ttc after a d&c

[jen435]

As for appt Dr couldnt measure my cervix but he felt it and said its not going to get stronger and he said insurance wont allow him to do anything but he encourages i make a cash appt. I rather just save up for the surgery and be done with it but its hard when im suppost to be on bedrest. He thinks ill be fine if i just stay on bedrest til at least 20weeks. So that gives me 6weeks to figure it out. My husband is asking about getting a small loan but idk if we can get one. So least he is figuring that out...

As for scan... Yes we found out gender at 80%... tech showed us everything too. Baby is perfectly healthy (amen). When tech told us it was dead silent in the room til she stepped out. Then i kinda started to cry. I stopped right before doctor came in. He reviewed everything with us. After he left my husband handed me my purse and said looks like we will have to try again. Im thinking wth thats all you have to say. Then I told him I am glad she is healthy. After we got in the car is says guess ill call my mom and get this over with! wth i told him no your mom is coming to next ultrasound and wants to find out gender that way. He was like its just better to call and tell her really fast. Im like are you excited at all?? He wanted a girl and shows no excitement or emotion over it. In my heart I wanted a boy but I think it was more because I lost Liam. I am thankful our daughter is healthy. I just pray he has love for her in his heart. I never realized how hard it would be having a second child and not having your first with you. I feel I should be overjoyed and excited. I feel guilty that I dont feel that way. Its so hard to picture a baby in pink when I was thinking baby blue for the longest.

Sorry to rant ladies I shouldnt be complaining I never thought id feel this way

 

[jen435]

LOL bethany you and me both!! That fitted sheet is annoying!!!

 

[Storked]

As for appt Dr couldnt measure my cervix but he felt it and said its not going to get stronger and he said insurance wont allow him to do anything but he encourages i make a cash appt. I rather just save up for the surgery and be done with it but its hard when im suppost to be on bedrest. He thinks ill be fine if i just stay on bedrest til at least 20weeks. So that gives me 6weeks to figure it out. My husband is asking about getting a small loan but idk if we can get one. So least he is figuring that out...

As for scan... Yes we found out gender at 80%... tech showed us everything too. Baby is perfectly healthy (amen). When tech told us it was dead silent in the room til she stepped out. Then i kinda started to cry. I stopped right before doctor came in. He reviewed everything with us. After he left my husband handed me my purse and said looks like we will have to try again. Im thinking wth thats all you have to say. Then I told him I am glad she is healthy. After we got in the car is says guess ill call my mom and get this over with! wth i told him no your mom is coming to next ultrasound and wants to find out gender that way. He was like its just better to call and tell her really fast. Im like are you excited at all?? He wanted a girl and shows no excitement or emotion over it. In my heart I wanted a boy but I think it was more because I lost Liam. I am thankful our daughter is healthy. I just pray he has love for her in his heart. I never realized how hard it would be having a second child and not having your first with you. I feel I should be overjoyed and excited. I feel guilty that I dont feel that way. Its so hard to picture a baby in pink when I was thinking baby blue for the longest.

Sorry to rant ladies I shouldnt be complaining I never thought id feel this way

Oh Jen, I am so sorry that he was being difficult. Sometimes husbands are butts when we really need them to step it up and act like sweethearts
You have a girl! A healthy girl! That is wonderful
Don't feel bad if a part of you still mourns your boy. Some days are just easier to get through and then grief strikes fresh all over again. Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way. You will be happy Jen
Glad that he is looking for a loan though! Try to rest as much as you humanly can! Is there any way that his family can come and help around the house and stuff?

 

[Storked]

Trying to tell myself 124 days until Thailand...but that is just for 2 measly weeks. Maybe the upside to him being gone a lot is that we can move sooner. Maybe I am just not meant to reproduce in this country.

Holy hell what a depressing thought. I need a coke.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Hi ladies. I am out of bed for a few mins so I wanted to pop in and see how all of you are doing? I am trying to catch up with everything here, pages and pages lol. Thanks for thinking about me ladies. I have just been trying to relax and take it easy. This pregnancy is much harder on my body. Natasha, Laura, Angel, Bethany, jen and Amy. I miss all of you a lot. I hope all of you are doing great!

