TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Nikki Leigh]

Boy, did this thread move fast! Hi everyone.

Good to see you back Mpepe and Jocr!

Great news LynnB and Skye!

Sorry for the witch MJ and Onmymind.

Thinking of you Pad.

Missy, my DH (and my dad) loves to cycle too. I took a class, and fell off the bike, LOL. Banged myself up nicely.

Hi to all I've missed.

AFM: Nothing. I guess I'm waiting to ovulate, but have done only one OPK (yesterday, negative). Been pretty lazy this cycle. All I did was take the 50mg Clomid. Have drank a few times. Whatevers. Ovo calendar says I should ovulate tomorrow, so we'll see if I get a positive OPK today (yawns).

 

[luvmydoggies]

Hi Girls!

Wow! this thread did move very quickly over the last few days!

Lynnb and Dwrgi- the Wine and Moonlight went very well! We raised about $10,000. It will go to foster children, schools, scholarships for high school students for college, food drives, care packs for Troops etc. It is a great group to be involved with. I feel very lucky and blessed. My Mom and I baked over 200 hundred cookies and cheese sticks and had our own table. We were told by so many people that we should have our own bakery. We would actually love to go into business together, so we are working on it.

Then at the same time i get sad because, I think if I had a LO, there are so many things I would love to do with my child, like bake. My Mom used to sit me up on the counter, when I was old enough and teach me all about cooking and baking. If I'm not able to, I will be so heartbroken!

I also understand what Missy and Ginger said. My friends on FB can be so inconsiderate...with questions like..."well, when are you going to have kids"?. "Don't you want kids?"...."How many kids do you have? " " Why don't you have kids yet?".....ofcoarse the people that are asking...have two to three kids already. I think, maybe I waited too long. I thought I had plenty of
time.
lava and missy- beautiful profile pics!!!!

Welcome to all of the new ladies! You have come to the right place! Sending all of you love and lot's of baby dust!

 

[skye2010]

Missy u look more like a model than a army girl ) Your ex was just plain mean and really shallow. You are a very caring person and you will be a wonderful mother. And as for losing your body shape; there is so many models on the catwalks who have 2-3 kids. What a shallow remark about having kids. It looks like he will never be a happy man.

Lava biiig biiig hugs and lot's of sticky vibes for you. I hope your follies are planning the big meeting with DH's swimmies ) hahaha I am going to a blood test this morning but will read the article when I come back.

Baby4MJ Sorry for the witch hon but at least you know a good trick how to wash it down. I just fancy tasting one of those now. Must wait for a bit eh! hahahaha
Your cat is so funny. Check out "Cat Maru" on youtube. Looks like they are brothers
There's loads of Maru clips and when I wanna cheer up I just watch them. It's hillarious.

Nikki good luck with ov strips and TTC bedding. hahahaa "The moment we all wait for every month"

Luvy dear those women with couple of kids and no sense of social graces or empathy at all should get off their lazy a..es and do sthg as useful and wonderful as you have done before they speak. You haven't done anything wrong. You just waited for the right time for your baby. It is not any of our fault that our body doesn't work like many other and how are we suppose to know that before we even try? You will be a mother one day. You will bake cakes with your child and many other things. Perhaps you will build a good business and the baby will arrive once it is all settled who knows. But don't give credit to those who just doesn't understand or care. They can live in their own little bubble and carry on moaning about their children's bad habbits. You will be a much better mum than all of them.
xxxx

 

[Dwrgi]

This thread moves so fast, I haven't been on in a couple of day, I have a busy week so far. I will have to catch up later. I started my injections on Monday and I take them until next sunday and go in for an ultrasound monday.

I will have to catch up later.

