TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[twinkle1975]

Forgot to ask, I'm seeing my doc next week and will ask about folic acid, but can I just take twelve or so 400ui of folic acid to make it up to 5 mg?? I may be in danger of rattling mind........ rattle rattle rattle.......

I wondered that too - I've got loads of folic acid!

 

[LilSluz]

Also ladies my specialist told me that 5mg folic acid (on prescription only) has been proven to aid conception and I have to say it seemed to work for me... so tonight along with tea it will be pregnancare, aspirin, folic acid... and once I have ordered it CQ 10! YUMMY! LOL

Hope you feel better soon Lils!

I might be wrong but I think she might have been using the word Tea to mean the evening meal - some of us English are odd like that!

My bad!

(I thought Tea meant 4:00pm where you had actual tea? It means dinner too?) I think you guys confuse us on purpose!!! You do, don't you? A little "let's mess w/the Americans"... yup (it worked!)

(Learning something new every day!)

 

[LilSluz]

Oh Dashka, you are always looking out for everyone else so of course you are entitled to a selfish post! If we don't hear about what you are thinking we don't know how ot support you

It sounds very hurtful what AD is doing, but she is 3 & she's confused bc she thinks its funny or perhaps your reaction is funny (even if hurtful) - she just doesn't undertsand. She's just learning new things & perhaps like Dwrgi said, pushing boundaries. I am sure that as well as you take care of all of us & have only known us through chatting for 2-3 months, you are a wonderful mom. And you will make a wonderful mom of your own one day too!

I know you set the goal of 40 & aren't preg yet (which messes up the career), but sometimes things just take longer than expected. That doesn't make you a failure by any stretch of the imagination! I thought I'd be pregnant by the age of 33, but I kinda missed that one by 6 years myself. And I know I have, but I'm sure other ladies have sat here & said "well, I'm not getting preg, so maybe its not meant to be? Maybe it means I'd be some horrible mom...(etc)". Purple, Carole, Never & Frolicky are living proof that it can happen. And I know you have been trying for 10 yrs, but you've been trying au naturale right? That's going to take way longer than ART, meds, and other methodologies espec at our age. But I think you are so close now that you know about the MTHFR & the NK cells???

Just know you can vent on us anytime & that we love you & are sending you big virtual !!! And I hope you feel better REALLY soon - please get some rest this weekend!!!

 

[froliky2011]

Dashka - I don't mind selfish posts. It's hard to always write to everyone all the time and ttc take it's toll for sure! Can you take a digital pregnancy test. I found that testing with the lines sucks and does not give good results imho. I am hoping your pregnant. Sorry about your AD. She is testing her boundaries and needs boundaries and wants them.

Thanks to all of you. I have to get back to work. Ugh! My beta was 399 but I am still bleeding. I went to office depot and thought for sure I was getting my period. I am nervous. My last beta went up 3.5x and now it went up 3x. I am hoping that it's not slowing down.

 

[twinkle1975]

Also ladies my specialist told me that 5mg folic acid (on prescription only) has been proven to aid conception and I have to say it seemed to work for me... so tonight along with tea it will be pregnancare, aspirin, folic acid... and once I have ordered it CQ 10! YUMMY! LOL

Hope you feel better soon Lils!

I might be wrong but I think she might have been using the word Tea to mean the evening meal - some of us English are odd like that!

My bad!

(I thought Tea meant 4:00pm where you had actual tea? It means dinner too?) I think you guys confuse us on purpose!!! You do, don't you? A little "let's mess w/the Americans"... yup (it worked!)

(Learning something new every day!)

She might have meant Tea tea - it depends where in the UK she's from!!

I agree there is a whole lot of UK/US confusion! Biscuits/faucets/boots/bird/bogey/suspenders/chips/cooker/court shoe/fanny/flapjack/bangs/lemonade/mobile/pavement/period/pudding/Smarties/Swede/through/wife beater!!!

 

[LilSluz]

Forgot to ask, I'm seeing my doc next week and will ask about folic acid, but can I just take twelve or so 400ui of folic acid to make it up to 5 mg?? I may be in danger of rattling mind........ rattle rattle rattle.......

I wondered that too - I've got loads of folic acid!

When I asked I was worried about ODing but was told "yes" you can. You'll just pee out what you don't absorb.

