TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

I'm on my cell at work, but I wanted to pop in to give Chris and Missy big hugs. I feel for you both so much & wish I could take the pain away.

I am impatiently still waiting to hear from my nurse. On Friday, when she was calling with good news she called right after 10 am. Why hasn't she called yet? I'm starting to panic.

Awww thanks hon!!!

OK, dont panic, they probably just were busier today than when they called before, it does not mean bad news!!!!!! Now i want you to sit down and take a deep breath and reapeat after me "Everything is going to be fine!!!" There now feel better? :hugs:
 
Well ladies AF just showed for me, kind of surprised me, i figured the 8th which would have been 25 days, but she showed today, so only a 23 day cycle, oh well, just kind of surprised me to see her today lol.

:hugs::hugs: So much for our burgeoning bounty of BFPs lately. :nope: I'm so sorry. :hugs::hugs:

I am impatiently still waiting to hear from my nurse. On Friday, when she was calling with good news she called right after 10 am. Why hasn't she called yet? I'm starting to panic.

Please try not to panic. I'm sure everything is fine. I'm sure the BFP calls get made first every day, but then they start to get backed up and it just takes a while to get back to everyone. My nurse has told me that even though the clinic closes at 4, she usually isn't done making calls until after 6 every day. And I'm going to say it now (and repeat myself as necessary!) - when they call, do NOT worry about the actual number! TRUST your clinic when they tell you it's risen enough. Don't go googling to find out what you think it should be. There is a HUGE range that is considered normal - googling that stuff will ONLY make you worry - so trust your medical team. If they say it's risen enough, it's risen enough. Enjoy your pregnancy - you've been through a lot to get here and you need to enjoy it, not worry about it. :hugs: :kiss:

LOL, hey its ok, someone has to get a bfp in july right? Maybe i will hop on that month lol. actually with my short cycles i could still get a bfp this month lol.
 
HA,
Thank you so much. I think I am losing it. I had to close my office door.b/c I am just shaking and.feel like I'm about to cry. I've got to get myself together. I'm sure they have tons of other girls waiting for their call. I am trying to just breathe.

Remember ladies the girl who was 16 in NY who was pregnant and my friend who is her mentor asked me about adopting the baby? Well, she told us she was going to have the abortion. But now I just found out that she is going to keep the baby herself while living with her bf. I wonder is she thinks it will be cool like that show on NYC, "16 & Pregnant". These girls think it's cool. They watch girls their age with a baby on tthe TV and the celebrity mags and just keep drinking, smoking, not getting regular prenatal appts. Here we are, older and want our babies so badly and get struggle so much. Anyway, just had to share.
 
Ok, just heard from the nurse. Progesterone is good & beta is 994. Sage said that the number is great. I'm not going to compare to others & just trust this is normal. Will go back on Friday. Thank you all for talking me off a cliff.
 
Ok, just heard from the nurse. Progesterone is good & beta is 994. Sage said that the number is great. I'm not going to compare to others & just trust this is normal. Will go back on Friday. Thank you all for talking me off a cliff.

:happydance::happydance::happydance::happydance:
 
Hi Everyone - am very new to this site, first post! :flower:

Here's my story:
due to some very heavy periods, I was put on the pill 9 years ago and it helped immensely to regulate me. I just got married this past January (yay!) and I went off the pills a couple of months ago.

this month: I'm pretty sure I ovulated on Memorial day weekend. As my period was on my bday in May(nice gift, huh?) this was a month we were going to try and we did, every day that whole weekend. :happydance: 5-6 days later I was in bed trying to sleep and I got the worst cramps...def pre-pill period-like and very very way down in the pelvis area dead center. I was in tears it was so bad, needed the heating pad. Next night - same thing but this time it was on the left hand side of the pelvis. ok after that (that was about 3 days ago). Now my breasts are so tender and heavy and sore (they also have grown in the past 3 months, up a whole cup size and still growing!)
Yesterday I was not hungry at all but was craving cheese cheese and more cheese. Then I was in church and the AC was going and I was literally sweating buckets! My hubby is worried about me but I just tell him all is ok. Now I'm peeing like a racehorse lol....

My 25 days, if it will stay like that, will be next Monday. This week will be so hard to wait! I'm going to go and get some thai food today as I'm craving it and the weird thing is - I never ever eat thai food! Man! our bodies are wonders aren't they?

