TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Mommy's Angel]

Your right, it IS bitter sweet. We want our little ones here with us. But if they can't be, I'd rather know their safe in Heaven with a Father-God who loves them than anywhere else if I can't be with Him.

Not sure if that will help anyone who grieves their child. It will never take that pain away, but it sure helps calm the spirit when you KNOW where they are, that they are safe, they are REALLY ALIVE waiting for YOU, and that it's not the end. The chapter isn't closed and one day you'll have an ETERNITY (infinite time) to spend with the child you once let go.

I hope you find some peace in the midst of the grieving process

Thank you for this, Mommy's Angel. One of the biggest struggles I had with each miscarriage was the fear that each baby would not be able to go to heaven, but be forever suspended in purgatory (I was raised Roman Catholic and, though not practicing, it has always stayed with me that babies who are not baptized do not go to heaven). Although I do not truly believe God would ever deny a child entrance into heaven, that fear has always stuck with me. What you have said does help and provide some sense of peace (for me, anyway)

p.s. Belated Happy Birthday!

I can answer this question as I was also Catholic and left the church after researching Gods word myself.

Many religions believe that in order for you to get to heaven you MUST be baptized. If you look at Gods word in the King James or New King James...(though it also says it in other more understandable versions) that baptismal is a "symbol" of dying to ones self and becoming new in Christ. Meaning you are dying to the sinful self and with Christ in us, we are new. ALL our sins are forgiven because of what Christ did on the cross...the fact that He suffered, died, rose again and lives within us until He comes again to fulfill Gods promise.

Baby's are innocent. They know no difference between good and evil ...or sin. It's not comprehended. Therefore their destiny is NOT hell or "pergatory" which in my opinion DOESN'T exhist. There is heaven and hell as stated in the Bible...there is also something called Hades (sounded like Haitis) which is too complicated to get into on here.

Now, with that said, When children become of age to know the difference between right and wrong, it's that moment that we all are subject to heaven and hell. Baptism doesn't save any of us from the likes of hell. What saves us from Hell is knowing we are sinners, knowing that Jesus the son of God came here to save us from our sins. Instead of sacrificing a lamb as they used to do in the Old Testament, Jesus sacrificed Himself in OUR place so that our sins would forever be forgiven if we believe that He suffered terribly, died on the cross, rose from the dead and His spirit is among us today.

But you see, infants have no sense of right and wrong...they are born innocent. It is in this world as we get older and can comprehend more that we are confronted with good and evil. It is THEN that both older children AND adults decide for themselves if they will accept Christ into their lives....Baptism is a symbol once the child or adult comprehends their choice and is usually done by submersing the child or person into the water backwards as to "die to ones self"...and raising as Christ raised from the dead which symbolizes a whole new life in Christ. Your sins have been forgiven when you accept Christ.

I know I went on and on about this, I hope I didn't confuse you or anyone else but I see MANY families struggle with this because they've lost a child. Biblically there is no pergatory..just Heaven and Hell. I won't get into pergatory here as this isn't a Christian board but one thing stands in mind that Christ said that should ease the minds of many:

Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life...NO ONE comes to the Father except through ME". John 14:6

Meaning the only way to get to heaven with The Father is through Jesus Himself. It's not through a confessional with another man, it's not waiting in limbo between heaven and hell where someone has to pray you out...It's by confessing that we are sinners and believe in Christs death and ressurection and understand that NO MATTER how bad we feel we've been or even how good of a person we feel we've been....because Jesus stood in OUR place for our sins...we are forgiven and new!

One of the biggest commandments in the Bible is to Love our God with all our heart,mind, soul and spirit....and to love your neighbor...there are many times God speaks about LOVE. Had God not loved us all...He wouldn't have sacrificed His own son to die in our place.

God would NOT condemn an infant to hell who can't comprehend the difference between right and wrong.

