2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[LucyLake]

MAH0113: Thank you for speaking my language. Don't count yourself out yet, that chart looks good and is well above your coverline. Mine went below coverline the morning I got my AF! Remember that a very small number of pregnancy charts actually go triphasic, but it's important to stay above the coverline is all. I loved what you said about how difficult this is. I had an easy go of it the first two times, they were first try successes. The third time hasn't been the charm and I'm at a loss to understand. I'm hoping it's because both months, I bd the day before ovulation and not the day of. I'm lost because I saw my OB yesterday (worrywart craziness made me go in) and she said my lining is perfect and my ovaries look good. She told me to keep charting and doing my OPK's and after 6 months, they will review and give me meds if needed but she doesn't think it will be an issue. I've been running, but eating a ton and maintaining current weight just to create the blood flow needed for good lining. I eat leafy greens everyday, force myself to inhale kale practically, have invested tons of money in protein shakes. Could it be my husband? I hope everything goes well with your exams! I totally understand as my SIL is in law school at St. Mary's and it's a full-time job. And that's not even a top tier school! I didn't realize how close August is. I hope you still get pregnant this month because though August seems close, everyday of TTC feels like an eternity.

happy to hear your tests thus far are looking good! its also good to know that you've already carried babies to term, so hopefully its just a matter of time for you. how long have you been ttc your third?

also, what does kale do?

and lastly, my temp stayed above the coverline last month too--it was just the temp dip that signaled AF. I think that might be because of the progesterone..I have a feeling that while I am on it, my temp wont dip below cover. Its really weird tho, because some nights I take it much later so there is like a 27 hour gap between doses, and of course I temp every 5 minutes even tho its not useful info lol., but I noticed that once the 24 hour mark nears my temps start going down, and once it passes, they are way down. I am trying to strike a balance between keeping 2% hope, because Ive seen preg charts with temp dips, and not being unrealistic---bc I also know what is normal for me. I went to sleep last night thinking "if my temp is down in the morning, its over." So I dont want to hold onto false hope [esp after another bfn] and then be crushed all over again. But then theres the crazy ttc'er inside thats like "well...you DID sleep with the AC on the first time in a few weeks so mayyybbbeee.." lol.

Hi MAH0113!! Sorry for the late response, this week has been such a struggle. My husband and I now own the limo biz outright, our old partner is out and back in Lebanon. It's been a huge amount of work. We also decided to redecorate our home office since I got AF and that coincided with all this. I've been putting together IKEA furniture.

This is my third month trying. I waited one AF post-MC and then hubby wanted to wait a second AF.

Kale and greens in general help with fertility. I'm vegetarian and they also helped me lose weight. I don't get as hungry with all the greens and my all-important Cashew Tamari salad dressing from Mother's Cafe

How are you doing today? I just saw your thread and the fact that your temp went back up is huge!! Hope this is your bfp!!

 

[LucyLake]

Mowat: I'm glad to hear from you We are all here with you and I'm praying that all is okay and that they made a mistake With all my heart, I'm sorry this is happening to you. Did they diagnose you with Asherman's? I hope the scar tissue is not related to that at all in any way and that you don't have Asherman's. We are thinking of you and hope all is okay Huge hugs

Kasey84: Don't worry, you may really have a very short LH surge and you could easily miss the positive if you weren't testing every 12 hours or less. I got a faint positive the first month I charted and was so frustrated because a faint + on FRER is really a negative. I never got a true positive that month, but know I ovulated based on my temps going up and staying that way until AF. Are you using the Clearblue Easy Ovulation Tests with the smiley face? Those are the very best! You may have already told us, but are you temping? Huge hugs

My cycles are also all over the place. This month, only 4 days of bleeding which seems to be the new norm. My cycles have been 31 days, 25 days, 28 days, 28 days. My OB told me not to worry, that even though the bleeding is only 4 days long it doesn't mean I'm not fertile I know how annoying charting can be and huge hugs Kasey84

KarenH: Awww...I wish I could contribute to your garage sale. I love that you guys are thinking to adopt!! I wonder if you could foster-adopt? KarenH, let us know how we can help and love the idea of a blog!! Huge hugs, you are a big inspiration to all of us.

