TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Nikki Leigh]

Great advice to missy SKYE. For every guy on these forums who are willing to do anything to get a little one, there are a bunch more who feel very impotent (pun not intended) because this baby stuff isn't happening like they'd imagined. Men are usually very reluctant to go to the doctors under the best circumstances, and then to go for something they'd never imagined would be a problem? It goes to the core of their manhood.

This TTC stuff becomes very woman-centric--we think about it all the time--men don't usually. Maybe your husband doesn't want to hear what the doctor has to say because he can't bear to hear about expensive treatments and hear that (he) has failed to give his wife the one thing she wants more than anything? That he's not enough for you because you feel your family is incomplete without that baby.

I'm not saying you're wrong for how you feel. I'm just wondering if you're both not hurting, but handling it in different ways?

 

[skye2010]

I am pupo 2 perfect looking blasto embies )) since this morning. They will let me know about the remaining 8 when they find out if they are good to freeze

 

[Dwrgi]

I am pupo 2 perfect looking blasto embies )) since this morning. They will let me know about the remaining 8 when they find out if they are good to freeze

Dear Skye

This sounds trulu amazing-HUGE good luck with this! I am thinking of you and know that your is imminent!

Lots and lots of love,
Axx

 

[Dwrgi]

It actually sounds TRULY amazing-even better when spelt correctly!
x

 

[Neversaynever]

Ladies,

Thank you for thinking of me over the last few days, I really do appreciate all your comments and I am grateful.

I'm all BnB'd out for today as I felt I ought to start a journal and get all my thoughts down so I'm afraid there are no individual comments.

I will be back to my usual self (hopefully) before we know it.

I'm also in the 2WW along with a couple of you so fingers crossed for everyone on the thread for some baby that is sticky as you like

A

XxX

 

[lynnb]

I am pupo 2 perfect looking blasto embies )) since this morning. They will let me know about the remaining 8 when they find out if they are good to freeze

Great news Skye, I'm really hoping this is your cycle & keeping fx'd

Ladies,

Thank you for thinking of me over the last few days, I really do appreciate all your comments and I am grateful.

I'm all BnB'd out for today as I felt I ought to start a journal and get all my thoughts down so I'm afraid there are no individual comments.

I will be back to my usual self (hopefully) before we know it.

I'm also in the 2WW along with a couple of you so fingers crossed for everyone on the thread for some baby that is sticky as you like

A

XxX

Have just read your journal in tears & can relate to so much of what you're going through, I'm so glad you'd found a place to let it all out. It is really scary to ttc after a loss but I found it got easier. Stay strong sweetie, your BFP will happen & extremely sticky

 

[HappyAuntie]

I am pupo 2 perfect looking blasto embies )) since this morning. They will let me know about the remaining 8 when they find out if they are good to freeze

Skye that is fantastic news!! Soooo excited for you!!

 

[Mommy's Angel]

I am pupo 2 perfect looking blasto embies )) since this morning. They will let me know about the remaining 8 when they find out if they are good to freeze

WTG!

 

[lavalux]

Awesome news, SKYE!!! woo hoo!

Lots of love to those in the 2WW and those lurking!

AFM,
My temp dropped significantly today at 9 DPO. I think I'm out. After ovulation, it was 98.1 for several days in a row, then jumped up at 7 DPO to 98.60, next day to 98.46, but this morning it went down to 97.9. I immediately temped again thinking it was a mistake, but it only raised to 98.1. So, there ya go! I do not except anything but AF on Friday ladies. I'm going to do one more IUI cycle with femara and then take a break. I can't afford IVF right now anyway so I need some time to save the money and think about the pros/cons of regular IVF vs. donor eggs if the IUIs don't work for me.

Besides this TTC rollercoaster, the weekend was great - beautiful weather!

 

[Nikki Leigh]

^lava, I have a question though--if you implanted on CD 10-14, then your temps would have dropped on 9 dpo, because there was no implantation yet, right? I know it's easier for us to prepare for the worst so we're not totally devastated, but really, you're not out quite yet, I think.

Hugs to you, as IVF is out of the question for us too at the moment. I'm hoping you see a bfp.

 

[lavalux]

Nikki Leigh,
What do you mean by "Implant on CD 10-14"? They say that you implant 6-12 days after ovulation, right, so I'm confused? My IUI was on Friday so I'm 9 DPO or CD 26. I've heard of slight temp dips on implantation day, but I don't think that's it. I will be curious to see if my temp goes up again tomorrow, though. I know I shouldn't count myself out just yet. We are cycling right around the same time and our cycle lengths are the same. How are you feeling? Are you going to test early?

 

[Nikki Leigh]

SORRY! I meant to write 10-14 DPO (or DIUI) not CD! I'm a goofball.

 

[lavalux]

All these numbers and statistics make my head spin!!!!! I hope AF stays away for us.

 

[skye2010]

OMG Osama Bin Laden is killed by the US soldiers. Sorry for such a political post but this is an important piece of news. And I'm relieved.

 

[Dwrgi]

To Lava and Nikki and everbody else in the 2WW-I am keeping all my fingers crossed for a to all of us!

