ttc after a d&c

[mommylov]

Angel, I think that I am pretty normal as well but anyone who gets to know me IRL reaches a point where they point out that I am weird. And so is my family it is what makes us endearingly human and fun to be around
And don't worry about being a "mess". You aren't a mess at all dear. Miscarriage makes us feel so helpless and you are simply trying to feel as though you have some control over all of it
And you are making me jealous for knowing just the time to start BD

Amy, lol on all Indians looking alike. Speaking of Indians...the most beautiful man I had ever seen was of Indian descent. The ladies in my college town would trail after him wherever he went. I even worked as a writer for the paper just to be near him (he was the editor).

hahah how funny! And here I thought "I went white and I did right!" I dated an indian guy once when I was younger but def dont think he was for me obv. I think the best indian man I know is my daddy
Im still LOL at what you said.. I can totally picture it hahah

 

[Storked]

Amy, I would friend him on FB except my husband totally knows how beautiful I (and everyone else) think that he is. And yes, I was totally guilty of following him around once. Used to wish that he would have asked me out. He was so brainy and sexy. Mmmm!
LOL on going white and doing right! My family decided that I had a type and that it was "Sephardic Jews". But my husband is of Sephardic Jewish descent so maybe they aren't far off. I have dated all kinds of guys but the ones I got serious with mostly looked similar

 

[mommylov]

Can I just say, I have the best hubby . He was IMing with me this morning to check how I was doing and this is what he said:

me: just getting tears at my desk this morning and I dont want anyone to ask my whats wrong becasue they dont get it
all I hear is "Oh you'll be fine, just try next month. So are you doing anything this weekend?" Ugh insensitive meanies ... kind of still hurts to think about the baby we lost
Paul:
Paul: I Love You!
we will get pregnant and have a baby, we just need a little patience!
me: I love you too
me: Im just having a hard time with the loss more so today rather than the idea of us trying
Idk if its because it didnt work the first time this time or what but it just makes me think "I shouldnt be dealing with this dissapointment, I should be buying baby furniture and clothes"
Paul: i can understand that
but soon enought we WILL be buying that stuff
all we can do is stay positive, and keep trying. Things will work out, you'll see
But i dont want you to think in ANY way that any of this is your fault, or you did something wrong



**Bestill my

 

[Storked]

Definitely a keeper Amy

 

[mommylov]

Amy, I would friend him on FB except my husband totally knows how beautiful I (and everyone else) think that he is. And yes, I was totally guilty of following him around once. Used to wish that he would have asked me out. He was so brainy and sexy. Mmmm!
LOL on going white and doing right! My family decided that I had a type and that it was "Sephardic Jews". But my husband is of Sephardic Jewish descent so maybe they aren't far off. I have dated all kinds of guys but the ones I got serious with mostly looked similar

Hahah! My family said the same thing... I too have dated different different guys too but my mom said she always new I would end up with the "Blonde hair blue eyed" type and totally did!

HAhah you crack me up!

 

[mommylov]

I am on google chat all day which is where I copied that convo from and its funny.. he will send me hearts or little faces but is SOOOO not that mushy gushy type. So it makes me feel like a kid or like we are dating when he does stuff like that.

 

[lilesMom]

angel it would make a good movie, we were on about it being a good book earlier
i came home from docs to good news, hosp letter for early scan date, they normally dont give u early scan unless few mc , so happy its for 16th oct, so tues fortnight yey.
still catching up now xx

 

[mommylov]

angel it would make a good movie, we were on about it being a good book earlier
i came home from docs to good news, hosp letter for early scan date, they normally dont give u early scan unless few mc , so happy its for 16th oct, so tues fortnight yey.
still catching up now xx

yay for early scan!!!!!!

 

[lilesMom]

amy ur Dh sounds lovely sweetie xx nice to have such good support xxx
early scan is the best, oooohhh i might get to hear heartbeat wow, im gonna bawl!!!
me in a film, id want jessica alba, i look nothing like her but i think she is stunning

 

[mommylov]

fx I hope you can see it!!!! Awww Im so happy for you. Hear you thought you were going to be ttc after all of us and you were our bfp.. Im soooo happy for you and oh!

