TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Macwooly]

DH did ask the other day when he went for a check up but was told no; however, he didn't see his normal GP but a new one to the practice so I'm going to try and get an appointment with my normal GP as she may be more willing to refer us sooner.

She was the first doctor I had seen since being diagnosed with depression in 1994 who refused to give me antidepressants without counselling and she advised a break from TTC as it was making my depression worse. And I have to say thanks to her I feel emotionally and mentally the best I have ever felt since first being diagnosed with my depression.

It may be because my medical records show my BC that we have to wait but at the moment we can cope with waiting.

 

[twinkle1975]

Dwrgi - sending you I hope you feel better soon, I can't offer any advice on ivf/iui etc but I am sending positive vibes!!

Twinkle and Onmymind - if only they sold tents in tesco's - I'd be straight down to get one lol!
hope you are all getting some sunshine where you are! I am having my half day off work and it's lovely, me and the doggies have been in the garden doing a bit of weeding, waiting for DH to come home. Im waiting for my BBT to arrive from amazon so I can have a proper go at trying to do charting, since my cm is not really giving me any clues as yet.

There's a GO Outdoors in Wolverhampton - they'll have a tent display - get yourself down there!!

Dwrgi & Lava - I'm banned from looking things up on the internet - don't do it!!

Macwooly - definitely get a second opinion!

Sending everyone hugs, love Foxy Twinkle!!

 

[Macwooly]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

 

[twinkle1975]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

Will keep everything crossed for you!

 

[purplelou]

good luck Macwooly!!

 

[onmymind17]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

Yea, i am so happy for you, i have everything crossed for you hon!!

 

[Indigo77]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

Yes...and make sure she knows you tried for 11 cycles last time....I can't imagine anyone reasonable would make you wait. WTH?

 

[Macwooly]

She is a very good doctor so I am hopeful

 

[tigerlily1975]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

Good luck! We're seeing the GP on the 28th, so we've taken that first step *gulp*

C xx

 

[Macwooly]

Good luck! We're seeing the GP on the 28th, so we've taken that first step *gulp*

C xx

Good luck with your appointment

 

[tigerlily1975]

Dwrgi- I know it's hard when your feeling down! I have been feeling pretty low myself. I don't know much or if anything about IVF. I'm sending you the best positive thoughts and praying that when you do IVF...you will get your LO. I also know what it feels like, to feel like a failure but your not huni. You and I have the same issues, our dh's swimmers, but like OMM said..it only takes one good egg/one good sperm. From what I understand about icsi/ivf..they inject the egg with the best sperm!

Skye- So glad to hear about your scan! Can't wait till you post pics, so we can all see your LO. To answer your question if any of my treatments would be covered, the answer is no. We would have to pay cash. Our insurance only covers diagnostic testing..to see what the issues are, then we are recommended treatment options. Dh is going to ask his company if it's possible to add on a rider policy, which would cover infertility, if we pay for this extra insurance, that is my understanding anyway.

Carol-

Hi Never,Twinkle (I mean foxy),Futuremommie,Happy Auntie, Missy (my soul sister), Lava,MJ,Butterfly,bblve, Lynn,bubba, Desperado, Macwooly, Indigo,Tiger,Rayndvs,Purplelou...hope i didn't forget anyone!

Welcome Goldie!

Sending love & hugs to you all.

Hello!

 

[missyt]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

Macwooly, I think its a good thing you are getting a 2nd opinion. If anything, it will give you peice of mind. You have been trying long enough. No time to waste.

 

[newmarriedgal]

Right well I have an appointment at 7am on Tuesday 21 June with my preferred GP so FXed I can get her to refer us for testing sooner

Thank you ladies for pushing me to get that 2nd opinion

Yay! Fingers, toes, legs, eyes and everything else I can cross in hopes for you!!!!

 

[Mommy's Angel]

OMM, you may have a problem with your siggie because it may be too big of a size?!

 

[twinkle1975]

Warning - selfish post alert!