But, it is better to get the absorbable kind if you think you may have an implantation issue or you know you have MTHFR, etc. (from Dashka - google "Metagenics Folapro" - I found on Amazon so prob Amazon.uk has it too?)

Hope that helps!

 

[drsquid]

i am a weird one too.. first round i tested on day 12 i think and got a neg. was gonna hold out to do another but got af. round 2 i tested day 14 bfn, and day 16 bfn (af is generally around day 14) and got a beta which brought on af. round 3 wasnt gonna test at all, af arrived day 15. round 4,, well ill have to test.. thinking day 14 as af wont arrive

 

[LilSluz]

Also ladies my specialist told me that 5mg folic acid (on prescription only) has been proven to aid conception and I have to say it seemed to work for me... so tonight along with tea it will be pregnancare, aspirin, folic acid... and once I have ordered it CQ 10! YUMMY! LOL

Hope you feel better soon Lils!

I might be wrong but I think she might have been using the word Tea to mean the evening meal - some of us English are odd like that!

My bad!

(I thought Tea meant 4:00pm where you had actual tea? It means dinner too?) I think you guys confuse us on purpose!!! You do, don't you? A little "let's mess w/the Americans"... yup (it worked!)

(Learning something new every day!)

She might have meant Tea tea - it depends where in the UK she's from!!

I agree there is a whole lot of UK/US confusion! Biscuits/faucets/boots/bird/bogey/suspenders/chips/cooker/court shoe/fanny/flapjack/bangs/lemonade/mobile/pavement/period/pudding/Smarties/Swede/through/wife beater!!!

Wow, what a list! Yeah, I know - we mess with you back too, right?
(wife beater Don't forget about fags!) I'll have to get a language lesson before I come (I'm soaking it all up!)

 

[froliky2011]

I dislike people that stalk and don't post - Herbie44!!

 

[froliky2011]

Can't concentrate.....

Was thinking about starting a journal but don't want to go into details. I just want to say though that the journey of ttc for me started in 2008, but my challenges were of a different nature. In any case. I just wanted to add that. I don't want to give out a bunch of details to a bunch of people I don't know because it's very private to me. Sorry, I will catch up with everyone's posts later. Feeling a bit on edge.

 

[Butterfly67]

Fro I can imagine you are a bit stressed but your betas have gone up 3x and even 2x is good. A journal is a good idea as I think they have a higher security level than the general forums

 

[missyt]

Welcome Coastdreams!

Luvvie, I'm glad you are finally getting some answers. Did you got to a specialist before that didn't find PCOS?

Dr.S, thanks for the article on the marathon runner. I really don't think 10 miles a week is going to hurt me.

Man, hoping those embies are snuggling in good!

dwrgi, I hope you have a good appointment with the doc next week. I do think with all the experience we have with docs we are more confident in asking questions and taking charge of our health.

Asry, chocolate and wine! Yum!

Frolicky, fx'd your numbers keep going up!

Dash, you are an awesome mother! Don't even question that. But I can see how that insecurity will form a mental block for TTC. I also think this sickness you have has gotten you down in the dumps. It'll be okay. Just take a break and do something nice for yourself. Sounds like you could use a nice, warm bath. Your deserver to have your own biological child. Look at the wonderful thing you did by adopting AD! That is very selfless. Really, sweetie, you are being too hard on yourself.

Hello to the rest of you girls, HA, purple, butterfly, nickers, lady H, pad, Lils, carole, twinkle, OMM and I'm so sorry for anyone else I may have missed by name. I'm at work and I'm sneaking in posts.

AFM, AF is almost gone. I'm going to have a busy weekend because my brother and his kids are coming to visit until Wednesday.

 

[purplelou]

Dear dashka
first you are a fab mommy!! We can all see that from the way you talk about your little girl, but I think missy is right you are tired out and run down from being soooo poorly and dwrgi sounds right too when she said about the testing boundaries. I think when those two things are combined its enough to get you down and wear you out!!

Frolicky Hun your numbers are great!! Reading the first tri section it seems a lot of ladies have bleeding early on and then go onto have healthy pregnancies!

Missy have a lovely weekend with your family xxx

 

[dashka]

Hi wonderful ladies! So I have finally caught up - wow you miss a lot in 48 hrs!! I warn you -it's a long one!!