Few extra things to note: I have some auto-immune issues and my husband is 19 years older than me....Not that he's old (I just turned 36, he will be 55 next month) and he already has 2 kids from long ago so there are no issues with his swimmers! lol (hopefully!)

baby bumps and dust to you all!
beth
 
Just wanted to say :hugs: especially to Missyt and to OMM.

Lava - sounds like good news, brilliant :)

Beth, welcome, sounds like lots of symptoms!
 
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Ok, just heard from the nurse. Progesterone is good & beta is 994. Sage said that the number is great. I'm not going to compare to others & just trust this is normal. Will go back on Friday. Thank you all for talking me off a cliff.

:happydance::happydance::happydance::happydance:
 
NewMarriedgal- Welcome to the thread you will love it here!!!!! Good luck in the 2ww, I hope this is it for you.
 
Thank you for the welcomes Butterfly67 and FutureMommie!

I hope I will be graced with a baby this time but I am trying not to get too hopeful! I wish everyone success!!!!!!

b
 
Ok, just heard from the nurse. Progesterone is good & beta is 994. Sage said that the number is great. I'm not going to compare to others & just trust this is normal. Will go back on Friday. Thank you all for talking me off a cliff.

Fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Those are great numbers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:happydance::happydance::happydance::happydance:
 
Hi Everyone - am very new to this site, first post! :flower:

Here's my story:
due to some very heavy periods, I was put on the pill 9 years ago and it helped immensely to regulate me. I just got married this past January (yay!) and I went off the pills a couple of months ago.

this month: I'm pretty sure I ovulated on Memorial day weekend. As my period was on my bday in May(nice gift, huh?) this was a month we were going to try and we did, every day that whole weekend. :happydance: 5-6 days later I was in bed trying to sleep and I got the worst cramps...def pre-pill period-like and very very way down in the pelvis area dead center. I was in tears it was so bad, needed the heating pad. Next night - same thing but this time it was on the left hand side of the pelvis. ok after that (that was about 3 days ago). Now my breasts are so tender and heavy and sore (they also have grown in the past 3 months, up a whole cup size and still growing!)
Yesterday I was not hungry at all but was craving cheese cheese and more cheese. Then I was in church and the AC was going and I was literally sweating buckets! My hubby is worried about me but I just tell him all is ok. Now I'm peeing like a racehorse lol....

My 25 days, if it will stay like that, will be next Monday. This week will be so hard to wait! I'm going to go and get some thai food today as I'm craving it and the weird thing is - I never ever eat thai food! Man! our bodies are wonders aren't they?

Few extra things to note: I have some auto-immune issues and my husband is 19 years older than me....Not that he's old (I just turned 36, he will be 55 next month) and he already has 2 kids from long ago so there are no issues with his swimmers! lol (hopefully!)

baby bumps and dust to you all!
beth

Welcome to the thread, sorry you have had all these issues, i sure hope your stay here is short and sweet!!!!!
 
Hellooo Ladies!:flower:

Wow! I was gone for a couple of days....had a lot to catch up on!:happydance:

Missyt- I'm so sorry to hear that dh's ex is moving closer! She really sounds like she hasn't moved on with her life...and feels the need to but into yours. About your SIL and your dh telling her about the IUI...when you didn't want him to- I would feel the same way. I understand all about that. I'm also so very sorry af showed.:hugs::hugs:

Onmymind- Hello, sorry your feeling :sick: hope you feel better soon.:hugs:

Lynn- Can't wait for your scan- How exciting!!:hugs:

Pad- You are so funny with your gas story- I love it! Dh and I are all about bathroom humor! I put up the banner on my sig too...to support you!!! Think pink!! Pink also happens to be my favorite color.:pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink::pink:

Never- You and dh are gorgeous! I love your pic. I know exactly where that was taken. So sorry that af showed.:hugs::hugs: (my dh doesn't know he is on here either):haha:

Skye- Florence, Italy...Wow! sounds beautiful. Sorry your trip was bumpy.

Baby4mj- My cbfm has been acting all crazy since I bought the darn thing. I have used so many sticks!! I am using opk cheapies this month. I feel like throwing the cbfm across the street. It has been such a pain in the a$$.:hugs:

Dwrgi- So sorry about af.:hugs::hugs:

GINGER- YAY YOUR BACK!!!!!!!!!