 

[lilesMom]

thanks babe, i know its gas how things turn out. i thought i be miles after ye
hope it all goes well now and really really hope ye join me soon xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

thanks babe, i know its gas how things turn out. i thought i be miles after ye
hope it all goes well now and really really hope ye join me soon xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Me too.. I got a good feeling about this little bean of yours

I hope we can all join you and Jen as well!

 

[aaronswoman79]

hi guys just caught up again
hope ye r all good today, nothing to report here, no news is good news at this stage though my sis came to my house for lunch which was lovely, now im trying to gather energy to beautify myself for my OH sis wedding tomor, we r staying there tomor nt so i wont be on here for the weekend , il have loads o catch up sun nt r mon ha ha
fx for ye all and xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Amy how are you this morning?

Laura no news is good news! I'm sure you'll look amazing at the wedding...just hope no one catches on to your pregnancy glow!

DH eventually remembered my appointment last night, so he cancelled the run! So off we went this morning and had a scan done...there are eggys! I need to look into this a bit more, because there is one in each ovary. One on right side is measuring at 17 one on left at 12. She said one on right could be getting ready, but it could be left over from pg?? The one on left will def burst by Tuesday, which matches up with my normal O cycle. My endometrial lining is at a 7 and should be an 8, so it matches up with O still being a few days out. She said the blood work will tell, so I am technically still waiting. Then she told DH we don't have to start BDing until Sunday...Now I won't hear the end of it b/c I told him we should start today to play it safe! Grr! On the bright side, I am not barren! Just have to keep POAS!

TGIF!!

Have a great time this weekend at the wedding Laura

Angel, Im doing alright... still a bit emotional this morning but Ill be fine. Tested this morning again for s***s and giggles and still bfn plus I think Im starting to feel "AF aches" so Im not going to be testing anymore. If af doesnt come by monday though, Im going to make an apt to see if something is wrong or if I even O but with the "achey" feeling I have right now I *THINK* I did and will see af soon. I dont know why Im taking this so hard. Tech, this is the 1st time we tried since my D&C and it doesnt happen for everyone on the first shot so Im trying not to get to sad but I just had all these emotions yesterday that poured out of me because of this. I was thinking about our baby that I dont have anymore and my heart just sank. When DH came home, I started talking to him about it and just sobbed like I did the day of my surgery. Actually getting tears right now as I type this at my desk at work so I better stop but I am looking forward to trying again next cycle with those that are trying in Oct .Thanks again girls for your kind words and always making me feel better.

to everyone... love you ladies!

I am so sorry you are having a hard time Amy. I am in the same position as you right now. Remember as long as af comes you are still not 100% out. You never know. I too feel like I am going to get af next week. It was also my first time ttc in my whole life. I have never planned the babies I have. With my 2 daughters it just happened. I never even knew when I ovulated. With my last pregnancy that I MC I really didn't plan it. Me and dh happened to be bding and I thought "hmmm this is around half way through my cycle, I might get pregnant." So I basically let nature take its course. So my last pregnancy was the most I ever planned, and I lost it anyways. Now I am trying to track my ov, check cm (which is not very fruitful for me, I barely seem to have any), and time everything and it just feels so difficult at times. Like you, I still feel so emotional, the only difference is I basically hide it from everyone, every time I feel like crying I have just been holding it in. And I know that is not good, and I should let it out, but I just feel I am treated awkwardly when I do get emotional. For me, this thread feels like my only refuge to the harsh reality of what happened to me and what continues to happen.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Thanks ladies...it was a bit of relief seeing my body doing what it's supposed to. I need to keep feeding that eggy some Royal Jelly! Lol!

I certainly know how you feel Amy...I was thinking in the ultrasound room today that instead of looking for eggs I should've been in there finding out mc #2's gender! Kind of a bitter sweet moment for me. I was troubled by DH's sigh of relief that he is off the hook for a couple of more days---now Sunday Laura being my CD12 and your lucky day sounds promising! If I just didn't have to compete with football! I tried convincing DH we should try today for good measure and he laughed at me and said, "So Dr. Angel knows more than the RE?" I automatically think to myself, is sex THAT bad? Does he know how many married men would kill to have their wives practically begging to dtd? *sigh* Not how I wanted to start my Friday. Maybe he'll come around today...where is that man that couldn't keep his paws off me? I wonder if it's his age or the pressure...he needs to eat some Royal Jelly! Haha!

