Thread for TTC#1 12months+

[starrilicious]

Morning guys!

Don't have time to catch up this morning, so many new posts! I just wanted to check in and wish you luck for your scan sugar pi x

Oh and I was pretty sure I had EWCM for the first time without properly having to examine it but my opk was - I thought clomid dried you out? Confused... I'm taking OPK's twice a day from today onwards though so we'll see.

 

[Kakaloochoo]

Hi Ladies,

No real update from me - im 6dpo and all i feel is cold - and I live in Mumbai ( although im from manchester) and trust me its not cold by any means!

Who knows! Sometimes i think im goin potty! twinge here and there and im like ummm i wonder what that was....same every month and AF arrives!

I wanted to ask if any of you ovulate late? Im around CD 20. Wondering if thats got anything to do with it and whether i should try something natural to help bring it forward....Any thoughts welcome!

Cherrio!
Kakaloo

 

[starrilicious]

Hey guys,

Do you think it's possible to have O'd already? My OPK's were getting darker and today, nothing... My temping is not that accurate as I am waking up multiple times in the night. I know clomid can affect OPKs though...

 

[Pino6161]

Kakaloochoo-- I ovulate around cd20 as well... you don't have to worry about changing that. what matters is your lp. How long is that??

Starilicious--- It sounds like you missed the surge and you did ovulate

 

[Kakaloochoo]

Hi!

It's 14 days , but I'll knwo for sure this month, till now opts have never positive!

Stars.....(excuse spelling) - lots of women wrote that their o was stronger they felt it on clomid, you feeling anything? Ewcm?

 

[starrilicious]

I got what I thought was EWCM on monday, yesterday I got a really random pain in my armpit and I had what seemed like OV cramping yesterday but thought it was way too early plus the OPK yesterday was negative...

We're still in it, just a bit of a surprise if it has happened so early. Wasn't expecting it.

Is it too late to dtd tonight do you think? Well we prolly will any way but would be nice if it edged up our chances xD lol

 

[Pino6161]

Star--- It is never to late to dtd. It's better to be safe than sorry.... But now than I am on my computer I can see your chart, and now I am a bit confused. I know you said you haven't been sleeping well, but you still should have had a rise, so I am wondering that the pain, and stuff is you gearing for O?? The OPK's being negative it a bit weird though..... I would keep BDing every night just in case though. Tomorrow's temp should reveal a bit more

 

[starrilicious]

yes i'm baffled too. My two last temps were heavily adjust so not a massive indication either way.

hubs ate too much dinner and isn't feeling it

 

[Mrs B.]

Agh I've had enough. Started spotting today (10/11dpo so this is pre-AF spotting, right on time as normal). Just so sick of this now, moving into month 22. When I saw FS she basically said that after the HSG and bloodtest (both normal) there was nothing else she could test for - lies, what she means is there is nothing else she is prepared to test. I really believe if I lived in the US I might be broke from the cost but I would probably have a baby now considering how much more seriously they take infertility over there and how much sooner they test for problems etc. Really totally royally fed up of this whole thing - completely feel like it is never going to happen. Sorry for the rant and I hope I haven't pulled anyone into the pit of depressiveness with me Just really struggling today

 

[Pino6161]

Star--- YOu tell him to suck it up, that you are not going through these treatments, and taking Clomid just for the hell of it, he has to do his part too!!! LOL

Mrs. B---- Have you considered switching doctors? It's BS. Infertility is a serious thing. As a doctor she should be doing everything possible to help her patient!!! It is always ok to voice your struggles on here, it is what we are for... Do they have fertility specialists like they do here in the US?? I am not sure of these kind of things

 

[starrilicious]

All is not lost Mrs. B, sorry it seems so bleak right now. *hugs*

 

[Mrs B.]