Jen, I am so happy for your good news and that baby is doing great. Did they do a 2d or 3d ultrasound? When I lost my baby they all saw her visibly and thought she was a boy and she ended up turning out to be a girl. And she was between 13 to 15 weeks gestation. So who knows? Maybe you will get another surprise later! At this point I would keep in mind that there is margin for error since the babies genitalia just started to become visible. But as long as he/she is healthy right! As for your husband, the only advice I can give you is to focus all your love and attention on your little baby. I can't even fathom why he acted like that. When my husband makes me feel sad in any way, I just try to focus on the baby, that's all we can do. It is great news the baby is doing healthy. Your baby is a blessing from God.

Angel, just wanted to tell you that even if you don't have sore boobs it doesn't mean you are not pregnant. Not all women get sore boobs during pregnancies. I didn't get sore boobs with either of my daughters, the last pregnancy my boobs were a little sore, and with this one, I have almost no soreness. This pregnancy is completely different.

Laura, glad baby is doing great. Happy your doppler is working. Not sure if I will buy one later on. I hear some are faulty and I don't wanna get paranoid if I can't find heartbeat.

Amy, hope your weekend went well. Hope the parents are doing great. You and your husband needed that time away.

Natasha, I hope you are your husband are doing great. Good luck for this month. Hoping you get bfp.

AFM, we are going to get the referral we need so I can start going to Stanford University Children's hospital. They have a high risk Obstetrics department, and we have already been in touch with them and they want me to come and be one of there patients. They treat women with Subchorionic hematomas, they just don't ignore it like these incompetent people I have been dealing with. These people in Kaiser and not even cooperating with releasing my medical records or giving me a signed paper with proof of pregnancy, I need these two things to be seen by Stanford. Even if the outcome of this pregnancy is not good, Stanford wants to help me with my next pregnancy. So it is very promising. Spotting has slowed down, but I can feel the hematoma there, I just hope the bed rest is helping to to shrink. I will be 9 weeks by the end of the week. Love you all!

 

[Storked]

Hi ladies. I am out of bed for a few mins so I wanted to pop in and see how all of you are doing? I am trying to catch up with everything here, pages and pages lol. Thanks for thinking about me ladies. I have just been trying to relax and take it easy. This pregnancy is much harder on my body. Natasha, Laura, Angel, Bethany, jen and Amy. I miss all of you a lot. I hope all of you are doing great!

Jen, I am so happy for your good news and that baby is doing great. Did they do a 2d or 3d ultrasound? When I lost my baby they all saw her visibly and thought she was a boy and she ended up turning out to be a girl. And she was between 13 to 15 weeks gestation. So who knows? Maybe you will get another surprise later! At this point I would keep in mind that there is margin for error since the babies genitalia just started to become visible. But as long as he/she is healthy right! As for your husband, the only advice I can give you is to focus all your love and attention on your little baby. I can't even fathom why he acted like that. When my husband makes me feel sad in any way, I just try to focus on the baby, that's all we can do. It is great news the baby is doing healthy. Your baby is a blessing from God.

Angel, just wanted to tell you that even if you don't have sore boobs it doesn't mean you are not pregnant. Not all women get sore boobs during pregnancies. I didn't get sore boobs with either of my daughters, the last pregnancy my boobs were a little sore, and with this one, I have almost no soreness. This pregnancy is completely different.

Laura, glad baby is doing great. Happy your doppler is working. Not sure if I will buy one later on. I hear some are faulty and I don't wanna get paranoid if I can't find heartbeat.

Amy, hope your weekend went well. Hope the parents are doing great. You and your husband needed that time away.

Natasha, I hope you are your husband are doing great. Good luck for this month. Hoping you get bfp.

