TTC After A Loss... Race for the BFP! - 211 BFP's!!!

[svetayasofiya]

Megg, I just read the first post in your journal and I suggest you do the same to regain your belief! You can not give up, it's way too early to give up. It's only been two cycles since your last mc. Please please please don't give up.


Hugs to all those new losses and congrats to the new BFP's. *I am a hardcore stalker of this thread. xo

 

[Megg33k]

It tastes months to get in with a new gyne here... and I can't just decide to go to the fertility clinic. I need a referral... and the one that I'm supposed to be referred to wants to see post-O progesterone results first. Well, that's difficult if my results keep showing no ovulation. I don't know what I'm meant to do now. I feel helpless, and that's not a place I like to be. If I try to talk to my doctor right now, I'm just going to cry. I don't want to cry in front of her... not again.

 

[Lucy1973]

I am so sorry Megg. Please don't give up. You need to find a different doc, get a 2nd opinion, sometimes doctors can be crap, and although it is bad, sometimes they only take you seriously if you cry!

You got pregnant before, so there has got to be hope!

No-one warned us it would be this hard

 

[svetayasofiya]

No-one warned us it would be this hard

Isn't that the truth???

 

[x-amy-x]

meg x

Im hoping to get some preconception advice off my old consultant as a second opinion but i have no idea how to contact him! xx

 

[dawny690]

Congrats parkgirl
Amy have you not got a phone number for him or ring where he works and ask for him? xxxx

 

[impatient1]

Oh Megg please don't give up. You need to fight, you are so strong and I know you have it in you because this is what you want more than anything. Fight for a second opinion, is there another fertility specialist you could see?

 

[bbhopes]

sometimes we all need to take a step back for a while, I can relate, so Meggs if you need to by all means DO, but please don't stay away long, and know we are here to chat and listen and talk anytime you need us! For goodness sakes you've certainly been here for us more than a million times!! If you want a second opinion or want a new dr, go for it! I will be doing the same myself here shortly. Big Big Big hugs.

 

[Megg33k]

There's not really another FS I can see... not easily. I have to be referred... and the one I was being referred to wants to know exactly what we're dealing with first before accepting me as a patient. In other words, if its an LP defect, they don't have time to mess with me... my doc can handle that. But, my progesterone tests are suggesting no ovulation... even though I'm having a VERY tough time believing that my chart is wrong. I have 2 theories... but they could both be rubbish.

1. My ovulation was very weak (I didn't feel it this time) and my levels fell off too quickly.

2. My ovulation day was really on CD25 like FF kind of wanted to say it was... So, by the time I got the test done, I was really 10dpo and my level had already dropped off too much to be accurate.

Of course, I could be fooling myself because I want to believe. I'm not sure what I'm doing yet. I'm thinking of straight up telling my doctor that I don't understand the result and taking her my chart with both possible O dates, then asking for Femara/Letrozole and progesterone supplements for after ovulation. All she can say is no.

 

[vickyd]

Megg after my second loss when i was sure i wasnt ovulating i went in for us from CD12 till CD 16 to see if im ovulating or not. This was at my doc's request without me showing him any temping charts or progesterone tests.
Surely you can go in for US determination of ovulation, since your cycle is making it difficult for you to go for progesterone tests....

 

[Megg33k]

I asked about that before, and being a GP she said she can only order U/S for pain or abnormal bleeding. I have neither and she's probably not willing to lie.

 

[Amos2009]

Sis- I definitely think you go in armed with your chart and see what she says. I just don't get the raised temps if you didn't ovulate. I feel like I want an answer too!!!
ATM- I am 7 DPO with no real symptoms but yet I am working myself up like I am pregnant. So I know when I see that BFN it will devastate me. Although waiting a few more cycles would make my docs happy!!