I'm cross with myself today - I've been so good about not even thinking about the possibility of getting pregnant or being pregnant & then last night I had to get up 4 times to go to the loo and I felt really sick in the car earlier - now I know that both of those things have rational explanations (DH is trying to get me drink more and I was running late for lunch) but a teeny bit of the back of my mind couldn't help having a little jolt of hope, even though I'm only on CD18. I just need a slap (Please dont say 'but you could be' as I know I'm not)

 

[tigerlily1975]

The tests for you are nothing to worry about. They'll draw a boatload of blood and check a bunch of different hormone levels. That's what you'll see referred to as the Day 3 bloods, because they have to be drawn on day 3 of your cycle. They may also want to do an ultrasound and/or an HSG (hysterosalpingogram) to check the structure of your uterus and tubes. The ultrasound is a breeze. For me the HSG was a breeze as well, but some women find it painful. I took 3x200mg ibuprofen (advil, motrin, etc) about 30 minutes beforehand to prevent cramping, and it seems most women who do that have less pain/discomfort. Someone on here took some valium beforehand... it kind of depends on your pain and anxiety threshold.

I know what you mean about results leading to decisions... my day 3 bloods are a year old and probably should be repeated now, but I'm scared to... it's easier to bury my head in the sand than face the fact that my FSH, which was perfect (even in my RE's words!) a year ago, might have gone up.... I think I'm going to go ahead with these last two IUIs, and if they're unsuccessful, redo the day 3s then to help us decide re IVF.

It seems ridiculous that they couldn't figure out that your DH didn't need surgery until the day of the surgery!! WTH?!

As our ttc journey wore on, my DH started to struggle with ED - the guys are under a lot of pressure to perform on command and it really can take a toll. We honestly felt a huge relief when we started IUI - it completely freed us from the pressures of sex by the calendar.

Oooh, I love a mansage! (man+massage=mansage in my world) The first one I ever had kinda made me feel weird, but after that I didn't care - they generally have stronger hands than women do and I prefer a deep-tissue massage, so it works for me. I get a massage about once/month, but lately I've been seeing a little tiny Asian woman named Ping who is crazy strong - I love her! Just had one with her on Friday, as a matter of fact.

Hello again

Thank you for all the fantastic advice. We've decided to take the next step and have booked an appointment with the GP - not until the 28th, unfortunately.

I'm assuming it'll be a blood tests to start with and then onto the hospital for the other tests. We're also going to push to see the counsellor for my DH. The DE has always been an issue for him and the TTC doesn't help. Bless him.

Have you made any decisions regarding your next step? How did you find the IUI procedure? I'm keeping everything crossed that next time it works for you

Haha! 'Man-sage', like it! I was dubious (in my defence, he did look about 12!), but he really did a wonder on the knots that accumulate in my back!

Take care, me dear!

C xx

 

[Macwooly]

Warning - selfish post alert!

I'm cross with myself today - I've been so good about not even thinking about the possibility of getting pregnant or being pregnant & then last night I had to get up 4 times to go to the loo and I felt really sick in the car earlier - now I know that both of those things have rational explanations (DH is trying to get me drink more and I was running late for lunch) but a teeny bit of the back of my mind couldn't help having a little jolt of hope, even though I'm only on CD18. I just need a slap (Please dont say 'but you could be' as I know I'm not)

We all occasionally get that jolt even when we try hard not too and even when we know there is no chance of it leading to a BFP

Be gentle with yourself

 

[tigerlily1975]

Tigerlily, I feel the same as HA about the tests. For me, even if I dreaded the result, I had a peace of mind that we would have an answer and we could begin to fix it. Like HA said, its bloowork, ultrasounds and HSG. I didn't have a problem with the HSG either though some women found it painful. It was just a little uncomfortable but bearable for me. I think I worked my elf up for it to be worse than it was. For us, our results came back normal so we are diagnosed as unexplained. DH's numbers are a little low but not enough to classify us as male factor. I would go ahead with the testing. It isn't bad at all and hopefully you will get some peace of mind too. Most of us have gone through it so you have support here.

Thank you so much

You're absolutely right, it's better to know if there are any problems and then hopefully get the right help.

The ladies on this thread really are so warm and supportive

Take care,

C xx

 

[onmymind17]

OMM, you may have a problem with your siggie because it may be too big of a size?!

I got it to work, yea, i have no idea what i did but it works lol

 

[onmymind17]

Warning - selfish post alert!

I'm cross with myself today - I've been so good about not even thinking about the possibility of getting pregnant or being pregnant & then last night I had to get up 4 times to go to the loo and I felt really sick in the car earlier - now I know that both of those things have rational explanations (DH is trying to get me drink more and I was running late for lunch) but a teeny bit of the back of my mind couldn't help having a little jolt of hope, even though I'm only on CD18. I just need a slap (Please dont say 'but you could be' as I know I'm not)

LOL, one slap comming your way, actually i am pulling up in the "Whatever" wagon, hop on honey, and let all your cares fly away!!!!