Let your mind be put to rest that HE loves you and He loves your baby. That child of yours is very much in heaven running in the garden and isn't in limbo. He's with Jesus.

If you want something to read more about it..I HIGHLY recommend "Heaven" by Randy Alcorn. So many books out there are so loopy about what happens to someone when they die. Thus far it's the more Biblically sound book I've read.

Please forgive me for going on. This is a subject I'm passionate about. I love to share Jesus with others and in my own journey of love, loss and renewed sense of victory I've learned so much about the Love of Christ and where our children are.

Please forgive me if I affended anyone. It wasn't my intention.

 

[HappyAuntie]

BTW I had a call from my Consultant today. The chromosome tests are back and I was having a Son. He died because he inherited my bad X chromosome. She said he would not have survived if I carried him to term.

Ladies I had a Son and he lived. His heart beat inside me for a little while.

I don't know if that breaks my heart or mends it....

Padbrat, thank you for sharing the news about your son. Nikki is right - you HAVE a son. You will always have him, you will always love him, you will always miss him, and he will always be your beautiful boy.

Have you considered naming him? I know for some people it helps to be able to speak of their children by name and not just as 'baby'.

Your right, it IS bitter sweet. We want our little ones here with us. But if they can't be, I'd rather know their safe in Heaven with a Father-God who loves them than anywhere else if I can't be with Him.

Not sure if that will help anyone who grieves their child. It will never take that pain away, but it sure helps calm the spirit when you KNOW where they are, that they are safe, they are REALLY ALIVE waiting for YOU, and that it's not the end. The chapter isn't closed and one day you'll have an ETERNITY (infinite time) to spend with the child you once let go.

I hope you find some peace in the midst of the grieving process

Thank you for this, Mommy's Angel. One of the biggest struggles I had with each miscarriage was the fear that each baby would not be able to go to heaven, but be forever suspended in purgatory (I was raised Roman Catholic and, though not practicing, it has always stayed with me that babies who are not baptized do not go to heaven). Although I do not truly believe God would ever deny a child entrance into heaven, that fear has always stuck with me. What you have said does help and provide some sense of peace (for me, anyway)

Baby4MJ - I was raised Catholic, too, and I used to worry about that. (I became a protestant about 15 years ago but there are definitely some things from my upbringing really stick with me!) I decided that our miscarried babies have to fall under the same grace He gives to those who never had the chance to hear the word. You're right - He would never deny a child entrance into His loving arms. There is nothing loving or forgiving about a God who would condemn a tiny innocent baby, and love and forgiveness are the very foundation of Christianity.

The other thing I love about believing in heaven is that I know my babies are whole there. They are not chromosomally abnormal fetuses, but whole, complete souls, full of life and love, and just waiting for me to get there one day so they can tell me they love me as much as I love them. That really brings me comfort.

That's just what helps me when I think about my babies. I am not here to proselytize, nor do I want to turn this into a Christian-themed thread - I certainly don't want ladies with different beliefs to feel unwelcome.

 

[labrat44]

I'm 36, and my OH and I would like to have a baby together. He's had a vasectomy, though, a long time ago, so the chances of reversal are not real good. We are planning to try that first, and then decide what to do after that if it doesn't work. I'm so glad to find this site where we can talk about this stuff! I feel like I waited for the right man, and now I'm told that I'm running out of time! ridiculous! and somehow, OH is feeling inadequate because he can't get me pregnant! silly man! at least 3 young girls (18-20s) I know are pregnant and in no situation to really take care of a baby, it just isn't fair! (stamps foot!) but I'm also old enough to know that life isn't fair, and I can be happy for them without feeling jealous (I hope) especially when the little angels are screaming and puking and all that!

Anyway, just thought I'd introduce myself!

 

[lavalux]

Welcome Labrat! You've found a great group of ladies on this site.

