ttc after a d&c

[TTCSecrets]

He treats me like im some obsessed person, like those people you see who are so obsessed with getting a million pound they frustrate everyone around them, i feel like everything i am doing to try and conceive is just frustrating him, i still feel it was my fault i lost our baby, his baby, i know in my mind it wasnt my fault, but then i think, i shouldnt have had that paracetamol that time, i shouldnt have had that bath, i shouldnt have had the music loud in my car, i shouldnt have had a sip of that wine to taste that my mum made all by herself, i shouldnt have gone to work so stressed, i shouldnt have eaten eggy bread.. There are so many things i should/shouldnt have done, i just feel like the only thing i can do is try and control everything this time round , yet i feel like i cant even talk to him about my cycle because he gets that pitiful look in his eye as if to say Aww shes at it again... I know he wants a baby too but its like, wlel who wants it more here :S I am so upset, i feel so selfish with what u are all going through, but i am actually so upset (( xxxx

 

[mommylov]

As much as our hubby's hurt with us, in the end we are the ones who physically go through everything. It's only natural for us to be a bit more emotionally invested in this. Since we are impacted more, it comes off as if we want it more but in reality it's jus hard for them to relate to certain things. That's where I think you ladies come in. As wonderful as our men can be, sometimes you just need more support and I feel like that's what brought us all here. Don't feel selfish, that's exactly what we do here. We support and you will make it through this with a lo Tash. We will get through this together.

 

[Storked]

Dropping by to wish everyone a happy holiday! I have my turkey roasting in the oven and feel fairly peaceful.

How are all of you sweet ladies?
I miss you guys.

 

[TTCSecrets]

Thanks so much amy xxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

Bethany we miss you xxx

 

[Storked]

Miss you guys too Natasha

 

[lilesMom]

hi bethany,happy turkey day, yummy , turkey is my fave xxxxxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

Okay I'm definitely not sure what's happening , gonna have to buy some opk ... Just had a massive amount of ewcm ... Like not being gross but it looked gross :/ I have no idea what is happening xxx

 

[Storked]

Natasha, EWCM isn't gross hehe. Tell us what the OPKs say!

Laura, I have already eaten so much turkey this morning that I feel very over it hehe

I am about to pass out! I stayed up all night baking and reading and still have a few things left to cook. But they can wait LOVE YOU GUYS!

 

[mommylov]

Hi Bethany!! Hi girls! Happy thanksgiving!

 

[TTCSecrets]

i actually forgot to buy opks on way home Hmm.. Do i.. or dont i.. its just i kind of begrudge buying them because the cheapest they are in the shops are 7 opks for £7 at asda, whereas i can get like 50 for that off ebay ic's... I think i might forget it this month and just bd when i feel like it and order more next month you know xxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

So me and Chris had a long chat when i got home from work, and we kind of mutually decided * with quite a bit of anxiety and hesitation on my part* that when AF turns up in December, be it start or middle, that i need to have a month off the temping and the opking and the forum We kind of laid it all out on the table, and he said that he can see it running through my mind all the time, and he says he just wants me to enjoy christmas, and not to have to wake up at stupid o clock at the weekends to take my temperature, which i can understand, i dont really want to get up at 7 a.m all over christmas to take my temp, i want to wake up when i feel chris sturring and have a kiss and a cuddle,not wake up on christmas day and stick that thermometer in my mouth before i even tell him i love him...

And plus, i told him i had at least wanted to knowingly be pregnant on christmas day, as its too heartbreaking to think that i should be 7 months gone at christmas... And at least if i act like im not *trying* over christmas, it will be less dissapointing if i dont catch..

I did talk about still coming on here, and he said something along these lines...

" I know those girls are the best thing to happen to you since this all happened, and i know youd be alot worse if you didnt have them, but if you use it you will still be symptom spotting etc and i think if you are going to have a break for a month, it means a break, its only a month and you know they will be there when you go back on*

So girls it looks like unless i catch between now and middle of december, i will be spending christmas without you guys I will obviously check in and stuff, but just letting you all know really, i kind of feel a bit anxious that i wont have you guys for support, but i know you will be here for me when christmas is done with. Im not going yet obviously lol! Gotta wait for af to turn up first

But yeah It will hurt but hopefully you will all still be here when i come back after christmas...

Like i say im not going anywhere yet , just wanted to update you girls, at least i feel like for the first time me and dh are on the same page.. How are all u ladies? Sorry fo the long post xxxxxxxxx

 

[jen435]

Hey ladies! Im sorry for a short messagr but i cant keep myself together yet. I hope everyones doing okay. Wanted to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving!!

 

[TTCSecrets]

Hey Jen u too happy thanksgiving! xx

 

[lilesMom]

hi guys i just came on to tell ye all is well thank god, had my scan today and bub has grown like mad and things r fine. they put my dates exact same as mine to the day
il catch up tomor , im just too wrecked to now xxxxxxxxx
love to all xxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

oh and happy thanks giiving xxxxxxxxx

 

[TTCSecrets]

Laura so glad that the scan went well, so happy for you xxx

 

[jen435]

Laura im so so happy for you!! Its amazing how bubs grows all oddly til second trimester. Its like baby needs timr to catch up with everything thats formin. So glad u have peace of mind.

Natasha im so sorry u are having a hard time sweety. We want u to enjoy the holidays and ur new pups. Your baby WILL come god only knows when but itll happen. We love you maybe relaxation is what u need a break from tempin n opk just may lead u to a bfp!

Angel enjoy bding ur baby will come!! Hope ur day is going well. Happy shopping!

Amy i hope ur okay love! U and dh! Praying ur bleeding stops 100% and u can try again soon with doctors care.

 

[Storked]

Amy, I hope you had a fabulous Thanksgiving!

Natasha, everyone will definitely still be here for you. Breaks are so hard but it may be the best thing for you, especially around the tough holidays. But we love you and support you no matter what!

Jen, Happy Thanksgiving!

Laura, didn't know anything was wrong but am so grateful that all is well. Love you honey

 

[jen435]

Laura im so so happy for you!! Its amazing how bubs grows all oddly til second trimester. Its like baby needs timr to catch up with everything thats formin. So glad u have peace of mind.

Natasha im so sorry u are having a hard time sweety. We want u to enjoy the holidays and ur new pups. Your baby WILL come god only knows when but itll happen. We love you maybe relaxation is what u need a break from tempin n opk just may lead u to a bfp!

Angel enjoy bding ur baby will come!! Hope ur day is going well. Happy shopping!

Amy i hope ur okay love! U and dh! Praying ur bleeding stops 100% and u can try again soon with doctors care.