Thank you so much for all your great support... it means so much to me. I really don't want to complain about AD - she really is wonderful -just 'testing her boundaries' as you say -but just that she keeps doing it over and over for weeks and our repeated 'warnings'... Oh well she is in her "Trying Threes" as they call it... I have to do something about my confidence I think and Missy you are right about the sickness putting me in the dumps... Think I will take a relaxing bath this weekend ! Maybe a Lavender one or Eucalyptus for breathing! xoxo

Okay so I hope I haven't confused any of this info... but here goes....

Twinks -Hope you are feeling better. I'm so sorry to hear about the one blocked tube... I too may have one blocked but they weren't sure as when I did the test years ago the 2nd tube they said it was either blocked or spasmed - which often happens with the 2nd tube as the body realizes something is not right and defends itself. It is still definitely possible to conceive -but may just take longer. I did 3 IUI's (years ago) which didn't work but you may have more luck -if you plan on going that route! FX for you!!!

Frolicky - Good news on the Betas! Still sounds great to me! Don't worry too much about the bleeding (I hear it's very common) but good to get checked out anyway.... xo

Manu - AMH results - wow you showed them didn't you! Love your doctor too... Good luck testing! I can't wait!!

Butterfly - your chart looks awesome! Good luck testing as well!

Asry - I can't wait to hear about your testing too next week! ENjoy the chocolate girl!

Lady H - hope you're feeling better ...

Luv - Sorry about the PCOS - yes there is a lot you can do nutritionally for that and your doctor's book probably discusses how no sugar and low GI diet helps a great deal... Losing weight will really really help too. FX for you!!

Dwrgi - Big Hugs....glad to hear you are getting that immune testing done... is it really expensive over there too? For us we have to send (Part 2 I think only) to US and it costs $3000.. Awesome that you have a plan girl!! GOOD LUCK!

Purple - you are so close to your scan now!! FX for your Dad on the 23rd...
(hey how come both you and Dwrgi haven't seen photos of your DH's ex??? That would drive me bonkers not to know!)

Nicker - sorry about the Crohn's - must be soooo hard - Do you still suffer from it? Have you ever read this book?? I have it in my library at home and used it a great deal when I had my nutritional consulting practice... I really have great things to say about the Renew Life products...
https://www.amazon.com/Gut-Solution...oblems/dp/0971930929/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
You mentioned that you get your prenatal vitamins covered by your health plan (I'm also in Canada)... Is that the type that has 2 pills and one is blue and one is red or something and you take one AM /PM...? My friend took those years ago when she was preggo and I was amazed as my doctor has never mentioned anything like that. I always buy mine from health food store as I'm quite picky re: ingredients. As far as calcium/iron not absorbing together you are right! That is why I also take separate calcium at night and separate iron at lunch... (mind you my multi has both iron and calcium too but not that much). Good luck to you!!!

Missy - thank you so much for your support... It means so much - Glad you are running again! Do what makes you happy and nutures your soul and that will nuture your womb I say!!! Hey that's going to be my new saying! Connect with your old self again... Hey I need to do that too. Glad AF is almost gone.. GL with the family visit this weekend! xo

Lils - you are so awesome girl - I can't say it enough... You brighten my day and even when you are sick you make us feel good about ourselves. You should be given some kind of humanitarian award or something..
I'm not leaving yet!! Not quite sure what else I can do naturally re: the possible elevated NK cell issue (which I don't even know if I have) - but we'll keep chuggin' on. Your chart is looking good girl!!! Fx for you! xo

Pads - Foods for conceiving a girl?? ... hmmmmm.. not sure about that one...All I've heard is the BD timing thing early/vs.later re: boy/girl... but not even sure if that is ligit... If I come across anything I'll let you know... Good luck - You've been through so much -I really really hope this one is the one for you!!

Carole - glad you are ok! Only 1 month to go now! Can't wait! xo

CoastDreams - welcome to the best thread on BnB!

Gee I hope I don't lose this post - It's a LONG ONE!

Have a wonderful weekend ladies!
xoxo

 

[dashka]

Hey I forgot to say hello to everyone I missed in my extremely long post above!!!!

That includes you Dr.S - .... put your hands up and step away from the turbinado sugar!! ...
Seriously Dr S- I really hope you get your BFP next week!

