TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[twinkle1975]

Baby4mj- Thank you so much for thinking of me and rooting for me!

Caroleb- 12 eggs Yay I hope everything goes perfect, that you don't overstim and that you end up with a bfp and sticky beans!

Skye- Thanks- your trip there sounds horrid but it sounds like your are enjoying it and that it's beautiful! I'm slightly jealous, I hope I can make it to Paris for my 40th birthday!

Never- Sorry that AF showed but please don't give up! Its going to happen for us!

Pad- Loving the PMA Good luck with your scan I can't wait to hear about it.

MA- I'm sorry that you are so fatigued but all that matters is that Amelia is safe and snug in there.

Dwrgi- Sorry AF got you too. You are so right that TTC is a battle, and it can take it's toll on a marriage, there are times when my dh and I argue constantly about ttc. Hang in there, I know you guys will get thru this. Maybe a serious conversation over dinner with dh is needed to let him know how lifestyle changes and vitamins can make the difference.

Lava- Can't wait to hear those numbers, I hope they are thru the roof. Your weekend sounds like it was lovely!.

Missyt- Sending major hugs your way. I don't know what the outcome of your test will be and ofcourse I'm hoping that it will be a bfp but if it isn't you can't give up, have your cry and then jump back in the saddle, we are going to have a baby!!!!!! Sending Loads of PMA.....I wish there was a smiley for that.

AFM- I'm feeling better today and what I found out after much prayer was that my nasuea has nothing to do with pg but everything to do with me stressing and worrying about how I was going to feel on my trip to San Francisco (vacy begins tomorrow!) What I realized thru prayer was that I was making myself sick. My DH and BFF bought it to my attention on Saturday after several days of suffering, and increased blood pressure. I believe God answered my prayers thru them. After relaxing and making the decision to enjoy the trip regardless, my appetite has returned and the naseau is goine. I've spent so much time worrying over the past week that my 2ww is almost over, I couldn't really focus on symptom spotting. I will say that I got a little crampy yesterday and had to lay down for a while and afterwards the cramping was gone. Today I am officially 10dpo. I took an opk this morning and it had 2 lines but the control line wasn't really dark, so I guess that means there is some HCG still left in my system? I haven't taken a pg test yet, I haven't decided if I am going to test on my trip or just wait and see what happens. I'm still a little crampy today so not really sure what to think . I will keep you guys posted. I leave tomorrow afternoon so I may not be on a lot over the next week but I will try to pop in and if I get my BFP while I'm away I will certainly let you ladies know, you will be next after me and DH.

Really glad you're feeling better. Hope you have a fab holiday & will keep my fingers crossed for a holiday BFP for you|!!

 

[twinkle1975]

Nevernever The bad witch really sucks. I'm so sorry. TTC really is a waiting game which also sucks. But you will get there in the end and all this heartache will be forgotten instanatly xxx

Debs, pheeew it's good to hear from you. In case you didn't see my earlier post pls get your progestrone rechecked and if it is low (less than 200 no good, higher the better) ask your dr if he could prescribe gestone injections instead of the suppositories. Please don't be sad sweety. This baby will survive it. Tons and tons and healthy pink sticky dust for you.

MA Yaay for 22 weeks. Amelia is a good girl and she will make it all the way. We will all coooh on her pink cheeked pictures in 3,5 months I'm sorry I've been missing form the other thread. I was travelling and didn't have time to catch up with the grad girls. I will drop in for a quick update. But will properly lodge there once I come back from holiday I guess. )) Give a little cuddle for me for Peediddy. hehehehe. You know he might be a little peed off since you are spending all your time in bed and maybe he wants to play with you more. So maybe he did that to get you up and about. Never know what those furballs think sometimes. But they seem to have a purpose