Futuremommie- Have a safe trip to San Fran.

LAVA- OMG!!!!!!! CONGRATULAIONS!!!!!!!!!:baby:

Hello to- HappyAuntie,MommysAngel,Butterfly67,Carole,bblve,Twinkle

Sending you all love & :hugs::hugs:&:dust:

I have just been waiting to ov. so not much going on with me!
 
Onmymind, you are right, those months were you don't go through all the medications, bw/us, etc are a little bit easier to take the BFN. That is exactly why I need to take the summer off and not think about it. Thanks for making me feel better.:hugs:

Lava, everything sounds like you are right on track. I don't blame you for getting a little freaked out earlier. I would be the same way. I'm glad at least one of us got a BFP this month:thumbup:. I hope we can keep the momentum going.

Luvvi, good to see you back. I've missed you, soulsister!

FM, thanks for your encouraging words. I'm still fx'd for you and I'm hoping you are our BFP for June!

MJ, I'm definately having a :wine:. I guess the only good thing about the BFN is that I can go on this winery tour in 2 weeks and actually get my money's worth!

Beth, welcome! :flower: I'm sure you'll feel at home here as a lot of us have gotten married later in life and have just started TTC since we've gotten married. There are also many other ladies on here who have been married for a while and have been TTC for a bit longer. I find these are the ladies that give the best advice as they've been through so much. As far as DH having children from a previous relationship, don't rule that out as he being in tip top shape just yet. Just because he had children many years ago doesn't mean that his physiology is still the same. My DH has an 11 year old but he formed a spermatocle about 6 years ago. His numbers are borderline on the low side so things have changed for him in the past 11 years since his son was born. I don't mean to scare you but if you need to get tested for fertility issues, don't rule out tests for him just because he has had children in the past. Besides, if it doesn't happen for you right away, you'll be putting too much pressure on yourself thinking you are the problem just because he's already had kids. I truly hope you don't have to go through that and you get your BFP soon. Best of luck on your 2ww.

AFM, I did leave work early so I could come home and break down and cry. But besides that, I found out that our new program manager who is pregnant with twins is 49! She also has a 2 year old daughter. I really wish I could approach her and ask her what her secrets are. She is a captain in the military so I'm sure her career came first and she put off having a family until later in life. On that note, I was in an informal meeting today and we were talking about her, one of my managers made some comment like "those who wait later in life to have kids" and he shot me a smirking look. :wacko:I was kind of offended because I wanted to go off and tell him why I don't have children yet. Unfortunately I couldn't find a decent guy to settle down with until I was 30 and that supposed decent guy turned out to be abusive so I had to wait even longer to find my 2nd husband who I am trying to have children with for over a year and 4 IUI's later. After that meeting was when I had the message from the doctor's office about my BFN.
 
Just wanted to say :hugs: especially to Missyt and to OMM.

Lava - sounds like good news, brilliant :)

Beth, welcome, sounds like lots of symptoms!

Thanks, Butterfly. I keep meaning to tell you that I checked out your site and I love your artwork.
 
Hi ladies, came by to see how everything is going and feel awful for all of you who are out. Very frustrating I know. :hugs:

Lava, glad you heard back that all is well. Reading it had me on pins and needles. :wacko:

Welcome Beth! :hi:

:hug: and love to you all! :flower:
 
Onmymind, you are right, those months were you don't go through all the medications, bw/us, etc are a little bit easier to take the BFN. That is exactly why I need to take the summer off and not think about it. Thanks for making me feel better.:hugs:

Lava, everything sounds like you are right on track. I don't blame you for getting a little freaked out earlier. I would be the same way. I'm glad at least one of us got a BFP this month:thumbup:. I hope we can keep the momentum going.

Luvvi, good to see you back. I've missed you, soulsister!

FM, thanks for your encouraging words. I'm still fx'd for you and I'm hoping you are our BFP for June!

MJ, I'm definately having a :wine:. I guess the only good thing about the BFN is that I can go on this winery tour in 2 weeks and actually get my money's worth!

