TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[flutterbee]

Hahha thank you! Will keep y'all posted!

 

[treegap]

Hello! I hope you don't mind my jumping in! I'm 35 and just starting out actively ttc #1. I'd love to be part of the community here. My OH and I thought about trying last summer but we were having some troubles, primarily performance anxiety and I mysteriously stopped menstruating for four months! I went off BCP in February, 2011 and had 4 periods with cycles of varying lengths until July when it just abruptly stopped (conveniently as soon as I mentally was ready and willing to try). In October my Dr. gave me Provera which induced a period and I've had them ever since, but again, the cycle lengths vary with an average of about 35 days. We did not really actively try between October and July because my job was so stressful and I was really unhappy. Thankfully, I am off during the summer and am starting a new job later this month at a new school. Hopefully, it will be less stressful! We actively ttc'd in July and unfortunately I just got AF today so I guess it didn't work, but I'm committed on cycle 2, day 1, to keep on keepin' on! I do feel the pressure of time and am one of the very few (if not the only) among my friends who has yet to pop out a little one. I'm hoping it will happen this year but since my cycles are not like clockwork, I'm having trouble accurately predicting ovulation. Going to try using Fertility Friend and hopefully I can learn to read my own data!

Thanks for listening!

 

[flutterbee]

Welcome treegap!

 

[Dwrgi]

Hello! I hope you don't mind my jumping in! I'm 35 and just starting out actively ttc #1. I'd love to be part of the community here. My OH and I thought about trying last summer but we were having some troubles, primarily performance anxiety and I mysteriously stopped menstruating for four months! I went off BCP in February, 2011 and had 4 periods with cycles of varying lengths until July when it just abruptly stopped (conveniently as soon as I mentally was ready and willing to try). In October my Dr. gave me Provera which induced a period and I've had them ever since, but again, the cycle lengths vary with an average of about 35 days. We did not really actively try between October and July because my job was so stressful and I was really unhappy. Thankfully, I am off during the summer and am starting a new job later this month at a new school. Hopefully, it will be less stressful! We actively ttc'd in July and unfortunately I just got AF today so I guess it didn't work, but I'm committed on cycle 2, day 1, to keep on keepin' on! I do feel the pressure of time and am one of the very few (if not the only) among my friends who has yet to pop out a little one. I'm hoping it will happen this year but since my cycles are not like clockwork, I'm having trouble accurately predicting ovulation. Going to try using Fertility Friend and hopefully I can learn to read my own data!

Thanks for listening!

Welcome treegap! Glad to have you join us! Oh my, you've had a rough ride, but hopefully things slound a little bit more settled now, so that you can press on with 'things'! I know that a number of women on here, me including (although no way am I an expert-you'd need Lils, Dashka and Butterfly for that ) temp, so that sounds like a good start. But, you only find out the day AFTER you ovulate, when you ovulated, which is blinking pants. So, what I would recommend is that you buy lots of cheap ovulation predictor sticks (you can get the cheapies on Amazon) and, from day 10 onwards you use them. Some would advocate POAS twice a day to catch your luteal surge, and you generally ovulate 24-36 hours later. Then, take your temps which will remain elevated, or dip just before AF is due, if you're not!

Well, that's my very summarised account of what's what with catching your ovulation day!

Good luck and hopefully you'll get there sooner rather than later! Btw, 35 sounds like spring chickendom to me, so you have loads of time yet!

 

[treegap]

Wow- thanks for the quick replies! I will definitely start charting temps and give the OPK's a try. I have a few lying around and will look into getting some more. I tried using them last summer but I was in the midst of no AF and I didn't know whether to test in the am or pm and they never were +, although I did not do it every day, only when I perceived I had EWCM. I think I will do them religiously this month and see what comes up.

Thanks!

 

[dashka]

hi again ladies!

sorry for the quick post this morning.... feeling a little better energy wise now... but only 1/2 hr left to go at work! yippee

Fro - that is awful about KD! He needs a good talkin-to... which I'm sure you did.... Hope it gets easier with time. Hang in there.

Pad - you house-wifey you!! so funny... Lady of Leisure - okay that's cool - you enjoy it girl - you deserve it! (wish I was one )

Dwrgi - sorry you are so down today too.... maybe there is something in the air today... So hope you have a blast in Glastonbury (sp?) !!! Sounds like it's the exact thing you need right now! to get your mind off this CRAP! Enjoy hun

Purple & Owl & Lils - what is going on with the TIRED /sleepy thing around the world today?? Hope we all get some nice zzzzzz's tonight!!

Butterly - take your time hun with your decision... we're here for you!

Flutterbee - welcome! Hope AF stays away!