 

[karenh]

Mowat: I'm glad to hear from you We are all here with you and I'm praying that all is okay and that they made a mistake With all my heart, I'm sorry this is happening to you. Did they diagnose you with Asherman's? I hope the scar tissue is not related to that at all in any way and that you don't have Asherman's. We are thinking of you and hope all is okay Huge hugs

Kasey84: Don't worry, you may really have a very short LH surge and you could easily miss the positive if you weren't testing every 12 hours or less. I got a faint positive the first month I charted and was so frustrated because a faint + on FRER is really a negative. I never got a true positive that month, but know I ovulated based on my temps going up and staying that way until AF. Are you using the Clearblue Easy Ovulation Tests with the smiley face? Those are the very best! You may have already told us, but are you temping? Huge hugs

My cycles are also all over the place. This month, only 4 days of bleeding which seems to be the new norm. My cycles have been 31 days, 25 days, 28 days, 28 days. My OB told me not to worry, that even though the bleeding is only 4 days long it doesn't mean I'm not fertile I know how annoying charting can be and huge hugs Kasey84

KarenH: Awww...I wish I could contribute to your garage sale. I love that you guys are thinking to adopt!! I wonder if you could foster-adopt? KarenH, let us know how we can help and love the idea of a blog!! Huge hugs, you are a big inspiration to all of us.

I am going to try and put a donation button on my blog, not that anyone here is being pushed to donate : ) There isn't a foster to adopt program here in Oregon. We have done A LOT of research into different adoption options and feel as though international adoption is the right choice for us. Thank you for your kinds workds and your support. I really hope you get your BFP soon.

 

[Nimyra]

Karen, my DH and I also looked into adoption options and there are some great advantages to international adoption - like a set timeline and fewer legal risks. My husband was just telling me yesterday that a woman he works with just got the call to travel to Ethiopia to adopt her new daughter.

Maybe we'll be down that road at some point two. I've decided to give TTC another year or two first, but I think adoption may be part of my ultimate plan.

Best wishes -- please stay in touch!

 

[mowat]

Unfortunately, Lucy, I was diagnosed with Asherman's after my first miscarriage. Or should i say I diagnosed myself with Asherman's and then told my gynecologist. He agreed. I was treated and then I got a second opinion from an experienced Asherman's doctor. She thought I should try to get pregnant as everything looked "fairly" good. She now agrees maybe the Asherman's is still the problem. I'm really hoping that once that is addressed I might be alright. Really hoping.

Unfortunately it looks like I might not get my surgery until August. I'm going to go to my local doctor next week if I haven't started miscarrying to see if they can get me in any sooner.

 

[Nimyra]

BFN today at 9 DPO. I'm so scared my BFP won't come.

 

[Kasey84]

Mowat: I'm glad to hear from you We are all here with you and I'm praying that all is okay and that they made a mistake With all my heart, I'm sorry this is happening to you. Did they diagnose you with Asherman's? I hope the scar tissue is not related to that at all in any way and that you don't have Asherman's. We are thinking of you and hope all is okay Huge hugs

Kasey84: Don't worry, you may really have a very short LH surge and you could easily miss the positive if you weren't testing every 12 hours or less. I got a faint positive the first month I charted and was so frustrated because a faint + on FRER is really a negative. I never got a true positive that month, but know I ovulated based on my temps going up and staying that way until AF. Are you using the Clearblue Easy Ovulation Tests with the smiley face? Those are the very best! You may have already told us, but are you temping? Huge hugs

My cycles are also all over the place. This month, only 4 days of bleeding which seems to be the new norm. My cycles have been 31 days, 25 days, 28 days, 28 days. My OB told me not to worry, that even though the bleeding is only 4 days long it doesn't mean I'm not fertile I know how annoying charting can be and huge hugs Kasey84

KarenH: Awww...I wish I could contribute to your garage sale. I love that you guys are thinking to adopt!! I wonder if you could foster-adopt? KarenH, let us know how we can help and love the idea of a blog!! Huge hugs, you are a big inspiration to all of us.

