Jessy- it's sad that you're little one will have to deal with drama at such a young age. My DH's family (the disaster) is the same way. Thankfully none of his siblings are ready to have kids yet because it would totally and completely be a battle over who's kid is best and blah blah blah. They are already so competitive in their own lives and all have a hard time being happy for one another (over any good event)- this is what happens when you have 3 boys in 3 years! Although, my sister and I aren't that much better. Fortunetly she lives 14 hours away so it won't be so bad. She had a hard time when I got engaged, married, and bought a house first. My DH and I literally discussed how much she would hate me if we got preggo first. We didn't tell anyone we were trying and she announced it to the world. We'd been trying a bit when they got pregnant on the first try. So luckily we never had to find out how miserable she would have been about it. My Dh's Aunt bought alot of items for our little one and gave them to us privately because she didn't want his siblings to feel like when they have kids that she's obligated to spend the same amount on them. She knows that if they saw the $400 of stuff she bought little man they would automatically assume that they deserve the same amount or more when they have kids. I completely understand her perspective because that is how they would be but it's sad that she can't be acknowledged for being so generous.
I'm totally the snotty girl who would ignore the sister in law and look like the good one when she says shit she shouldn't.