VENT THREAD! Things you wish you could say but can't

[babymabey]

Five words: "Fifty Shades of Grey" Series. The backlash that that series is getting proves that people cannot stand to talk about sex. Instead of opening themselves up to something new, people who have not read it judge the people who have without knowing what the book is really about.

Don't feel slow for not understanding the "lingo" most of the time I have no idea what it means. One of the first things I figured out was that AF means Aunt Flo I was very proud of myself for figuring that out.

What backlash? It is quite popular around here for reasons I do not understand.

The subject matter is a little bit boring for someone who has been in the sub/dom lifestyle for 14 years, but whatever floats peoples' boats.

I guess not really backlash, just really negative views. I know here in the U.S. there are many groups getting together trying to get it banned from stores and libraries.

 

[Gunnhilde]

Five words: "Fifty Shades of Grey" Series. The backlash that that series is getting proves that people cannot stand to talk about sex. Instead of opening themselves up to something new, people who have not read it judge the people who have without knowing what the book is really about.

Don't feel slow for not understanding the "lingo" most of the time I have no idea what it means. One of the first things I figured out was that AF means Aunt Flo I was very proud of myself for figuring that out.

What backlash? It is quite popular around here for reasons I do not understand.

The subject matter is a little bit boring for someone who has been in the sub/dom lifestyle for 14 years, but whatever floats peoples' boats.

I guess not really backlash, just really negative views. I know here in the U.S. there are many groups getting together trying to get it banned from stores and libraries.

Actually I'm in CT for the moment and the local bookstore had a cocktail and book party to discuss it. I'm pretty sure I even saw it for sale at the local supermarket by the checkout lanes.

CT is a pretty liberal state though. Has there been a lot of dislike for it in Utah?

 

[LKPone]

Five words: "Fifty Shades of Grey" Series. The backlash that that series is getting proves that people cannot stand to talk about sex. Instead of opening themselves up to something new, people who have not read it judge the people who have without knowing what the book is really about.

Don't feel slow for not understanding the "lingo" most of the time I have no idea what it means. One of the first things I figured out was that AF means Aunt Flo I was very proud of myself for figuring that out.

What backlash? It is quite popular around here for reasons I do not understand.

The subject matter is a little bit boring for someone who has been in the sub/dom lifestyle for 14 years, but whatever floats peoples' boats.

Seriously?? You're only 25! That means you started living that lifestyle when you were 11! Or am I being completely blonde?

I haven't read the books - I've just heard that they aren't particularly well written and badly written books annoy the hell out of me! Here in the UK, they're available in all the supermarkets at reduced prices! But anecdotally, I have a funny story about them... my friend was reading the first book on the train and got to a raunchy part. She glanced over and the lady next to her was reading the bible!

 

[wellsk]

I'm from the UK and 50 Shades of Grey has been hugely popular here, and I've never heard about anyone trying to ban it over here.
That said, I'm very open sexually, but I couldn't read it. Not because of the sex scenes, more due to the fact it's poorly written...

 

[babymabey]

It is poorly written, it was definitely a nice distraction though, but I am a big reader (I have over 140 books in my collection, the Fifty Shades series are the only "romance" I have) Utah is an extremely conservative state and I hate it. Most things are closed on Sundays, you can't even buy alcohol on Sunday's in many of the cities. Because I don't really care about what others think of what I am reading, I took Fifty Shades with me to every Dr's appointment I had, and when I would notice someone giving me a dirty look for reading it, I would flash them a huge smile

 

[J_Lynn]

Five words: "Fifty Shades of Grey" Series. The backlash that that series is getting proves that people cannot stand to talk about sex. Instead of opening themselves up to something new, people who have not read it judge the people who have without knowing what the book is really about.

Don't feel slow for not understanding the "lingo" most of the time I have no idea what it means. One of the first things I figured out was that AF means Aunt Flo I was very proud of myself for figuring that out.

What backlash? It is quite popular around here for reasons I do not understand.

The subject matter is a little bit boring for someone who has been in the sub/dom lifestyle for 14 years, but whatever floats peoples' boats.

I guess not really backlash, just really negative views. I know here in the U.S. there are many groups getting together trying to get it banned from stores and libraries.

