38 and TTC first baby, anyone else?

[booger76]

Hi ladies!!!

Thanks for all the birthday wishes. It was a very nice day and I tried not to fret too much about turning 36. I think if I wasn't TTC it wouldn't bother me in the least. I am very happy with my life and it seems like that no matter what age I'm at, it seems like the best age. I have no desire to go back to my twenties or anything like that. Now, if I could have my 20-year old self's ovaries, that would be nice.

Tui - Did you have your appointment yet? I can't remember if it was this past Friday or if is coming up this week.

Lola - Sounds like a yeast infection to me. Has it cleared up? Or did you end up going to the doc to get checked out? Either way, no fun. Hope it clears up soon.

Hattie - Sorry you got hit by the Such a bummer. How long has it been since you visited the doctor? I would say 9 months seems like a reasonable amount of time to try. Maybe it's worth a visit to see if anything has changed. So frustrating when things don't go the way we plan!

Gonimi - Yeah, I would be frustrated with your doctor too. Strange that she would recommend you not track your cycles. I get it that she feels like it just stresses people out more but how else is one to know if they are actually ovulating, etc. I think I would be on the search for a new doc, too. Grrrrrr.

phaedypants - Welcome to our lovely group. I haven't tried Clomid. But I haven a feeling I may be headed that way. We are (only) on our 7th cycle of trying but I think based on some bloodwork that I had done it seems like that will be the next step. My follow-up doctor appointment isn't until July 17th so we'll see what she has to say. I hope it works for you as you have been persevering for awhile now.

Skweek - So sorry you are out for this month! It sounds like that is the best thing though if your shot lasts for a long time. Your condition sounds painful!

How is everyone else?

Well, I did end up going camping on my birthday. It was nice and relaxing. A beautiful evening to be out in the mountains. Now it's back to work. At least this week is short. We have Friday off for our Independence Day and then I am off all of next week while we have guests in town. I'm at CD10 and Mr. Monitor is showing high. Haven't had a positive OPK yet but it's still kind of soon for that (at least based on my average ovulation day). I'm kind of hoping I ovulate before Sunday though as we are going to travel with our friends to Glacier National Park and will be hotelling together so that will eliminate any chance of BD.

 

[lola33]

hi girls
CD26 now, AF due tomorrow or thursday..I had 28 days cycles too, so who knows
I wasn't feeling awesome today.. I'm 35, no children and my nephew is 25 and just told us he's having a baby. I was fine, not thinking too much about it, not sad because of the 6 months trying, but when I read the text about their big news, I cried.. so I guess I am really waiting for that pregnancy.. I guess 6 months is starting to be long.. and thinking that my nephew will have kids before me makes me feel bad... but I waited that long before I decided to have a baby... and now I'm impatient..
sorry girls, tomorrow will be better..
oh and yep, got a yeast infection, I guess... it got itchy scratchy down there!!

 

[Tui]

Sorry you are feeling down lola. You will be next I'm sure

 

[Tui]

I'm trying not to freak out right now. Had small amounts of spotting on and off the last few days. Waiting for midwife to call me. Scan already booked for two days time anyway. Nothing I can do but wait. Scared though.

 

[lola33]

TUI I hope everything is ok! It's probably normal, don't read too much things from doctor google..

 

[Nikki1979]

Tui- Try not to worry. I had a bit of spotting too with my son.. as long as its not heavy, its ok. Its always good to get it checked out though. Hope everything is ok.

 

[booger76]

Hi ladies!

Tui - I'll second what the other ladies have already said - try not to worry too much. Which I know is stupid to say because I know it would be impossible not to worry. I have read where spotting is common during pregnancy. And I agree to stay away from Dr. Google. I'll be thinking about you - let us know how your midwife appointment goes. We're here for you!

Lola - Oh, I can understand why it would be upsetting to get that news. I think it's especially hard as we are a little "older" and want something so much but really have such a small amount of control over whether we can get it or not - especially since it's thrown in our face so much about how hard it can be if your "old". It's ridiculous. One of those "you're damned if you, damned if you don't" situations. Have you made thought about seeing a doctor soon if you aren't pregnant this time around?

How is everyone else doing?

I am at CD13 now and I am fairly certain I will ovulate tomorrow based on all the signs lining up. I guess DH and I will have to go into stealth mode now since our house guests arrive today! I'm excited to have the company. It's my bestie, her husband, 2.5 yr old little girl, her mom and my mom. My bestie and I are also cousins so her mom and my mom are cousins as well and are very close. It should be a great time and I'm excited to have a little one in the house. It took my friend 6 yrs to conceive her little girl so it will be nice to be able to actually talk to someone in person about what's going on. Since I'm going to be busy for the next week or so, I'm not sure how much I'll be on here but I'll try to check in when I can.

 

[Tui]

See signature link for update, those who were asking x

 

[lola33]

Tui I'm so sorry I hope you're not too sad.. and that the doctors will figure out what happened..

 

[lola33]

I'm CD29 here, AF was due 2 days ago, BUT I already had a 28 and a 30 days cycle, so my body is probably making me wait, just to be a douch. I tested bfn with a cheap test. I go to the ultrasound monday, but since I'm late, I might have to change for wednesday, since it has to be done on the 5th day of the cycle...

 

[L.Ann.V]

Turned 38 in May. Been trying for 11 cycles, the last 3 were Clomid or Letrozole with IUI. I was due to test tomorrow on the success of IUI #3, but I started seeing signs of AF last night The doctor wants us to move onto IVF now, but I'm terrified. The last 2 months have not been great for DH and I. My mood swings on these meds have been horrendous, and I can imagine IVF will only be worse.