Lils - progesterone sucks!! I was okay when I took it once/day but ever since I started 2X/day about 8 months ago - it has made PMS worse for sure. Don't have much hope though as the symptoms always start 7/8 DPO.... like clockwork... (just intensified this month) You LUSH woman!!! So funny re: vino/alcohol = thinning blood + fruit servings! You are one seriously funny chick Thanks for making me chuckle... as always

Owl - great surprise on the follicles/'cysts" - Good luck girl!

TreeGap - welcome ! If you are doing the OPK strips -you may want to do twice /day (once at like 10-11 am and another around 6-7pm)... I found I never missed it when I started doing it that way... Sometimes the + last for 12 hrs only and sometimes it lasts for days.... Just depends...
Good luck!! And GL with FF too!


Have a great night ladies..... and hope we all have more energy tomorrow (to keep chugging along) ...

 

[janey211]

Hello Ladies,

I figured I have nothing to lose but get good advise with this board! I am 38, soon to be 39, DH 40 and trying for our first. I have so many things against me and feel it may not be in ther cards for me. We have only been trying for 4 months(feel bad for belly aching already) but there are so many obstacles it's scary! My age, my weight, husband issues, and now my levels are coming back low. Just makes me so sad. Spent so many years trying NOT to get pregnant , now this.

I have been using OPK's and getting positives. I think we hit the mark each month. I just got my progesterone checked and it was 3.6 so the doc wasn't sure I ovulated last month. Waiting now for the FSH test results.

So, I'll start off with a few questions.
1)Can I still be ovulating with that Progesterone level?

2) Should I stop drinking alcohol? I drink on a regular basis, 2-3 days a week. I have single friends and frequent Happy Hour. I am reading that may be a cause.

3) I am afraid a Fertility specialist will turn me away due to my weight. I have recently lost 35 pounds, exercise regularly and I am not on any major meds. Any experience here with that issue?

Thanks Ladies, looking forward to your assistance!

 

[LilSluz]

Just a quickie to tell Dwrgi to have fun & catch that magic & healing of "Glastonbarry" tomorrow & big smoochy-woochy-poochy


(Dash, you spelled it right, its just that the other side of the Pond likes to make fun of how we say things)

 

[froliky2011]

Hi to Treegap, Flutter and Janey! Welcome to the bestest thread!! Great support and knowledge too!

Janey - I do not have any info on weight, progesterone but I am sure someone will chime in when they have the time. Wait a bit and see.

Flutter - Good Luck!! I hope stays far away for 9 months or so!!

Tree - Did you have your hormones checked (i.e. progesterone, estrodial (estrogen), etc.) There are several tests that may help give you some answers as well as having your partner's semen (if the OH is a male) analyzed for counts/motility etc.

I wish you three all the best and hope your stay is short.

Owl - Glad Purps answered the KD thang! Hahaha!

Pad - You crack me up lady! You sound like quite a free spirit!! Yes, men...and their EGOs!!!! Ugh!! Very annoying.

Lil - Let me know when you need progesterone!

Dwrgi - Enjoy your getaway and escape for a bit! You deserve it! I hope you feel better!!

Dashka - Same to you! I hope you get some good ZZZZs and enjoy your new summer drink, it sounds very refreshing!!

I am just keeping this short for now and just wanted to quickly chime in!!

Hi to everyone else! Sorry so short.

 

[ksluice]

hi ladies, just posting a quick update on my EC. i am still feeling a bit loopy so apologies for the "all about me" post

so...18 eggs mature from 29 collected. please send all the fertilization vibes you can. I posted on my journal that my doc said we want the dna to shoot out in perfect strands...no tangles or split ends...so please send well conditioned hair thoughts to the dna in my eggies. i keep thinking of the pantene commercials here...lots of pantene dna for you little eggies... FXed!!!

 

[2have4kids]

Hi ladies, just a quick hit n run this week. Baby dust to you, I'm hoping you're all having great summers. Happy ing bellas

 

[purplelou]

Hi treegap & Janey - and welcome this thread has the most wonderful ladies !! I am sure you will get plenty of great advice and lots of support, although hopefully your stay here is short and sweet.
Janey - are you in the UK or US or somewhere else?? I know some UK PCTs do have weight limits grr to be accepted for treatment - but I think often the FS will still see you and advise even if you are overweight hun xxx

Ksluice - I am sending you loads of fertilization for you eggies! when do you know how they are doing??

Dwrgi - enjoy your day at glastonberry

big huge loves to everyone else

Never news -

Spoiler

Andrea is about 2-3 cm dilated but not really feeling any strong contractions yet. they may break her waters later and/or start her on drip to get things moving...so oopsie could be along anytime

AFM - I am still sleepy had a terrible night sleep, I think the dog is predicting a thunderstorm (which she hates) because she was pacing about and looking for a cuddle during the night and is still doing it this morning - quite often she is right and there is storm - so we'll see!!