Dwrgi double for you too. Sweety I promise you you will survive the TTC and you will forget all this misery. I can not explain the arguments we had with DH while TTC. We were almost on each others throats many times. In fact more like me on his throat on exactly all the reasons you mentioned: pills, bedding, lifestyle, having the doggies sit on his lap, taking a hot shower etc. I think I went crazy at some point snapping at him at all times. I got depressed and disgusted about my own behaviour but I just couldn't help it. Which confused him. He didn't know what to do with me. But at the time I felt like somebody was pouring hot oil down my head 24 hours a day. Cause babies, TTC and guilt (cause I couldn't get pregnant) was the only thing that occupied my head. But all these warped feelings go away. DH and I still are very much in love and all is forgotten. TTC is a tough journey. Many women experience these things more or less. I'm sure, you will feel a lot better once you start the tx. Also you have your holiday before that. Hope you can take your mind off TTC and have a complete relaxing break. (Although it is hard, I couldn't manage that in our holidays) Dunno what to suggest other than a manicure, massage or a haircut. Although last time you had a haircut it was worst that the TTc itself right. hahahahhaha

4MJ You have actually worked so hard bedding around the clock )) And covered all the left right middle corners. Your Dh has deserved a medal for good behaviour. Nothing else left to do but just to wait unfortunately. Also I wonder if changing those OPK's might help? Cause it is weird that you should have a positive for so many days. After all they show if you have an LH surge and you can't have it for that many days. I wonder if that batch was faulty or sthg? Anyway, you couldn't have done more to have a BFP so jump back on the whatever's wagon if you can.

Carole 12 is a great number ) Hope all the little follies catch up and give you wonderful juicy beautiful healthy eggs. After the egg collection they gave me a serum called Albumin. Which apparently helps prevent OHSS. Mention it to your dr and see what he says. And keep on drinking and peeing. Especially after trigger very very important. You must drink 1-2 glasses before you go to bed which forces you to wake up during the night for toilet than you have another glass. If you don't wake up you can get an alarm. Make sure you drink and pee at least twice a night. Also keep up the proteins, helps the eggs to grow. Good luck hon. We will hopefully be cheering and jumping for you very soon. xxxx

Lava, your dr is really sweet. Can't wait for your 6 week scan I've been having afternoon naps lately. Can't help but just keep dosing off so it's all good that you rest as much as you can xxx

AFM I am overdosing on pasta )) It's so delicious. Will have a short cooking class this afternoon learning how to make fresh pasta. DH thought it might be a good investment for his appetite

Mmmm fresh pasta!!! I'm hungry now!! Hope you're having a fab time in Italy - I've just bought myself a learn Italian CD as I love the language & hope to go someday.

 

[Baby4MJ]

AFM, I went in for my test this morning. I'm not feeling positive and I'm preparing myself for the negative results phone call this afternoon and realizing I've had another failed IUI. I wish I would've just tested at home yesterday so I could've had my cry at home instead of at work. I just hope I can hold it together.

Sending prayers up for you, missy, that the call you get will be your BFP call, and that you will need to leave work to run outside and jump up and down and yell for joy! And then you can text that PIA SIL of yours and tell her to stuff it. No matter what happens, we girls are all here for you.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Baby4mj- Thank you so much for thinking of me and rooting for me!

Caroleb- 12 eggs Yay I hope everything goes perfect, that you don't overstim and that you end up with a bfp and sticky beans!

Skye- Thanks- your trip there sounds horrid but it sounds like your are enjoying it and that it's beautiful! I'm slightly jealous, I hope I can make it to Paris for my 40th birthday!

Never- Sorry that AF showed but please don't give up! Its going to happen for us!

Pad- Loving the PMA Good luck with your scan I can't wait to hear about it.

MA- I'm sorry that you are so fatigued but all that matters is that Amelia is safe and snug in there.

Dwrgi- Sorry AF got you too. You are so right that TTC is a battle, and it can take it's toll on a marriage, there are times when my dh and I argue constantly about ttc. Hang in there, I know you guys will get thru this. Maybe a serious conversation over dinner with dh is needed to let him know how lifestyle changes and vitamins can make the difference.

Lava- Can't wait to hear those numbers, I hope they are thru the roof. Your weekend sounds like it was lovely!.

Missyt- Sending major hugs your way. I don't know what the outcome of your test will be and ofcourse I'm hoping that it will be a bfp but if it isn't you can't give up, have your cry and then jump back in the saddle, we are going to have a baby!!!!!! Sending Loads of PMA.....I wish there was a smiley for that.