Beth, welcome! :flower: I'm sure you'll feel at home here as a lot of us have gotten married later in life and have just started TTC since we've gotten married. There are also many other ladies on here who have been married for a while and have been TTC for a bit longer. I find these are the ladies that give the best advice as they've been through so much. As far as DH having children from a previous relationship, don't rule that out as he being in tip top shape just yet. Just because he had children many years ago doesn't mean that his physiology is still the same. My DH has an 11 year old but he formed a spermatocle about 6 years ago. His numbers are borderline on the low side so things have changed for him in the past 11 years since his son was born. I don't mean to scare you but if you need to get tested for fertility issues, don't rule out tests for him just because he has had children in the past. Besides, if it doesn't happen for you right away, you'll be putting too much pressure on yourself thinking you are the problem just because he's already had kids. I truly hope you don't have to go through that and you get your BFP soon. Best of luck on your 2ww.

AFM, I did leave work early so I could come home and break down and cry. But besides that, I found out that our new program manager who is pregnant with twins is 49! She also has a 2 year old daughter. I really wish I could approach her and ask her what her secrets are. She is a captain in the military so I'm sure her career came first and she put off having a family until later in life. On that note, I was in an informal meeting today and we were talking about her, one of my managers made some comment like "those who wait later in life to have kids" and he shot me a smirking look. :wacko:I was kind of offended because I wanted to go off and tell him why I don't have children yet. Unfortunately I couldn't find a decent guy to settle down with until I was 30 and that supposed decent guy turned out to be abusive so I had to wait even longer to find my 2nd husband who I am trying to have children with for over a year and 4 IUI's later. After that meeting was when I had the message from the doctor's office about my BFN.

Oh Missy- I'm so sorry! I'm crying, while I'm reading your post! Some people are so stupid and plain rude. I'm in the same boat. I will be 38 in June. My story, is like yours! I didn't meet the right guy until later. Then with having my illness. I want to give that man a big smack, who said that insensitive comment/smirk. They have no idea- of what we all struggle with and that we all want to mommies so badly. It will happen for us!!! I'm sending you tons of :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: I saw a pregnant women in the supermarket yesterday, while pushing her twin boys in one of those carts that has the car in front of it. Came home and burst into :cry::cry:.
 
Hi Everyone - am very new to this site, first post! :flower:

Here's my story:
due to some very heavy periods, I was put on the pill 9 years ago and it helped immensely to regulate me. I just got married this past January (yay!) and I went off the pills a couple of months ago.

this month: I'm pretty sure I ovulated on Memorial day weekend. As my period was on my bday in May(nice gift, huh?) this was a month we were going to try and we did, every day that whole weekend. :happydance: 5-6 days later I was in bed trying to sleep and I got the worst cramps...def pre-pill period-like and very very way down in the pelvis area dead center. I was in tears it was so bad, needed the heating pad. Next night - same thing but this time it was on the left hand side of the pelvis. ok after that (that was about 3 days ago). Now my breasts are so tender and heavy and sore (they also have grown in the past 3 months, up a whole cup size and still growing!)
Yesterday I was not hungry at all but was craving cheese cheese and more cheese. Then I was in church and the AC was going and I was literally sweating buckets! My hubby is worried about me but I just tell him all is ok. Now I'm peeing like a racehorse lol....

My 25 days, if it will stay like that, will be next Monday. This week will be so hard to wait! I'm going to go and get some thai food today as I'm craving it and the weird thing is - I never ever eat thai food! Man! our bodies are wonders aren't they?

Few extra things to note: I have some auto-immune issues and my husband is 19 years older than me....Not that he's old (I just turned 36, he will be 55 next month) and he already has 2 kids from long ago so there are no issues with his swimmers! lol (hopefully!)

baby bumps and dust to you all!
beth

Welcome, Beth! :hi: I'm glad you found us and jumped right in. Congratulations on your recent marriage!

I want to echo what Missy said - don't assume that just because your DH has kids already means he's totally fine. Anything can happen. We assumed DH was fine because we got pregnant twice within the first months of trying (miscarried both) so he didn't do an SA (semen analysis) until we'd been ttc for a long time - turns out he has very low morphology and it's a fluke that we ever got pregnant at all, let alone twice. SAs are incredibly cheap and easy compared to female fertility workups, too, so it's definitely worth doing. Guys tend to put up a fuss about doing them, but when reminded what we have to go through and how much easier they have it, they usually comply. :winkwink:

Since you're new here, I'm going to give you the basics. Please forgive me if you know all this info already. It's just that I've been through the ringer and have lots of experience that others can benefit from, so I'd rather pass on too much than say too little....