Hope injections go well for you, and that they produce loads of big follies! Fingers crossed for you!
x

 

[onmymind17]

Padbrat, I so feel for you with all the stupid, insensitive remarks and questions. You are to be commended for keeping your cool. I talked to my mom today and I told her one of the biggest things that bothers me about TTC at our age is the the stupid remarks and questions. I'm not sure if I mentioned this to anyone but my sister is 11 years older than me, married for 26 years and never had children. No one knows why as she isn't a very open person. She got married at 23 and I'd say by age 28 they stopped asking her stupid questions. Whatever her reasons were, I know it bothered her because she loves children and has always been good with them. Its no excuse but people need to know to leave well alone. You expect a little more understanding from family but I think in a lot of ways they can be worse than a stranger.

Carol, what wonderful advice for Ginger. After I read your post I realized we have a lot in common. I only met DH 3 years ago and was in an abusive relationship for 5 years before that. I never had a desire to have children with my ex. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and he abused my sweet little dogs physically. I realized how he would be with children and when I had the strength and financial security, I finally left him. It wasn't until I met DH where I wanted children immediately. I was emotionally scarred by my ex because he would tell me I'd be a horrible mother and that I didn't want kids because I'd ruin my figure. He always knew where to hit me where it hurt. I see how patient DH with his 11 year old, it makes me yearn raising a little one of our own. I think our strength will get us there. Hang in there and I'm rooting for you. The best thing about this thread is making connections with people like you.

Mpepe and Butterflies, welcome!

AFM, I changed my profile pic to show more of our personality. We love motorcycles. I feel so much more comfortable with you girls now.

Oh thats horrible what you had to go through, i am so glad you got out of that and found someone who loves and adores you!!! And i love your pic, you look beautiful!!!

 

[onmymind17]

Thank you for starting this thread, and I'm also thankful that I found this forum. I feel a little bit better just knowing that there are so many others who feel the way I do and who understand. I'm 37 now, and I've always wanted to have my own children. I've waited for the right time and the right guy for so long that now I'm worried it may never happen for me. I've always loved children and cared for my sister's children (she has 5) and my cousin's children, but I desperately want to have one of my own. This will be my first month to actually try to conceive, so I know I shouldn't get my hopes up. I couldn't help it though when I started having symptoms, and I started thinking it could happen. I've already tested myself 3 times even though I knew I should wait. They all came back negative.
Good luck to everyone here and baby dust all around!!!

Welcome!!!! I am wishing you good luck that your stay here is short and sweet, and nothing wrong with being hopeful it happend on the first month, you just never know!!

 

[onmymind17]

Hi ladies, I was a part of this thread a long time ago and would like to join in again if thats ok? The whole ttc was overwhelming and depressing. After tesing with my doctor for 2mc's and now a good number of months ttc again on our own, still nothing. Because I have endo, clomid and other drugs would make it worse so very sad at this point. I'm glad to see members here that were older as well having success. I hope we all get our little beans

Welcome back!! I too have to take time to back off and not think about TTC, it can get very depressing. You have to keep the hope alive though, that one day it will work for us!!

 

[onmymind17]

Boy, did this thread move fast! Hi everyone.

Good to see you back Mpepe and Jocr!

Great news LynnB and Skye!

Sorry for the witch MJ and Onmymind.

Thinking of you Pad.

Missy, my DH (and my dad) loves to cycle too. I took a class, and fell off the bike, LOL. Banged myself up nicely.

Hi to all I've missed.

AFM: Nothing. I guess I'm waiting to ovulate, but have done only one OPK (yesterday, negative). Been pretty lazy this cycle. All I did was take the 50mg Clomid. Have drank a few times. Whatevers. Ovo calendar says I should ovulate tomorrow, so we'll see if I get a positive OPK today (yawns).

LOL, i love love love your attitude this cycle, i am the same way, if i want a drink i am going to have one, have no idea when i will O or when AF will be due again, and i dont care lol, for the next couple cycles, i am living free and easy lol.

 

[onmymind17]

Missyt, Love your profile pic!

Mpepe & Butterflies, You've come to the right place! Welcome.