AFM- I'm feeling better today and what I found out after much prayer was that my nasuea has nothing to do with pg but everything to do with me stressing and worrying about how I was going to feel on my trip to San Francisco (vacy begins tomorrow!) What I realized thru prayer was that I was making myself sick. My DH and BFF bought it to my attention on Saturday after several days of suffering, and increased blood pressure. I believe God answered my prayers thru them. After relaxing and making the decision to enjoy the trip regardless, my appetite has returned and the naseau is goine. I've spent so much time worrying over the past week that my 2ww is almost over, I couldn't really focus on symptom spotting. I will say that I got a little crampy yesterday and had to lay down for a while and afterwards the cramping was gone. Today I am officially 10dpo. I took an opk this morning and it had 2 lines but the control line wasn't really dark, so I guess that means there is some HCG still left in my system? I haven't taken a pg test yet, I haven't decided if I am going to test on my trip or just wait and see what happens. I'm still a little crampy today so not really sure what to think . I will keep you guys posted. I leave tomorrow afternoon so I may not be on a lot over the next week but I will try to pop in and if I get my BFP while I'm away I will certainly let you ladies know, you will be next after me and DH.

Yes, hcg is still in your system. I'd wait until 13 or 14dpo. Then if you see that light line you'll know for sure. Of course I kept testing every other day for two weeks at that point. Praying to see that little line. Also glad God answered your prayers and that you'll have a calm vacay. You both need this and it's worth spending the alone time. I would also wait until you get back from vacay to test. It will make the vacay that much more special.

 

[missyt]

Well, I'm out. The doc's office just called back with a BFN. I knew it was coming but he left a message because I was in a meeting and he wants me to call him back to talk about my future treatment options. I'm just not in the mood and I just want to cry. I just feel like I've lost hope.

 

[HappyAuntie]

Well, I'm out. The doc's office just called back with a BFN. I knew it was coming but he left a message because I was in a meeting and he wants me to call him back to talk about my future treatment options. I'm just not in the mood and I just want to cry. I just feel like I've lost hope.

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. Even when we know what the result will be, it doesn't prevent the grief and disappointment. I'm glad your dr wants to talk about future options - it means he doesn't want to waste any more precious time on treatments that aren't working so well, AND it means he hasn't given up hope for you - he sees reason to believe you WILL be a mother to your own precious baby. If he didn't think it would work, he would suggest stopping ttc altogether instead of suggesting future treatment options. He has hope for you. I know how hard it is to hang on to that hope, but it is there, whether you can see it right now or not. And we're all here to hold you up and help you reach it.

I can't remember what your thoughts are regarding IVF, but I seem to recall you saying you would take a break before going into it... I think that's wise... you need your strength to get over the emotional hurdles.

I wish I could swoop in and hug you for real. I'm so sorry.

 

[onmymind17]

Well, I'm out. The doc's office just called back with a BFN. I knew it was coming but he left a message because I was in a meeting and he wants me to call him back to talk about my future treatment options. I'm just not in the mood and I just want to cry. I just feel like I've lost hope.

Awwww honey i am so sorry!!! Sending you big warm you take as much time as you need, but please dont loose hope, its all we have. One day it will work, i just know it!!

 

[onmymind17]

Well ladies AF just showed for me, kind of surprised me, i figured the 8th which would have been 25 days, but she showed today, so only a 23 day cycle, oh well, just kind of surprised me to see her today lol.

 

[missyt]

HA, thank you. I know you know how I feel and I do appreciate all of you for that. I wish none of us had to go through this anymore. I guess I feel like my last hope with IUI's is gone because I was holding out for my 4th one because one of my friends I grew up with recently got pg from her 4th one after 5 years of trying. I have considered IVF and I definately need a break. What I'm concerned about with IVF is the costs. DH doesn't make a lot and I'm the bread winner and have to tackle most of the bills. My insurence doesn't really cover much. But you are right, I need to break to recover emotionally. I think I'm going to leave work for the day. I'm just tearing up too much. I knew I should've taken the test at home yesteday so I could be a little more emotionally stable today.

 

[missyt]

Well ladies AF just showed for me, kind of surprised me, i figured the 8th which would have been 25 days, but she showed today, so only a 23 day cycle, oh well, just kind of surprised me to see her today lol.

