TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[purplelou]

Hi Goldie
welcome I am new too but this is the nicest thread (on any topic) I have ever found with the nicest bunch of ladies! you will get a lot of support here.

if you are still needing to know about etc - when you type your message in click "go advanced" all the little smilies etc are there

Hi to everyone else - hope you are all having a nice start to your Tuesday - it's my half day at work today - and I am very glad!!

 

[goldie66]

aaah thanks Purplelou, I see it now. will try add my ticker later tonight etc...

I've been on babyandbump reading the threads every now and again...

But stopped last month as I didnt want to keep stressing myself...

Must get ready for my work now and will pop on later....

Big hugs and loads baby dust to you all...



xxx

 

[Macwooly]

Hello Goldie66 I hope you don't have to wait too long for your BFP

 

[Butterfly67]

Hello Goldie and welcome :wave:

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi Goldie-welcome to the thread. Good luck on your TTC journey!

Hello everybody! How are you all? I hope you're feeling better Carol!

Feeling a bit down and depressed at the mo., as I've been doing Internet research into IVF (bad idea, I know), and found a reputable website which explained the process of IVF in minute detail. There is so much I don't know.

It claimed that some clinics abandon the IVF cycle if the woman produces only three eggs or less, as the chance of success is so low. I have been told by my clinic that as my amh is low (2.9) I will probably produce up to 5 embryos/ eggs and more than likely 1-3. So, what am I doing this for if the success rates are soooooo poor?? I know that our issue is my OH's swimmers, but still... I just need some good news or some anecdotal evidence that suggests that I'm not wasting my time doing this.... or just accept that it was not meant to be.

I know that I'm tired after the marking, but I also feel sooooooo down because of this whole TTC business. Feel such a failure, and IVF/ICSI gave some hope, but it's been dashed again.

Anyway, sorry for my selfish post.

I am thinking of you all, and hope that you are all okay.

Lots of and !
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[Butterfly67]

Aw dwrgi, I'm sorry you are feeling so down - I don't know anything much about IVF although my best friend is having her first cycle later this summer so hopefully I'll learn a bit more then. Sending you anyway and hope you get some positive answers.

 

[lavalux]

Welcome Goldie!

Dwrgi,
I am so sorry you are feeling down about the IVF/ICSI process. I know how you feel b/c I remember when I learned that insurance didn't pay for any part of IVF and my DH & I discussed it and decided that we couldn't afford to go to the next step if IUI failed. Since I was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve, I also know the stress of feeling like you don't have the same amount of time or the same rate of success as most others doing fertility treatments, even those who are 35 and older. When you get multiple BFNs, it is demoralizing. Then when you finally wrap your head around the next level of treatment, there is some glimmer of hope. But it is normal to then start doubting and wonder if the procedure will be useless. I think from talking with one of my good friends (not on this board) and hearing from Skye, that once you actually start the process with an RE that you trust, you feel so much better about the whole thing and doubt is replaced by excitement. My friend had no success with IUI (she is seeing the same fertility specialist that I am). We went on a women's meditation retreat together and she cried the entire time. She kept saying that she had had 31 BFNs and she couldn't take another. Her issue was in part her age (she's 37) but mostly her husband's sperm motility. It couldn't swim up fast enough and strong enough to reach the egg. Anyway, I am happy to report that she just did her first round of IVF and got her positive beta on Sunday and she is pregnant. It is a miracle that we are both pregnant together and we are worlds away emotionally from where we were before that meditation retreat. All this to say, do not give up. I understand the odds aren't what they would be for a 27 year old. But, it only takes one egg and one sperm in the end. ICSI can bypass the challenges with DH's sperm and don't count your eggs out, girl! I'm 39 and was told we would probably need to consider donor eggs in our first fertility consult. Now I'm pg with help from the doctor. I know that I still have a long way to go to baby and am worried that I will miscarry or there will be a birth defect (and if I look at the internet and the charts and statistics, all I will do is freak myself out). So, just stick with your original plan and keep a positive attitude. We are all here to support you!

 

[missyt]

Welcome Goldie!

