TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Honeybee73]

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[ksluice]

Dwrgi and AFM: excited to be cycle buddies!! YAY!!

Also Dwrgi: this is a stupid but it got me wondering, here in addition to testing for all those infectious diseases, they also blast you with antibiotics, both you and your partner from stim day 1. Both the DH and I scheduled to be Cipro (EEK!), and I assumed that it was standard protocol, but does everyone else have a 7-day course of antibiotics as part of IVF???

frolicky: I am hearing you. I remember not being excited with the last BFP until we saw the heartbeat, thinking that was a magic hurdle, and then having the same outcome as last time. I figure, if we get luck again, that I won't be excited until we get through the first trimester (which you have btw, that is very exciting).

My a-ha was realizing that when they say it might take "longer" to get pregnant when you're older, in my case that was also b/c of my tendency to m/c. That is why we moved on to IVF, we might be able to get another BFP on our own, but I've lost faith I can make a sticky (damn you OLD EGGS). Hopefully, by moving on to IVF we'll have a better shot, provided we can get some good PGD news. My fear is that we do all this and then we get all "abnormal"...at least that is an answer tho. And then I can say we tried everything and it just wasn't in the cards for us. I guess the worst outcome would be like 2 eggs at ER, 1 fert and then tests abnormal b/c that wouldn't really be an answer. Oh great, now I found another something to worry about.

Owl: That sounds very cool. to you on this cycle. Can't wait to hear how it goes.

Dashka: Hello and thanks for the welcome! Have a great vacation (woo hoo vacation!!) Also, just thought I would share that my acupuncturist says that EWCM is usually concurrent with surge or a couple days before, so I would vote with CD12

Tiger: I'll see you in Italy (not too far south though please--too hot.)

And to everyone I missed (just trying to figure out how to keep track of everything) :wave: Howdy, have a great weekend, and GL!!!!

 

[nessaw]

hey all.

dwrgi-boyf has his sperm analysis on the 24th.i have to go for another blood test on 31st.then just waiting for referral to infertlity/dream clinic.i get to celebrate the start of the hols by booking in for swabs so that all the tests are done by the time the referral comes up.

have made huge headway on sorting out my cupboard and found a place to store stuff til my new classroom gets craned into the playground hopefully wk beg 13th aug.meeting my new class on mon.love the end of term.just the end of yr2 assembly to get over on wed then cruising till the end.


hope everyone has a greqt weekend.vx

 

[HappyAuntie]

Well said that woman!!!!!! Oh, how life turns out!! At least the vineyards and ferility clinics are making a fortune out of us!

Does anyone fancy teaming up with me and buyind a vineyard in Italy?

C xx

I am SO in!!

thanks Purps - that is when I think (and ND thinks) that I ovulated - CD12... it doesn't make sense with the +opks and EWCM after CD9 which is when FF says I ov... I also had like 5 days of cramping this month CD 9-13 ... so don't know what that is about... Maybe the royal jelly I started last month or maybe I have a cyst? Anyway having an u/s when I see the RE....

Dash, I'm sorry, but remind me - how soon is your RE appt? I know you were on the waiting list for a couple but aren't you seeing one pretty soon?

Have fun at Sesame Place! My neighbor's inlaws live near there so they take the kids at least once/year and love it. I love Sesame St - makes me happy inside. Did you see the youtube vid that hit this week of Cookie Monster's version of Call Me Maybe? Hilarious!

Also Dwrgi: this is a stupid but it got me wondering, here in addition to testing for all those infectious diseases, they also blast you with antibiotics, both you and your partner from stim day 1. Both the DH and I scheduled to be Cipro (EEK!), and I assumed that it was standard protocol, but does everyone else have a 7-day course of antibiotics as part of IVF???

I think the antibiotics with IVF thing varies from one dr to the next. Mine doesn't do it as a standard protocol, but I know lots of women on here who have had them.