Actually I'm in CT for the moment and the local bookstore had a cocktail and book party to discuss it. I'm pretty sure I even saw it for sale at the local supermarket by the checkout lanes.

CT is a pretty liberal state though. Has there been a lot of dislike for it in Utah?

I read it and the whole book I spent waiting for it to get good .... I guess I am just into some really freaky things because I could have fallen asleep to that book. lol

Not Quite A Lady by Erica Anderson is pretty decent; I downloaded it off GoogleBooks on my phone and read it at the YMCA while I was working out one day LOL It is historical, but quite steamy I think I burned more calories on the eliptical that day lol

 

[Gunnhilde]

Seriously?? You're only 25! That means you started living that lifestyle when you were 11! Or am I being completely blonde?

Yeppers. I'm a little ashamed of it, but I was kind of an early bloomer. I should revise it to 13 years, because I haven't really been doing it the last year or so.

 

[Storked]

Utah is very, very conservative lol.

 

[sojourn]

You've hit the nail on the head there Sojourn. In many cultures it's not acceptable to talk about sex with other people, even sometimes with your OH. Sometimes even just how you're brought up can completely change your views on sex. I really struggled to talk about anything related to it until I needed psychosexual counselling. Then I didn't have much choice, it made me feel a lot more comfortable about understanding sex and my own body. It taught me to able to ask for things sexually from my DH and we're a lot more experiemental now!

That's great! I grew up in the strangest most conservative household. However, my mom got knocked up twice in high school! My dad doesn't really talk about sex, but my mom (technically my step-mom) didn't want me to repeat my bio-mom's mistakes. They were always like "Sex is great and fun and lovely and you should do lots and lots of it when you are a grown up". Even as little kids we used proper names for anatomy. I started having sex and my friend group was all really open and natural about it. I was definitely lucky. I think not having seen it be something shameful (despite a conservative religious family) helped a lot. Even as a nanny, I was always into not body shaming or making things scary. When my 12.5 y/o charge got caught masturbating his mom was at a loss. I was like "Just be like, do what you want dude, but do it in private and don't waste the water". When talking to the younger siblings about the appropriateness of clothes in public we were like these parts of you are for your personal use. You can be as naked as you want in your room, but out of respect for other people's comfort and to keep ourselves safe, we wear clothes outside of our rooms. NBD. I think all of the body/sex/slut shaming that our society does is totally unhealthy and awful! It's part of what makes kids experiment in unhealthy ways and not feel comfortable talking or getting guidance. I feel like (through research) this is a problem that stems to under-reporting of various kinds of abuse and risky behaviors ESPECIALLY in early-blooming girls.

/crazy schpiel

I have found people on this site to be super open (yay!) but still use weird terms instead of scientific terms.Like, I haven't seen anyone say sperm. I see "swimmers". Maybe it just gets to you after a while and you don't want to feel clinical.


Good on you taking steps to change! Isn't sex so much more health and happy and wonderful when you can just be honest! Yay!

PS: to the person who said they usually use the F word found in the vernacular as a synonym for sex...ME TOO! hahahaha lots of times. Especially when I'm being silly. But for scientific research purposes I use plain 'ol sex.

 

[Fizzyfefe]

I have found people on this site to be super open (yay!) but still use weird terms instead of scientific terms.Like, I haven't seen anyone say sperm. I see "swimmers". Maybe it just gets to you after a while and you don't want to feel clinical.

The only abbreviations I use are BBT and occasionally CM instead of cervical mucus, because it takes too long to type. Other than that, I use proper terms like menstruation/menses or intercourse. But I think that may have to do with a medical background. Glad to see someone else who doesn't like the abbreviations.

 

[Feisty Fidget]

I am personally not reading 50 shades as I have been rather put off by all the older work colleagues that are 'enjoying' it - that and the fact it is going to be somewhat tame compared to my usual.

The double standard thing annoys the hell out of me. At the moment it is considered in the UK as Mummy Porn and apparently that is fine and dandy. If a bloke was reading something similar, it would be a disgrace etc - there is no way they would cutely name it 'Daddy Porn' as it would be seen as wholly inappropriate

If I want porn, I will log onto the net. If I want a literary escape, I will go find something that intrigues me - not just because it is the latest 'thing'

 

[rosestar2012]

Feel like screaming and crying. Walking to work with terrible pmt which is enough to upset me anyway when I see a girl with a massive bump. I even managed to think isn't that nice and then saw she was happily smoking away. I felt so angry and still do. I know it's nothing to do with me but what a selfish selfish cow. All I want is to be pregnant and healthy and it just seems so unfair and now I'm being pathetic and self pitying waiting for stupid AF to show up.

