ttc after a d&c

[mommylov]

Grrr Jen... They should have a law that allows you to throw a shoe at someones head when they make stupid comments like that!

I live in northern Colorado, near Fort Collins.

 

[mommylov]

Sometimes I want to tell these people "Ya, I was only 8wks along... ya, I didnt give birth....ya, I dont have my child here living here with me but you know what... I had a life in me. My husband and I bonded with our child we saw in our ultrasounds. We grew even closer as we saw our baby's little heart flicker on the screen. I dont wish the kind of pain we felt when we walked into the drs office, saw our lifeless child on the same us screen we saw a little heart beating just 2 weeks prior taken away from us along with a piece of our heart on my worse enemy . So before you make a comment, think twice. Now knowing this, if you make that kind of a comment to me again, dont be surprised when you get a shoe thrown at you! " Thats what I would want to tell them! lol

Im really not a violent person at all lol but these people that are so cold towards us make me sick. Before I had gone through this and knew what it was like, a good childhood friend of mine went through it and my heart just sank and fell heavy for her and her husband . So yes Bethany, to me it is common sense and unfort, too many people lack it.

 

[jen435]

Hugs amy its just so sad how we had to go through losing a child and how ppl are so heartless and dont think we experienced a part of motherhood

 

[jen435]

Hugs amy its just so sad how we had to go through losing a child and how ppl are so heartless and dont think we experienced motherhood but in all honest we experiences the worse part losing a child. We may have not gotten to be parent to them but we were a mother. Hugs we will have our on earth babys and get.to tell.them all about.their older sibling. I have all the anatomy us scans filled up a book even have is.lil private are sticking up him patting his head his lil feet and legs.when he was.kicking his umbilical cord area his face pic and a side veiw of his.lil nose and lip area incredibly cute and of his lil.heart and spine. I cant wait.to share it with liams lil bro or sis. To us he will remain so alive in our hearts and we will.celebrate.him and visit his grave (well were we had his remains placed in the memorial.garden since he.was cremated) but to me it wouldnt be right to ignore the fact.that we was our son and if others want to say.we are crazy to call ourselves a.mom they are selfish.and heartless. And amy your right id never wish.this on anyone.

Bethany and amy i hope your okay

 

[jen435]

Oh cool! I have a friend in colorado she goes to vet school out there!

 

[mommylov]

Thanks Jen and to you and Bethany and Laura and everyone else that has to go through this. I guess a part of dealing with this is also dealing with people and thier lack of thoughtfulness and common sense .

 

[jen435]

Well worded.

Im having some odd acidic kinda burning feeling in my lower stomach... Im 9dpo today i believe and its been going on for a few days on and off. No cramps though. Anyone ever experience this?

 

[Storked]

I'm totally useless Jen- never had symptoms until 7 weeks. Then it all beat the heck out of me. Can't wait hehe. It sounds so promising Jen!
I am doing ok and yes, what we experienced was terrible. And losing the first...will we ever be confident in a pregnancy again? I don't. I think I will share any BFP news on here but I belong to another forum that has a TTC side board and I don't think I will mention pregnancy when it happens. I don't feel understood. The women on there just complain when they are pregnant and ask heartless questions like "is it worth it? I'm so sick I could die" type stuff. I have no patience or kindness left in me for that.

 

[jen435]

Aww bethany thats terrible im so sorry you have read that on that thread brings tears to my eyes. I hardly ever complained about my symptoms the first time around now other then to compare symptoms i dont feel the right to.ever complain.its such a blessing to begin with. Im glad you feel comfortable here

 

[Storked]

Jen, me too! I will happily suffer any and every discomfort for a healthy baby. No complaints ever. Children are a blessing. I love you ladies and hope you all find comfort here too. I do feel confident that soon we will all be pregnant and happy together

 

[Storked]

And yes Jen, when I read those comments...I have to walk away. I should know better than to read pregnancy boards anyways but still, how can they say things like that?

 

[mommylov]

I agree!! It will be great and can't wait!! I've never have any burning like that but I agree with Bethany. I think it's a great sign! Hugs to gals!

 

[mommylov]

I'm happy for anyone that is going to be blessed with a child. Even though it's hard to hear them talk about, it's different with you girls. Not saying that we deserve it more but knowing what we have been through I would be so excited for the bfp's in here!! :smile:

 

[jen435]

Same here! Even if I'm the last one to get my bfp I'd be thrilled to see you lovely ladies have a baby bump!

Not sure if my stomach burnings a good thing but my (.)(.) Feel like they usually do before af tonight so I'm not holding my breath I just hope if im I'm not PG I don't have to wait sooo long again for af. I'll consider it a present to start over again.

 

[Storked]

It would be awesome if we all got BFPs at the same time hehe
A girl can dream right?
Jen, just remember that those pesky symptoms for AF can also be pregnancy symptoms

 

[jen435]

True sorry promised myself not to obsess I'm just getting discouraged and the burning is throwing me way off. It would be sooo cool to have bfps all at the same time within the same month or so

Bethany your kitty is soooo cute!!!! Amy I don't think we are fb friends yet. Laura arronswomen and horseypants how are you?

 

[mommylov]

Added you Jen! Yes Bethany, sooo cute!!

 

[mommylov]

That would be awesome!!!!

 

[horseypants]

jen, so glad we're friends all over the internet now.

i'm driving myself NUTS! 6 or 7 dpo and couldnt help myself today. tested and bfn of course. i know i'll give in again tomorrow and be so sad if it's not positive. i keep going back on forth about whether my chances are good this cycle, but like I said before, it's gotta be this one or the next one and then the fun part starts: the wobbles.

i have some nasty jealousies ladies. they're not pretty and it turns my stomach to even talk about 'em. ugh what the hell. someone on my facebook posted the most amazing maternity photographs. they are insanely beautiful. oh and im horribly jealous over my little sister's best friend and her whole life. this started of course when after getting married, she got pg first try and my sister and mom and participated in all the perfect little family stuff for them - meanwhile, i doubt myself and whether anything i've ever wanted in my life is actually meant to be.

anyway, rubbish.

haha. work sucks.

how are you, lilesmum? (hopefully resting) xo

 

[mommylov]

Awwww horsey, that's understandable. We just got stay positive!!!! Don't stress yourself out cause that certainly won't help you Hun. I know it's going to happen for ya... It will! And it will be perfect!!! Hugs!!!!