2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[Nimyra]

Thanks for keeping us posted, EarthMama... I was thinking about you.

 

[mowat]

Hi ladies,

Bad news here. Apparently I'm going to have my second loss in two months (third all together). No sign of anything yet, but I guess an ultrasound can't be wrong. Hopefully I can get some thorough treatment this time. Best of luck to all of you still trying.

 

[LucyLake]

Good early morning ladies,

It's 4:30 am here on Father's Day. Somewhere, Kim Kardashian is preparing to pimp out her new child My vaginal temp has just dropped from a nice 4 day stable 98.3 to 97.45 today on day 28, dpo 12. The cramps are insanely intense and spotting has started. And yet with my past history, I can't even bring myself to take an Advil because this could still be implantation, right?

I know better, but instead choose to writhe in pain on my bed wondering how yet another month results in an AF. This time I was so sure and had so many symptoms. I even had 55 points on Fertility Friend.

Probably just a bad case of indigestion from all the spinach, almonds, kale, quinoa I forced myself to eat to help this fictitious baby grow.

Huge mega sigh. *

EarthMama: I'm so sorry and am right there with you. I hadn't even tested yet purposefully awaiting my missed period date today. This month really hurts even more than last.

Mowat: I'm so sorry as well and hope your scan was wrong. Definitely, see if you can wait 2 weeks for one more just for peace of mind. Huge hugs

 

[bluestars]

Hi ladies,

Bad news here. Apparently I'm going to have my second loss in two months (third all together). No sign of anything yet, but I guess an ultrasound can't be wrong. Hopefully I can get some thorough treatment this time. Best of luck to all of you still trying.

I really hope they are wrong honey! Amazing things can happen to dont loose hope yet ! Xxx

 

[george83]

Hi ladies,

Bad news here. Apparently I'm going to have my second loss in two months (third all together). No sign of anything yet, but I guess an ultrasound can't be wrong. Hopefully I can get some thorough treatment this time. Best of luck to all of you still trying.

massive hugs sweetie, I don't want to give you false hope as I know that too can be heartbreaking but I have read some many stories of people being given bad news and it turning out positive, I'm really hoping that happens for you. If you don't mind me asking what did the ultrasound show?

 

[Nimyra]

Mowat, I'm so sorry. How far along are you?

this is a difficult road to walk. please let us know how we can help.

 

[george83]

Earthmama I'm really sorry the witch got you, hoping the next cycle is the one for you x x

Lucylake I'm really hoping this is implantation bleeding too and not the start of af, keep us updated please x x

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you George83 . Unfortunately, it looks like AF has hit. Just got a BFN on FRER and cramps and bleeding are picking up. Temp is still down at 97.45 almost 1 degree from 98.3 and now safely below my coverline. Temp is always the biggest indicator for me

Huge hugs and how are you doing?

 

[george83]

Lucy I'm so sorry to hear it, I can't imagine how heartbreaking it must be for you, all this talk of being more fertile after mc is horrible.

I feel awful talking about my pregnancy like I'm rubbing all of your faces in it so I've been following you all still but not replying, it's been an emotional roller coaster so far we had a private scan which showed everything was ok only for me to start bleeding 2 days later, I tried to keep calm but it got really heavy so we had a scan at the hospital again luckily everything was ok. Then 2 weeks later I started bleeding again just like with my mc so was convinced it was all over but luckily another scan again showed everything was ok. I'm still bleeding now but they don't think it's connected to the baby. It's so difficult seeing blood all the time, I don't think I'll be able to relax x x

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you George83. I've been surprised honestly and humbled after first try success.. The first month my timing was off a day or 2 and this month I bd up until day 15 when I got a 2nd peak smiley, 1st peak was day 10. I was so sure I had already o'ed, but then lo and behold, a 1 degree temp increase on day 16. I did pre-seed and everything short of a ferning microscope this month though..so I figured bd on day 15 and o day 16 would still get me there.

I had no idea! George83, you have been so amazingly supportive and wonderful! And I've been dying to hear about your baby, but didn't want to press because I figured you were being cautious purposefully. . I'm always here if you want to talk and you can also pm. It helps us all to see that there's light at the end of the tunnel also

I'm so glad everything is ok and can only imagine how you've been feeling! I think you can safely feel like this is your rainbow now and I'm really, sincerely happy for you . Our time will come George83 and just know that you can tell us anything. I'm so glad to be able to see your progress and it helps me prepare because I always figured I will spot with a rainbow as well. But, it doesn't mean the end . Huge hugs George83 and I'm so sorry it hasn't been as easy as it should be, it just seems unfair that it can't be like our first times and uneventful after MC!

 

[Kasey84]

Mowat- Big hugs to you. I'm so sorry

Earthmama and Lucylake- I'm sorry AF got you. I understand how discouraging and frustrating it is. It's hard to stay positive, but we have to keep trying don't we?

George83- I'm sorry you've hard these scares! I'm hope and pray that everything continues to go well

AFM, been having some EWCM, but no positive opk yet.

I hope the future has wonderful things in store for us all

 

[LucyLake]

Kasey84: I'm so excited for you!! It sounds like you should be getting a high and peak very soon!! Thank you so much! I have to tell you that you and George83 really cheered me up and I loved your words about keeping on trying. I've been literally inconsolable and my husband was kind enough to take my son ice skating so I could just rest.



Can you lovely ladies take a look at my chart and tell me what you think? Does my timing just suck? I need the honest truth. My cycle is 28 days, my luteal phase is 12. Last month my cycle was 28 days, my luteal phase was 13 days. What I need to know is did you conceive your first child, miscarriage, rainbow ON the day of ovulation? Day before? I feel like I'm doing it the day before and getting nowhere:

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/chartgraph_module.php?d=2013-06-03&mode=a&ts=1371406950&u=

Any words of advice would be awesome, thank you so much . Should I do it just 4 days next month on the peak days after I get a smiley OPK? Every other day? It seems like we're fizzling out as time goes on since my husband works a 60+ hour workweek.

 

[Kat S]

LucyLake, I'd BD the day before O and every other day thereafter for 5 days. Spermmies live for up to 72 hours, as long as there are some in there and ready for the egg when it releases, you've done it right!

 

[george83]

Thank you George83. I've been surprised honestly and humbled after first try success.. The first month my timing was off a day or 2 and this month I bd up until day 15 when I got a 2nd peak smiley, 1st peak was day 10. I was so sure I had already o'ed, but then lo and behold, a 1 degree temp increase on day 16. I did pre-seed and everything short of a ferning microscope this month though..so I figured bd on day 15 and o day 16 would still get me there.

I had no idea! George83, you have been so amazingly supportive and wonderful! And I've been dying to hear about your baby, but didn't want to press because I figured you were being cautious purposefully. . I'm always here if you want to talk and you can also pm. It helps us all to see that there's light at the end of the tunnel also

I'm so glad everything is ok and can only imagine how you've been feeling! I think you can safely feel like this is your rainbow now and I'm really, sincerely happy for you . Our time will come George83 and just know that you can tell us anything. I'm so glad to be able to see your progress and it helps me prepare because I always figured I will spot with a rainbow as well. But, it doesn't mean the end . Huge hugs George83 and I'm so sorry it hasn't been as easy as it should be, it just seems unfair that it can't be like our first times and uneventful after MC!

Thanks Lucy I really appreciate your kinds words, we haven't told anybody about the baby yet and I feel bad worrying my husband with my worries when he's got his own to deal with to. I honestly didn't think a mc would have such a long lasting effect even now it's devastating.

I'm really hoping you manage to get your rainbow next month you've been so strong for everybody else on here, you deserve it x x

 

[george83]

Mowat- Big hugs to you. I'm so sorry

Earthmama and Lucylake- I'm sorry AF got you. I understand how discouraging and frustrating it is. It's hard to stay positive, but we have to keep trying don't we?

George83- I'm sorry you've hard these scares! I'm hope and pray that everything continues to go well

AFM, been having some EWCM, but no positive opk yet.