 

[purplelou]

2have4kids - I love that kitty on your avatar pic - what a cutie!!

 

[tigerlily1975]

2have4kids - I love that kitty on your avatar pic - what a cutie!!

I was thinking the same thing! Gorgeous!

Husband has said if we can't have children I CAN have a house full of cats! I'll be like the mad cat lady on the Simpsons!

C xx

 

[purplelou]

tiger - there are worst things to be

I think I sent a pm to you last pm, is it your appointment today lovely?? is so....good luck!! thinking of you xxx

 

[tigerlily1975]

Purple: Aww, thanks, hun I started my Gonal F injections this morning (I hate needles!!) and I'm in for a blood test on Monday - I guess they need to check my levels/dosage. I'm on the long protocol, so I've had weeks of suppressing and now start the stimulants. They don't explain any of this, it's just what I've picked up from Dwrgi and HA... I'd be lost without these lovely ladies!

Thanks for the update on Never, I will stop by the journal in a bit! What a clever doggie you have, they could use a weather predicting dog at Wimbledon!



C xx

 

[purplelou]

aha - I knew that there was something new happening today!! hope the GonalF treats you well!

I love your new avatar

oh and yes - the doggie is so very clever (NOT!!) bless her, this morning she's gotten stuck in a bush trying to chase a pigeon and needed rescuing

 

[tigerlily1975]

Hi everyone

I'm going to attempt a long post.. I always miss someone, so apologies if it's you!

Lil: Ah, that's a shame you've missed out on the vacation, but it sounds like you're well prepared for your next cycle.. GOOD LUCK!

grkprn: I hope your appointment goes well on Monday.. oh, and HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!

Ksluice: That's a fantastic number! Sending you tonnes of 'fertilizing vibes'! Hope you're doing okay

Butterfly: There's so much to think about, no wonder you're hesitant. Friends of mine started the adoption process a few years ago and finally they are now officially 'mum and dad' to a little boy and girl (siblings). When it feels right, you'll be ready to make that decision. GOOD LUCK, darling!

Dwrgi: I'm so sorry you're not feeling it BUT I'm still keeping the hope up for you. You deserve this SO much!!

owl: Gosh, that really does sound confusing. Have you been able to talk to anyone to explain exactly what's going on?

flutterbee: You've come to the right place, everyone is soooo lovely here! Good luck with TTC... oh, and you also have a younger hubby like quite a few of us!

treegap: This journey is definitely a little 'bumpy'! A lot of ladies on here temp, so I'm sure they can help!

Pad: Nah, that doped-up ovary is just chilling, singing "cause I got high, cause I got high, cause I got high.. la da da da da daah" Are you all settled in now or are you building a fort with the remaining boxes? I'm on a career break, so I definitely agree that this house-wife malarkey is the way to go!

Frol: I hope you're doing well, hun. Sorry to hear the KD is being a pain. We still don't know what the cause of DH's Azoo is (I wonder if we ever will?!). We won't know how many (if any) we'll have to work with until they've thawed the samples, it's a gamble on both sides what with my age and wandering ovary! Because of the cost, we may end-up going down the donor route if the ICSI cycles don't work. We'd go with an anonymous donor I think, how did you decide on using a known donor? Feet-up and lots of rest now, young lady!

HA and Twinks: I hope you're well and I will be stopping by your journals!

Janey: TTC is so stressful, all we seem to do is worry! As the lovely Purple said, here in the UK there are restrictions set by the NHS, but I'm sure if you contacted a FS they'd be happy to see you and go over your case. Good luck!

Nessaw: I hope your appointment has come through!

Daksha: I think you need some of these

Never: I'm coming to check on youuuu... exciting!!

Big and love to all.. I'm going to stop typing before I burst into tears again... poxy hormones!!

C xx

 

[tigerlily1975]

oh and yes - the doggie is so very clever (NOT!!) bless her, this morning she's gotten stuck in a bush trying to chase a pigeon and needed rescuing

I know it's not possible, but I SWEAR me and your dog are related!!

I hope you and Purplette manage to have a quiet day and a better sleep tonight

C xx

 

[nessaw]

purps one of our dogs managed to get bitten by a squirrel that was playing dead!!

welcome newbies. janey if ur in the uk less than 30 is presumed no ovulation.i got 5 ony first cd21 test and have gone up to 19.5 but the doc says no ov.hope that helps.x

hi to all.we're moving on fron morecambe to north wales today on our uk mini trek round friends and family.have a lovely day everyone.vx