TTC After A Loss... Race for the BFP! - 211 BFP's!!!

[Megg33k]

I lost my first in Dec 2009... growth stopped at ~5weeks and I didn't find out until my 10 week scan. I lost my second in May 2010... growth stopped at ~5weeks and I didn't find out until my 11 week scan! I've never grown anything with a heartbeat or even a fetal pole... just little empty sacs! I truly understand what you're feeling! I just wish I could make it better!

 

[aussiettc]

Hi girls sorry to bring the tread down a little but i have a question and i need some honest opinions.

So i've had 3 MC now but only 2 early ones in a row and the first MC was like 14 years ago but it was at about 14 weeks.
Anyway the doctors are not counting my first Mc cause it was so long ago. do you think i should take them at their word that it doesn't matter cause it was so long ago or should i ask for some testing??

 

[Megg33k]

Even if it doesn't matter, you should still have every right to be tested. And, better safe than sorry, IMO. Its not like there's any harm to be done in testing for no reason... So, I think you should definitely push for it! There could be something really simple to fix that would prevent the heartbreak of another loss... Or you could get the good news that there's really nothing to worry about! That's the way I look at it, at least!

 

[heather_dw]

What tests have they run so far?

 

[parkgirl]

I lost my first in March of 2007. I was only 6 weeks. I lost my last one on June 21st of this year and was a bit over 6 weeks then too. It happened at the same point both times. I'm soooooo bumming out today.

So sorry.

Hi girls sorry to bring the tread down a little but i have a question and i need some honest opinions.

So i've had 3 MC now but only 2 early ones in a row and the first MC was like 14 years ago but it was at about 14 weeks.
Anyway the doctors are not counting my first Mc cause it was so long ago. do you think i should take them at their word that it doesn't matter cause it was so long ago or should i ask for some testing??

A MC is a MC no matter how long ago it was. If you want testing, then you should get it.

 

[Megg33k]

Oh... uhm... copied from my journal:

CBC - including ESR
Iron, Ferritin, B12, B6
Vitamin D
TSH
FSH, LH, E2
lgE, lgA
Antinuclear antibodies
Cardiolipin antibodies
Prolactin
T3, T4
Total Testosterone
Free Testosterone
DHEAS
Androstenedione

They also did a full thyroid panel... and that tested even more stuff... but I keep forgetting to get a copy of my results to see what else was included

Those are all the tests that my GP seems to think she can order without being a specialist. I don't know if she's correct on that or not though. I assume she knows more than I do about it!

 

[heather_dw]

wow, they've done a lot. More than they did for mine (although I've only had two). My specialist said that if I have three, they can bring hubby and I in and do more DNA testing, but insurance won't cover until I have three. You've HAD three, so I'm not sure why they want to wait. If they were the ones dealing with the m/c, they wouldn't be wanting to wait.

In other news, I'm thinking about making baby hats again. Since about February, I've been knitting little hats for the hospital's NICU. Tiny preemie hats all the way up to fullterm sizes. I think I have at least 30. I just haven't been able to do it since the last M/C, but I think I'm getting closer. Part of me wants to do it, but there's still something holding me back. In our family, I always am the one knitting things for people having babies. I get kinda sad because it's always for someone else and never for a baby of my own.

 

[Megg33k]

wow, they've done a lot. More than they did for mine (although I've only had two). My specialist said that if I have three, they can bring hubby and I in and do more DNA testing, but insurance won't cover until I have three. You've HAD three, so I'm not sure why they want to wait. If they were the ones dealing with the m/c, they wouldn't be wanting to wait.

In other news, I'm thinking about making baby hats again. Since about February, I've been knitting little hats for the hospital's NICU. Tiny preemie hats all the way up to fullterm sizes. I think I have at least 30. I just haven't been able to do it since the last M/C, but I think I'm getting closer. Part of me wants to do it, but there's still something holding me back. In our family, I always am the one knitting things for people having babies. I get kinda sad because it's always for someone else and never for a baby of my own.

No I haven't! LOL I've just had the 2... Dec 2009 and May 2010! No others, thank goodness!

The hats sound very cool! I'd love to see pics!!! You'll be making things for your own baby soon!

 

[Tulip]

Mary, if you were in the UK they wouldn't count your first mc towards testing eligibility - not because it was 14 years ago but because you've had successful pregnancies since then. Not sure how it works over there so push for it if you can xx

 

[aussiettc]

tthanks girls for you opinions it helps sort some stuff out for me. I had abad day today. i went to my bible studies group and there was a one week old baby there. I couldn't cope very well, i cried but everyone was really supportive and helpfull so it was lovely. Other things didn't go well either cause DH and i had an argument

 

[debgreasby]

huge hunni, hope tomorrow is a better day x

 

[Megg33k]

OMG! Love the new siggy, Deb!

 

[Vickieh1981]

tthanks girls for you opinions it helps sort some stuff out for me. I had abad day today. i went to my bible studies group and there was a one week old baby there. I couldn't cope very well, i cried but everyone was really supportive and helpfull so it was lovely. Other things didn't go well either cause DH and i had an argument

I'm sorry hun. That must have been horrible. I didn;t know you were a Christian. That's lovely.

Deb - also loving the new ticker. xx

 

[Vickieh1981]

I blame Debs. I went and got a ticker. I hope it doesn't jinx bubba

 

[debgreasby]

Lol, Vickie - that's it, blame me!

I'm gonna try and enjoy this, because if it all goes horribly wrong, i want to look back and have happy memories.

 

[Megg33k]

I blame Debs. I went and got a ticker. I hope it doesn't jinx bubba

No such thing as jinxing with a ticker, I promise! Its not possible!

 

[Megg33k]

Lol, Vickie - that's it, blame me!

I'm gonna try and enjoy this, because if it all goes horribly wrong, i want to look back and have happy memories.

That's the spirit!!! Good for you!!!

 

[dawny690]

Love the tickers deb and Vickie xxxx

 

[TripleB]

A Ticker at last Vick - (good influence Deb!).

Dawny I missed the arrival of AF for you and see you're onto a new cycle on your chart - hoping for a sticky BFP for you very soon!

xxx

 

[dawny690]

A Ticker at last Vick - (good influence Deb!).

Dawny I missed the arrival of AF for you and see you're onto a new cycle on your chart - hoping for a sticky BFP for you very soon!

xxx

Thanks louise babe how are you doing? I had to take provera to bring af on but am relieved its here so I can get it over with just hope she doesn't last too long so we can get back to temping and more importanily (sp) lmao xxxx