TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Mommy's Angel]

Hello lovely ladies

I hope you're all well.

Apologies for the short, selfish message, but we had our GP appointment this morning and it wasn't good.

The Dr jumped straight in and said to DH "there were no sperm at all". Not even one little, lonely swimmer. It's known as Azoospermia and the next step is to see a FS, but from the GP's response of 'there's adoption or a sperm donor' as options, I'm not particulary hopeful.

So, I'm going to step away from here for a bit as we'll no longer be TTC. I don't think I've cried this hard since my mum died. Hell, I promised her that I'd tell my children about her each and everyday...

I wish you all much love, luck, and

Ciao,

Charlotte xx

Aww, so sorry hunny.

I wish HA were around as she tends to have knowledge with low sperm count.

I can understand your grief darlin. It's a hard thing to face. I do hope there is still hope in this process for you and whether through conception or adoption that you will one day find yourself with those beautiful kids to share mom's legacy with. Will you get second opinion?

so sorry for they pain you have to endure. It's just heartbreaking!

 

[NorthStar]

Hello lovely ladies

I hope you're all well.

Apologies for the short, selfish message, but we had our GP appointment this morning and it wasn't good.

The Dr jumped straight in and said to DH "there were no sperm at all". Not even one little, lonely swimmer. It's known as Azoospermia and the next step is to see a FS, but from the GP's response of 'there's adoption or a sperm donor' as options, I'm not particulary hopeful.

So, I'm going to step away from here for a bit as we'll no longer be TTC. I don't think I've cried this hard since my mum died. Hell, I promised her that I'd tell my children about her each and everyday...

I wish you all much love, luck, and

Ciao,

Charlotte xx

I'm so sorry about this news Charlotte, how awful for you, 100% understand that you need time to absorb this before you make any decisions .

You've always been one of the nicest posters on the 35+ forum and I do think you deserve to be a mum, so I'm going to agree with MA and say that I hope you find another way, and whatever path you decide wishing you all the best.

 

[Desperado167]

Awk Charlotte ,I am so so sorry,

 

[Macwooly]

Charlotte I am so sorry to hear your news and the dismissive attitude of your GP I pray that a referral to an FS can give you some hope

Take all the time you need to process this information

 

[Butterfly67]

Charlotte am so sorry about that news, you must indeed be in shock right now and need to get that out of your system. I do hope and believe that once the initial shock has died down that you WILL find a solution and have your little ones in your arms in time and wish you all the luck in the world whilst you lurk

 

[onmymind17]

Oh my gosh! DRAMA!! Doug and I lost our Title to the car so we spent HOURS last night combing through the WHOLE HOUSE!! Didn't find it and we were STILL up at 5am this morning. I'm praising God right now for His favor because the dealership will allow us to get a copy for a fee and it will be sent to them INSTEAD of not receiving the car at all. ((relief))

We're up on 3 hours or less of sleep, have to pick up the car later and we are EXHAUSTED and pretty much worried ourselves sick. It doesn't help that I'm a basket case in stressful situations. I honestly need to be more relaxed and less aggressive during these moments.

Praying everyone has a lovely day.

Oh thank goodness they can get you one, i hate when that happens, and its always very stressful. I hope now you get some rest, and yea for the new car!!

 

[Neversaynever]

Charlotte...massive

Take time away from here and when you can get the strength...look at the options available to you and DH. Don't rule anything out just yet

Take care

XxX

 

[onmymind17]

Hello lovely ladies

I hope you're all well.

Apologies for the short, selfish message, but we had our GP appointment this morning and it wasn't good.

The Dr jumped straight in and said to DH "there were no sperm at all". Not even one little, lonely swimmer. It's known as Azoospermia and the next step is to see a FS, but from the GP's response of 'there's adoption or a sperm donor' as options, I'm not particulary hopeful.

So, I'm going to step away from here for a bit as we'll no longer be TTC. I don't think I've cried this hard since my mum died. Hell, I promised her that I'd tell my children about her each and everyday...

I wish you all much love, luck, and

Ciao,

Charlotte xx

Oh Charlotte, honey i am so sorry, please know that you and your DH are in my prayers. Please do not give up hope, i have seen quite a few people in your situation and things have turned around. Sending you tons of

 

[Dwrgi]

Hello lovely ladies

I hope you're all well.

Apologies for the short, selfish message, but we had our GP appointment this morning and it wasn't good.

The Dr jumped straight in and said to DH "there were no sperm at all". Not even one little, lonely swimmer. It's known as Azoospermia and the next step is to see a FS, but from the GP's response of 'there's adoption or a sperm donor' as options, I'm not particulary hopeful.

So, I'm going to step away from here for a bit as we'll no longer be TTC. I don't think I've cried this hard since my mum died. Hell, I promised her that I'd tell my children about her each and everyday...

I wish you all much love, luck, and

Ciao,

Charlotte xx

Hia Charlotte, I'm so sorry to hear that you are so sad, it is completely understandable and I hope that you can get to a point where you can find solutions. Azoospermia, from my understanding, doesn't mean you can never have children so take heart. There is a woman in the UK (Anya Sizer) whose husband was diagnosed with Azoospermia, and she now has two children conceived through IVF. She was treated at the London Zita West clinic, and now works as a fertility coach for them, and has written a book about her experiences, which is how I came across her.

