you're going through!

 

[marina294]

mil stop banging on about routine my lo is setting her own routine which means bed at nine not seven if i did set a routine for 7pm bed time it would never work around yours as you fil and sil always wake her up so STFU!!

yes she has a cold no i do not need to be told by you to take her to docs immediately they will not do anything for her she is too young!

sil thanks for scaring the shit out of lo i have told you do not pick her up to quickly it scares her but to then ignore my outstretched arms and walk of with my hysterical baby only to give her back 5 mins later in more of a state meaning it took me an hour to calm her down takes the piss!

OH lo woke me up 6 times last night yes you heard to but when she settles at 6.30am finally do you then proceed to make as much noise as possible when u get up for work and you wonder why i am mad at you?

LO i love you please get better soon although the snail trails of snot down my cardie when you bury your head in my chest is relief for you it doesnt help my limited wardrobe and stacks of laundry my little munchkin xx

 

[Miss Mitch]

Best thread EVER!!!!!!!! xx