I've lost 3 pregnancies, with 4 little angels.
On the last mc it was twins, I lost the first one at 6 weeks and the second at 8 weeks and needed a D&C, there were 4 other women waiting for D&C's, The woman across from me also waiting for her D&C was asking questions and told me it was her first miscarriage and she had 5 children i told her I had 1 child and I had 2 previous miscarriages and this was my third and I had lost twins. She said to me 'ah well, you are younger than me, at least you can adopt'
I think my jaw hit the floor, I pull my curtain around me and cried so hard.
On my first miscarriage, after the D&C I went home to relatives in Dublin, I had a massive bleed and was rushed to hospital, I was really sick, had more surgery and woke up 3 days later, there was a doctor there and I asked where was I and what had happened, she just said 'That's what you get for going to England for an abortion'
To this day, almost 10 years later, it fells like a blunt dagger going through my chest and twisting it! I had miscarried at 16 weeks and it was the worst pain I've ever experienced emotionally, far worse than my other miscarriages or anything else in my life.
But it's ok, I can still get pregnant, 3, 5, 10 times, but how many babies will I have by the end of it? None I'll bet.
and it really hurt my feeling. I was going to tell DH about it but he would just get upset and tell me not to go back there, so am off loading on you ladies. Thank you for listening and thank you for letting me get it off my chest. I know there is nothing wrong with me, and no matter what she thinks, its not my fault
I wish people would try and learn to empathise, the world would be a much nicer place! I always try and think about what Im saying, I dont know how many times Ive typed things on here just to backspace because I thought it could be taken the wrong way and hurt someone! If only peoples mouths had that ability!
I don know if Ive added my "What not to say" so excuse me if Im doubling posting. One of our mates g/f, who knew I had only mced two weeks before, said to me I dont know why you want to go through all the nappy changes and midnight feeds again, if I was you I wouldnt have any more kids! Well blah to you sweetheart! Mind you she didnt say that to our other friend who was there and has a baby growing nicley in her belly, nothing but congrats to her and she already has two children as well. I understand the subject is a difficult one to broach, but honestly if you dont have anything nice to say, better off saying nothing! Big hugs to all you lovley ladies!
i also got one about stillbirth, because i was in the 2nd tri.Gotta say the mc one was the biggest pile of crap, the other one was very helpful but didnt really apply to me. The worst one ive gotten is - "at least you wont be a single mum" The one that annoys me the most is the "well now you can go travelling!" wow that really makes up for losing my baby you jackass
