ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Oh Jen I am so sorry your husband doesn't understand
There are some things that my husband gets angry about too. He was mad when I had the D&C- he said I imagined the extreme pain from my miscarriage and didn't need the D&C. They get very upset over things that they should be able to empathize over. So sorry sweetie

What are wrong with men sometimes. I swear they can say the most inappropriate things at the wrong time. I am sorry you had to go through that when you had the d&c. Maybe it was his frustration or grief speaking? I know I haven't mentioned much about my husband on here. Sometimes he is right behind me when I post messages. I will say this much. He was very supportive through the miscarriage, I think it helped that I was pretty far along, and he had to witnessed the birth of the baby, and I guess he was traumatized. But has never been very good through any of my pregnancies. When I was pregnant, he would never tolerate any mood swings or any irritabilities. He would actually think that I was using my pregnancies as an excuse to have mood swings. Actually during my pregnancies he has been the one with the most attitudes and mood swings, so I actually feel like I have had to tolerate him. He was also very cold at times, I would practically beg him for affection (he is not very affectionate by nature). But hey, a woman who is pregnant needs more attention.

 

[Storked]

Aaronswoman, you are so right about them being inappropriate at the worst time. I do think he spoke from a place of grief because normally he is nothing like that. When I do eventually carry a child to term, I am not sure that I want him to be around when Inguve birth. I think he just doesn't know what to do when I am in pain and turns pissy as a result

 

[jen435]

Oh bethany and arronswomen thank you! I love when you ladies speak of what you deal with it makea me feel as if im not alone and there are others that truely understand. Men seem to be all alike they love us but.we must be strong never in pain never sick and never sad... Its unrealistic though. Because of this im so glad we have eachother.

As for liam my son i actually had to terminate the pregnancy. I gave birth to a live baby that couldnt live on his own without my placenta for his blood supply. I wish there where cures for all birth defects.and ways to make vital organs for babys.like liam.

Dh lives like we never had him and im glad that im not the only one that has to live this way. You ladies sharing your stories feelings and emotions is truely a gift as it makes me feel like im not alone and i can handle what life brings to the table good and bad. its a blessing to have you ladies!

Dh left me and went back to his sil i hope he comes home happy. Makes me look like an idiot to his fam bc he drove me home and drove right back down there after calling me lame. Whatever house is quiet and i have my puppy dog. Headache is gone also. Amen to that.

Laura hope your okay and the tea helped you a little

 

[jen435]

So went to cvs all set for baby making this week softcups and new preseed i hated buying new preseed bc of price but mines old (like 8monthes) so ph isnt good anymore. I used a new tube the montg i concieved so its bringing me hope! Time to go checkout these softcups yay!

 

[Storked]

Hi Jen! All those TTC purchases get us so excited don't they? I have used quite a bit of my pre-seed..I squirt some into the softcups before I insert them. Extra help

As for your DH- you are not alone. I think that even if I was as far along as you that my husband would have been the exact same as yours. He tends to ignore the subject of last pregnancy but he did admit that yes, we had a baby and that no he doesn't ever want to discuss it because it makes him sad. That admission was enough for me.
I do wish your spouse was more understanding in regards to family and the thoughtless crap that they spout (my niece just had a baby and kept trying to tell me how to parent as well) but they just don't keep the loss as close to the surface as we do. They didn't experience the miscarriage...they witnessed it. Jen. It WILL get better soon! Our rainbows are coming

 

[jen435]

Yes they do! and yes our rainbow babies are coming softcups are easy to use yay!!! So glad you told me about em. what type of prenatal vits do you ladies use? I use centrum prenatal vits.

Ur and my dh are alike in that way! Im sorry he can be that way too but glad he acknowledged ur baby.



This weekend flew by! I love having off! Feel like decorating the house for fall now think its too early?

 

[Storked]

Never too early to decorate for fall! I can't wait for Halloween
Our husbands grieve in their own ways. Wish they grieved more like us though! Oh well.
So glad you liked the softcups! I am a pretty big fan myself I have been using the Nature Made with DHA. And a low-dose aspirin and a calcium chew (that tastes terrible).
Do you have off tomorrow too? I know I should go to bed early but I have too much fun staying up watching movies!

