38 and TTC first baby, anyone else?
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Tui - It's so hard to be patient!! This whole process is such a wait and see type of thing that's it is enough to drive one bonkers. Hoping your OPKs start turning for you soon!!
Hattie - If you are close to the end of your normal luteal phase, then maybe it's okay to test. I don't put too much stock into symptom spotting but I've never been pregnant, so I'm probably not the best reference. I say wait until AF is due but I know how hard that is for us impatient ladies. Fingers crossed for you!!
Skweek - Glad the injection went well. Exctied for you to get back into the TTC process with the rest of us. I'm sorry that none of the houses you looked at will work. Hard to decide what's more frustrating - trying to buy a house or TTC!
Lola - I hope you guys caught the egg and this is your lucky cycle!
How is everyone else doing??
As for me, I had my HSG yesterday. It wasn't terrible but certainly not enjoyable. They messed up the first time so I had to go through it twice. It was only painful for about half a minute when they were injecting the dye. Afterwards, no pain but it was pretty intense there few a few seconds. In any case, my left tube was open but my right tube is blocked. She thinks it could be due to the cyst or maybe some endometriosis.
Based on what she saw last week with the my ovaries and the number of follicles and then now with the blocked tube, she said if it was her and she wanted to have a baby, she would go straight to IVF. DH and I had talked about it over the weekend and decided we would give it go. Crazy. Just a year ago I was saying "if it happens it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't" and now I'm getting ready to make an appointment with an IVF specialist. It's like my body through the guantlet down and said "You can't have a baby" and I am saying "Watch me!"
In all seriousness though, going through the TTC process (and I know we haven't been at it very long) made us realize that we really do want to be parents. We NEED to be parents. So, I guess we are taking our last option here and we'll see what happens.
Tui - It's so hard to be patient!! This whole process is such a wait and see type of thing that's it is enough to drive one bonkers. Hoping your OPKs start turning for you soon!!
Hattie - If you are close to the end of your normal luteal phase, then maybe it's okay to test. I don't put too much stock into symptom spotting but I've never been pregnant, so I'm probably not the best reference. I say wait until AF is due but I know how hard that is for us impatient ladies. Fingers crossed for you!!
Skweek - Glad the injection went well. Exctied for you to get back into the TTC process with the rest of us. I'm sorry that none of the houses you looked at will work. Hard to decide what's more frustrating - trying to buy a house or TTC!
Lola - I hope you guys caught the egg and this is your lucky cycle!
How is everyone else doing??
As for me, I had my HSG yesterday. It wasn't terrible but certainly not enjoyable. They messed up the first time so I had to go through it twice. It was only painful for about half a minute when they were injecting the dye. Afterwards, no pain but it was pretty intense there few a few seconds. In any case, my left tube was open but my right tube is blocked. She thinks it could be due to the cyst or maybe some endometriosis.
Based on what she saw last week with the my ovaries and the number of follicles and then now with the blocked tube, she said if it was her and she wanted to have a baby, she would go straight to IVF. DH and I had talked about it over the weekend and decided we would give it go. Crazy. Just a year ago I was saying "if it happens it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't" and now I'm getting ready to make an appointment with an IVF specialist. It's like my body through the guantlet down and said "You can't have a baby" and I am saying "Watch me!"
In all seriousness though, going through the TTC process (and I know we haven't been at it very long) made us realize that we really do want to be parents. We NEED to be parents. So, I guess we are taking our last option here and we'll see what happens.
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Oh booger, that's exactly what I've been laughing at recently! Last year I adamantly didn't want kids. Now it's all I can think about! The relaxed approach lasted two months then bamm, out came the opks, ICs, bbt, charts........... At least I can laugh at myself! Such a control freak.
Not sure what I would do in your shoes, but then we couldn't afford IVF. You all have insurance there so it's not really an issue. If you think you are running out of eggs then it may be the best option. Looks like some big conversations for you this weekend, lol. Good luck.
Not sure what I would do in your shoes, but then we couldn't afford IVF. You all have insurance there so it's not really an issue. If you think you are running out of eggs then it may be the best option. Looks like some big conversations for you this weekend, lol. Good luck.
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Booger I have no idea what I would do too. But if it seems like your chances are low, maybe yeah thats a good idea to just go for it.
I the same as you girls, last I was saying we have time, it will happen when it happens... now I really want to be a mom too.