Padbrat, oooh those comments made me so mad. I'm glad your DH told them to shut up. He's got your back! If us ladies had been there, it would have been a throw-down. J/K No one talks to our Padbrat like that ... I don't care if it's at a funeral.

Everyone, Just read a good article about dealing with infertility on CNN written from a man/husband's perspective. You may want to cut and paste it in your browser
:
https://articles.cnn.com/2011-05-17...sbands_1_infertility-ivf-flowers?_s=PM:LIVING

I'm going tomorrow to get my trigger shot, then the IUI on Friday morning. My right ovary is killing me tonight! Hope those follies are getting big and ready to come out and plan. LOL

Sending you all kinds of its a good sign when you can feel the pain in the ovary, i know for me when we would do the IUI's i would have at least 4 of them in that ovary and it was quite painful, but its a wonderful feeling lol.

 

[Baby4MJ]

Boy, did this thread move fast! Hi everyone.

Good to see you back Mpepe and Jocr!

Great news LynnB and Skye!

Sorry for the witch MJ and Onmymind.

Thinking of you Pad.

Missy, my DH (and my dad) loves to cycle too. I took a class, and fell off the bike, LOL. Banged myself up nicely.

Hi to all I've missed.

AFM: Nothing. I guess I'm waiting to ovulate, but have done only one OPK (yesterday, negative). Been pretty lazy this cycle. All I did was take the 50mg Clomid. Have drank a few times. Whatevers. Ovo calendar says I should ovulate tomorrow, so we'll see if I get a positive OPK today (yawns).

LOL, i love love love your attitude this cycle, i am the same way, if i want a drink i am going to have one, have no idea when i will O or when AF will be due again, and i dont care lol, for the next couple cycles, i am living free and easy lol.

I'm on board with both you girls! Too many other fish to fry this month with putting my house up for sale and sometimes I am just so O-V-E-R...I-T. Big time "whatevs" this cycle for sure, Nikki. The 2 bottles of wine chilling in my fridge agree.

 

[skye2010]

FM I am still curious about what's going on with u. Hope everything is looking up and you have luck on your side this cycle.

Dwrgi, any decisions yet where you are going?

Baby4mj exchange on the house is quite a standard procedure in UK. Must be so where u are as well. Usually both the buyer and the seller is prepared to wait. Only if you have your heart on a house that the owner is desperate to move out than it's a bit tricky.I hope you would find a buyer before you find the house u wanna buy. We will be doing that at some point probobly next year. It is a big decision isn't it. I just wanna wait untill I would have a baby since my local hospital has a very good fertility and maternity clinic. If I move I wouldn't be entitled for the treatment there. Than there is the schools to consider. Finding a house-flat is mad in London if you have kids. If you want your kids to go to a good state school the catchment area is very tight. The private schools also have tight catchment area and ridiculously expensive. Good universities and colleges are very snotty. They would consider students from only certain schools. The house prices shoot up if they are in a catchment area of a good school. It's a real headache. Toast a glass for me as well. xx

Onmymind, good attitude hon. Quite many BFP women swear by getting lucky after a fun, relaxing boozing weekend... Good luck xx

 

[padbrat]

Skye... that info is great thank you... please can you send me the other details as all my specialist mentioned was steriods... though to be fair she could have said more but I was too busy being miserable to notice lol! How are you feeling chick? When is your scan?

Lava... best of luck for your IUI!!! Fingers crossed!

So nice to know I wasn't being unreasonable and miserable about those comments and dead right if you all had been there it would have been right messy! Like WWF Smack Down hahaha I know you all understand what I mean! LOL

Missy lovely piccy hun.... and your ex must have been a blind ass!! Thank heavens you now have a real man who sees how damn lucky he is to have you! x

 

[Neversaynever]

Ladies just a quickie, I am still lurking as such, finding my journal a huge comfort right now and I am still following the thread.

Could you all just have some positive thoughts/prayers for MA right now. I have seen on the graduates thread that she has gone in to hospital as it looks like she may have IC and will be having a stitch put in. I'm on my phone so hope I have relayed the info correctly.

