TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[onmymind17]

Good morning ladies, i am so excited today besides the fact that its Friday after i finish work today i will be on vacation for a WHOLE WEEK!! We leave for our camping adventure tomorrow, please say a prayer that we dont sweat to death or get blown away by a strong thunderstorm lol. Whooooo hooo for vacation. Unfortunatly i dont think we will get any tent fun lol, af is due tomorrow, and this is the first time that i have not tested either, i figured what was the point, our timing was crappy this cycle so i really dont think it will work anyway, might as well save the test. If by some miracle she is not here on monday when we get back then i will test for sure lol.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!! My wish for the day is that we alllllll have a wonderful, relaxing fun weekend!!!!

 

[KittyCorner]

Sooo jealous of all aforementioned vacations....I will just be happy enough for this day to go quickly.

 

[onmymind17]

Sooo jealous of all aforementioned vacations....I will just be happy enough for this day to go quickly.

LOL, i am winding up the clock as we speak, trying to get it into fast mode lol.

 

[DHime]

Hi guys!
New here - I tried to post once before but my comp went on the fritz.
Trying for my first. (still can't beleive it after trying not to conceive for 15 years) Went of BC pills in Jan. July was our first month TTC. Is it really so hard at 35? I am a bit scared that I may not be able to have a baby after waiting so long...

 

[skye2010]

Wooohooo Dwrgi, no more marking ))) Rest well and have great time on your well deserved holiday Any good summer bargains from shopping? A friend of mine just got a beautiful fusia tunic top from Mansoon. i'm gonna be heading there this weekend. Cold would be better when you see more sunshine.

FM Stay in and keep the company bb

Chris good luck with the real deal camping in an actual camp site )) Where r u guys gonna go? By the sea, by a river or a forest. How exciting )) Have great fun xx

Dhime welcome to the thread. You have just started and you are at a very good age to start TTc so don't worry about it. We all girls here have different issues and different TTc backgrounds. Some women already moved to a graduates thread really quickly after a few attempts. You should try at least 6 month before you wonder so good luck )

 

[DHime]

Why does 6 months sound so long...

 

[KittyCorner]

Because of our "advanced maternal age"....it does seem extraordinarily long. I have an appointment next week, and I am curious about how hard they will sell the fertility specialist angle. I am almost 36 and my DH is 47 (he already has 2) and we have been TTC for 3 months now. Other than my age (and a significant fibroid related surgery 5 years ago), everything seems to be in order with me, so I don't know at what point they start making suggestions to see a specialist. I will report back though and let you know.

 

[lavalux]

DHime & Kitty Corner,
They say before 35, to try on your own for a year. After 35 but before 38, they say to try for 6 months before consulting a FS (fertility specialist or RE for reproductive endocronologist). After 38, they recommend 3 months.

My DH is 47, I'm 39 so we went in after not preventing for 3 months (Oct, Nov, Dec). In January, we had our consultation at the FS clinic. They did blood tests at 21 days in my cycle, 3 days into my cycle, to check my AMH & FSH to give them an idea how "old" my eggs were. I was diagnosed with "diminished ovarian reserve" because my numbers were borderline. They also did a HSG where they injected die into my uterus and fallopian tubes to make sure there were no blockages. It takes about two months to get all the results in from the tests. I did just Clomid for one month, and two IUIs. Luckily, we had success on the second.

I want to reassure you that (1) you are both at a great age to start planning a family and you are not too old; (2) after 6 months if you don't have any luck after well-timed TTC - you can temp & use ovulation prediction kits to pinpoint when you are most fertile and have sex every other day during that window - then you can consult with a specialist just to take some tests and arm yourself with information (you don't have to start treatment right away, but you can plan your next steps and save money if you need to); and (3) even with an infertility diagnosis like mine you can still turn to treatment to get pregnant. I'm older than you by 3-4 years. You have time so try not to panic. I know it is hard. I spent years on BCP trying NOT to get pg, waited until 38 to get married, and didn't start in earnest until this year. You ladies are ahead of the game. Feel free to ask questions on this thread. The ladies on here are at different stages of their journey to motherhood and no question is stupid. There is a lot of collective knowledge on here and very compassionate, supportive girls to share with. Good luck!