This cycle I dont chart or opk... I try to enjoy the summer without thinking too much. Doctor called me back, said the fibrome I have isn't a problem, I have follicles, so I guess I'm fine.
He told me to call him in september if nothing happens til then
I the same as you girls, last I was saying we have time, it will happen when it happens... now I really want to be a mom too.
This cycle I dont chart or opk... I try to enjoy the summer without thinking too much. Doctor called me back, said the fibrome I have isn't a problem, I have follicles, so I guess I'm fine.
He told me to call him in september if nothing happens til then
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Hi ladies!
Looks like it has been pretty quiet around here.
Tui - How are you doing? Any positive OPKs yet?? Yes, it's funny how quickly our wants and needs can change. Unfortunately, our insurance doesn't cover any IVF treatments so we are going to have to pay out of pocket. I guess the one upside to waiting so long to try to have a baby is that at least we have a little savings to help.
Lola - Good idea on taking a cycle off the OPKs and charting. It's always a good thing to get our minds off of TTC from time to time. Who knows, maybe this will be the key to your BFP.
How is everyone else doing??
As for me - I made an appointment with an RE/IVF specialist on August 8. There are two clinics in the closest larger city, which is about 4.5 hours away. I made an appointment at both clinics because I couldn't choose one at first. But after some more research, I narrowed it down to one. The success rates are good, although they do have a high percentage rate for twins (which we might be okay with but that does complicate a pregnancy). Reviews online say the Dr. doesn't necessarily come across as warm and fuzzy but in all honesty, I'm okay with that if he knows what he is doing and has high success rates. People also comment that it kind of feels like everything is automated and factory like but again, that to me just shows that they have a process down and it's working. I'll take that over chaos and unorganization.
I'm excited we got in so quickly to see him. I'm also anxious to get things moving. Who knows, I guess things could happen naturally this cycle and maybe we won't have to worry about it. I did finally break down and talk to my sister about all of this and she said it took her a little while to pregnant too - and it happened the very first cycle after her HSG - so maybe I'll have the same luck. Only time will tell!
Today is CD10 so I guess it's time to get busy!
Hope everyone is doing well! Have a fabulous weekend!!
Looks like it has been pretty quiet around here.
Tui - How are you doing? Any positive OPKs yet?? Yes, it's funny how quickly our wants and needs can change. Unfortunately, our insurance doesn't cover any IVF treatments so we are going to have to pay out of pocket. I guess the one upside to waiting so long to try to have a baby is that at least we have a little savings to help.
Lola - Good idea on taking a cycle off the OPKs and charting. It's always a good thing to get our minds off of TTC from time to time. Who knows, maybe this will be the key to your BFP.
How is everyone else doing??
As for me - I made an appointment with an RE/IVF specialist on August 8. There are two clinics in the closest larger city, which is about 4.5 hours away. I made an appointment at both clinics because I couldn't choose one at first. But after some more research, I narrowed it down to one. The success rates are good, although they do have a high percentage rate for twins (which we might be okay with but that does complicate a pregnancy). Reviews online say the Dr. doesn't necessarily come across as warm and fuzzy but in all honesty, I'm okay with that if he knows what he is doing and has high success rates. People also comment that it kind of feels like everything is automated and factory like but again, that to me just shows that they have a process down and it's working. I'll take that over chaos and unorganization.
I'm excited we got in so quickly to see him. I'm also anxious to get things moving. Who knows, I guess things could happen naturally this cycle and maybe we won't have to worry about it. I did finally break down and talk to my sister about all of this and she said it took her a little while to pregnant too - and it happened the very first cycle after her HSG - so maybe I'll have the same luck. Only time will tell!
Today is CD10 so I guess it's time to get busy!
Hope everyone is doing well! Have a fabulous weekend!!
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Hi booger, glad you have your appointment to look forward too. The clinic sounds great, very professional.
Sorry, I've been neglecting this thread a bit. Some friends on here have just had losses so I've been chatting to them.
Yes I did get a positive opk on Wednesday and looks like I ovulated Thursday. Hopefully I will get my crosshairs tomorrow, but I think I have confused FF a bit so we shall see, lol. Looks like we caught the egg, or at least gave it everything, before DH went away.
I've been enjoying some alone time, and a really good nights sleep.
Sorry, I've been neglecting this thread a bit. Some friends on here have just had losses so I've been chatting to them.
Yes I did get a positive opk on Wednesday and looks like I ovulated Thursday. Hopefully I will get my crosshairs tomorrow, but I think I have confused FF a bit so we shall see, lol. Looks like we caught the egg, or at least gave it everything, before DH went away.