Oh my Angel, your husband sounds like mine. Its not like its some huge sacrifice for our husbands to give it to us. I remember last week when we were bding and after we were done, my husband says, "So when are we going to HAVE to do this again?" I was like, "I am so so sorry that I am makine you **** me!" (excuse the language.)lol. That really hurt me. I wish there was some secret pill to give these guys to make them understand and realize this is all they have to do, we on the other hand carry the baby along with all the aches and pain, morning sickness, body aches, giving birth, etc.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Amy how are you this morning?

Laura no news is good news! I'm sure you'll look amazing at the wedding...just hope no one catches on to your pregnancy glow!

DH eventually remembered my appointment last night, so he cancelled the run! So off we went this morning and had a scan done...there are eggys! I need to look into this a bit more, because there is one in each ovary. One on right side is measuring at 17 one on left at 12. She said one on right could be getting ready, but it could be left over from pg?? The one on left will def burst by Tuesday, which matches up with my normal O cycle. My endometrial lining is at a 7 and should be an 8, so it matches up with O still being a few days out. She said the blood work will tell, so I am technically still waiting. Then she told DH we don't have to start BDing until Sunday...Now I won't hear the end of it b/c I told him we should start today to play it safe! Grr! On the bright side, I am not barren! Just have to keep POAS!

TGIF!!

Wonderful news!! Nice healthy eggies!!!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Angel, I have those moments too.

As for men, I think sometimes they are humbled when things are rough. We are too sweet in giving them all the loving they want so they are spoiled and forget what it was like to e alone with just their hand

lol Bethany!! They are spoiled!!

 

[aaronswoman79]

u have made up my mind chick , thanks , i was gearing towards wait as well just in case. id totally blame myself if we did and something happened, thanks xxx
i like cuddles anyway frantic lots o Bd to none
ur right hon, u cant put ur life on hold indef and my mom always says its when u stop trying it happens and she has 12 kids. xxx
i really better leave hte house nd go to doc office before they close xxx
cha t later honeys, xxx

Wow Laura you have a huge family! That is wonderful. My family feels so small. I have 2 older brother. one of them has 1 kid, and the other has none. Any my husbands family in Utah will have nothing to do with us, he has a lot of family over there too. I wish I had a big family! I would love it! That is also why I want a couple more kids, I always wanted a big family. As for the bding. My doctor advised against it for the whole pregnancy, I felt horrible because we did slip a couple of times, but luckily it never did any harm. But next time for sure, no sex for the whole pregnancy. My husband vows to not lay a hand on my after I get my bfp. He is also very scared for something bad to happen.

 

[mommylov]

hi guys just caught up again
hope ye r all good today, nothing to report here, no news is good news at this stage though my sis came to my house for lunch which was lovely, now im trying to gather energy to beautify myself for my OH sis wedding tomor, we r staying there tomor nt so i wont be on here for the weekend , il have loads o catch up sun nt r mon ha ha
fx for ye all and xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Amy how are you this morning?

Laura no news is good news! I'm sure you'll look amazing at the wedding...just hope no one catches on to your pregnancy glow!

DH eventually remembered my appointment last night, so he cancelled the run! So off we went this morning and had a scan done...there are eggys! I need to look into this a bit more, because there is one in each ovary. One on right side is measuring at 17 one on left at 12. She said one on right could be getting ready, but it could be left over from pg?? The one on left will def burst by Tuesday, which matches up with my normal O cycle. My endometrial lining is at a 7 and should be an 8, so it matches up with O still being a few days out. She said the blood work will tell, so I am technically still waiting. Then she told DH we don't have to start BDing until Sunday...Now I won't hear the end of it b/c I told him we should start today to play it safe! Grr! On the bright side, I am not barren! Just have to keep POAS!

TGIF!!

