HA, I have to give you a big THANK YOU! I get perturbed with all the celebrity baby stuff too. When people ask and I say we are TTC they say, "well look at Mariah Carey, Kelly Preston and Hally Berry". I want to say "well look at my bank account and look at theirs and I'd probably have a baby now too". I agree and wish they would come clean because I would love to help a woman in my position who was having problems at my age if I had a baby through fertility treatments. I think if those of us in our little group had disposable incomes, we'd all either have are babies or be pregnant now too. I always love hearing what you have to say because you research like crazy and tell it like it is. Thanks for being you!
Exactly - I don't begrudge them their successes, but most people don't have the same resources they do.
AFM, I had my 2nd scan yesterday. Iri is doing great, measuring spot on for dates, that was after the sonographer spent a good few mins chasing him/her around my uterus
, apparently we have a very active baby with 2 arms & 2 legs, which my dh said would come in handy.
So I've officially been discharged from the EPU
Gorgeous scan, Lynn!!!
Wonderful news!
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My DH doesn't smile for photos either. I really need to beg him for an odd photo
Isn't it funny there's so many of us having so much family problems here and just pure agitation. Bet everyone experiences these things but looking from the outside you would think all neighbours, friends etc have an angelic relationship with their DH's, sils,mils, parents, sisters brothers etc etc. Muddy truth about families
You're absolutely right - people tend to present the best version of themselves most of the time because no one wants to air their dirty laundry in public. But in here we all feel comfortable being honest with each other so we let it all out.
I try not to complain about DH too much because it's not fair to him (even though he'll never read any of this!) - no one person is always good or always bad - so I try to share some of the good AND some of the bad. But people are people (ahh, how I still love Depeche Mode!) and none of us are perfect!
Hello Everybody! Just thought I'd pop in and say 
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I can't believe how quickly this thread moves-congratulations on our 500th page!!! If we ever met up, we'd need a good few weeks together to get through all our news!!! Just so glad that you are all here, and such a constant source of comfort and support-I don't know what I'd do without this thread, and I really mean that!
Skye-you made me laugh when you said about getting the knife out! I SO know how that one feels!! Plus the advice re. pampering (but not hair-oh no, I'm only now starting to like mine again, now that the Gail mullet isn't so obvious!).
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AFM-as I said to Skye, I am going to call the clinic and go for it. Enough procrastinating-it just isn't going to happen for me naturally, and I need to stop wasting time and take decisive action! Things are much better with OH-I sent him information about dealing with infertility (he works better if I email him something and he has time to digest it before we discuss it), and he read all of it (I just skimmed it-oops!), and seemed to have found a new level of understanding for what I'm feeling and going through. I guess I have to remember that what does not break us will only make us stronger! Thanks for all your help guys-you're the best! 
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P.S. I'm 225 scripts down with 166 to go!
So glad your hair is looking better! That still cracks me up!
And well done on the grading. What subject is it? Any absolutely pathetic ones in the bunch?
You are so right about this thread - you all have been here for me when I'm up and here for me when I'm down - I could never make it through this without you all.
I'm glad your DH has a better understanding of what you're feeling. It makes it a lot easier to bear when the DH isn't staring at you like you've suddenly sprouted three heads or something.
My counselor mentioned something a while back about how differently men and women are affected by the stress of infertility and even miscarriage, that a man's level of emotional distress is nowhere near as high as the woman's unless there is male factor infertility involved, that male factor is the only time a man will feel the anywhere near same level of grief and disappointment we do. I found that very interesting.
Missy, I think it's really important that both people agree on how much info they're willing to share with others, and I would be livid (and even feel betrayed) if my DH shared more than we'd agreed to share.... That said, though, did he have a reason for sharing with his sister? Was she being pushy and nosy and he wanted to get her off his back, or did he need to unload to someone so he turned to her? I know my DH is often reluctant to open up to me when he needs to talk about it because he's afraid I am struggling to deal with my own stuff and he doesn't want to make me feel worse by telling me he's having trouble, too... that's where counseling has been helpful for him - it gives him someone he can talk to about it without fearing he's adding to my burden.
FM, I'm SO glad you're feeling better!
Have a wonderful vacation! Here's hoping for good weather, no fog, gorgeous vistas, delicious food, excellent people watching, and lots of exercise walking all those hills!
AFM, today is day two of basement construction.
Hopefully not as much jackhammering today, though.
Our poor kitty is traumatized by all the noise! They initially said they'd finish today but I'll believe it when I see it - there is still a lot of work to be done down there. But that means I'll probably be on here a lot again today, since I can't do anything but sit here and supervise the work crew, making sure they don't leave cigarette butts on the ground or track mud in the house.
My sister and her family arrive tomorrow - round 3 of houseguests. We love having guests, and at least it's just my sister coming when the house is torn apart - she won't care that my basement contents have been vomited into my living room and everything is covered in concrete dust. We really enjoy showing people around the city and visiting the museums and the parks and the zoo and all that other fun touristy stuff you rarely ever do in your own hometown.
My biggest concern is that with my sister comes my gorgeous little baby niece. She turns one at the end of the month. She's my marker - I was pregnant and miscarried for the 2nd time while my sister was pregnant with her. Until we have our own LO, seeing this niece is a little bittersweet - I adore her, and she's a reminder of what we still don't have.... But it will all be fine. We'll be so busy doing fun stuff that I won't have time to be blue about it.
I hope you all have a lovely day, free of BFNs and jackhammering and b*tchy coworkers and relatives.
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I can really understand your DHs reactions as well. Boys just take it different than girls. First they really don't like talking about it at length. They have a minimum attention to TTC details (or that's what they seem like) but they are at least more positive and steady. (I mean most men, some are just angels but mine was just my dear DH xx 
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