TTC After A Loss... Race for the BFP! - 211 BFP's!!!

[MissMaternal]

I can't believe the receptionist said that! While we're on the topic of stupid things people say, one of my closest friends said to me after my second loss something along the lines of "if it turns out you can't carry a baby to term, i would be your surrogate" and i was left thinking "ok, don't rule me out just yet, thanks..."

Lol!

 

[Megg33k]

OMG! Why do people say that sort of shit?

Off topic here you looking forward to tomorrow? And I agree some people need to keep their mouths shut at times like that sounds like something my adopted dad said when I had a miscarriage a few yrs ago he came out wit oh well its a good job you lost it as you cant afford it he didnt like it when I said a baby needs loove aswell you know you cant buy love or a baby and thats why I hate him xxxx

That's awful, Dawn!

Yes, I'm looking quite forward to it! Only about 25 hours to go now!

I can't believe the receptionist said that! While we're on the topic of stupid things people say, one of my closest friends said to me after my second loss something along the lines of "if it turns out you can't carry a baby to term, i would be your surrogate" and i was left thinking "ok, don't rule me out just yet, thanks..."

Lol!

I've had more than 1 person offer... and I know they mean well... but it always breaks my heart. I don't want people assuming that I'll need a GD surrogate, thanks! I do try to remember that its an incredibly kind offer though... but a bit misguided sometimes.

 

[ovenbun]

brilliant! I havn't had the surrogate offer yet but can't wait thats completly ignorant I always get really angery when people say i have infertility - I have been pregant 3 times i'm not infertilie, i am not meaning to offend any one is isn't able to concieve it is just the ignorance people express.
It's so differcult not to get stressed with all of these comments which we know has such a negative effect on TTC trying to create a sence of calm is almost impossible for me- I love some tips on managing this if any of you loverly ladies has any. Im having a real difffercult one at the moment i've been off work for a while and my collegules are convinced I have depression and I don't but I have been upset on occasion in the workplace which has lead them to this conclusion I feel really angery they have come to this conclusion, im due to go back soon and i feel i will have to convince them i am not (very bad for stress levels). I am allowed to grieve.

 

[padbrat]

I am back at work on Monday... I normally have a month off after I m/c, this time I am only having a week. I don't feel ready to return.... I am dreading it.

 

[Megg33k]

brilliant! I havn't had the surrogate offer yet but can't wait thats completly ignorant I always get really angery when people say i have infertility - I have been pregant 3 times i'm not infertilie, i am not meaning to offend any one is isn't able to concieve it is just the ignorance people express.
It's so differcult not to get stressed with all of these comments which we know has such a negative effect on TTC trying to create a sence of calm is almost impossible for me- I love some tips on managing this if any of you loverly ladies has any. Im having a real difffercult one at the moment i've been off work for a while and my collegules are convinced I have depression and I don't but I have been upset on occasion in the workplace which has lead them to this conclusion I feel really angery they have come to this conclusion, im due to go back soon and i feel i will have to convince them i am not (very bad for stress levels). I am allowed to grieve.

The only way to cope is to realize that there are morons everywhere and you can't control what they say and do. Just try to understand that they don't mean to be awful most of the time, and they're completely ignorant to what they should be saying. Yes, their words hurt or make you angry or whatever... but be "better" by not caring. Let it roll off your back because you KNOW they're not meaning to be cruel!

I am back at work on Monday... I normally have a month off after I m/c, this time I am only having a week. I don't feel ready to return.... I am dreading it.

Sending you love and strength, my love!

 

[ovenbun]

I am back at work on Monday... I normally have a month off after I m/c, this time I am only having a week. I don't feel ready to return.... I am dreading it.

Hi padbrat are you should go? only from my own experience I went back to work after a week from my 1st MC and 2nd and it didn't do me any favours although i was fine during work hours I was struggling to cope I ended up breaking down in the work place which is the worst thing cos now they all think im depressed. I'm not saying this to scare but if you don't feel ready then take some more time if you can will your Dr sign you off ??
I hope my comments havn't made you more scared it is not my intention - i'm back to work on Monday too and also dreading it so I know how you feel, although havn't had a MC this time just finding it very differcult- good luck.

 

[CJSG1977]

Miss Maternal I also had someone offer to be my surrogate. I think people genuinely believe thats a helpful thing to say, but for me I actually want to carry my child!

Pad should you be going back hun? Your recovery is not just important with regards to going back to work but for your own mental strength! And to be strong when you feel you can ttc again! I hope you are taking it easy and that they will support you.

Good advice Megg! They are not in your situation ovenbun and so have no idea. With 6 losses behind me I have heard some of the most ridiculous things. Even my sister goes round telling everyone I will never be a mother! And she lost custody of her son whom I am trying to get custody of and she says that she is giving me the chance to be a mum and I should be grateful for the gift!! WTF!!! People really are IDIOTS!