Any word from Skye yet? I've been in a deposition all day and have been surreptitiously stalking the thread for news from my cell phone during breaks b/c I really hope for all of our sakes that she gets the BFP. I'm on pins & needles. I so hope the news is good, but if not, as another smart poster noted, this thread is a safe place to land. I really care about Skye and want to celebrate or commiserate with her when she's ready to share.

As for the sweet and insightful comments made about angel babies and heaven, although I haven't gone through it, there were some really helpful points for me to consider and will help me be a more supportive friend to someone close to me who had a m/c a few months ago. Thanks!

 

[HappyAuntie]

I'm 36, and my OH and I would like to have a baby together. He's had a vasectomy, though, a long time ago, so the chances of reversal are not real good. We are planning to try that first, and then decide what to do after that if it doesn't work. I'm so glad to find this site where we can talk about this stuff! I feel like I waited for the right man, and now I'm told that I'm running out of time! ridiculous! and somehow, OH is feeling inadequate because he can't get me pregnant! silly man! at least 3 young girls (18-20s) I know are pregnant and in no situation to really take care of a baby, it just isn't fair! (stamps foot!) but I'm also old enough to know that life isn't fair, and I can be happy for them without feeling jealous (I hope) especially when the little angels are screaming and puking and all that!

Anyway, just thought I'd introduce myself!

Welcome, Labrat! I'm glad you found us. I have to ask, are you really a lab rat? My degree is in medical lab work and though it's been 10 years since I worked in a lab, I LOVE being a lab rat! It always appealed to the perfectionist in me - everything had to be so precise and just so - it really gave me a healthy outlet for my inner self who wants everything to be PERFECT (because the whole me knows that's just not possible!).

But I digress.... So, a vasectomy reversal... very interesting! I think you're the first in that category in our thread! Have you been checked out by an RE to make sure you're fully fertile? I only ask because, since it's been so long since his vasectomy, I wonder if it would be more cost-effective and get you a BFP faster if you skip the reversal and just go with IVF with needle sperm extraction.... I would think that if there's any issues with your side of things at all, IVF would be the better option in your situation. But then I am no dr! Just a curious (read: nosy!) bystander....

In any case, welcome to our thread. I think you'll like it here!

 

[missyt]

Nikki, I know exactly how you feel. Having a SS makes me want my own even more. It makes me realize how much I can give to a child when I have them 24/7. It is hard being a part time mom. I'm so glad you know how I feel.

Padbrat, my heart goes out to you. I can't even imagine what you are feeling. You are in my prayers.

Skye, where are you? I hope you are okay.

Labrat, welcome to our thread!

 

[HappyAuntie]

Ssssskkkkkkyyyyyyeeeeee, where are you????

 

[caroleb73]

Afternoon Ladies,

Pradbrat my heart goes out to you and I completely understand your pain. I was told that both our embies had taken after our first IVF and was so estatic as had been TTC for 18 months with not a BFP in sight then had to face the devastation of suffering a miscarriage shortly after. You go from one extreme emotion to the other and it knocks the wind out of you completely. I wish I could say the pain goes away but in truth it doesn't completely you just learn how to deal with it differently. Your son will alway be a part of your life even when you go on to deliver babies in the future. I hope and pray that the future holds brighter days for you and that you get to hold your baby in your arms soon.

Skye I really hope you are ok and things have gone to plan for you, we would all love to hear from you.

AFM I had my birthday this week so now the grand old age of 38 but no celebrtions as I am not drinking now because of my treatment. I am taking my metaformin twice daily and have had a few horrible side effects but I am reminding myself that it is only for a little over 3 weeks so I can deal with it. Downregging injection on Sat and them stimming starts on 23rd. Back to being a bloated pincushion hehehe. I feel completely back on track mentally to do this again and will tackle it with total positivity this is our chance for a baby and I have to believe that everything will be ok this time.

Well I am about to start my weekend here in the Middle East so I might not be online much until Sunday. Take care and wish you all a wonderful weekend and look forward to you announcing loads of BFP's real soon.

