What a fantastic thread!!
Okay, I'm going to try and break this down into sections.
Food: My child will NOT live in a resteraunt, they will NOT get to say "eww, I don't like my dinner (of healthy vegies/meat etc) and be given an alternative of something processed and deep fried. What is served up for dinner is served up for dinner, if you don't like it, I won't force you to sit there until it is finished, however you won't get an alternative, and you will go hungry.
The idea of a mother saying that her 4 yr old 'only eats chips and nuggets' disgusts me as at that age, they shouldn't be deciding their diet. My husband does most of the cooking in our house, and we don't have a single jar/bottle or packet sauce in the cupboard, everything is freshly made and this is what our kids will be bought up on.
In saying that, we do get the occasional take away, but it's a treat, not part of our stable diet and our children will be bought up with this frame of mind re takeaways.
NO MEANS NO! No does not mean, kick off and tantrum until I change my mind. I've seen to many children become spoilt brats because they know that if they whinge, whine and tantrum for long enough, that they will get what they want. You will not go without dear child, but you will also not have every little thing you ask for, the world does not work like that.
TV/Computer games - I have no issue with either of these however in moderation, there will be no tv prior to school EVER, If you are dressed, ready to go, etc, then play with toys, read a book, etc. Plonking on the couch and zoning out before going off to school is not an option. On weekends there will be a time limit placed on both TV watching and video games. When you have used that up, go find something else to do, play outside, go to the park, read, draw, ride a bike. etc.
Mobile Phones - um... why does an 8yr old need a phone???? Nope, Not until 15/16, back in Oz there is a service you can get which you dial a number from any public phone and the standard call charge will go to the home phone bill, but you can only call home with it. If there is an emergency, and my 13/14yr old is out with friends at the cinema or something then they will be able to contact home and me via this.
I guess those are some of the big things, another thing I want to make sure my children never have to go through is listening to their father and I argue. While we dont' do this now, I'm sure one day in the future it may happen, and I don't want my kids lying in their beds covering their ears trying to drown out the sounds of their mum and dad fighting like I had to as a child.
Other then that, our kids will be LOVED, greatly, and I think I'll be a bloody good mum, I'm laid back enough to not get stressed over every little thing, but I have very strong values, work ethic, and manners, my children will learn how to speak (and write) properly and they will know that an education is very important, but it is also not EVERYTHING. Not going to uni does not mean failing. They will learn the value of money from an early age, via pocket money, having to put towards things special things they want, and when they are old enough 15/16 I will be encouraging the to go out and get p/t work.
I think thats enough for now. lol.