Thanks Lucylake! I hope your right and I just missed my positive. We BD'd every other day anyway. I was using first response digital tests. I started temping (orally) as well, but not much luck in that department. My temps were all over the place....I think it takes some time to get the hang of!

 

[Kasey84]

BFN today at 9 DPO. I'm so scared my BFP won't come.

I'm sorry Nimyra! Has AF arrived yet? If not, maybe there's still hope for a BFP! I know what you mean though. Sometimes it feels like I'll never get my Rainbow.

Big hugs

 

[karenh]

Karen, my DH and I also looked into adoption options and there are some great advantages to international adoption - like a set timeline and fewer legal risks. My husband was just telling me yesterday that a woman he works with just got the call to travel to Ethiopia to adopt her new daughter.

Maybe we'll be down that road at some point two. I've decided to give TTC another year or two first, but I think adoption may be part of my ultimate plan.

Best wishes -- please stay in touch!

Thank you! We are actually looking into Ethiopia! I hope her journey goes well.

 

[Kasey84]

Today was my due date :'(

It hurts to know I should have a baby in my arms right now, but instead I'm lying in bed with nothing but a broken heart. Today should have been a day full of joy, but it is, and always will be, a difficult and sad day. My life is changed, just not in the way I wanted.

My OH is away at work, so I'm spending the day with my sisters. I'm just not sure how to get up and face the day. I can't believe it's here already!

I'm so grateful to be able to come here and share with people who understand. Thank you so much ladies for all your support. You're all wonderful

 

[ladyluck84]

Today was my due date :'(

It hurts to know I should have a baby in my arms right now, but instead I'm lying in bed with nothing but a broken heart. Today should have been a day full of joy, but it is, and always will be, a difficult and sad day. My life is changed, just not in the way I wanted.

My OH is away at work, so I'm spending the day with my sisters. I'm just not sure how to get up and face the day. I can't believe it's here already!

I'm so grateful to be able to come here and share with people who understand. Thank you so much ladies for all your support. You're all wonderful

Our due dates are something that will stay with us all forever. Mine is creeping closer and it fills me with fear. There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel any better. But stay strong and I hope your sisters can keep you busy.

 

[Kat S]

Nimyra, I hope it was just too early to test. So many women don't get a BFP until day 12 and later, so until AF comes, hold out a little hope. (hugs)

Casey84...Ugh, Honey, I know how awful this day is for you. I don't see why you can't stay home if you want to. Some days, like this anniversary, are too awful to face the world. Do whatever you need to do to grieve and get through it as best you can. I hope it passes quickly (hugs).

Karen, good luck with the fundraising! I need to do a bit of that myself just to do another round of injectables. I liked your idea of a yard sale. I need to get that ball rolling.

Mowat, ugh, I know August feels like a million years away. There seems to be so much sitting and waiting for something to happen with this assisted ttc process. and the time just crawls while you sit there doing nothing waiting for an appt. I know how frustrating that is and I feel for you. The good news is that there is something that can be done for you, and you're now in line to have it done. I hope it's successful!!

HUGS to all!!

 

[karenh]

Just FYI: So, sorry guys, but my blog has changed. I couldn’t do what I wanted to on wordpress. Now it is https://jkhadoption.blogspot.com/ I hope you can all follow me there!

 

[Kat S]

Karen, I have an account and I'm signed in, but I don't see an option to "follow" your blog anywhere on the page.

 

[karenh]

Karen, I have an account and I'm signed in, but I don't see an option to "follow" your blog anywhere on the page.