Fro, just to chime in with the others, I think that's completely normal. I've heard that from so many people.... After having to clear so many hurdles, it's just hard to believe that "normal" exists anymore.

And Owl, the new protocol sounds great! I'm glad the new RE is taking a fresh look at things and not just blindly following your old doc's plan.

AFM, my transfer went great - both blasties survived the thaw and both are on board! I'm a little excited and a little scared... and that's ok.... The full story is in my journal if you want to know the details. Thank you all for your well-wishes, especially given that I really haven't been active here in so long and have been lurking more than anything... this really is the best group on the web....

 

[Dwrgi]

So glad to hear that all went well HA. Two on board is great news! Have they got names? I am so praying that this is THE cycle for you! I will read your journal tomorrow when I'm a bit more sober! Hic! I've been researching vineyards! Extensively! Sleep tight and HUGE baby dust showers to you! Xxx

Well said that woman!!!!!! Oh, how life turns out!! At least the vineyards and ferility clinics are making a fortune out of us!

Does anyone fancy teaming up with me and buyind a vineyard in Italy?

C xx

I am SO in!!

thanks Purps - that is when I think (and ND thinks) that I ovulated - CD12... it doesn't make sense with the +opks and EWCM after CD9 which is when FF says I ov... I also had like 5 days of cramping this month CD 9-13 ... so don't know what that is about... Maybe the royal jelly I started last month or maybe I have a cyst? Anyway having an u/s when I see the RE....

Dash, I'm sorry, but remind me - how soon is your RE appt? I know you were on the waiting list for a couple but aren't you seeing one pretty soon?

Have fun at Sesame Place! My neighbor's inlaws live near there so they take the kids at least once/year and love it. I love Sesame St - makes me happy inside. Did you see the youtube vid that hit this week of Cookie Monster's version of Call Me Maybe? Hilarious!

Also Dwrgi: this is a stupid but it got me wondering, here in addition to testing for all those infectious diseases, they also blast you with antibiotics, both you and your partner from stim day 1. Both the DH and I scheduled to be Cipro (EEK!), and I assumed that it was standard protocol, but does everyone else have a 7-day course of antibiotics as part of IVF???

I think the antibiotics with IVF thing varies from one dr to the next. Mine doesn't do it as a standard protocol, but I know lots of women on here who have had them.


Fro, just to chime in with the others, I think that's completely normal. I've heard that from so many people.... After having to clear so many hurdles, it's just hard to believe that "normal" exists anymore.

And Owl, the new protocol sounds great! I'm glad the new RE is taking a fresh look at things and not just blindly following your old doc's plan.

AFM, my transfer went great - both blasties survived the thaw and both are on board! I'm a little excited and a little scared... and that's ok.... The full story is in my journal if you want to know the details. Thank you all for your well-wishes, especially given that I really haven't been active here in so long and have been lurking more than anything... this really is the best group on the web....

 

[owl35]

honeybee, so sorry showed up. I hate her!
ksluice and happyauntie, good luck on your IVF and FET! Fxd!!!

 

[HappyAuntie]

So glad to hear that all went well HA. Two on board is great news! Have they got names? I am so praying that this is THE cycle for you! I will read your journal tomorrow when I'm a bit more sober! Hic! I've been researching vineyards! Extensively! Sleep tight and HUGE baby dust showers to you! Xxx

They do have nicknames - these two are the Sunshine Band, as in KC and the Sunshine Band.... We have a pretty special relationship with the people at our clinic - we've been patients there so long that we feel very comfortable joking around with them and vice versa. For each cycle we've given the embryologist a playlist of mood music to play in the lab while he's ICSIing our samples, to help our eggs and sperm get in the mood. The first cycle is when we were all about Marvin Gaye (Let's get it ooonnn!). The second cycle, when these embies were created, the playlist included KC and the Sunshine Band (Do a little dance, make a little love, get down tonight!), Hot Chocolate's "I Believe in Miracles (You Sexy Thing)", Captain and Tennile's "Do It To Me One More Time", and Starland Vocal Band's "Afternoon Delight". For that transfer, they set up a disco mirror ball in the transfer room and had our playlist going in the background during the procedure! And since that cycle yielded three blasts, one we transferred fresh and two frozen, we named them KC (the fresh one) and the Sunshine Band (these two frosties).