 

[KittyCorner]

Thanks so much, Lavalux. So far, I am not too nervous about anything. It has been a very tough sell for me to convince my better half that having a baby is a good idea (I am stepmom to 9 yo twins), so part of me sort of thinks if it doesn't work out, then it just wasn't meant to be. Sure- very easy to say now, at this very early stage of the game, but I am trying to keep a level head about things and not let something that is ultimately out of my control completely consume my mind. I will admit that I am a bit consumed by reading these threads at times....

I do so appreciate the insight and well wishes. It is comforting to know there is this much compassion available anywhere.

Best of luck to you and your husband. Enjoy the twins. Ours are a hoot!

 

[tigerlily1975]

Hello everyone

I just wanted to thank you all for the lovely messages of support and all the good advice

We're still trying to come to terms with the news. It's been such an odd few days, I've put away my CBFM and have no idea if/when I'll ever need it again.

Until we get an appointment to see a FS, we're in limbo. I've found a lovely forum on here for those whose OH's have azoospermia. There are some positive stories on there and many who are going through the process right now.

Sperm donation seems to be the most successful route, but.. well, okay, I know it's selfish and silly, but if I (PLEASE!) get to carry a child one-day, I want it to be my husband's. I always dreamed I'd have little version of him running round. Of course, depending on what happens, I could well change my mind.

In the mean-time, I've booked us in to see our Dr again and I'm going to try and get husband re-tested. I know I'm clutching at straws, but it's all we can do right now.

Have a wonderful weekend, ladies.

Big

Charlotte xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Oh, I forgot..

.. I'm going to keep checking on you ladies, let's see some BFPs!!

 

[DHime]

I have to ask... what does DH mean (i know it is the hubbie but i don't get it)
Also, BFPS?

some of the accronyms are still confusing.
We haven't started charting temps or anything. Just goin at it like rabbits for the most part and hoping. Do you think the other way works better?

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi Kittycorner and CeeDee, welcome - I hope your stays here are short

Hi ladies how are you all??

quick post as I'm at work ..... well AF was supposed to get me yesterday - but didn't. I tested (but last night) and it was BFN! so let's see if she turns up today

to you all xx

Sorry it was a BFN-I HATE the witch! Let's hope she keeps away and the test was a dud!!!

Hugs to you!
xxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Dwrgi- Enjoy your vacation it sounds fabulous!!!!! You are asking for no rain and here in the states we desperatly need some rain. I agree that you need to be mentally recharged before you begin IVF, I'm working on that right now. Its been really nice to be able to do things without feeling crappy and not having to take shots. I've got my fingers crossed that IVF is going to work.

Missyt if you are lurking, I hope you will pop in soon.

AFM- I said I was going to take a break from the thread but I just can't seem to stay away from you ladies. I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend.

Nice to see you back! We are like a drug that you can't wean yourself away from!!! ha ha!!! I hope that you are succeeding with mentally recharging batteries for IVF-I think we need all the strength we can get! Hopefully we can help each other through too!!

Enjoy the weekend!
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[KittyCorner]

BFP= big fat positive (pregnancy test) vs. BFN (negative)
DH= dear husband
I think there is a thread/post devoted solely to all of the acronyms you see thrown around on here, but I can't remember where I saw it originally.
I am still very much a novice as well with them.