Amy and horseypants, where have you girls run off to?

 

[lilesMom]

I work part time because of.getting worn out. Laura what do u do? I assumed your a nurse at a hospital? I hope your better docs are there and you can get whats best for you. Hugs just want u better. Happy birthday!! Hope db cuddles you lots and nurses you back to health with love. Hope u get a strong med that works for good this.time

yes i hear u can wear em amd dtd with no problem. Think ill try it. I have a tilted cervix though so got to call ob just to see what they think.

Went to nephews football game it rained whole time. I hope i dont get sick im cold and drenched no one told me to bring chair blanket umbrella and it was nice qhen we left. All well. Cant complain. Im good otherwise

im not a nurse babe , i work in the catering, i went there for a summer during college and the money suckered me in and i didnt do back to college. im itching to be out of there, the place does me no good, im around chemicals all the time and i shouldnt be . my better doc is there, i go to see her at 2.45 today. i have wrote a page of the things wrong with me, it fills an A4 page, she is gonna love me i always forget things when i go to doc and wind up coming out goin why didnt i say this and that. im better in writing than with words anyway esp with mushy brain
its not my bday till thurs, hope i feel much better by then, i have slept a day and a half and am starting to feel better

i have titled uterus too, the video said that most people with it can use um but some not suitable and ask ur doc if unsure. u could just try it and wear pad too in case of leakage for first bit. they seem to think leakage be the only problem maybe with tilted uterus but then again they were advertising um

oh no on the rain, i feel ur pain, it always raining here

 

[lilesMom]

big hugs to all my girls. ditto on the wishing they grieved like us. had a bit of a crying feeling sorry for myself jag yest, OH came home saw me crying and went to bottle his home brew, it made me cry all the more. he didnt even have to say anything, just hug me while i cry for a while would have been nice.
he waited till i was done crying , after a few hrs when it was safe he came to hug me but was grinning at me like i was a silly child to be crying !!! argh !!
i know i get it, men dont like weakness, sickness r crying but its not my fault, i think im more fed up of my being sick than him somehow ok rant over, i gotta get a grip, i am actually in a bit beter form today, just remembering making me mad
we will get there girls, god im goin hug my baby like all the time, im not gonna have time to do anything else

jen big hugs hon, i know how u feel onthe umcommuncative OH front but i love him to bits. mine does that thing with family too, if im too sick r shitty to visit um he tells me i hate his family, which i dont


bethany mine is the same with pain r sickness, i better not complain ever cos im just being a big baby

aaronswoman we def need more attention when preggers xx which we will be in the not too distant future

was wondering the same about amy and horseypants, v unusual absence , we miss ye xxxxx

halloween isnt huge in ireland really, only if u have kids ( i dont mean that in a sad way, im better today )

 

[jen435]

Laura i never knew catering had so many chemicals im so sorry. Just windering did u have ur iron levels checked?? I know it can cause liver problems and serious illness. Could be from water supply etc. Please ask your doctor to have that checked.

 

[jen435]

Okay i hope you see that before your appointment. Fxd for you hoping you good news for work bloodwork and a way to get health. I worry for you. Cranberries should be helpful to your liver also. Hugs just want you healthy. You deserve your LO and to be honest as much as i want my own now id rather you healthy and get yours first. Makes me sad how your suffering. Glad your in a better mood today and feelin a lil better. Im sorry for db not comforting you when you needed him most. Men just arent affectionate in those situations. Glad he came to you later though. Many hugs to you.

Bethany yes your right fall decor is coming out!

 

[lilesMom]

Laura i never knew catering had so many chemicals im so sorry. Just windering did u have ur iron levels checked?? I know it can cause liver problems and serious illness. Could be from water supply etc. Please ask your doctor to have that checked.

hey babe, i have problem with all chemicals even every day ordinary chemicals i can only use one type of shampoo and cond, if i deviate i have trouble, the only thing i dont have much trouble with is washing up liquid. we have endless amounts of different chemicals for cleaning in the hosp, i dont cook the food i serve it and clean up after i cant use any of um but i also cant even smell them , otherwise i hve problems.