Pino - It's a fertility specialist I'm with - she's a GP who has specialised in infertility...but she seems much keener for me to keep trying naturally than trying to find out why I am approaching the 2 year ttc mark (May 2013 is 2 years for me) with no bfp in sight! I'm booked in with her again in July at which point she said she could discuss referring me for assisted conception (she said I could have IUI but because of the low chance of success she would recommend IVF) but she also said she would strongly recommend I just keep trying naturally instead of having assisted. I could transfer to the hospital specialists but the problem there is I have no idea if they would be better or worse! I think generally the docs and specialists in the UK prefer people to try longer naturally than in the US...and it seems that once they have done the obvious tests they just shrug shoulders and say it's naturally or IUI/IVF etc. I'm sure they're not all like this but you get what you're given on the NHS and could end up with someone worse if you switch (that's if you're allowed to switch...)!

I'm going to see what she says in July - try to get referred for IUI or IVF. If she puts up a fight then I will just tell her I want to transfer to the hospital specialists and see if they will be more helpful.

Eugh, I just wish I knew what the best thing to do would be and then I could do that!!

 

[starrilicious]

Mrs B can I just ask have you been with your partner more than 3 years and is your BMI under 30? There are more requirements but think those are the main ones.

If it's yes to both, ask to be referred any way. It's your right, she can't have any reason not to. If your partner has had a pregnancy/kids before though, your treatment may not be free but you will still be seen. You also have the right to choose where you want to go so do your research!

 

[Mrs B.]

Star - Yep, been with hubby since 2006 and married for almost 2 years now...and bmi is something like 20 - literally just in the 'normal' category. Neither of us have kids so we should be eligible I think. Thanks, I will push for her to refer us then...and I'll have a look at the places we can go to! And sorry, it must be hard to see people moaning when they're not even at 2 years when I can see you're over 3 years ttc

 

[starrilicious]

Np I think once your past the year mark you understand.

I feel pretty shitty at the moment hubs just said I've been really short with him and unpleasant for ages. Didn't even know I was. He's not even talking to me now

 

[Mrs B.]

Aww, Star. It's so easy to be short with hubs when you're feeling shitty - I do it all the time and don't realise I'm doing it until I cheer up, then I feel really bad. I know hubby finds the whole not getting pregnant thing hard but I think the women tend to bear the brunt of the emotional side of it most of the time - I try to keep hubby out of it so as to avoid making him feel bad too - no point in us both being miserable!

 

[Pino6161]

Star--- Me and my OH go through the same thing. LTTTC is difficult on a relationship. It will all work out. Hopefully he will open up and talk to you.

 

[MollyNorwood]

Hi girls!
I completly understand the need for a TTC 12months+ thread! I have been TTC 16months ntnp for 3 years. I sympathize with those trying for eg 6months, but remember thinking to myself not to be 'stupid' when i was feeling low about my lack of pregnancy at that stage. 'It could be worse." I thought to myself..."I could be TTC for over a year!".....So here I am!
What makes it even harder is when you know of people who are on drugs and having babies and neglecting them and having them removed from their care. Or friends who get pregnant in every new relationship they jump into. Garhhh!!
And ya, don't get me started on "it's in God's hands. If it's meant to happen, it will." Puh-leeze! I am not religious at all so that adds fuel to my fire! It feels like "i don't know how to understand so I will talk about a mythical made up person who you can turn to for help with this."
Hmmm. Was this a rant page? I forget now... Right, now where did I put my Clomid?
SIGH.

 

[starrilicious]

Hi Molly, lol I can't help but laugh! Come find refuge with us. There are frequent rants here but hopefully a lot of understanding, shoulders and laughing too.

Here's hoping your stay is short

 

[starrilicious]

Either I'm coming down with a cold or something new is happening. I've got a cold sore in my nose now and I only ever get them when I am a little run down and ill.

Hoping it's a good sign that either I did O or my body is diverting it's attentions elsewhere.

Also hoping it's a good sign I'm not gonna get OHSS because I was scared that would be me!

Hope you girlies are good! xx