From my understanding, there are two main sources of treatment, and that is to repair the possible blockage that may exist in the testes which prevents sperm from getting to the ejaculate. Or, they can actually extract the sperm from the testes themselves. Either way, they then use assisted reproduction techniques to 'inseminate' the woman. I know that some consultants extol the virtues of vit C (1000mg), selenium, zinc etc. and believe that this can improve the matter.

Anyway, don't give up and don't give up hope-if you explore these avenues, you may very well find something that you can take to your FS and demand treatment and a better response than the highly dismissive and ill-informed 'sperm donor' or adoption! Good luck hun!

 

[lavalux]

Tiger,
I am so sorry that you had such a disheartening visit with the GP. I highly recommend that you talk with an FS so that you can hear about all of your options. Don't give up. I understand you wanting time to process all of this. We will be here when you are ready.

Dwrgi,
Sounds like you have some good constructive advice to give to Tiger. You always post the most sympathetic & informative messages. BTW, I like your new ticker.

 

[onmymind17]

Tiger,
I am so sorry that you had such a disheartening visit with the GP. I highly recommend that you talk with an FS so that you can hear about all of your options. Don't give up. I understand you wanting time to process all of this. We will be here when you are ready.

Dwrgi,
Sounds like you have some good constructive advice to give to Tiger. You always post the most sympathetic & informative messages. BTW, I like your new ticker.

I agree, Dwrgi, you are a veritable walking book of knowledge, all wrapped up in a warm soft hug!! Thank you for being you!!

 

[HappyAuntie]

Hello lovely ladies

I hope you're all well.

Apologies for the short, selfish message, but we had our GP appointment this morning and it wasn't good.

The Dr jumped straight in and said to DH "there were no sperm at all". Not even one little, lonely swimmer. It's known as Azoospermia and the next step is to see a FS, but from the GP's response of 'there's adoption or a sperm donor' as options, I'm not particulary hopeful.

So, I'm going to step away from here for a bit as we'll no longer be TTC. I don't think I've cried this hard since my mum died. Hell, I promised her that I'd tell my children about her each and everyday...

I wish you all much love, luck, and

Ciao,

Charlotte xx

Oh honey, I am so sorry you had to hear such frightening news.

Definitely go see a specialist before making any final decisions. You may be surprised at the options still open to you. First off, no male factor diagnosis is typically given until you get 3 SAs that are relatively the same over the course of several months. SAs can vary drastically from one sample to the next, even if the man makes absolutely no changes to his habits/diet/supplements etc. A specialist will want to run a few more SAs before making a diagnosis of azoospermia and/or a treatment decision. Shame on that GP for jumping the gun on that and making you feel this hopeless!

And Dwrgi is right, you DO still have options open to you. If they do find a blockage or retrograde ejaculation, those issues can usually be fixed. Even if they don't find a blockage or such, they may do a needle extraction directly from the testicle and see if sperm are present there. (I'd ask for one if they don't offer it.)

I know it takes time to process news like this, but we are all here with you (even those of us in lurkdom) and you do have options. Go talk with a specialist - they know way more than we do - and get a second opinion.

xoxoxo

PS - I love the name Charlotte - it's my niece's as well!

 

[purplelou]

Charlotte - I am so sorry! I am also sorry that your GP was so dismissive. take time to think about your options and talk to the fertility specialist as the ladies have said it does appear there are options for you. sending you tons of love and super big hugs xx

 

[FutureMommie]

Hey ladies just popping in to say hello

Caroleb- I am so sorry that you have been through so much and hope that you are feeling better soon

Tiger Sending hugs you way, don't give up get a 2nd and 3rd opinion if necessary.

HA- Glad to see you are still lurking and popping in to give support

MA- congrats on the new minivan....preparing for you little one I know it must be exciting.

AFM- nothing much here, just waiting for my 2nd consultation on the 26th and then to decided which clinic I will use.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

FM, rooting for you hunny! Looking forward to hearing how your appointment goes with some hopeful news to boot!

HA, I knew you would have good feedback! \o/ Both you and Dwrgi have excellent feedback and knowledge to offer.

 

[CeeDee]

Hello everyone! I’ve stalked this thread a little bit when I was WTT . I’ve read a little bit about everyone and I’m praying for everyone! I love seeing all the encouragement and success stories in this group. You are all so lovely! Now that I’m TTC and 21 days till my 35th birthday I’m wondering if I can join. I’m almost 35 and DH is 37, this will be my first and my husbands second. This is my 2nd cycle off of BCP, so I know my body is still trying to adjust.

 

[Butterfly67]

Welcome CeeDee and lots of to you, hope you get your BFP soon!

 

[FutureMommie]

CeeDee- you are going to love it here!

 

[onmymind17]

Hello everyone! I’ve stalked this thread a little bit when I was WTT . I’ve read a little bit about everyone and I’m praying for everyone! I love seeing all the encouragement and success stories in this group. You are all so lovely! Now that I’m TTC and 21 days till my 35th birthday I’m wondering if I can join. I’m almost 35 and DH is 37, this will be my first and my husbands second. This is my 2nd cycle off of BCP, so I know my body is still trying to adjust.

Welcome CeeDee!!!! thanks for the prayers, and some are comming right back to you!! This is a wonderful group of ladies here, the support and love you will get is amazing!! Welcome to the group, oh and we have a "Whatevers" wagon rolling around, feel free to hop on and just say WHATEVER lol.

 

[KittyCorner]

Ok ladies- I am going to embrace my "maturity." 35 (DH 74, gulp), trying for #1. I like the vibe here with this crowd.