Some friends and family are not only unsupportive, but out right hostile. They are all younger than me, but 2 are single and childless. I can only guess they're jealous that I'm trying to start a family. 1 friend actually went thru 2 IUI's in order to conceive her daughter. She "supported me" right up until the time that I started to struggle. Then she fell off the face of the earth. I don't understand how someone who knows what I'm going thru and can do that!? Anybody else experience this kind of behavior?

Don't get me wrong... I have a another group of friends that have been amazingly supportive, and luckily, one that went thru IVF 12 years ago and had twins. She's been my saving grace. So thankful for her and the others that allow me to vent and cry, but still love and support me.

 

[skweek35]

Hi ladies, Oh my gosh, just realised so long since I last checked in here. Not that much has happened except work being usual naggy self!

Hi to the new ladies!! Hope your journey to your BFP isn't too long!

Gonimi - my fertility specialist also suggested I stop temping. I think I stopped for a month or 2. The month after my HSG I only temped till I spotted O then stopped. Got my BFP that month.

Hattie - So sorry AF got you.

Bogger - so glad you had a good time camping for your birthday! I'd be making quiet plans to grab OH on the side for a sneaky BDing session. teehee Hope you are having fun with your family around!

Lola - Hugs hun! I know how you feel! I too waited till 35 before starting TTCing and then was really impatient! I was doing all sorts to get my BFP every month! Hang in there. Keeping FXed that this is your BFP and you won't need that scan appointment!

Tui - I'm so sorry hun!! HUGS!!!

Lann - Welcome to your group! So sorry you are going through such a rough time trying to get your BFP. As far as your friend goes I can only imagine that she doesn't know what to say to you and know how to support you through what you are going through now. Possibly feels guilty that she got her BFP quicker on the same route as you. I would suggest that you focus on the friends who are being supportive.

AFM - Not much new here. Think I'm in TWW and about 1 week to testing. Have bought new HPTs - so all ready for testing next week.
On the house front - still not found a house. We are viewing 2 houses tomorrow so FXed one will tick all our boxes. This part of buying a house is really stressing me out!
Hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

[lola33]

hello hello !
skweek, glad you're fine, and yep stopped temping as well here. I checked this morning just to see if I had a temp drop ( since I know what is my BBT) and nope, and still no AF. CD30 now, usually get 26 days, but I had 30 and 28 so, I wait.
I found good tests at the pharmacy for 90 cents! awesome (here it's not a thing cheap tests...)
I will test tomorrow I guess.
L.Ann, welcome! I hope you find good people to support you, if not, well, you find them here !

 

[skweek35]

Looks like we have found a house! OH well call them on Monday with an offer!
We saw this house about 3 weeks ago. They dropped the price this last week by £15k!
It's a 4 bed house - all double bedrooms! One bathroom and a down stairs toilet. Large lounge, family/playroom, good size kitchen diner. Large utility room. Good size garden and a double garage.
I know I shouldn't get excited about this yet but I can see this house is perfect for us! FXed they find their next house really quickly!

 

[Wcpp]

Hello eveyone!

I am currently one week away from testing. I did my BD one week ago today and I have been feeling crampy. Is that a possible sign of implantation?

 

[gonimi]

tui-i am really really sorry. Disheartened and sad that this happened to you. But we are here. It was super sensitive of you to post your news on another thread but I think that we can handle it. Otherwise, what's the point of having a support group!? I am thinking of you and sending you lots of good vibes and a hug.

Lola xing fingers for you!

I have been so busy with move to London that i had kind of stopped counting -which was a relief. But I think i am getting AF tomorrow cause I saw a little blood today. Oh well. Next month!

 

[lola33]

Hi ladies!
well I'm out.. AF arrived yesterday.. C7 now. Ultra sound next week to see if everything is ok and working well.
Gomini I hope AF stays away from you! Skweek! That seems awesome ! I hope you get the house !! fingers are crossed !

 

[gonimi]

No in AF did get me yesterday. I am starting to think that doctor's plan of BDing starting on day 10 and every other day until day 18 is not a bad idea at all. We are dealing with the move to London this week and life is a little crazy right now. It would probably have been too much to be pregnant right now on top of everything. I am sure my body needs more calm to cooperate.

Tui, I am sending you lots and lots of hugs. I know this may not seem important right now as compared to your loss, but at the very least you know that your body can do this and that your partner can too. Hopefully this was nothing more than nature's way of taking care of things and now that you know you can get pregnant it should be one load off your mind at least. Wishing you all the best through this rough time all the same.

Lola, here we go again...

Skweek good luck with housing!

Cheers to everyone.

 

[lola33]

yep, doctor told me the same, so we're going to try that..
Ultra sound is tomorrow, I'll let you know.. I'm a little scared they discover something bad, like I don't have enough eggs or something else...

 

[skweek35]

Lola and Gonimi - so sorry to hear AF arrived! BDing CD10 - 18 sounds like a good plan.

Lola please let us know what happens at the scan tomorrow. Hope all goes well and they find all is good!

AFM - well didn't get the house! I'm so upset as that house (in my eyes) was perfect for us! We were out bid and they didn't like that there so were so many houses in our chain already! (4 people behind us buying/selling houses). Now OH is talking more definitely about renting for a time - something I really am not keen on! But will do if we have to!
I know we will find a better house for us but I'm still so cross about not getting this house!