I'd like to just whack that witch for you. Believe me, I know how disapointed you are.

 

[FutureMommie]

missyt- Hun I'm so sorry that you are not pg, and I know how it is too feel hopeless and like it's never going to happen but it is, you haven't exhausted all measures yet, you said you and dh would consider IVF. So have a good cry to day, go home and talk with your dh and decide what the next plan of action will be. we are here for you to vent but we are also here to encourage you, we know where you are right now, that is the good thing about this thread. Sending hugs your way.

 

[FutureMommie]

Well ladies AF just showed for me, kind of surprised me, i figured the 8th which would have been 25 days, but she showed today, so only a 23 day cycle, oh well, just kind of surprised me to see her today lol.

I am so sorry the horrible witch showed for you

 

[lavalux]

I'm on my cell at work, but I wanted to pop in to give Chris and Missy big hugs. I feel for you both so much & wish I could take the pain away.

I am impatiently still waiting to hear from my nurse. On Friday, when she was calling with good news she called right after 10 am. Why hasn't she called yet? I'm starting to panic.

 

[Baby4MJ]

Well, I'm out. The doc's office just called back with a BFN. I knew it was coming but he left a message because I was in a meeting and he wants me to call him back to talk about my future treatment options. I'm just not in the mood and I just want to cry. I just feel like I've lost hope.

I've been on the receiving end of that call more than I can remember, so I know nothing anyone can say can make it any better. Cry it out if you need to. Sometimes that's the only thing that helps. Just remember that you may be down, but you are definitely not out. We're all in this together, pulling for each other, and we'll be here to catch you when you fall, and cheer you on when you get that BFP you so deserve.

 

[lavalux]

Y'all .. this thread has reached 500 pages long. Amazing!

 

[HappyAuntie]

Well ladies AF just showed for me, kind of surprised me, i figured the 8th which would have been 25 days, but she showed today, so only a 23 day cycle, oh well, just kind of surprised me to see her today lol.

So much for our burgeoning bounty of BFPs lately. I'm so sorry.

I am impatiently still waiting to hear from my nurse. On Friday, when she was calling with good news she called right after 10 am. Why hasn't she called yet? I'm starting to panic.

Please try not to panic. I'm sure everything is fine. I'm sure the BFP calls get made first every day, but then they start to get backed up and it just takes a while to get back to everyone. My nurse has told me that even though the clinic closes at 4, she usually isn't done making calls until after 6 every day. And I'm going to say it now (and repeat myself as necessary!) - when they call, do NOT worry about the actual number! TRUST your clinic when they tell you it's risen enough. Don't go googling to find out what you think it should be. There is a HUGE range that is considered normal - googling that stuff will ONLY make you worry - so trust your medical team. If they say it's risen enough, it's risen enough. Enjoy your pregnancy - you've been through a lot to get here and you need to enjoy it, not worry about it.

 

[FutureMommie]

Lava- Step away from the panic button! It's Monday and they are probably bombarded!! FX I know everything is fine.

 

[HappyAuntie]

Y'all .. this thread has reached 500 pages long. Amazing!

I was just noticing that!! I think those of us who've been here from the start - me, FM, Nikki, Twinkle and Hearty (if they're still lurking ) and a few others I'm sure I've missed deserve some sort of medal for sticking it out this long! Maybe a banner declaring our stubborn uteruses (uteri?) or wayward sperm!

 

[FutureMommie]

HA- I noticed that this morning, this thread moves with the speed of lightning, I hate to see how far behind I will be when I go on vacation! I will have to try and peep in every day.

 

[onmymind17]

Well ladies AF just showed for me, kind of surprised me, i figured the 8th which would have been 25 days, but she showed today, so only a 23 day cycle, oh well, just kind of surprised me to see her today lol.

I'd like to just whack that witch for you. Believe me, I know how disapointed you are.

LOL, thanks hon, but trust me its worse for you, when you go through all those tests and blood draws and being poked and prodded and then end up with a bfn, no i know how tough that is, been there done that, besides for me i kind of knew she would show, we had really crappy timing for bd, which was ok, i am well and truly on the "Whatevers" wagon for now. You take some time to relax, have a nice drink, or if you dont drink go have something you enjoy. Lots of hugs honey!!