went to doc and she said infection not in sample but that happened last time too, she sent sample off to d lab to make sure. . she gave me prescription in case it shows up in the lab.
they had to take another blood sample she reckons they lost the other one too, cos they have heard nothing more from dublin, dumb asses.
she faxed off letter to get private liver U/s, so should be soon. within day r 2
she reckons maybe it just feels like kidney infect, that sometimes u can be sensitive after infection for a while. she thiks maybe my liver causing it all.
or all coming from same cause. ive started to get numb limbs and pins and needles now too for last while, its weird.
i had iron checked good bit ago few times and its fine. my copper levels r raised a bit alright though. thanks jen. xxx
i got my letter for gynae scan too , 26th sep, not too long more

 

[lilesMom]

thansk jen ur a sweetie, i cant wait for ur bfp xxxxxxx

 

[jen435]

Grr dublin makes me angry i hope you have anwsers soon. I understand chemical allergies hugs. Did your doctor agree to you workin pt? I hope your better soon.

 

[lilesMom]

i didnt even ask yet, i always forget stuff when i go to doc, il see how scan goes now for liver and what they say then, im off till mon now anyway and if im not better im not goin back, i keep goin back half sick and then im surprised when i go down hill again where is every1 , this thread gone v quiet not like us
how r u jen? xx

 

[jen435]

Im good! Cd 10 nothing exciting here taking the relaxed natural approach this cycle.

I noticed that. Perhaps the holiday weekend? I hope everyones okay.

 

[jen435]

Fxd for good news laura! Praying for you!

 

[Storked]

Laura, I always forget to say things to the doctor too. And I want to live in rainy Ireland
Yeah Laura men just don't know how to react to tears or any other adverse emotion. They want smiling Barbie all the time lol.
Halloween is big in my house! I am going to dress up as a witch, make tasty snack food and pig out to scary movies. YES! Like the Lady in Black- that movie scared the heck out of me! :0
KUP on everything! Prayers from me too hon

Hi Jen! I was silent because DH and I stayed up way too late and just recently woke up

 

[mommylov]

Hi Ladies!! Wow, I missed a lot! lol I hope everyone had a great long weekend and hope youre doing ok Laura xoxo

I know Im sooo late but Serendipity, welcome hun. So sorry for your loss but glad you found us

Horseypants, how are ya??

Bethany & Jen, how are you girls?? Youre right, Ive been busy with it being a long weekend. My best friend came up with her daughter for the weekend so Ive been spending time with them. Her daughter is 8 and quite the handful! Went swiming and walking and talked and had a blackout last night lol. All in all it was a fun weekend. How are you gals doing? I still dont know what you guys are talking about with regards to the cups but I think I am going to look into it... sounds interesting heheh!

Laura, I cant believe another set of results lost... grrr Dublin!!! How are you feeling?? I really really really wish we could do something to get you better. Sending you lots of well wishes, hugs, and love!!

Aaronswoman, how are you dear?

CD4 here.. the past few days were rough . This first cycle after my D&C was heavier and "crampier" than I expected but I think its starting to lighten up now thank goodness. I was bleeding so heavy, for a minute I thought it would never end . My cycles are usually not this long. They havent been since I was in high school. Nowadays, I usually only go for 5 days max and Im at CD4 and still going with no brown yet (sorry for TMI ) I normally use tampons and since this was the first af since D&C I decided not to and go with pads so its been more uncomfortable than normal. DH and I are ready to start trying once this witch goes away. According to my cycles page, next week is all green and last time we started trying a few days before the green days and I got pg right away so hoping that af is gone and we get our HEALTHY bfp just as fast. FX

For a while there, I felt like I was logging on at the wrong time of day sicne I didnt really see you guys on as often during the day.. or thought I scared you all with my blabbing... so sorry if I did

If I missed anyone, Im so sorry

Hope you ladies are doing well and lots of love and hugs to you all!!!

 

[Storked]

Hallo Amy! Good to hear from you honey- be sure to google "softcups"
And don't feel like you talked too much- all of you ladies are a ray of sunshine during my day and I love reading what all of you have to say. Just takes me a while to reply sometimes
Amy! This will be your lucky cycle- all that flow I will take to mean a good lining for a baby!