Have a great time this weekend at the wedding Laura

Angel, Im doing alright... still a bit emotional this morning but Ill be fine. Tested this morning again for s***s and giggles and still bfn plus I think Im starting to feel "AF aches" so Im not going to be testing anymore. If af doesnt come by monday though, Im going to make an apt to see if something is wrong or if I even O but with the "achey" feeling I have right now I *THINK* I did and will see af soon. I dont know why Im taking this so hard. Tech, this is the 1st time we tried since my D&C and it doesnt happen for everyone on the first shot so Im trying not to get to sad but I just had all these emotions yesterday that poured out of me because of this. I was thinking about our baby that I dont have anymore and my heart just sank. When DH came home, I started talking to him about it and just sobbed like I did the day of my surgery. Actually getting tears right now as I type this at my desk at work so I better stop but I am looking forward to trying again next cycle with those that are trying in Oct .Thanks again girls for your kind words and always making me feel better.

to everyone... love you ladies!

I am so sorry you are having a hard time Amy. I am in the same position as you right now. Remember as long as af comes you are still not 100% out. You never know. I too feel like I am going to get af next week. It was also my first time ttc in my whole life. I have never planned the babies I have. With my 2 daughters it just happened. I never even knew when I ovulated. With my last pregnancy that I MC I really didn't plan it. Me and dh happened to be bding and I thought "hmmm this is around half way through my cycle, I might get pregnant." So I basically let nature take its course. So my last pregnancy was the most I ever planned, and I lost it anyways. Now I am trying to track my ov, check cm (which is not very fruitful for me, I barely seem to have any), and time everything and it just feels so difficult at times. Like you, I still feel so emotional, the only difference is I basically hide it from everyone, every time I feel like crying I have just been holding it in. And I know that is not good, and I should let it out, but I just feel I am treated awkwardly when I do get emotional. For me, this thread feels like my only refuge to the harsh reality of what happened to me and what continues to happen.

Awww, Im like 99.9% IM out now but its ok, there IS always next month

I hear ya.. I know that its hard for others to relate when they havent gone through what we have so I TRY and give them that much credit. Even though our dh/oh's went through the experience with us, I feel like they also are unable to FULLY understand what we are feeling. I am the same as you in that my first pg was the first time we "tried". I didnt use anything or any kind of opk. It was more like "Hmm, lets not use a hat and see if I get pg" and BOOM I did. I told dh that Im sad that we didnt fall and all this month but I was more sad about the fact that is just reminded me that we arent pg with our baby we lost and I think thats why I have been crying and all. I think Laura was right, we were so focussed on ttc that it almost didnt let me fully recover emotionally. We waited a cycle after my D&C and I thought during that time I was able to fully come to terms with it all but I guess not. I hope that it gets better for you soon hun. I know that we will never forget but I do think time will make us stronger. IF you dont fall this month (Which you still have a great chance that you did) then you can join us for Oct.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Good outlook Bethany...they say about the time you get on with life, then boom! You're pg! So for sure Amy, book nonrefundable tickets to Thailand and go with Bethany! Haha! The beauty of October, Nov and Dec is there is so much to look forward to---it is going to fly by!

Re: Our movie. Bethany would Katherine Heigl, Julia Roberts or Sandra Bullock work? I think I'll take Alicia Silverstone, I've missed her on the big screen! We need a star studded cast---I'm totally casting Joe Manganiello (True Blood and What to Expect movie) as my movie DH!

Isn't Joe Manganiello from Magic Mike?? I just made dh watch it with me. I didn't enjoy it that much to tell the truth, but he was pretty hot. lol. He was a very believable stripper. It actually looked like he enjoyed those stripper scenes! lol

 

[aaronswoman79]

Oh as far as actors that look/sound/act liek us? My old boss told me that I reminded him of the character Kelly Kapoor from the office. He said that I looked and talked like her but wasnt as ditsy or dark complexion. Im pretty sure he just said that because all of us Indian just look alike, right? *Insert sarcastic smirk*

Actually from your pic, I don't think you look like her at all. But she is funny. lol. Are you full Indian? As in east Indian or native american?