If this cycle doesn't work I think we'll have to go to full-on porn music for the next playlist, since all the "classy" sex songs are letting us down!

 

[ksluice]

So glad to hear that all went well HA. Two on board is great news! Have they got names? I am so praying that this is THE cycle for you! I will read your journal tomorrow when I'm a bit more sober! Hic! I've been researching vineyards! Extensively! Sleep tight and HUGE baby dust showers to you! Xxx

They do have nicknames - these two are the Sunshine Band, as in KC and the Sunshine Band.... We have a pretty special relationship with the people at our clinic - we've been patients there so long that we feel very comfortable joking around with them and vice versa. For each cycle we've given the embryologist a playlist of mood music to play in the lab while he's ICSIing our samples, to help our eggs and sperm get in the mood. The first cycle is when we were all about Marvin Gaye (Let's get it ooonnn!). The second cycle, when these embies were created, the playlist included KC and the Sunshine Band (Do a little dance, make a little love, get down tonight!), Hot Chocolate's "I Believe in Miracles (You Sexy Thing)", Captain and Tennile's "Do It To Me One More Time", and Starland Vocal Band's "Afternoon Delight". For that transfer, they set up a disco mirror ball in the transfer room and had our playlist going in the background during the procedure! And since that cycle yielded three blasts, one we transferred fresh and two frozen, we named them KC (the fresh one) and the Sunshine Band (these two frosties).

If this cycle doesn't work I think we'll have to go to full-on porn music for the next playlist, since all the "classy" sex songs are letting us down!

This is so awesome....

 

[Mirium]

I'm in Tiger!!!

Anybody here heard about the 'hidden C' test? To test for chlamydia through menstrual blood? If you're tested positive then it can cause implantation failure:

https://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?topic=242395.msg3904717#msg3904717

Fascinating!

Also this test-
https://www.beachcenter.com/medical/u-urealyticum.shtml

Thank you Dwrgi!! I tested for mycoplasma & ureaplasma - both of them came back negative. I also tested for chlamydia and that came back negative too but it was via a uterine swab - not menstrual blood...that's interesting! Hearing about it rings a bell. I had read about it before. My main RE does not believe in testing for ureaplasma & mycoplasma. Some REs don't believe that their presence cause miscarriage in the general population of women however some test for them, of course. As far as I know, treatment for chlamydia and many infections is antibiotics. I had read about a study that found that simply doing a course of antibiotics solved infertility problems for some women. That would be the lucky ones...

 

[padbrat]

Hello all...

Just wanted to pop in..

Have had a little bit of an emotional time.. no big deal.. have now firmly told myself to get a grip!

Have been reading, but haven't had it in me to comment, but I am always here cheering you all on..

Good luck Dwrgi and HA I hope those embies are doing well xx

DrH sorry... it was wine o clock for me last night too! LOL...

Hey Purps, Butterfly...

Dash enjoy you holibobs!

Luvs to all xxx

 

[purplelou]

Hey pad, big squishy loves to you! I am sorry you arehaving a bit of tough time...you know where we are if you need us chick!

 

[froliky2011]

Pad -

Just wanted to pop-in. This is a great group!!! Sending lots of to you all!!!! xoxo

 

[dashka]

Honeybee - I'm sorry AF showed her ugly face...

Pad - sending you hugs and hope you feel better honey

HA - as I wrote in journal - soooo happy that 2 were transferred!!! you take it easy now girl...

Oh and to answer your question HA - I'm going to RE (a really highly respected one supposedly ) on July 23 (a week from Monday).

Dwrgi -Go Dwrgi ..... GO! Thinking and hoping and praying for you hun

Lils - Hope you are ok hun...