 

[4magpies]

FF I got annoyed about the mummy porn comment. Erm hello?

Nice to see you about doll. I stop lurk your journal as I do most people's. Thinking if you. Seems we are both running in place as usual.

xxx

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Right back at you Becca, I am a silent stalker too

Rose that really sucks PMT always magnifies things anyway, but the fact that she was smoking would have had me in tears!

 

[laurac1988]

Wish DP would make up her mind

 

[J_Lynn]

I was having a horrible day today; like a HORRIBLE day - and earlier my husband was putting on baby powder (he works in a very hot place, and needs it for chaffing around his balls lol) and I was like "that smells horrible - I hate baby powder ... ick!" he just smiled and said, "you should get used to it - you're going to need it soon!" and he is just always so positive about us having a baby, and just always manages to lift my spirits. Even though I'm having so many stupid problems and my body doesn't seem to want to cooperate for sh*t, little things like that just make my day. So I guess this wasn't a bad vent - but a good one I had to tell someone, and no one else would understand lol

 

[HWPG]

Dear Universe, since you blessed my friend with fertility, would you please send a healthy baby along after nine months of serious all day morning sickness, many stretch marks, and hormone induced acne? thank you!

 

[pinksprinkles]

Well, I thought I would O by now, but no such luck. Trying to keep my head up, but having a really down day. Had all he leading-up-to-O symptoms, and then nothing happened. OPK's aren't getting any darker. Looks like I may have to go back in for another round of Provera. I still can't believe that taking a supplement did this. I only took the FertilAid from February until May. It's been 2.5 months since I quit it and still no O.

Next Wednesday marks 6 months since the last time I ovulated. I am so angry at the people who make FertilAid I could scream. They know this is happening to women who use their supplement, but they put absolutely NO warning on their pills. In fact, they even make a point to tell you that if you see cycle problems that you should keep taking the product as the cycle disruptions are just your body sorting itself out. What a bunch of BS!

I've gotten all the testing done my midwife can do, and she still has absolutely no idea what the pills did to me. All hormone levels are normal, I just don't ovulate. I haven't ovulated even once since taking FertilAid, and the only periods I have had are Provera-induced ones.

It's a good thing that the FetilAid people don't live near me, because the amount of rage I am currently feeling might cause them serious damage. I can't believe this is happening to me.

 

[Gunnhilde]

Well, I thought I would O by now, but no such luck. Trying to keep my head up, but having a really down day. Had all he leading-up-to-O symptoms, and then nothing happened. OPK's aren't getting any darker. Looks like I may have to go back in for another round of Provera. I still can't believe that taking a supplement did this. I only took the FertilAid from February until May. It's been 2.5 months since I quit it and still no O.

Next Wednesday marks 6 months since the last time I ovulated. I am so angry at the people who make FertilAid I could scream. They know this is happening to women who use their supplement, but they put absolutely NO warning on their pills. In fact, they even make a point to tell you that if you see cycle problems that you should keep taking the product as the cycle disruptions are just your body sorting itself out. What a bunch of BS!

I've gotten all the testing done my midwife can do, and she still has absolutely no idea what the pills did to me. All hormone levels are normal, I just don't ovulate. I haven't ovulated even once since taking FertilAid, and the only periods I have had are Provera-induced ones.

It's a good thing that the FetilAid people don't live near me, because the amount of rage I am currently feeling might cause them serious damage. I can't believe this is happening to me.

This might be a little far fetched, but have you considered suing them?

I'd be really pissed off too!

 

[pinksprinkles]

I wish I could sue!! The problem is to sue you actually have to have proof that the product is what did it. Since midwife says everything is "normal", there is no way to "prove" that their product caused it. She says it's obvious that it's the FertilAid that did it and there is no doubt in her mind, but there is absolutey nothing "proof-wise" that she could supply to a court. ffs- I am so angry!