Dwrgi, I know you feel hopeless. You are stressing yourself out more by analyzing all the IVF information you are reading. They have to report the worst as well as the best results. Don't focus so much on the negative things you are reading. Like my RE said, the success rates for IVF are so much higher and your chances of having a baby that much better. Like Lava said, I think once you actually start the cycle you'll feel so much better and more positive that what you are doing is going to work. Please try not to dwell on it so much. I know its easier said than done and I am guilty of dwelling on things too. I'm excited to hear the details on your IVF cycle and can't wait for you to announce your BFP! I'm not far behind you as I think we've decided to do IVF after the summer is over.

 

[onmymind17]

Hi Girlies,can I join you all,I'm due AF 25th, I'm 6dpo..

This is my 4 cycle ttc. chemical in March and nothing April,May...Hoping I get my BFP soon...

Last month I used clearblue digi sticks,pre-seed and instead cups..

Using clearblue monitor this month and also instead cups...no pre-seed..
Only thing I notice at 5dpo is thick white cm and low cervix I think,not sure bout this cervix high,low, open.....

I'm 40 years young and trying for our 1st...

Still trying to figure out how to add sprinkle dust etc..lol..

Wishing everyone a BFP soon...
xxxx

Welcome Goldie, this is the best bunch of ladies ever!!!! Sorry for your loss, i sure hope you get your bfp real soon!!!

 

[onmymind17]

Hi Goldie-welcome to the thread. Good luck on your TTC journey!

Hello everybody! How are you all? I hope you're feeling better Carol!

Feeling a bit down and depressed at the mo., as I've been doing Internet research into IVF (bad idea, I know), and found a reputable website which explained the process of IVF in minute detail. There is so much I don't know.

It claimed that some clinics abandon the IVF cycle if the woman produces only three eggs or less, as the chance of success is so low. I have been told by my clinic that as my amh is low (2.9) I will probably produce up to 5 embryos/ eggs and more than likely 1-3. So, what am I doing this for if the success rates are soooooo poor?? I know that our issue is my OH's swimmers, but still... I just need some good news or some anecdotal evidence that suggests that I'm not wasting my time doing this.... or just accept that it was not meant to be.

I know that I'm tired after the marking, but I also feel sooooooo down because of this whole TTC business. Feel such a failure, and IVF/ICSI gave some hope, but it's been dashed again.

Anyway, sorry for my selfish post.

I am thinking of you all, and hope that you are all okay.

Lots of and !
A
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Honey dont feel down, just remember all it takes is one egg and one sperm, i think your IVF is going to go great. You know i have a friend in CA, she was doing an IUI cycle, her right tube was blocked and on this cycle of course they said she was growing all the eggs on her blocked right side, she almost gave up and did not do the IUI because of that, but she went ahead and did it anyway, she now has a one year old daughter. I guess what i am trying to say is dont count yourself out before anything has even happend. Yes there are some clinics that wont do it, but there are a lot who will especially with older women, i mean lets face it we are not going to produce 30 eggs. Sending you huge hugs Chin up honey, and think positive, this WILL work!!

 

[skye2010]

Hey Girls

Thannk you for keeping me on I'm so glad cause I love you all in here ))

Also thank you Foxy Twinkie Spoiler is a great idea. Now MA can you pls instruct me how to make one in case I need it.

Twinkie you just need a little shopping trip down to Asda to feel foxy again. How convenient hahahahahaaha!!!!
-Orange juice: Check boost of VIt C
-Mince Meat: Check boost of protein
-Milk: Check Boost of Calcium
-Being chatted up by a young boy: Check boost of self confidance


Girls I just remembered I needed to pick up sthg. Will be back in a few hrs xxxxx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hey Girls

Thannk you for keeping me on I'm so glad cause I love you all in here ))

Also thank you Foxy Twinkie Spoiler is a great idea. Now MA can you pls instruct me how to make one in case I need it.

Twinkie you just need a little shopping trip down to Asda to feel foxy again. How convenient hahahahahaaha!!!!
-Orange juice: Check boost of VIt C
-Mince Meat: Check boost of protein
-Milk: Check Boost of Calcium
-Being chatted up by a young boy: Check boost of self confidance


Girls I just remembered I needed to pick up sthg. Will be back in a few hrs xxxxx

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Welcome Goldie to the group!