Hope everyone is doing okay and have a great weekend.....

Is the weather in UK stilll rainy?? Hope you've had some relief. We need rain here badly- still scorching hot -too hot to be outside today (it's the humidity that's the killer) - kind of wish we had rain as we don't see any in sight for a while (they keep tempting us with thundershowers but we'll see if they ever make it) So strange how everyone is having extremes this year.

Leaving for our road trip tomorrow early morning....

Will try to check up on you later in the week!

Hello and hugs to everyone I didn't mention....
xoxo

 

[Honeybee73]

Thanks for all the support and checking on me. I've just had 1.5 day AF, wth!!!!!! I day heavy and then hardly anything today, usually they are 4-7 days with at least 3 medium to heavy days!!!! Very strange.

Dashka - enjoy your road trip, to answer you question the weather here is pants. Non stop rain, it's relentless. How can there be so much rain??? Im getting fed up with it now.

Dwrgi - hope it's going ok.

Pad - sorry you are feeling emotional.

Purps - you write some great posts, very thoughtful too

Dr h - sorry to hear your news, hope the wine was good

Dr s - congrats

Miriam - hope your ok, you must be fed up with all the testing now.

Happyaunty - your post was awesome, love the nicknames and music you play

Owl - thank you for checking on me

 

[drhouse]

hiya lovely ladies,

haven't had it in me to write anything... gutted re. lots of sex and still a big fat negative. It sucks!!!

And the sixteen year old get pregnant just by looking....

Happy Auntie, thanks for making it all seem so much better
Honey and Pad - its another month this month!!! Pad good luck for the move and seeing your dog and hubbie soon.
Dash hope it cools down for you
Dwrgi - I am thinking the most positve babytastic thoughts for you. You are a star that deserves a little starlet....
Dr S - congrats on the twins
Purps - you rock for a pregnant lady - you obviously havent' forgotten
Owl and the newbies - I hope that august is a great baby making month.

We can't get up the duff this month. OH is with his kids on a boat in the med. I'll be in asia - so its a definate no.

Pity.

Thinking positive thoughts for late Aug/sept. IVF in sept if I can lose three pesky kilos. Not going all that well unfortunatley. Could it be the busy job or the fact that wine tastes so good during AF???

to you all.

 

[viccat]

Sorry to hear that you're not feeling too good drhouse It sucks sometimes doesn't it?

Stay healthy and look forward to an autumn pregnancy, hon....

 

[Lady H]

:wave::wave::wave:

Feeling pretty down, so just reading and not saying much. Love and hugs to you all.

 

[Dwrgi]

Lady H-what's the matter chick? Or need I ask? So sorry you're feeling a bit low. I think it comes with the territory. Take comfort from the fact that you are DOING something about your fertility. Your DH has got his SA tests coming up, and that will give you an answer, one way or another, and then you can decide what best to do. Always good to have a plan. Thinking of you, and sending lots of bit squishy cwtches (and so agree with your latest crush-Mr C!! PHWOARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!). xxx

Pad-what's the matter chicken? Chin up hun. You've also got a plan and you will get there, as you know what you want and will do everything that you need to do. Hopefully, you'll get your new house just how you like it in no time, and will land a fab job too! How can you not, when future employers will see for themselves how truly fabulouso you are!! Big cwtches lovely, Axxxx

Manuiti-are you okay lovely? I am worried about you. Please say hello so that I know that all is okay.

Purps-how's your weekend gone? Hope you've managed to do lots of NOTHING!!!