 

[dashka]

thanks Purple - we cross-posted.. means a lot!!
I think I'm snapping out of it... hopefully once I get totally well I'll be charging to go again!
(and I figure out what's happening with my cycle - still no AF and she was due yesterday)

have a great weekend! xo

 

[drsquid]

dashka= thanks. it is almost like eating rock sugar only smaller =) fallen into the jellybeans a few times today.. always love sweets but.. this is nuts. unfortunately i got my love of sweets from my mom and my love of food from my dad. good thing i work out.

just under 5.5 hrs left of my work week... cant wait

 

[dashka]

Dr. S - step away from the sugar girl! How much are you actually eating? It can't be good for hormones... and just want to make sure that beanie implants well!! xoxo

 

[froliky2011]

My turn for a long post.

Luv - Cheers to moving forward with knowledge and hope!

DrS - Stay away from the sugar and alcohol!! I am telling you both times I have had a BFP was when I had no alcohol and ate well. However, if you prove me wrong, I would love it! I guess with old age, I try to be as healthy as possible. We notice when KD eats really well (healthy..lots of raw veggies, vitamins etc.) his SA is a lot better. Our eggs might respond the same way.

Manuiti - FX'd for your results!! I am so hoping you join me a.s.a.p.

Dwrgi - Good luck with the testing. What's with you ladies and pictures of the ex-girlfriends. I am lucky. I saw my DH's ex and we're friends on fb. I feel no threats and am glad to meet her. No, I was never told about progesterone causing bleeding. I am on vaginal suppositories. Thanks for the info. For now, I am thinking it's implantation bleeding. It got worse when I ran to my car in the middle of pouring rain a few times today.

Dashka - The ladies are right..You're a fabulous mom!! Enjoy your bath, it sounds wonderful!!

Purple - I am so excited to see a picture of the scan. I hope your dad gets a clean bill of health a.s.a.p.

Carole - Thanks for all your support. I lived in West Africa for a while and would get annoyed with the way American viewed it over there. Quite honestly, the worst thing about Africa was the vaccines and stupid anti-malaria drug I had to take (made by my own country). Ugh! Enjoy the final time of your pregnancy.

Asry - I hope things look good soon! I hope you are enjoying your vacation. Majority of Estonians are athiest. I would love to see pictures. Enjoy your wine and chocolate. I have not had a glass of wine in about 3 weeks.

Missy - Glad you are now getting closer to o. Enjoy the family visit! Enjoy running again. I would not want to stop running. It's my time outside. However, I would say during your TWW to take it easy. I go about 3-4 miles too about 2 days/week.

LilSluz - Wow! I did not realize you were 12 dpo! Holy smokes, I was so focused on you recovering from being sick I missed a big part there! I am glad you are learning ways to maximize your chances of conceiving. It really does help imho. Good LUck! p.s. You amaze me with the knowledge/information you post. Whew!

Butterfly - Almost to the finish line~~~~

Twinkle - Sorry about the tube. My little sister only has one and they said that she can still conceive. FX'd for your dreams.

LadyH - I understand needing a break!

Pads - Sending you lots of XXXXXX vibes. Oh, and I had my CM one and two days before my LH surge and we did IUI the following day. Strange. I think it's better to have sex right around O but I have heard for girls a few days ahead of time is better but that could be an old wive's (sp?) tale.

CoastDreams - Welcome again! These ladies are truly the BEST!

HA - I saw that photo of your meds. Holy Sh!t!!! I don't know how you ladies do it. Cheers to your next cycle! FX'd for you and DH.

Nicker - Good Luck with your next cycle too. It sounds like you are getting good answers and glad your appointment went well with your RE.

AFM - I am doing much better. Still have spotting. I am taking it easy and resting tonight and tomorrow. Beta was pretty good. As long as it's slow and steady I need to relax and enjoy the moments of being pregnant (no matter how frightening)...I guess it's a sure welcome to parenthood.

I read a funny joke the other day. A woman who was struggling with infertility was asked if she had ever thought of adopting and she said "I wanted to say..No, but if I looked like you, I might think about it." Gotta love a smart a$$ remark to annoying people who say sh!t like that.

 

[twinkle1975]

I read a funny joke the other day. A woman who was struggling with infertility was asked if she had ever thought of adopting and she said "I wanted to say..No, but if I looked like you, I might think about it." Gotta love a smart a$$ remark to annoying people who say sh!t like that.

Hahah - love it!!!