 

[EpdTTC]

Megg-

I would be so frustrated too. I don't know what your insurance dictates or how many RE's you have in your area, but when I decided to go to RE, I just went. I called up and made an appointment. Even if you need a referral, I would certainly think that two miscarriages and now a progesterone test suggesting no ovulation would be enough evidence to warrant a referral to an RE. My RE is pretty aggressive, did lots of tests, gave progesterone without asking, etc. I am in Ohio. I would like to believe that there are other good RE's in IL that would be aggressive and have a good track record. There is help out there. You may have to be a big time squeaky wheel in order to get it (and I know that can be exhausting!) but I do believe there is someone out there who can and will help you find answers. You deserve this, please don't give up.
Erin

 

[Megg33k]

Sis- I definitely think you go in armed with your chart and see what she says. I just don't get the raised temps if you didn't ovulate. I feel like I want an answer too!!!
ATM- I am 7 DPO with no real symptoms but yet I am working myself up like I am pregnant. So I know when I see that BFN it will devastate me. Although waiting a few more cycles would make my docs happy!!

Definitely going in armed with charts. I'll find out what I can today.

Hoping you get your BFP this cycle... even if the docs do want you to wait longer!

Megg-

I would be so frustrated too. I don't know what your insurance dictates or how many RE's you have in your area, but when I decided to go to RE, I just went. I called up and made an appointment. Even if you need a referral, I would certainly think that two miscarriages and now a progesterone test suggesting no ovulation would be enough evidence to warrant a referral to an RE. My RE is pretty aggressive, did lots of tests, gave progesterone without asking, etc. I am in Ohio. I would like to believe that there are other good RE's in IL that would be aggressive and have a good track record. There is help out there. You may have to be a big time squeaky wheel in order to get it (and I know that can be exhausting!) but I do believe there is someone out there who can and will help you find answers. You deserve this, please don't give up.
Erin

The problem is that there are only 2 near by. One is someone I've already been to and despise. The other is the one that she was trying to refer me to, but seems to not be going so well. However, the one I hate is leaving soon and will be replaced in mid-September. So, I can call to be transitioned to the new guy once that time comes. But, I can't really progress there until the new guy is instated, obviously. There are tons of good RE's in IL... but they're a couple of hours away in one direction or another. So, I'm trying desperately to avoid that sort of commute. If I have to, I guess I will though!

 

[EpdTTC]

I commuted two hours to my RE for six months. I moved this summer and now I am only 20 minutes away, but sometimes the commute is definitely worth it to go to someone good!

 

[padbrat]

Hiya all.... been Awol in Florida! Yay!

So... we are over 100 now? That is amazing! Congrats to all the lovely bfp's... esp Deb G! Well done chick!!!

Biz... how did the IVF scan go hun?

Meggy Moo... looks like you need a visit from the PMA Dump truck hun... but I am not as clever as you so you will have to have a virtual hug from across the pond! There... do you feel better now?

Amos you gorgeous golden sassy winer... how you doing chickadee??? Still rocking in the boat? lol

 

[SunShyn2205]

So Sorry Megg, I Definitely would not be afraid to ask for what you want (femara/ letrozole or any other meds you feel will help) they have to consider it, just ask if she would be willing to let you try it out for 3 cycles... fxd you get some answers!

 

[Tasha]

Hey Megg, my thing says 7+1 with July being my latest angel which is what I told you when I started bleeding after we found out that my HCG was not increasing enough and the size of sac wasnt big enough, well I still havent miscarried yet dunno what you want to do with my details?

 

[Amos2009]

Hey Padbrat!!! How was your trip?? Where in Florida did you go? Why did you not wave to me over here in Alabama? LOL I am still here....getting ready to test this weekend even though I know I'm not pregnant. You know me- just like to waste money HAHAHAHA

 

[Megg33k]

Thanks, girls! Planning my walk-in a bit later tonight...

Hey Megg, my thing says 7+1 with July being my latest angel which is what I told you when I started bleeding after we found out that my HCG was not increasing enough and the size of sac wasnt big enough, well I still havent miscarried yet dunno what you want to do with my details?

Uhm... That is tricky! I glad to hear you haven't actually MC'd. Have they checked you out anymore? When will you know? Would you like me to temporarily remove you from the list until we know what's up? Its up to you. I'll handle it however you like!