AFM, we are going to get the referral we need so I can start going to Stanford University Children's hospital. They have a high risk Obstetrics department, and we have already been in touch with them and they want me to come and be one of there patients. They treat women with Subchorionic hematomas, they just don't ignore it like these incompetent people I have been dealing with. These people in Kaiser and not even cooperating with releasing my medical records or giving me a signed paper with proof of pregnancy, I need these two things to be seen by Stanford. Even if the outcome of this pregnancy is not good, Stanford wants to help me with my next pregnancy. So it is very promising. Spotting has slowed down, but I can feel the hematoma there, I just hope the bed rest is helping to to shrink. I will be 9 weeks by the end of the week. Love you all!

So glad to hear from you Jessica!
I hope that the people in Kaiser get their heads out of their collective asses and give you what you need to be seen by people who specialize in subchorionic hematomas. I love you and am glad that you are getting plenty of rest

 

[xoxo4angel]

A girl, a healthy baby girl. Congrats Jen! I know its tough to be excited when DH is being a butt! FX everything works out for you with the procedure to secure your cervix. And you have to keep that book in mind, Heaven is Four Real. I've not the heart to read it yet, but the little boy telling his parents he met his sister in heaven and he NEVER knew they had miscarried before him? It's amazing. Liam is watching after you all...you will get through this and have your amazing family!

Bethany ~ Fitted sheets I too get annoyed with them! And your DH traveling next week is alright...you'll be preggers (or gearing up for O again, but I say preggers), but have your tantrum if you want to! (PS I True Blood! Read the books and watch the show.)

Jessica! So glad you get to see the specialist. Sorry your current place is a pain You'll be rid of them soon enough! I imagine the girls are ready for Santa! Wishing you and your family nothing but great news from here on this holiday season! xoxo

 

[Storked]

A girl, a healthy baby girl. Congrats Jen! I know its tough to be excited when DH is being a butt! FX everything works out for you with the procedure to secure your cervix. And you have to keep that book in mind, Heaven is Four Real. I've not the heart to read it yet, but the little boy telling his parents he met his sister in heaven and he NEVER knew they had miscarried before him? It's amazing. Liam is watching after you all...you will get through this and have your amazing family!

Bethany ~ Fitted sheets I too get annoyed with them! And your DH traveling next week is alright...you'll be preggers (or gearing up for O again, but I say preggers), but have your tantrum if you want to! (PS I True Blood! Read the books and watch the show.)

Jessica! So glad you get to see the specialist. Sorry your current place is a pain You'll be rid of them soon enough! I imagine the girls are ready for Santa! Wishing you and your family nothing but great news from here on this holiday season! xoxo

No idea how long he will be gone though- he coukd miss ovulation entirely!
I read the books long before I ever saw the show so I have my preferences LOL. But we own all the seasons and I shouldn't get so upset. There are movies that I love that are different from the books!
So, whatcha doing?

 

[Storked]

Do you girls happen to have a super easy fried rice recipe? I have given up the cookies for a new craving. I want fried rice. Lots and lots of it

 

[xoxo4angel]

Bethany Noooo! DH has to come back for O! I'll throw a tantrum with you!

True Blood...I liked the books a lot better. Not sold on the cast, the accents or shifts in story line in the show.

Fried Rice...wish I knew how. I've tried to mock what the guys do at the Japanese Steak House, but seem to fail. I think something is off with my ratios! Let me know if you perfect it!

 

[Storked]

Bethany Noooo! DH has to come back for O! I'll throw a tantrum with you!

True Blood...I liked the books a lot better. Not sold on the cast, the accents or shifts in story line in the show.

Fried Rice...wish I knew how. I've tried to mock what the guys do at the Japanese Steak House, but seem to fail. I think something is off with my ratios! Let me know if you perfect it!

I am just begging my husband to take me out for fried rice at this point. Oh hey he just texted back yes! WOOHOO! I don't feel like cooking today. Too busy wanting to throw that tantrum
But if I ever make some that is decent, will let ya know! I am not always that great with rice. Sometimes it doesn't cook evenly for me. Gah.