 

[Dwrgi]

Good morning ladies, i am so excited today besides the fact that its Friday after i finish work today i will be on vacation for a WHOLE WEEK!! We leave for our camping adventure tomorrow, please say a prayer that we dont sweat to death or get blown away by a strong thunderstorm lol. Whooooo hooo for vacation. Unfortunatly i dont think we will get any tent fun lol, af is due tomorrow, and this is the first time that i have not tested either, i figured what was the point, our timing was crappy this cycle so i really dont think it will work anyway, might as well save the test. If by some miracle she is not here on monday when we get back then i will test for sure lol.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!! My wish for the day is that we alllllll have a wonderful, relaxing fun weekend!!!!

Enjoy your camping trip-it sounds like a lot of fun!!! Let's hope that AF stays away for the next 9 months!!! And also hooray for rain-I've read in the news about the dreadful droughts your having. Happy thoughts and good wishes to you!

 

[Butterfly67]

OMM have a great trip and hope AF doesn't show!

Dwrgi sounds like an awesome holiday you have booked there

Purple, sorry about bfn but there is still hope

:wave: to everyone else and

AFM have been testing for a few days getting BFN but have been feeling dizzy and nauseous. Am sure AF will show but can't help wishing this is the month or else things will vet really complicated

 

[skye2010]

Tigerlily
The news you got from the Gp was very confusing and shocking. I can understand how hard it must be for both of you to digest it all but please keep positive and hopeful. Same goes for your DH. A GP isn't a specialist and one sample is never conclusive. No harm in carrying on TTc, for fun if you feel like it, without the ovulation monitors etc. Keep your faith in yourselves. There are things you can try, tx, urologist etc before you think of the donor route. Unfortunately the GP's even the FS's can be quite ignoring and insensitive in fertility issues. A GP would never diagnose you with a cancer and a specialist would find an appropriate way of telling you after testing intensively. Where as when it comes to fertility, I dunno why, most drs are very cold and insensitive. Even though the effects of being diagnosed with infertility issues is as upsetting as cancer. (That's how I felt anyway)

In the mean time try to hurry up the process of your DH's tx as soon as possible. Do you guys have an insurance? Has the GP referred your DH to a urologist? How old were you buy the way and which borough are you in. Cause the FS appointments are a long wait unfortunately and what is offered varies from one borough to the other.

Dhime 6 month in TTc is really not that long even though it seems it is. I know we have all grew up with stories like 'I put my jacket next to a man and I'm pregnant" Cause no one talks about trying for years and having x, y and z issues cause infertility has some sort of a stigma attached to it. But just because you are curious enough to read this threads posts doesn't mean you will have every single issue all of us girls have )) We are all at different ages and TTc stages as Lava mentioned. So don't identify yourself with it ). If you are really anxious you can actually go see a GP and he can do some of the of the basic blood tests for fertilty. (Hormones and thyroids) He is than going to tell you to go away and come back in 6 months anyway. This way you would have started the medical process if you like. But honestly 2 months of trying is nowhere near concerning at all. Simply cause even a healthy woman ovulates every month the egg may not be as strong and healthy each month or there might be a problem for the sperms to reach the egg in an odd month. Or the tubes might have been a little tight for once. Or the couple wouldn't hit the right timing. etc etc etc. So the variables are quite a few, that's why 6 month gives them a good window of trying. Remember this window is 1 year under 35's. It is half that time for over 35s simply because the fs don't want to lose too much time starting to investigate in case sthg is wrong.
I hope this explanation would soothe you a little xxx

 

[twinkle1975]

Hello Newbies - go here - https://www.babyandbump.com/forum-help-testing-area/730-babyandbump-lingo-abbreviations.html and you'll soon be thinking in abbreviations like the rest of us!

Tigerlily HUGE hugs!!!

 

[Desperado167]

OMM have a great trip and hope AF doesn't show!

Dwrgi sounds like an awesome holiday you have booked there

Purple, sorry about bfn but there is still hope

:wave: to everyone else and

AFM have been testing for a few days getting BFN but have been feeling dizzy and nauseous. Am sure AF will show but can't help wishing this is the month or else things will vet really complicated

I really hope it is your month,keeping everything fixed Hun,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx