These are the things that have been said to us.
"These things happen for a reason."
"It just wasn't meant to be this time."
"You can have another one."
"Is it because of your medication?" - That I stopped taking three years earlier, so no it wasn't.
"You must be one of those people who can only carry boys" - I lost a boy and a girl and it was a midwife saying this.
"You didn't try to steal him did you?" - from a friend who I bumped into unexpectedly and who left me watching her baby in a shop while she fetched something she had forgotten. He was born the day after Elisabeth and was about 6 weeks old.
"How many abortions have you had" - from a doctor. They were NOT abortions!
"You're pregnant again already? How many kids do you want"
"You're having another one? Don't you have a television?" - both of those by someone who knows we lost babies but is lucky enough to forget it.
"You'll get over it. My friend lost a real baby and she's alright now" - stillborn babies are not real apparently.
"I know how you feel. A week before Andrew was born I had a bleed and I thought he'd be born with his fingers missing." - from my MiL, about my DH.
"It's okay to put her picture up because she doesn't look...well, she is still family." - Also MiL about Elisabeth. Doesn't look what? There's no good word to end that sentance.
"Was she born with all of her face?" - MiL again about Elisabeth. She was looking at her photo at the time and could see all her beautiful face.
"If you lose this one you should stop trying."
"I hope you are going to stop now you've got one." - someone deciding if we should try again after Joseph was born safely.
"You can't let him be an only child. Now you've had one healthy one you will probably be alright with another."
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Can I be frank and say... WTF?! - sorry but I don't understand your MIL! I thought mine was bad...
First off... I want to say to everyone I am so very sorry for all your losses...
A few I heard which I am sure have been mentioned...
"It was God's way"
"It wasn't meant to be"
"It must have had something wrong with it..." followed up with "thank god, it would have been a lot of work down the line"
"better now than later" (as both times were in first trimesters)
"so did your Mom or her mom have this problem too?" HUH?! - is there evidence that miscarriages are hereditary?!
"your fine! it was so early, don't worry you'll have many more!"
"my pyschic told me that I would have 5 grandchildren, it is fine, do you want to go see her?" my MIL!
"are you still upset about that? wasn't it a couple of months ago?"
Anyways... it makes me sick to my stomach, people should just keep their mouths shut!!!