 

[FutureMommie]

Carolb- Happy Belated Birthday, I turned 38 on May 2. I hope the side effects aren't too bad and glad you are in a positive place again. Enjoy your weekend.

 

[labrat44]

I'm 36, and my OH and I would like to have a baby together. He's had a vasectomy, though, a long time ago, so the chances of reversal are not real good. We are planning to try that first, and then decide what to do after that if it doesn't work. I'm so glad to find this site where we can talk about this stuff! I feel like I waited for the right man, and now I'm told that I'm running out of time! ridiculous! and somehow, OH is feeling inadequate because he can't get me pregnant! silly man! at least 3 young girls (18-20s) I know are pregnant and in no situation to really take care of a baby, it just isn't fair! (stamps foot!) but I'm also old enough to know that life isn't fair, and I can be happy for them without feeling jealous (I hope) especially when the little angels are screaming and puking and all that!

Anyway, just thought I'd introduce myself!

Welcome, Labrat! I'm glad you found us. I have to ask, are you really a lab rat? My degree is in medical lab work and though it's been 10 years since I worked in a lab, I LOVE being a lab rat! It always appealed to the perfectionist in me - everything had to be so precise and just so - it really gave me a healthy outlet for my inner self who wants everything to be PERFECT (because the whole me knows that's just not possible!).

But I digress.... So, a vasectomy reversal... very interesting! I think you're the first in that category in our thread! Have you been checked out by an RE to make sure you're fully fertile? I only ask because, since it's been so long since his vasectomy, I wonder if it would be more cost-effective and get you a BFP faster if you skip the reversal and just go with IVF with needle sperm extraction.... I would think that if there's any issues with your side of things at all, IVF would be the better option in your situation. But then I am no dr! Just a curious (read: nosy!) bystander....

In any case, welcome to our thread. I think you'll like it here!

Happy Auntie, I was a biology grad student for far too long, but now I have a real job -professor, and I still get to do lab stuff. best of both worlds! all the vacations of a student, but the salary of a 'grown-up' (sortof!).

I have had the FSH blood test at day three of my cycle, and that was normal, so my doctor says that my eggs are probably fine - I guess if the eggs weren't healthy, more hormone would be needed to get a follicle, so that's ok. I haven't had any surgeries to make sure everything is perfect, but I have no reason to think it isn't. IVF has been suggested, but my husband and I are concerned with making lots of embryos then only using a few, what do we do with the others? and at least during the school year, I don't have room in my schedule to make lots of trips to chicago, and we haven't been able to find local facilities (NW Indiana). We kindof want to give ourselves a chance, as naturally as we can... I also wonder if needle sperm extraction then injection into my fallopian tubes would work? We have been to 2 OB/GYNs, and one fertility clinic, and a urologist. It's finding the right place that I'm having trouble with. The fertility clinic was very expensive (500$ each for us to consult with a nurse!) and the procedures would all be done in different parts of chicago.

If anyone here knows of places in or near NW Indiana that could help, or other procedures?

Thanks for the great welcome! I'm glad I found this forum!

 

[Baby4MJ]

Your right, it IS bitter sweet. We want our little ones here with us. But if they can't be, I'd rather know their safe in Heaven with a Father-God who loves them than anywhere else if I can't be with Him.

Not sure if that will help anyone who grieves their child. It will never take that pain away, but it sure helps calm the spirit when you KNOW where they are, that they are safe, they are REALLY ALIVE waiting for YOU, and that it's not the end. The chapter isn't closed and one day you'll have an ETERNITY (infinite time) to spend with the child you once let go.

I hope you find some peace in the midst of the grieving process

Thank you for this, Mommy's Angel. One of the biggest struggles I had with each miscarriage was the fear that each baby would not be able to go to heaven, but be forever suspended in purgatory (I was raised Roman Catholic and, though not practicing, it has always stayed with me that babies who are not baptized do not go to heaven). Although I do not truly believe God would ever deny a child entrance into heaven, that fear has always stuck with me. What you have said does help and provide some sense of peace (for me, anyway)

p.s. Belated Happy Birthday!