 

[CJSG1977]

I went for my scan yesterday. Got there nice and early and time it perfect for the fluids and needing to be desperate etc. So I walk in and sit down. My appointment wasnt for 35 mins and the women called me in cause the previous 2 ladies did not have full bladders. And I was like, you have no chance love. My appointment is 10 too, I'll be ready then LOL. So 3 of us sat there necking water and I went in first, 3 mins before my actual appt time! How accurate was I LOL!

I am pleased to say I do not have a hostile uterus!!! Everything was perfect. I was CD15 and she could only see one follie measuring 2cm. Not that means I ov either EARLY!!! Meaning to early in my opinion, or I am ovulating a lot later than I think!!! The U/S never said ought, this is just my presumption. But I am figuring that maybe it has something to do with me not producing enough eggs.... so that I get a good mature one??? Clomid would help with that right?? I should be back with my bitch face specialist soon I hope. I will chase next week. But I believe clomid is my next step.

I am so pleased that my scan went well. Even though I was certain it would be fine. I just hope that this will mean things moving along now. I am going to be strong with my bitch face FS cause last time she walked all over me and made me feel like crap!

I know I have missed a lot and I am trying to catch up. But I think of you all regularly and will try post back x

 

[ovenbun]

CJSG1977 OMG your sister what?
glad your scan went OK it's differcult not to wonder around what the results say I had a scan a few weeks ago and despite them telling me everthing is OK i still wonder about the fact I O late and AF is only 2 days to which my consultant says it fine.

 

[CJSG1977]

I know, my sister is not the most pleasant of people I am afraid.

I was so positive but now I am freaking that cause that was normal....what isnt then!!! And is my FS just going to say nothing wrong, keep try, it will happen. Cause if she does, I might scream!!!! I think it must have something to do with my LP or my body not producing enough follies / eggs and that they arent being matured. So that would be a FSH issue and CD24 came back as normal?? But it has to be done CD3 right?

 

[ovenbun]

I know, my sister is not the most pleasant of people I am afraid.

I was so positive but now I am freaking that cause that was normal....what isnt then!!! And is my FS just going to say nothing wrong, keep try, it will happen. Cause if she does, I might scream!!!! I think it must have something to do with my LP or my body not producing enough follies / eggs and that they arent being matured. So that would be a FSH issue and CD24 came back as normal?? But it has to be done CD3 right?

stay positive i'm just trying to trust in what the specilist say we have opposite proplems I O late giving me a short LP and I have too many follicles but no POCS. I was also concerned that my FSH was taken at the end of the mth I did point out to the Dr that the test wasn't day specific but he seamed to gloss over it. I am seeing a new consultant now at the RCM in London he seams to be saying the same as the previous one all i can do now is try and trust. maybe change FS if your not happy ?

 

[Megg33k]

Yes... FSH needs to be done on CD3. Glad your uterus isn't hostile though!

 

[ttcstill]

I think it's amazing the lack of tact some people have with the comments they make they don't realise the hurt it causes, when i returned to work after my 3rd MC my manager took me to one side and advised I start dealing with the fact I may never have children I mean really what a thing to say. Def not want i wanted to hear on in fact her place to say I appreciate not the same but !!!!!

I totally agree and it really sucks that people do not think before they speak. words are not something you can take back they should have at least figured that out by now.

 

[ttcstill]

I think it's amazing the lack of tact some people have with the comments they make they don't realise the hurt it causes, when i returned to work after my 3rd MC my manager took me to one side and advised I start dealing with the fact I may never have children I mean really what a thing to say. Def not want i wanted to hear on in fact her place to say I appreciate not the same but !!!!!

I totally agree and it really sucks that people do not think before they speak. words are not something you can take back they should have at least figured that out by now.

Where is gueyilla1985 I hope so got her BFP......

 

[MissMaternal]

Pad i really hope tomorrow goes ok for you. If you don't feel ready though please put yourself first and give it some more time xx

 

[gueyilla1985]

So no or af DAM!!!! but high temps and cramps..

 

[Ruskiegirl]

Your chart looks gorgeous hun ! FX for you

 

[bbhopes]

I also had a offer for sorogocy, but it was someone that offered my hubby and it really got my back up as I have nothing wrong with me, and to imply I do, really bothers me. Not to mention the obvious questions of why is she offering my hubby...and not me personally.

 

[gueyilla1985]

So this morning i got a oh well i guess im out my temp also dropped a bit not much but still

 

[CJSG1977]

Oh Gueyilla! Your not out till AF comes!! FX for you. x

ovenbun I think I will see what she is like on our next appt. If she is still rude I will request a different FS.

BB that is certainly very strange thing for that person to do. I think I would politely confront the rudeness of her suggestion!

I think I may have missed this cycle if I ov'd before CD14.... I BD CD10, CD16 and today CD17. DTD was uncomfortable yesterday which usually is the case around ov... so I am hoping my ov is today. Which would make my LP 13 days... which is long enough. FX thats the case.