I believe if you scroll to the bottom there is a link that says subscribe by email. Will that work?

 

[bluestars]

Hey guys, been away for a while and just trying to catch up with how everyone is doing! Karen so sorry to hear that its been so unsuccessful. Adoption is a wonderful choice also. You will make a little child soo bhappy one day and will be a great mom.

Kasey: Hope your ok. I have my little ones due dat coming up on the 5th of july and feel myself becoming more anxious. Big hugs to you honey!! X

Im in my Tww and im desprate to test. Af due on sat.. I dont think i have any signs other than a little discomfort in my womb area but not feelimg confident! Think it would b too early to test? Xxx

 

[LucyLake]

Hi everyone! I started to write yesterday, but became too busy!! It's my son's 9th birthday and I've snuck off to get the cake and am waiting!!

Nimyra: best wishes and prayers that this is it for you!!! I would love to hear some good news, just heard about yet another miscarriage today . I'm taking a bunch of boys to a party today and am just praying for a break soon and some me time. I spent yesterday holding babies at a picnic full of SAHM Arab ladies huge hugs and love to you and your family

Kasey84: I'm so sorry about your due date and hope your BFP is a reward for your patience through that day!! . I've found myself grieving more now than I did in March. I keep going on play dates and hearing about how it took one cycle off birth control or yesterday's doozy from an Egyptian friend, I tried to take Maca because I was doing my masters, but it failed.

KarenH: I'd love to follow you and wish you so much luck in your adoption process. . Huge hugs

Blue stars: I think my feeling is day 12 is when I like to start testing because I've o'ed later than I thought recently. I'd hate to get a bfn on day 9 or 10 and feel crushed.

Mowat: I'm so sorry that you had to self-diagnose and that they concluded Ashermans. I truly hope you get answers and a green light even before August. I know this wait is a killer, I feel like it's been years since my Feb MC and time had just stopped. Huge hugs and prayers that it goes fast for you, I'd love to be bump buddies 333

Getting ready to start trying this month, but relaxing big time. I'm temping because my OB told me to have that info in case we can't conceive for her future treatment of me, but I'm going to slow down and have sex over a 4 day window and that's it. Hoping for better luck, I'm literally worn out from the long journey that truly began 9 years ago today when I decided I wanted one more as I gave birth at 5:30 pm to my 9 pound 1 ounce sweetie pie vaginally That feels like a lifetime ago and I'm just so exhausted from the years of begging to no avail and now God deciding to take His time. Grateful for my son though!!! 333333

 

[Kasey84]

Bluestars- Thanks I got through the day with some tears and lots of support! I ended up bringing flowers to a baby loss monument at a local cemetery and then writing a letter to my angel to put in a keepsake box. I found that really helped. Today I'm feeling good.

I'll be thinking of you on your due date I understand how you feel. I was really anxious about mine in the weeks leading up to it!

It maybe to early for an accurate result if you test now. I know it's hard to wait though! Best of luck when you do test. My fingers are crossed that you see a BFP!

I'm also in the tww, though not entirely sure when to expect AF since my cycles have ranged from 27-35 days since my mc. I had EWCM on cd 13,14,15 but never did get a positive opk (hoping I just missed my surge!). Saturday will be cd 28 for me. If I can control myself I may just wait for cd 35 and test if AF hasn't shown.

 

[Nimyra]

Thanks for the support. Feeling pretty blue at the moment due to a number of things not all related to TTC. Planning to test again tomorrow morning.

 

[bluestars]

Well I stupidly tested an hour ago. (Asdas own). Got two red lines one faintish and the other the control. Looked at it again 5 minutes later and faintish line was gone. Took another about half an hour and not a line at all! (Apart from contol). I am soo utterly confused. I have crampy feelings but no other signs or symptoms (I dont think). I have been travelling back from holiday and have been sleepy in the sun and im knackered now but thats understandable! I want to scream! If this isnt it then that test was cruel!!! Xxx