...God would NOT condemn an infant to hell who can't comprehend the difference between right and wrong.

Let your mind be put to rest that HE loves you and He loves your baby. That child of yours is very much in heaven running in the garden and isn't in limbo. He's with Jesus.

If you want something to read more about it..I HIGHLY recommend "Heaven" by Randy Alcorn. So many books out there are so loopy about what happens to someone when they die. Thus far it's the more Biblically sound book I've read.

Please forgive me for going on. This is a subject I'm passionate about. I love to share Jesus with others and in my own journey of love, loss and renewed sense of victory I've learned so much about the Love of Christ and where our children are.

Please forgive me if I affended anyone. It wasn't my intention.

Thank you so much again...I have spent 2 years praying for the souls of my lost babies, torn apart by both the loss of them and the fear of what happened to their souls. One of my babies had a heartbeat that I saw and heard - he/she was alive - and I was tormented by the thought of his/her lost soul.

I am not offended in any way by what you said - I am comforted. And your reply could not have come at a better time...one of my colleagues just came racing into my office while I was typing this response and shouted "It's a boy!". I had no idea what she was talking about. Apparently, her daughter who just got married last year (and who also works for my same employer and is always in this office visiting her mother) is 5 months pregnant and found out yesterday she's having a boy. I didn't even know she was pregnant. I had to paste on a big toothy grin and squeak out "how wonderful, congratulations, so happy for you" while trying not to burst into tears. I held it together until she left my office after going on and on about it for 10 minutes...then I cried when she left, knowing I'm going to have to deal with seeing her daughter month after month getting big and pregnant. This comes just one day after me having had to finally force myself to mail a "congratulations" card to another colleague who gave birth to a baby girl last month (it took me a month to gear up and force myself to buy and write out the card for mailing)....AND there's a third colleague, who is in the middle of a divorce, who got knocked up by her "friend with benefits" whom she doesn't even love...thank God she quit last month, because all she talked about was how depressed she was being so fat and so much bigger than the other mothers-to-be @ her ob-gyn's. So now I am spending the morning crying in my office, and dreading taking an HPT this weekend because I don't think I can handle another BFN (which it most certainly will be).

Sorry to ramble, but everything about this morning is making me very emotional and feeling sad and confused. I actually just wanted to say "Thank you" to you for all you've said.

 

[onmymind17]

Morning girls!

Such sadness to hear of Titi. My heart is breaking for you You and your family are in my prayers hun.

Onmymind dont you hate those "early" cramps. Its like a tease that AF is coming but still days away. I hope it ends up not being the witch for either of us!!!

Nikki glad to hear no side affects from the clomid..ive heard of some nasty ones. I never had any either but was never prescribed more than 50mg. Good luck with all the bding this weekend!!!

Skye

Luvy how is(or did) the SMEP go? Worn out yet??

Missy that trip sounds soooo relaxing. Maybe I can talk DH to do the same with me sometime in the next 2 months. Still crossing fingers for you this cycle!

Welcome Samiam. Good luck in the 2ww!

MA HA Padbrat FM Panda Baby4MJ Lynneb Lava CaroleB Never..Hi girls hope all is well!

LOL, yes i have learned to ignore cramps, or any other symptoms, i have been fooled one too many times by my body lol. I have to say, AF should have been here yesterday, and no sign of her, so far no sign of her today either, weird thing is i feel nothing now, the past 3 cycles i had such sore BBS, and this cycle, nothing, just little twinges in my uterus, and thats it. I have to laugh, i stopped temping a few days ago, figuring she would be here, i took a test and it was bfn, so not sure whats up.

 

[onmymind17]

So sorry to hear about Titi and her little one. That must be such a devastating blow! I am praying for her, her family, and the baby she lost. I hope that when she feels better she will rejoin our group so that we can all support one another while we wait for babies to hold.