Some things in the show were interesting but yeah, sometimes casting matters. I visualize books and if I see them as so-and-so and I don't like so-and-so the book is ruined a bit stupid. I should ease up! Alcide though...I don't mind picturing HIM like the guy on the show. But Eric? Not feeling that guy. He looks as blank as Kristen Stewart

 

[horseypants]

aww, jen, your post is heartbreaking, im so happy for you - a jumble of emotions

 

[xoxo4angel]

Tried posting a pic of my half decorated tree https://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/christmas/smileys-christmas-204148.gif but it says the file was too big? I don't understand...I've posted from my phone before. Oh well.

Bethany ~ Alcide needs a bigger role! I'm not too thrilled with Bill or Erik really...it's tough going from what you've visualized to who a casting director picks. I think One for the Money could've been MUCH better had they cast someone other than Katherine Heigl. Enjoy your dinner with P Diddy!

 

[Storked]

Tried posting a pic of my half decorated tree https://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/christmas/smileys-christmas-204148.gif but it says the file was too big? I don't understand...I've posted from my phone before. Oh well.

Bethany ~ Alcide needs a bigger role! I'm not too thrilled with Bill or Erik really...it's tough going from what you've visualized to who a casting director picks. I think One for the Money could've been MUCH better had they cast someone other than Katherine Heigl. Enjoy your dinner with P Diddy!

I read those books too and yeah, not a fan of Katherine or the guy who played Ranger. What?
Weird on the pic, it normally resizes

 

[horseypants]

fried rice, YES. use cold rice. leftovers straight from the fridge are the best. a quarter of a chopped onion, some chopped celery and a few pinches of peas or carrot, an egg, soysauce and butter.

cook the onion a bit at a relatively high temp. throw in the butter once you've got some nice color going. add the rest of the veggies. give it a couple minutes. now the rice! throw that on there and here's where we get artistic. when the rice starts to heat and soften, smoosh that down and make sort of a hole on the side of the pan. throw the egg down so it makes contact with the bottom of the frying pan. let it sorta cook and then sorta toss it into the rice as it is cooking. the idea is to do it in a halfhazxard, haf cooking half mixing way, so it's not too homogenous. then keep mixing, add soysauce, make it sizzle a bit and serve

 

[horseypants]

storkey storked, did you get your dinner out? why's thailand depressing?

 

[Storked]

fried rice, YES. use cold rice. leftovers straight from the fridge are the best. a quarter of a chopped onion, some chopped celery and a few pinches of peas or carrot, an egg, soysauce and butter.

cook the onion a bit at a relatively high temp. throw in the butter once you've got some nice color going. add the rest of the veggies. give it a couple minutes. now the rice! throw that on there and here's where we get artistic. when the rice starts to heat and soften, smoosh that down and make sort of a hole on the side of the pan. throw the egg down so it makes contact with the bottom of the frying pan. let it sorta cook and then sorta toss it into the rice as it is cooking. the idea is to do it in a halfhazxard, haf cooking half mixing way, so it's not too homogenous. then keep mixing, add soysauce, make it sizzle a bit and serve

THANK YOU HORSEY! Oh and were my brownie recipes useful?

 

[horseypants]

still searching back! yay for p-diddy. what a trippy dream!

 

[Storked]

storkey storked, did you get your dinner out? why's thailand depressing?

Yep I am going to get my dinner out! WOOHOO!
I am just depressed at the thought of not getting knocked up until I live there and he has decent hours. I must quit being a titty baby.
How are you love?

 

[horseypants]

xoxoxo missed you

i'm being ridiculous and want to buy a chanel purse but havent any money. kind of a midlife crisis i think

THANK YOU for brownie recipe but ya i want the from scratch kind!

waiting for test results - they took a buncha blood on friday to do recurrent mc panel.

this weekend i took my mom to see the two churches im looking at getting married in - and we saw a nice reception spot. a really good day with my mom.

mmmm fried rice. where r u going out to?