I hope the future has wonderful things in store for us all

Thanks kasey84 and I'm really hoping you get your positive soon and this is your month x x

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you KatS. I just read back on the thread and feel like I've been in a bunker with our business the last 2 weeks. I'm so hopeful and excited for you this cycle. That's awesome about your 2 follicles!!

I will try what you said. As you see on my chart, we are starting early every month. On day 16 and 17, we did not bd. My temp fell on day 13 and rose on day 14 and I figured I had o'ed. I'm not sure if we're just not one of the lucky 20% or if something is off. Maybe I just need to relax.

 

[LucyLake]

Thank you George83. I've been surprised honestly and humbled after first try success.. The first month my timing was off a day or 2 and this month I bd up until day 15 when I got a 2nd peak smiley, 1st peak was day 10. I was so sure I had already o'ed, but then lo and behold, a 1 degree temp increase on day 16. I did pre-seed and everything short of a ferning microscope this month though..so I figured bd on day 15 and o day 16 would still get me there.

I had no idea! George83, you have been so amazingly supportive and wonderful! And I've been dying to hear about your baby, but didn't want to press because I figured you were being cautious purposefully. . I'm always here if you want to talk and you can also pm. It helps us all to see that there's light at the end of the tunnel also

I'm so glad everything is ok and can only imagine how you've been feeling! I think you can safely feel like this is your rainbow now and I'm really, sincerely happy for you . Our time will come George83 and just know that you can tell us anything. I'm so glad to be able to see your progress and it helps me prepare because I always figured I will spot with a rainbow as well. But, it doesn't mean the end . Huge hugs George83 and I'm so sorry it hasn't been as easy as it should be, it just seems unfair that it can't be like our first times and uneventful after MC!

Thanks Lucy I really appreciate your kinds words, we haven't told anybody about the baby yet and I feel bad worrying my husband with my worries when he's got his own to deal with to. I honestly didn't think a mc would have such a long lasting effect even now it's devastating.

I'm really hoping you manage to get your rainbow next month you've been so strong for everybody else on here, you deserve it x x

Thank you so much George83 and wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months from here on out! . It sounds like it really must be a sub-chorionic hematoma because I know my doctor would put me on bed rest if she thought it was a true issue. I hope it goes away, but even if it doesn't, I know tmonster in second tri was told she needed a d&c. She fought and is pregnant still and the bleeding stopped in 2nd tri. I know it will be the same for you I'm so happy for you and your husband and hope you can tell people when you feel ready. I know I felt like waiting until the 5th month, but I can't imagine how hard it is to be waiting with this secret, especially since you're a teacher and on your feet a lot. thank you for your kind words

 

[mah0113]

how are you ladies today?

I had another bfn today at 11 dpo. my last to preg [which were both losses] I didnt test positive until the evening of 12 dpo so I am hoping for tomorrow but inside I just know its not going to happen

ive been havign lots of symptoms, and its funny, but thats what makes me think im not preg haha. bc the two times I WAS preg, I had very few symptoms. both times I had weird spotting, which is what tipped me off---but this time, because of the progesterone, theres no spotting at all. the first time I also had super sore boobs, though I did not have sore boobs at all the second time. Second time just had weird cm and was SUPER sleepy---this time I am sleepy but that is prob just the progesterone, as I am sleepy EVERY month once I start taking it.

Aside from that, so far I have had a weird chart [must more rocky than last month], a low grade temp throughout the day from 8 dpo until today, a stuffy head and chest congestion, and as of the past two days, really greasy hair and face.

every time I have been "convinced" bc of all my "symptoms" I get AF.

If I dont get my bfp this month, I will have to put off trying until august. which will put me at the 1 yr anniversary of my first loss. Its just so hard watching the time pass you by...I was thinking I would be preg by the due date of the first baby, but I wasnt. Then I thought Id be preg by the due date of the second baby, but the second baby would have been due in August, so if no bfp this cycle, that date is gone too.

I dont know why we put arbitrary deadlines on ourselves though..sigh.

 

[LucyLake]

Hi Mah0113. I'm sorry I didn't look far back enough to see your post yesterday until now.