SamiI,
Welcome! I am sorry to hear about your loss. It is good that you are having tests done by the doctors, but I hope that you get another BFP soon!

Dwgri,
I agree with you on not always just turning the other cheek & smiling through insensitive comments. I've told you about my friend who just had her baby (it was accidental & the father is not around by my friend's choice). I threw her a baby shower, brought her a gift & visited when she brought Joy home, but I just haven't been able to make myself go back again & have been avoiding calls. We talked yesterday, with the baby crying, and lots of breastfeeding/napping schedule convo, which is fine, but I just can't handle her pressuring me to hurry up and have my baby. So, I wound up coming clean on the phone & she was very supportive. At least she will know why I'm avoiding her & that it's just temporary. I feel like crap that I can't be a better friend to her right now, but it's too painful.

Good luck to FM, Skye, & anyone else on the TWW. Keep us posted on your news, Skye! I'm in the mood to use a bunch of happy emoticons!

Nikki,
I just have one more night of Clomid. No real side effects for me which was good. Mid-cycle check Monday to see if it worked at all. Good luck with the BDing!

You should not feel bad, we have to do whats best for us, and our mental health. I have a co worker/friend who is in the hospital right now because her cervix is weak, she had a cerclage done in feb, and now the sac is funneling down to the stitch, so they put her in the hospital on complete bed rest, i have not been able to go see her, both because its so hard to listen to her whine about not being able to go outside because she is stuck in bed, and i am afraid i will tell her off, and also because i spent so much time in the hospital when my dad was diagnosed with cancer, until the end when he passed away, that i just hate going there. I know i should go see her, but i just cant. I am glad you told her what was going on, some people just dont understand, and if we dont say anything they wont know.

 

[HappyAuntie]

I have had the FSH blood test at day three of my cycle, and that was normal, so my doctor says that my eggs are probably fine - I guess if the eggs weren't healthy, more hormone would be needed to get a follicle, so that's ok. I haven't had any surgeries to make sure everything is perfect, but I have no reason to think it isn't. IVF has been suggested, but my husband and I are concerned with making lots of embryos then only using a few, what do we do with the others? and at least during the school year, I don't have room in my schedule to make lots of trips to chicago, and we haven't been able to find local facilities (NW Indiana). We kindof want to give ourselves a chance, as naturally as we can... I also wonder if needle sperm extraction then injection into my fallopian tubes would work? We have been to 2 OB/GYNs, and one fertility clinic, and a urologist. It's finding the right place that I'm having trouble with. The fertility clinic was very expensive (500$ each for us to consult with a nurse!) and the procedures would all be done in different parts of chicago.

If anyone here knows of places in or near NW Indiana that could help, or other procedures?

Thanks for the great welcome! I'm glad I found this forum!

If you're in NW IN, I know Chicago is closer than Ft Wayne, but my RE (I'm in central IN) has an office in Ft Wayne and a consult with him doesn't cost $500, let alone a consult with his nurse! I'd be happy to pm you his info if you'd like. Frankly I'd be a little skeptical of an RE who has his nurse do initial consults - he is the expert, not his staff....

I know what you mean about wanting to do things naturally. As for IVF, I have the same concerns about extra embryos... my RE and I have even had that conversation even though we're not doing IVF at this point. His philosophy is to do whatever the patient is comfortable doing, and if the patient has concerns about extra embies, he will only fertilize as many eggs as you want him to fertilize - they don't have to fertilize every single egg they retrieve. Definitely something to ask an RE about, if you are willing to consider IVF. And yes, there is a procedure called GIFT (gamete intrafallopian transfer) - something else to ask an RE about.

Is the urologist you met with a reproductive specialist or a general urologist? There's a urologist here in Indy who only does reproductive urology - it might be worth a talk with someone like him to determine what are the odds of a successful reversal after so many years so you have all the info you need to make a treatment decision.