XxX

 

[padbrat]

OOOO no... hoping all is fine and well for MA!

 

[Baby4MJ]

Ladies just a quickie, I am still lurking as such, finding my journal a huge comfort right now and I am still following the thread.

Could you all just have some positive thoughts/prayers for MA right now. I have seen on the graduates thread that she has gone in to hospital as it looks like she may have IC and will be having a stitch put in. I'm on my phone so hope I have relayed the info correctly.

XxX

Millions upon millions of prayers being sent to MA that all will be well...she must be terrified, poor thing!

 

[onmymind17]

Ladies just a quickie, I am still lurking as such, finding my journal a huge comfort right now and I am still following the thread.

Could you all just have some positive thoughts/prayers for MA right now. I have seen on the graduates thread that she has gone in to hospital as it looks like she may have IC and will be having a stitch put in. I'm on my phone so hope I have relayed the info correctly.

XxX

Oh no, you got it, prayers are going up right now for her and her little one!!

 

[missyt]

Skye, thanks so much. My ex tried to make excuses for why I didn't want kids with him. The real reason was because he was abusive and I couldn't imagine my child going through. Yes, I am very lucky to have found a man who is patient, even tempered and trusts me. BTW, you and your DH look like a lot of fun. I picture you as the type of girl who always has a big, warm smile on your face.

MJ, I grew up in New England. I completely understand about the screwy weather.

Luvvie, good to see you back on. I can just picture you baking cookies with your LO someday. I know it will happen. I often daydream of doing things like that too.

Lava, fx'd for you! I really hope this one does the trick! Very cute profile pic.

Nikki, those months that I have that nonchalant attitude about when I O and all that are the months I don't take the BFN so badly. I think you have the right idea. And I've heard of plenty of women getting pg with that same attitude. I think we all tend to obsess over that stuff and it isn't good all the time. You end up putting too much pressure on yourself.

MA, my prayers go out to you!

 

[Baby4MJ]

Skye, thanks so much. My ex tried to make excuses for why I didn't want kids with him. The real reason was because he was abusive and I couldn't imagine my child going through. Yes, I am very lucky to have found a man who is patient, even tempered and trusts me.

First, I want you to know that you are not alone. I have had more than my share of abusive relationships - both family relationships and romantic relationships - that have run the gamut of abuse. But when you meet the right person, it's like the sky opens up and shines a light on you to open your eyes. All of a sudden you realize that there is nothing wrong with you, but it's the abuser that is the one that is royally screwed up! If it weren't for my DH opening my eyes to that, I would be staring 40 in the face and be in a very sorry state indeed. Your DH saw the treasure he had in you where that loser of an ex of yours was so blind to it. May he reap what he has sown, and may YOU have all the blessings you dream of (side note: oh my God but are you pretty or what?!?). Looking at all you gorgeous girls and your new profile pics, well, I think I will just keep posting pictures of my cats...LOL...

MJ, I grew up in New England. I completely understand about the screwy weather.

I actually grew up in upstate NY, but this New England weather is seriously crazy...60s in December...40s in May. Today it is both humid and cold. How the {bleep} does that happen??

 

[HappyAuntie]

AFM: Nothing. I guess I'm waiting to ovulate, but have done only one OPK (yesterday, negative). Been pretty lazy this cycle. All I did was take the 50mg Clomid. Have drank a few times. Whatevers. Ovo calendar says I should ovulate tomorrow, so we'll see if I get a positive OPK today (yawns).

LOL, i love love love your attitude this cycle, i am the same way, if i want a drink i am going to have one, have no idea when i will O or when AF will be due again, and i dont care lol, for the next couple cycles, i am living free and easy lol.

I'm on board with both you girls! Too many other fish to fry this month with putting my house up for sale and sometimes I am just so O-V-E-R...I-T. Big time "whatevs" this cycle for sure, Nikki. The 2 bottles of wine chilling in my fridge agree.