I don't think any of us should count ourselves out until that moment when AF arrives. I have read so much about temperature dips and rises, but, there is always the proviso that everybody's body is different so what may be the case for one may not be the case for the other!

It's all a waiting game, isn't it???!

Brilliant news re. Osama-really historic. Just wonder what Al Qaeda will do now-bound to be some reprisals somewhere.

AFM, am 7DPO, and feeling really down. All the OH and I have done over the past few days is argue, and I honestly feel that I am stuck in a nightmare. I just feel so tearful, and I know that a complete stranger could read this and say that perhaps I am borderline depressed. I have felt this for ages, and know it's to do with TTC. What is the point of Me if I don't become a mother??? It's soooooooo hard to remain upbeat, and I daren't raise the F issue with OH as he is fed up with hearing about it. He can sod off, as it won't be him flooded with drugs, and stuck full with needles.

Sorry girls, rant over! It's a beautiful day-the cat is sat in front of the monitor so I can barely see anything and surely a day off work is worth celebrating, and not for being miserable!?

Hope you're all okay-lots and lots of to you all!

And, of course, lots of
xxx

 

[lavalux]

Dwgri,
Sorry you are feeling down. There is a really good book that I checked out of the library that deals with depression & communication problems with husbands & has does of suggestions for coping. It is called Conquering Infertility by Alice Domar. I recommend it.

My temp dropped even lower this morning several points below my baseline. If it had gone up, I would have chaulked it up to an implementation dip but not now. I want to know why my pattern has changed so drastically from all my previous charts. I called my nurse b/c I'm wondering if I have issues that developed with low progesterone, but my test results were ok. Who knows ... but everything I've read said that temps need to stay up to sustain a pregnancy.

 

[MrsJ08]

Just a very quick one from me to say

Padbrat

Lynnb Congratulations

Skye I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

Lots of to everyone else xxxxxx

 

[skye2010]

OOOh, Mrs J,
Look at the little princess, She has grown. She looks like a perfect ripe strawberry Yumm yumm!!!. Hope I could make a little cutsy like Scarlet.

Lynnb, HA, MA, Lava, Mrs J, FM and all the ladies here. Thank you so much for wishing me well and supporting me. Also good luck for all of us on TWW.

MA it's good that they are keeping a close eye on you. As long as they keep it under controle. I am taking the progestrone suppositories right now but they might switch me to the injections. Than DH will need to administer it daily. Although I suspect your progestrone injections would be a much higher dose.They told us that warming it up in your bra beforehand and rubbing the area with a hot towel helps. The needles are massive and scary. What's Doug's trick cause everyone on my IVF thread is after any info how to make these injections less painful. I will find out tomorrow if I will switch to the injection and I'm truly dreading it. Especially since my DH is completely useless at anything useful with his hands

Lava, hon, I know it isn't easy at all to take your mind off this but try to keep positive as much as you can on TWW. The temperature changes means nothing to fertility drs and nurses cause they don't really use it as a tool (I don't think) It's all the acupuncturists who are into all that. I agree with Dwrgi. I used to temp for months and not one month was ever similar to the other even when the acupuncturist was working on it so I lost my faith in that. When is your test date? Did the dr check your progestrone? Are you taking any suppositories right now? I hope this would work for you hon. I'm sending you loads of sticky baby vibes.

Dwrgi I'm sorry to hear that you are going a rough patch. Long term TTC brings along depression and arguements between couples. Some fertility drs ignore this but it is a fact of TTC. Also IVF is a stressful decision to take. That's why most clinics have counselling services.
I went through all the emotions you described. It really is unpleasant and painful. I used to feel so lonely and think that not even my DH could understand me (which wasn't true). But this frustration subsides tremendously once you actually start the treatment. You feel that you are more in charge by getting help. IVF is not easy but I feel a lot more positive and relaxed since I started it. It has a lot of positive aspects.
Man are man they don't feel the same interest on this process as woman do but that's just the way it is. That's why we are all here building ourselves a support network. Discussing a fertility issue with you lot has always been more productive than discussing it my DH.

Missy I hope you are feeling a lot better hon.

AFM I'm really bloated again. We ran out of bottled water and getting myself a glass is more difficult than a bottle next to me, also I don't like the tap water that much. So I think I just got bloated with all the hormones all of a sudden. It's really uncomfortable as if I have swallowed a basketball.

 

[FutureMommie]

Skye- yay!!! PUPO! I'm rooting for you!!!!!

I will post again this afternoon when I have more time.

 

[padbrat]

Hey ladies... sorry I have been lurking... but still keeping you all in my thoughts! x

I like Dwrgi am feeling like I am not in the happiest place... still so angry and cyncial and that bad mood is contagious so I am trying to keep my black cloud to myself...

But I am still reading your posts...

LynnB I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you...

Skye! Yay! Pupo!

MrsJo8 and everyone else thank you for your words xxxxxxxxxx (hugs)

Lava and Nikki how are you guys? Those temp figures really confuse me.. I am far too thick to do the temping thing! lol