And a surgery on you to make sure you're fine shouldn't be necessary. A good FSH is great news. The only other thing you might want to consider is an HSG (hysterosalpingogram) to check the condition of your uterus (checking the shape, looking for a septum etc) and your tubes (making sure they're open). It's a 5 minute x-ray with contrast dye procedure. I have no idea how much it costs (mine was covered by insurance) but it might be worth checking out before the reversal - if you have any tubal problems IVF may be necessary anyway and then the reversal would be unnecessary.

 

[onmymind17]

Padbrat, your son is very much ALIVE in heaven. WE're actually the ones in our "temporary home" and THEY are waiting for US! Someone close to me once said when my Jackson passed away that He is not LOST, we're NOT walking away from our son but we are walking TOWARD him. It's not over, we'll be holding our children when we get to heaven. THEY will know us there.

I've read a couple of books Randy Alcorns "Heaven"shares a realistic view of heaven and if our loved ones will recognize us when we get there. It's a refreshing biblical view that shares hope and truth. Realistically our children don't turn into angels but are the same little ones they were created to be...only they are "walking in the garden with Jesus". I like to think of our Jackson as being around the likes of all the women from the Bible and the Desciples learning first hand what many of us read here on earth from Gods word, I also like to think he's surrounded by his great grandmother who is loving him dearly.

Your right, it IS bitter sweet. We want our little ones here with us. But if they can't be, I'd rather know their safe in Heaven with a Father-God who loves them than anywhere else if I can't be with Him.

Not sure if that will help anyone who grieves their child. It will never take that pain away, but it sure helps calm the spirit when you KNOW where they are, that they are safe, they are REALLY ALIVE waiting for YOU, and that it's not the end. The chapter isn't closed and one day you'll have an ETERNITY (infinite time) to spend with the child you once let go.

I hope you find some peace in the midst of the grieving process[/QUOTE]

Oh this is beautiful and your right!! I always say that my 4 are with my dad, they are playing in heaven with their grandpa, and waiting for DH and I to join them one day. I laughed and said to my dad, you have enough grandchildren up there with you, its my turn to have one down here!!

 

[HappyAuntie]

AFM I had my birthday this week so now the grand old age of 38 but no celebrtions as I am not drinking now because of my treatment. I am taking my metaformin twice daily and have had a few horrible side effects but I am reminding myself that it is only for a little over 3 weeks so I can deal with it. Downregging injection on Sat and them stimming starts on 23rd. Back to being a bloated pincushion hehehe. I feel completely back on track mentally to do this again and will tackle it with total positivity this is our chance for a baby and I have to believe that everything will be ok this time.

Well I am about to start my weekend here in the Middle East so I might not be online much until Sunday. Take care and wish you all a wonderful weekend and look forward to you announcing loads of BFP's real soon.

Happy birthday, Carole!! I'm right behind you - I'll be 38 in August. I am so happy you're feeling better emotionally (and totally selfishly, I am so happy you're posting here again - I missed you!). How's your DH doing? Is he feeling better about starting IVF again? I am excited that you've started the process already and just know that we are all here to lift you up and support you and hold your hand all the way, no matter what happens.

 

[gingerbread]

Hi girls & welcome labrat!

OMG I drifted over to the teen pregnancy forum & couldn't stop reading them as if it were a novel I couldn't put down! Not the fact that all these young girls are pregnant but all the cat fights, name calling & fake members who arent really pregnant. WOW It feels good to be back here!!!!

Fm & carole happy belated birthday to you both!

Onmymind...no AF yet? That could be a good thing. It blows my mind when I hear stories of girls who even blood tests didn't detect pregnancy for weeks after missed AF. And we think just the tww is loong imagine a 4ww! FXd for you!