Sign me up for the whatevs club!! So over it right now. AF arrived on Sunday and it was the first time in TWO YEARS that it was a surprise (with regards to the timing of her arrival - the fact that she came was not a surprise because I knew we hadn't tried last month). I was not upset, I was not disappointed, it was more of a "well whaddya know, my period started" kind of feeling. It was really amazing to not feel disappointed or sad about it....

That said, we've decided to take one more month off from ttc before jumping back onto the crazy train (injectables + IUI, to be more precise). I'd been discussing it with my counselor, whether to start again this month or to wait another month. Her advice was you have to weigh which feels worse - the thought of waiting one more month, or the thought of another disappointing cycle - and there's your decision. I just started my anti-depressants last week and we decided it would be better to take a month to adjust to the drugs and let me get my feet back underneath me again before ttc again. So I get another month's reprieve from POAS and progesterone. (Really, the thought of not using the progesterone was a big part of that decision - I really hate that crap.)

Welcome back, mpepe - it's good to see you again. Feel free to pop in and out as you feel comfortable! And welcome to the new ladies. This thread has been a lifeline for me - I hope it's helpful to you, too.

 

[Baby4MJ]

AFM: Nothing. I guess I'm waiting to ovulate, but have done only one OPK (yesterday, negative). Been pretty lazy this cycle. All I did was take the 50mg Clomid. Have drank a few times. Whatevers. Ovo calendar says I should ovulate tomorrow, so we'll see if I get a positive OPK today (yawns).

LOL, i love love love your attitude this cycle, i am the same way, if i want a drink i am going to have one, have no idea when i will O or when AF will be due again, and i dont care lol, for the next couple cycles, i am living free and easy lol.

I'm on board with both you girls! Too many other fish to fry this month with putting my house up for sale and sometimes I am just so O-V-E-R...I-T. Big time "whatevs" this cycle for sure, Nikki. The 2 bottles of wine chilling in my fridge agree.

Sign me up for the whatevs club!! So over it right now. AF arrived on Sunday and it was the first time in TWO YEARS that it was a surprise (with regards to the timing of her arrival - the fact that she came was not a surprise because I knew we hadn't tried last month). I was not upset, I was not disappointed, it was more of a "well whaddya know, my period started" kind of feeling. It was really amazing to not feel disappointed or sad about it....

That said, we've decided to take one more month off from ttc before jumping back onto the crazy train (injectables + IUI, to be more precise). I'd been discussing it with my counselor, whether to start again this month or to wait another month. Her advice was you have to weigh which feels worse - the thought of waiting one more month, or the thought of another disappointing cycle - and there's your decision. I just started my anti-depressants last week and we decided it would be better to take a month to adjust to the drugs and let me get my feet back underneath me again before ttc again. So I get another month's reprieve from POAS and progesterone. (Really, the thought of not using the progesterone was a big part of that decision - I really hate that crap.)

Welcome back, mpepe - it's good to see you again. Feel free to pop in and out as you feel comfortable! And welcome to the new ladies. This thread has been a lifeline for me - I hope it's helpful to you, too.

Consider yourself a welcomed member of the "whatevs club"! After I got my BFN on Saturday, I was actually praying for AF just to hurry up and show herself already. The waiting in between the BFN and AF is just so irritating.

I think you have a very good plan, to hold off until you feel ready. That's why I didn't move forward with another IUI in March. I was so physically and emotionally spent at that point that I knew I would be putting myself through all that garbage again for nothing because my heart and head weren't in it. And if your heart and head aren't in it, it only makes sense that your uterus won't be either! I still take progesterone even though I'm on a break and just going to fertility acupuncture. I hate it hate it hate it (the progesterone)...but I'm so afraid not to take it. Then again, by taking it am I interfering with the potential success of the fertility acupuncture? My own personal chicken and egg dilemma - ACK! I have no idea what to do...so confusing (thus all the margaritas and chilled wine...LOL)