Butterfly-how did the art fair go? Hope you sold loads!! Hope the back is better too. Big squishy cwtches to you!! Which Olympic event are you attending in Cardiff? OH and me have just been looking at the ticket website, and quite fancy one of the men's games.... But the blooming timing is pants, re. ET. But, I CANNOT give up any more things because of the fear that 'it could alter the outcome' yada yada.... Lots of love to you, Axxx

Honeybee-your period does sound very short but don't be worried, as your body is just adjusting to life post BCP. The next one (hoping you won't get it) may be a better indicator. Anyway, onwards and upwards and start thinking sexy thoughts so that when it comes to the O Date, you'll be raring to go!!! Good luck hun, Axxxx

Dr H-it is completely pants when you have tried so hard to get preggers, and still a BFN (I so want to say BFFN, but my mother would tell me off, if she knew ). My advice to you now is just to let TTC go for a month, take a mental break from it, and focus your energies on the September IVF. Really good idea to eat loads of proteins and lots of water. Plant protein, and eggs, especially beneficial. If eggs take three months to move to the front of the queue, then the timing would be just right. Also good luck with those three kilos... pesky buggers, and wine is full of calories. Bar stewards.....

Dashka-have an amazing holiday. I am so jealous of you and your summer weather. We have sunny days but the wind is so cold, that I'm still wearing long sleeves and jumpers. It is truly cr*p. Apparently, it's something to do with the jet stream. I think all Brits should get together and, as one, blow the blinking jet stream away! Back to you, though (enough about me ), I am so excited for your appointment on the 23rd!!! I hope that he will give you a plan and you can start working towards Baby Dashka!! Big hugs to you, hun, Axxx

HA-I am soooooooo excited for The Sunshine Band, and I love the playlist idea!!! How amazing that your clinic were happy to play what you asked-they sound truly amazing. I am certain that you are safe in their hands! I am willing those embies to get all snuggled in, big

Viccat-hi hun, hope you've had a nice weekend!

Nessaw-how are you doing hun? Hope you're not still in that cupboard. Five more days to go- Big to you, Axxx

Fro, Asry, Never, Dr S-how are you guys??

Twinks-I hope you had a great holiday in Wintry Wales.... have been thinking of you, and hoping the weather wasn't too bad. Did you try the language conversions I gave you??? Un seidr a pacyn o sglodion os gwelwch yn dda???!! Big to you, Axxx

Bearlake-come back! I worry when people go MIA!!! xx

Lil-hope you can get those meds sorted. Was thinking about you loads on Fri, big cwtches, Axxxx P.S. we miss you!!

Owl-how are you sweetie? Big

Grk Prn-where are you? MIA too! xxx

I KNOW that I've missed people out, and I'm sorry if you are one of those. I have the memory of a sieve. I'll repost my list soon, so that we can all see where everybody is at.

AF arrived tonight, so tomorrow is CD1 and I presume baseline scan on Tuesday. Uh-oh, the rollercoaster ride has just started. I am trying to be chilled, and as I have a bottle of rather nice rose in the fridge, I'm having a glass of that. I am positive Amanda, my Consultant, wouldn't mind at all! I need to sort out the immunes meds I want to take and also the intralipids. I don't want to feel that I've left any stone unturned.

On another note, a friend I have made through an online thread for my clinic has just announced a donor egg pregnancy!!! She is 44, and used IVF Valencia in Spain, who are partners with my clinic. She is over the moon-her first DE attempt, with two DEmbies returned. Her hcg was 717 on Friday, OTD, so perhaps she may even have twins. So excited for her.

Love to everybody,
Axxxxxxx

 

[Lady H]

Thanks Dwrgi, good luck, deep breath and mahoosive swing of Rose for courage xxxx

 

[twinkle1975]

Amanda - I love you for checking in on everyone - you're FAB!

It wasn't too bad in Wales - pop over to my journal for a couple of photos - we even had some sunshine!! I wasn't brave enough to try out any Welsh but I was very amused by the way Welsh people just drop English words into sentences. I was listening to a woman at the photo counter in Boots obviously describing a problem with her camera & it went some thing like - Llanfer y madoch ponty popty araf BACKGROUND pobol y cwm cwt yn dda!

Also I love BFFN & am going to refer to it as that from now on!

Big hugs to all the sad one amongst us https://www.runemasterstudios.com/graemlins/images/grouphug.gif