The general rule of thumb for women over 35 is to go see an RE (reproductive endocrinologist) after 6 months of ttc with no BFP. However in your case, since you have known auto-immune issues and a history of menstrual problems, I would strongly suggest you go see one now. It's quite possible that one of your known health issues could make it even harder for you to get pregnant, and if you wait the standard 6 months before getting checked out, it's just a wasted 6 months. And being over 35, time is not on our side. I truly don't mean to scare you - getting pregnant after 35 happens all the time - but statistically it's going to take longer to get a BFP than it takes a woman at peak fertility. Female fertility starts to decline after age 35, and I think most of us were probably ignorant of that when we started this journey. It doesn't fall off a cliff, but it definitely starts to decline. So in the interest of giving you the best possible chances, I'd say it's worth getting checked out now.

Enjoy your Thai food - I LOVE Thai!! :happydance:

Onmymind, you are right, those months were you don't go through all the medications, bw/us, etc are a little bit easier to take the BFN. That is exactly why I need to take the summer off and not think about it. Thanks for making me feel better.:hugs:
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AFM, I did leave work early so I could come home and break down and cry. But besides that, I found out that our new program manager who is pregnant with twins is 49! She also has a 2 year old daughter. I really wish I could approach her and ask her what her secrets are. She is a captain in the military so I'm sure her career came first and she put off having a family until later in life. On that note, I was in an informal meeting today and we were talking about her, one of my managers made some comment like "those who wait later in life to have kids" and he shot me a smirking look. :wacko:I was kind of offended because I wanted to go off and tell him why I don't have children yet. Unfortunately I couldn't find a decent guy to settle down with until I was 30 and that supposed decent guy turned out to be abusive so I had to wait even longer to find my 2nd husband who I am trying to have children with for over a year and 4 IUI's later. After that meeting was when I had the message from the doctor's office about my BFN.

I'm glad you had a good cry. What a crappy afternoon. :cry: :hugs: And I'm glad you're going to have a drink tonight. :wine:

As for your program manager, a baby at 47 and then twins at 49 sounds suspiciously like IVF with donor eggs to me... I'd bet money that's her secret. Statistically the odds of pregnancy without donor eggs at 47 and 49 is next to impossible. Not completely impossible, but pretty d*mned close to it. And what drives me nuts about people who keep their infertility a big secret is it perpetuates the stigma of infertility and the myth that pregnancy at 49 can happen to anyone. I completely understand why people don't feel the need to share all the nitty gritty details, but for celebs like Kelly Preston and JLo to not say a word about it is plain ridiculous. The way I see it is by talking about my infertility, I might be able to help someone who's afraid to talk about her own infertility by letting her know there's someone who understands how it feels, that she's not alone (not by a longshot!).....

Sorry, it's just one of my soapbox issues. I sound pretty militant in this post, don't I... I'll try to take it down a notch.

Love you ladies. Have a great evening. :kiss:
 
:hi:Hi Ladies -

Hope you all had a lovely weekend! As usual, lots of catch up reading to be done but wanted to say:

Beth - Welcome!:flower:

FM - Hope you are feeling better and that you have a wonderful trip!

Luv - Hi! Good to see you again!:flower:

Lava - Glad all is well - SOOOO happy for you!:happydance:

HA - Love your humor, really helped brighten my day - thank you!:haha:

OMM & Missyt - Ladies, what can I say?....I'm sorry, sending you both hugs & looking forward to your BFP's in July!!:nope::hugs:

So ladies, I have to admit I cracked this morning....yes, I know, I Know!!.. yesterday brought a full day of never before experienced "symptoms":wacko: - this "of course" is a clear indication I should test right?:dohh: Needless to say it was a BFN. While I know I'm still not entirely out, I'm thinking that just might be the case especially since my temp took a nice dive this morning. For now I'm just going to jump on "WW" at least unt AF shows up:coffee::shrug: Hope everyone is doing good, take care!
 
So ladies, I have to admit I cracked this morning....yes, I know, I Know!!.. yesterday brought a full day of never before experienced "symptoms":wacko: - this "of course" is a clear indication I should test right?:dohh: Needless to say it was a BFN. While I know I'm still not entirely out, I'm thinking that just might be the case especially since my temp took a nice dive this morning. For now I'm just going to jump on "WW" at least unt AF shows up:coffee::shrug: Hope everyone is doing good, take care!

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