ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Thank you Laura. I know I only have a 1 in 4 shot of falling pregnant, so I won't hold my breath. Just glad to be back in the game! In the meantime I wait and see...

yahhh!! tww, welcome to the club! It goes by faster than you think! I made the mistake of testing too early over and over again. lol. I am cd11 and still bfn. I really think I am out now. Oh well, I guess I am going to have to start using opks!! Good luck on your tww wait.

Thank you Laura. I know I only have a 1 in 4 shot of falling pregnant, so I won't hold my breath. Just glad to be back in the game! In the meantime I wait and see...

Laura understand 100% what your saying. Your LO will be okay. FXD for your scan. I wont have my first scan for a while. I am excited that our dd is so close!! Maybe itll be same day! All will go well. I have faith

Amy I am very sorry the witch came. She just cant understand she isnt wanted... Fxd for this cycle. Stay relaxed and start your opks on cd 5. Youll get your YES before you know it and then bd for the next 3-4 days after to cover all your bases. Also aim for days you start to see a second line appear on the insert stick. Those opks are amazing!!

Angel I would bd a few for days just incase! Cover your bases if you can. I am very excited for everyone this cycle and cant wait to see the outcome! We need some Late June and early July babys coming our way!!

Bethany Im so glad that your relaxed and taking it easy this cycle by doing what you enjoy. That bfp is coming for you and i cant wait!

Hope all you ladies are having a good weekend!

Angel, yay for the tww! Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you Hun. I second what Jen said, bd a few extra days just in case. I really regret not doing that this last time. I think if I had, I would've caught the eggy so I don't want you to have the same regret. So excited for you!

Thanks Jen. I'm ok, coming to terms with it and just looking forward to trying again. I know dh is looking forward to trying hahahh. I'm going to really try hard to relax and use my opk. I think I'm going to count yesterday as my cd1 right? The other days were really nothing at all. Has your fever broke?

Amy, I made the exact same mistake. I think I may be one of those who ov later, like close to day 20 of my cycle maybe. So I think we didn't catch little eggy because of that. I guess we all learn from mistakes, just have to do more bding next cycle!! lol. Good thing is that we can always look forward to the next month even if this month wasn't the month. I just hope I am oving normally.

I think I for sure didn't calculate right. That's what I get for thinking I can so without an opk! Jessica, I really wouldn't rule yourself out hun. Just like the girls said, you're not out until the comes. I'm still pulling for ya! I'm definitely going to be using my kit I bought and hopefully will join you ladies next month

Jen, kup tomorrow and fx for you and lo.

Bethany, Laura, angel, danni, Natasha, horsey and anyone I missed have a great night!

Thanks Amy. What opk are u using? Since I have never used an opk I need an idea on which one to buy. Whatever you try i will got buy it too. lol. Im gonna be a copy cat!! I hope I won't be having to use one next month, but the might ruin everything.

 

[mommylov]

Awww I hope you don't have to either but I bought the first response one that reads yes/no. I figured I needed something "Amy proof" so no way of mistaking a yes for no and no for yes

 

[mommylov]

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[aaronswoman79]

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Thank u so much Amy. lol on the Amy proof. I hear ya. lol. Hopefully I will be able to do this right. Even with the yes-no results. Lets see if I don't find a way to screw this up. So I am just preparing for af. Looks like if we all get our bfps next month we'll have really close due dates. Can't wait to be posting pics of our beautiful babies!!

 

[mommylov]

Here's a pic of it

Thank u so much Amy. lol on the Amy proof. I hear ya. lol. Hopefully I will be able to do this right. Even with the yes-no results. Lets see if I don't find a way to screw this up. So I am just preparing for af. Looks like if we all get our bfps next month we'll have really close due dates. Can't wait to be posting pics of our beautiful babies!!

Hehe

For sure! IF af comes for you this month, then there are plenty if us that are going for it this month or the next few months so either way we will all be close I can't wait too!!

 

[jen435]

Amy your going to love those opks they are great!!! Just watch the insert stick test results lines also when u start seeing two your reaching your YES . That kit is great. Used it twice in my 18 monthes of ttc and fell pregnant both times i used it. Best $45 i spent on ttc!! Hope u get the same outcome! Jessica i hope you wont need it but if u must its worth a shot for peace of mind and helps u stay relaxed.

 

[Storked]

Angel, not tracking but I am probably either O'ing now or past it. But I haven't initiated sex in a while. If I don't push, it doesn't happen. Tired and not committed to this cycle

Jen, how long until you get results? Hope you get better soon

Jessica, what kind of OPKs are you thinking of getting? Don't buy any unless AF actually shows

Laura, yay for early scan!

Natasha, will be waiting to hear back from you

Horsey, I miss you lots.

 

[MomInLondon]

Hi ladies

I have an almost three year old daughter, decided we were ready for number 2 so started trying in August and got pregnant straight away, just as we did with our daughter.

Last week at almost 9 weeks I started spotting, went to doc and baby had not grown at all from 6 weeks. Had my D&C on Thursday. Have stopped bleeding now and just had mild cramps which have gone. Doc has advised early miscarriage is unformtunately very common, and that he has sent everything off for analysis but does not expect to find anything wrong, it is just "one of those things'.

He said we should wait one to two cycles before trying again. I know that we need to try sooner than later as we are not spring chickens any more and it becomes harder with age, but I feel absolutely terrified at he prospect of going through this again. How do you gather the courage to go forward?