Just wanted to say that your chart looks really good, except how come FF doesn't want to give you full cross-hairs? So annoying!! For some reason, I can't put mine in my siggy, but I linked mine up at the top in this thread--a few threads above yours. My temp fell drastically overnight almost one point and I got my AF today. But, yours looks really good and it looks like you may have had an implantation dip!! Definitely, don't count yourself out just yet. I know a lot of people told me that day 11, 77%, or some absurd number of positives are already in the record books, but I'm not buying it because I've heard so many amazing day 14-16 stories.

I also wanted to agree about your symptoms. I had NONE with my son. None. The only thing was very light to moderate cramps when AF was actually late. I probably tested at DPO 15 with him. I swear to god, life was so much easier not knowing about temping, dpo, and OPK's.

With my miscarriage, I had sore breasts and they were super perky. I was also strangely not hungry. I had no spotting or anything until 5w3 with my MC sweet baby.

So, I understand about the symptoms. I felt I had SO many this time and you can see my chart...it was ridic! I had sore boobs and still do! Nausea! Greasy hair! And still do! It's insane. I think I'm back to normal post-MC hormonally finally is all. Now, if only I could get pregnant But, greasy hair was also present for me while pregnant with my MC and to me, your symptoms are really good. And you know how PMS symptoms mimic pregnancy so don't lose hope

If you don't mind me asking, why do you need to wait for August? I'm so sorry, I know how you feel as my husband wanted to wait for my second AF/post-MC and I also waited 9 years since our son was born for him to want a second child. I hope maybe you can try before August and most of all, that you will get your BFP tomorrow.

 

[mah0113]

Hi Mah0113. I'm sorry I didn't look far back enough to see your post yesterday until now.

Just wanted to say that your chart looks really good, except how come FF doesn't want to give you full cross-hairs? So annoying!! For some reason, I can't put mine in my siggy, but I linked mine up at the top in this thread--a few threads above yours. My temp fell drastically overnight almost one point and I got my AF today. But, yours looks really good and it looks like you may have had an implantation dip!! Definitely, don't count yourself out just yet. I know a lot of people told me that day 11, 77%, or some absurd number of positives are already in the record books, but I'm not buying it because I've heard so many amazing day 14-16 stories.

I also wanted to agree about your symptoms. I had NONE with my son. None. The only thing was very light to moderate cramps when AF was actually late. I probably tested at DPO 15 with him. I swear to god, life was so much easier not knowing about temping, dpo, and OPK's.

With my miscarriage, I had sore breasts and they were super perky. I was also strangely not hungry. I had no spotting or anything until 5w3 with my MC sweet baby.

So, I understand about the symptoms. I felt I had SO many this time and you can see my chart...it was ridic! I had sore boobs and still do! Nausea! Greasy hair! And still do! It's insane. I think I'm back to normal post-MC hormonally finally is all. Now, if only I could get pregnant But, greasy hair was also present for me while pregnant with my MC and to me, your symptoms are really good. And you know how PMS symptoms mimic pregnancy so don't lose hope

If you don't mind me asking, why do you need to wait for August? I'm so sorry, I know how you feel as my husband wanted to wait for my second AF/post-MC and I also waited 9 years since our son was born for him to want a second child. I hope maybe you can try before August and most of all, that you will get your BFP tomorrow.

Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging post--I'm sorry about af, but keep your chin up. Your time will come.

I have to wait because I'm studying for the bar exam right now and the exam itself is July 30, July 31, and August 1----I kind of made the decision today because when I'm ttc I am so engrossed in it and constantly googling and obsessing. Not to mention, te progesterone wipes me out. I can't even stay awake. I'm having a hard time studying right now because I need to nap/fall asleep during lectures and I am just thinking how I never want to study for this stupid test ever again, so I better pass the first time around! So, just for the sake of not throwing 3 years of law school down the drain, I think I should do nothing but study in July. Of course if I'm pregnant I will take the sleepiness and progesterone side effects happily! But if I'm not, is better to wait. My mom was begging me to wait until after anyway, but I told her I just can't NOT try after the losses. So who knows if I actually use protection next month or not, but for now, I think ill be out till August.