I have a question for those who've done iui's or anyone who just has an opinion. My iui was done early this cycle(day 12) where normally done on about day 14. They tell me to test 14 days after and if negative stop the progesterone & if positive continue the suppositories & come in for a blood test. Today would be the 14th day but its only cd26 & I'm a constant 28 day cycle. So even if I got a negative...couldnt I still get a positive since AF isnt actually due till saturday? I dont think I'm prego since I've had mild cramps but just curious as to how they count you out if you get a negative before AF is even due? You'd think with as many iui's I've had I wouldn't have any questions left! That ended up much longer than I meant & hope it made sense!!!

Hello to everyone else!

 

[HappyAuntie]

OMG I drifted over to the teen pregnancy forum & couldn't stop reading them as if it were a novel I couldn't put down! Not the fact that all these young girls are pregnant but all the cat fights, name calling & fake members who arent really pregnant. WOW It feels good to be back here!!!!

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I have a question for those who've done iui's or anyone who just has an opinion. My iui was done early this cycle(day 12) where normally done on about day 14. They tell me to test 14 days after and if negative stop the progesterone & if positive continue the suppositories & come in for a blood test. Today would be the 14th day but its only cd26 & I'm a constant 28 day cycle. So even if I got a negative...couldnt I still get a positive since AF isnt actually due till saturday? I dont think I'm prego since I've had mild cramps but just curious as to how they count you out if you get a negative before AF is even due? You'd think with as many iui's I've had I wouldn't have any questions left! That ended up much longer than I meant & hope it made sense!!!

Did you have a trigger shot? If so, then you have to ignore the calendar and forget about what your cycles normally do, and just test when they tell you to test. AF's arrival is determined by when you ovulated, and the trigger forces ovulation. (Edit - just reread your siggie and saw you did the trigger.)

As for the teen pregnancy drama, I know EXACTLY what you mean!!! There was a pregnancy journal on here that was like a trashy reality show and I could NOT stop reading it!!! This was her 4th baby and her 3rd baby daddy, and she and baby daddy split up I don't know how many times during the pregnancy... it didn't even make me angry reading it, it was just so entertaining!! But yes, makes me VERY happy to be in with this crowd!!

 

[gingerbread]

Lol HA your exactly right about reality tv!! So since my trigger shot was given day cd10 (and naturally get a +opk day 12)then my cycle wouldn't be the regular 28 days? Does that mean I should get AF today?

 

[twinkle1975]

OMG I drifted over to the teen pregnancy forum & couldn't stop reading them as if it were a novel I couldn't put down! Not the fact that all these young girls are pregnant but all the cat fights, name calling & fake members who arent really pregnant. WOW It feels good to be back here!!!!

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I have a question for those who've done iui's or anyone who just has an opinion. My iui was done early this cycle(day 12) where normally done on about day 14. They tell me to test 14 days after and if negative stop the progesterone & if positive continue the suppositories & come in for a blood test. Today would be the 14th day but its only cd26 & I'm a constant 28 day cycle. So even if I got a negative...couldnt I still get a positive since AF isnt actually due till saturday? I dont think I'm prego since I've had mild cramps but just curious as to how they count you out if you get a negative before AF is even due? You'd think with as many iui's I've had I wouldn't have any questions left! That ended up much longer than I meant & hope it made sense!!!

Did you have a trigger shot? If so, then you have to ignore the calendar and forget about what your cycles normally do, and just test when they tell you to test. AF's arrival is determined by when you ovulated, and the trigger forces ovulation. (Edit - just reread your siggie and saw you did the trigger.)

As for the teen pregnancy drama, I know EXACTLY what you mean!!! There was a pregnancy journal on here that was like a trashy reality show and I could NOT stop reading it!!! This was her 4th baby and her 3rd baby daddy, and she and baby daddy split up I don't know how many times during the pregnancy... it didn't even make me angry reading it, it was just so entertaining!! But yes, makes me VERY happy to be in with this crowd!!

Think I might just tip toe over there for a look!!