 

[Storked]

Welcome mominlondon, so sorry for your loss
I think sometimes it is less about strength and more about need. There are days when you are just so sad that something like that happened to you and you yearn for what was lost. And so you try again and hope like hell that it doesn't happen again

 

[MomInLondon]

Thanks.

"Hope is the feeling that the feeling you have isn't permanent"

Just about sums it up for me right now.

Some people are saying I need to take time out (not sure how with a daughter and running a business rom home) and grieve. Don't like the sound of that. Was alone with my thoughts for a couple of hours before the D&C and it didn't make things any easier.

Much prefer your 'try again and hope like hell' approach. Think I will be going with that.

I am told that I will be much more fertile after the D&C? Although in both of my pregnancies I have not struggled to get pregnant, we have done it in a weekend both times. It's the development of baby and staying pregnant bit that scares me now.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Thanks.

"Hope is the feeling that the feeling you have isn't permanent"

Just about sums it up for me right now.

Some people are saying I need to take time out (not sure how with a daughter and running a business rom home) and grieve. Don't like the sound of that. Was alone with my thoughts for a couple of hours before the D&C and it didn't make things any easier.

Much prefer your 'try again and hope like hell' approach. Think I will be going with that.

I am told that I will be much more fertile after the D&C? Although in both of my pregnancies I have not struggled to get pregnant, we have done it in a weekend both times. It's the development of baby and staying pregnant bit that scares me now.

So sorry for your loss MomInLondon! We here understand all of your fears and worries. It is so important to find as much support as you can right now. I couldn't really find it out there in the "real" world, and then came across this thread by chance. It has been a Godsend for me. I know what it feels like to have a traumatic miscarriage (lost my son at 18.5 weeks) and feel like you are on your own island, especially when people around cannot relate too well. That was the case in my life. I have not met anybody else in person who has gone through a miscarriage, believe it or not. Although it is quite a common occurrence according to my doctor and medical data. I too seem to get pregnant quite easily, at least the last 3 pregnancies I did. And I am also scared about staying pregnant and baby, just like you. These fears are completely understandable, and woman in our position would have them. I also worry about getting older (in my early 30s, just turned 33 actually) and about my fertility. But I hear many success stories of women in there 30s and 40s having healthy pregnancies. Sometimes a pregnancy just goes wrong, and sometimes there is no clear explanation as to why it happened. Just like storked said, all we can do is hope like hell that it doesn't happen again and look for a brighter future!

 

[mommylov]

Angel, not tracking but I am probably either O'ing now or past it. But I haven't initiated sex in a while. If I don't push, it doesn't happen. Tired and not committed to this cycle

Jen, how long until you get results? Hope you get better soon

Jessica, what kind of OPKs are you thinking of getting? Don't buy any unless AF actually shows

Laura, yay for early scan!

Natasha, will be waiting to hear back from you

Horsey, I miss you lots.

Hope youre ok

 

[Storked]

I hope you are ok Amy! How are you feeling honey?

 

[mommylov]

Hi ladies

I have an almost three year old daughter, decided we were ready for number 2 so started trying in August and got pregnant straight away, just as we did with our daughter.

Last week at almost 9 weeks I started spotting, went to doc and baby had not grown at all from 6 weeks. Had my D&C on Thursday. Have stopped bleeding now and just had mild cramps which have gone. Doc has advised early miscarriage is unformtunately very common, and that he has sent everything off for analysis but does not expect to find anything wrong, it is just "one of those things'.

He said we should wait one to two cycles before trying again. I know that we need to try sooner than later as we are not spring chickens any more and it becomes harder with age, but I feel absolutely terrified at he prospect of going through this again. How do you gather the courage to go forward?

welcome mominlondon and so sorry for your loss. Glad you found this forum and this thread. These girls and I def know what it feels like to go through this. Unfort, this is something that is more common that people realize and I have known some to go through this and go on to have healthy babies. Its been a little over 2 months since my loss and d&c and I wont lie, I still have my moments of sadness and hurt but as time goes on, you do get stronger. My husband and I decided to wait once full cycle without doing anything. Our dr first told us to wait 3 cycles then once I went in for my follow up appt post d&c she said that we were good togo after 1 cycle and that she encouraged it . Its totally up to you and what your body and heart tells you so you should def listen to your heart I hope that you feel better soon and we are here for you if you need some support

 

[mommylov]

I hope you are ok Amy! How are you feeling honey?

Im doing ok, kind of in the same boat as you . I will be using a opk but thats it. No pre-seed or forcing anything as far as bd goes (Although I thankfully usually am approached and dont have to beg ). Just kind of dont want to keep getting dissapointed. KILLER af cramp though .. eeek! I am reminded of what this was like when I was 16, yowza! I know it will be gone though in a few days so sucking it up! lol

So when are you leaving for Thailand again? You must be soooo excited!!!

 

[mommylov]

GOOD LUCK TODAY JEN!!!!!

 

[xoxo4angel]

 

[Storked]

Amy, yeah it hurts to work for it and get nothing. Better to distance yourself from it and get that BFP
Cramps I take to mean a good thing- your body is working hard!
Thailand is in April. Unless I get pregnant this cycle (which I doubt I will so yay for Thailand!)

 

[xoxo4angel]

 

[Storked]

I second Angel about the conflicting info re: fertility after a loss