 

[luvmydoggies]

Dwrgi- I know it's hard when your feeling down! I have been feeling pretty low myself. I don't know much or if anything about IVF. I'm sending you the best positive thoughts and praying that when you do IVF...you will get your LO. I also know what it feels like, to feel like a failure but your not huni. You and I have the same issues, our dh's swimmers, but like OMM said..it only takes one good egg/one good sperm. From what I understand about icsi/ivf..they inject the egg with the best sperm!

Skye- So glad to hear about your scan! Can't wait till you post pics, so we can all see your LO. To answer your question if any of my treatments would be covered, the answer is no. We would have to pay cash. Our insurance only covers diagnostic testing..to see what the issues are, then we are recommended treatment options. Dh is going to ask his company if it's possible to add on a rider policy, which would cover infertility, if we pay for this extra insurance, that is my understanding anyway.

Carol-

Hi Never,Twinkle (I mean foxy),Futuremommie,Happy Auntie, Missy (my soul sister), Lava,MJ,Butterfly,bblve, Lynn,bubba, Desperado, Macwooly, Indigo,Tiger,Rayndvs,Purplelou...hope i didn't forget anyone!

Welcome Goldie!

Sending love & hugs to you all.

 

[luvmydoggies]

I knew, I forgot some! Hello MommysAngel & OMM

 

[onmymind17]

Good morning ladies!!! How are all my lovely ladies doing today? Not much new for me, i think i am gearing up to ovulate, but not sure lol.

Yea i finally got my siggy in!!!

 

[Macwooly]

Dwrgi - sorry I know nothing of IVF though I am due to start researching it but I am sending loads of for how you feel now and loads of for when you start.

My DH too has issues with his swimmers and I try to stay sane by saying "it only takes one". But I have to wait till October when we have been TTC for 6 months again before they will do any testing on me at which point they will do another SA on DH at the same time.

 

[purplelou]

Dwrgi - sending you I hope you feel better soon, I can't offer any advice on ivf/iui etc but I am sending positive vibes!!

Twinkle and Onmymind - if only they sold tents in tesco's - I'd be straight down to get one lol!

hope you are all getting some sunshine where you are! I am having my half day off work and it's lovely, me and the doggies have been in the garden doing a bit of weeding, waiting for DH to come home. Im waiting for my BBT to arrive from amazon so I can have a proper go at trying to do charting, since my cm is not really giving me any clues as yet.

 

[purplelou]

Dwrgi - sorry I know nothing of IVF though I am due to start researching it but I am sending loads of for how you feel now and loads of for when you start.

My DH too has issues with his swimmers and I try to stay sane by saying "it only takes one". But I have to wait till October when we have been TTC for 6 months again before they will do any testing on me at which point they will do another SA on DH at the same time.

Macwooly - since you already had 11 cycles (from your signature) would your GP not refer you straight away??

 

[onmymind17]

Dwrgi - sending you I hope you feel better soon, I can't offer any advice on ivf/iui etc but I am sending positive vibes!!

Twinkle and Onmymind - if only they sold tents in tesco's - I'd be straight down to get one lol!

hope you are all getting some sunshine where you are! I am having my half day off work and it's lovely, me and the doggies have been in the garden doing a bit of weeding, waiting for DH to come home. Im waiting for my BBT to arrive from amazon so I can have a proper go at trying to do charting, since my cm is not really giving me any clues as yet.

LOL, if i could i would send you one!! So much fun, ladies i am telling you everybody needs a little adventure in this journey, it really makes you smile

 

[onmymind17]

Dwrgi - sorry I know nothing of IVF though I am due to start researching it but I am sending loads of for how you feel now and loads of for when you start.

My DH too has issues with his swimmers and I try to stay sane by saying "it only takes one". But I have to wait till October when we have been TTC for 6 months again before they will do any testing on me at which point they will do another SA on DH at the same time.

Honey why are they making you wait? At our age they should be doing something now!! Why are they making you waste time?