I've been enjoying some alone time, and a really good nights sleep.
That sounds good Tui! Got my figers and toes crossed for you!
Well my Af came today a day later than normal. We are now entering our 10th cycle of trying so I am finally going to give in a see the doctor again. Have done initial tests so we know hubby and I dont have any obvious issues. Just need to get in the system incase we need further assistance as in NZ the funding cut off for IVF is 40. I turn 39 in Novemkber so just getting the ball rolling in case. Good luck to everyone else waiting to see if they get a positive result this month
Well my Af came today a day later than normal. We are now entering our 10th cycle of trying so I am finally going to give in a see the doctor again. Have done initial tests so we know hubby and I dont have any obvious issues. Just need to get in the system incase we need further assistance as in NZ the funding cut off for IVF is 40. I turn 39 in Novemkber so just getting the ball rolling in case. Good luck to everyone else waiting to see if they get a positive result this month
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Hi hattie. I didn't realise you were a fellow kiwi.
That's good to know about ivf funding. I don't know the ins and outs of the health care system here after being in the uk so long. If you had initial tests and they found nothing wrong then that's good to know. They say it can take a year when you are younger so don't worry too much. I understand the urgency of age though so good luck with getting your foot in the ivf door x
That's good to know about ivf funding. I don't know the ins and outs of the health care system here after being in the uk so long. If you had initial tests and they found nothing wrong then that's good to know. They say it can take a year when you are younger so don't worry too much. I understand the urgency of age though so good luck with getting your foot in the ivf door x
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hi girls !
Hattie sorry Af got you
Booger, good you have the appointment. try to use that as a trip with your Dh, maybe book a nice hotel and all?
Tui, it's ok you talk with other girls
and super glad you got your +opk !!
afm, nothing much ! CD21 so Af is due next week. It's warm here, it's a nice summer, but I work all day. bleh !
Hattie sorry Af got you
Booger, good you have the appointment. try to use that as a trip with your Dh, maybe book a nice hotel and all?
Tui, it's ok you talk with other girls
and super glad you got your +opk !!afm, nothing much ! CD21 so Af is due next week. It's warm here, it's a nice summer, but I work all day. bleh !
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Hi ladies,
Sorry I've been MIA this past week. Things got a bit hectic at the end of term but yay for Summer Holidays!! 6 weeks off for me!
Booger - Sounds like your HSG scan was a lot better than mine - I passed out from the pain! My SIL got her BFP 4 weeks after her HSG and I got mine 6 weeks later! So hang in there. When I walked out the room the doc shook my hand and said congrats in advance! So FXed you won't need the IVF route to get your BFP! I would also have chosen the doc with the better success rate.
Tui - FXed you caught that eggy. Now time to relax as much as possible and let nature do the rest.
Lola - FXed all tha naked time pays off and you wont be saying hello to AF at the end of this week!!
Hattie - So sorry AF got you!
AFM - got a date through to see my pain consultant - 19 Nov! Will chat about what next and the future pain management or permanent treatment.
We have also been really busy this weekend with night training and weaning (21 month olds) DD off her (aka my) much loved boobies!!! All going well at the so far. We are down from 5 feeds a day (1 nap, 1 feed to sleep at 7pm and 3 through the night) to 1 feed a day! (feed to sleep at 7pm) (Yup my boobies are complaining big time!!) For the rest, one of us goes in and pats or rubs her back till she falls asleep again. That will be the next to go and hopefully we can just put her to bed and she will fall asleep without one of us there.
Other than that, our week is looking really hectic with us out and about every day for the rest of this week. I am also looking forward to this weekend - fertile window is joining us!! WOOHOO Naked time here we come! (Thanks lola teehee)
Hope everyone is doing well
Sorry I've been MIA this past week. Things got a bit hectic at the end of term but yay for Summer Holidays!! 6 weeks off for me!
Booger - Sounds like your HSG scan was a lot better than mine - I passed out from the pain! My SIL got her BFP 4 weeks after her HSG and I got mine 6 weeks later! So hang in there. When I walked out the room the doc shook my hand and said congrats in advance! So FXed you won't need the IVF route to get your BFP! I would also have chosen the doc with the better success rate.
Tui - FXed you caught that eggy. Now time to relax as much as possible and let nature do the rest.
Lola - FXed all tha naked time pays off and you wont be saying hello to AF at the end of this week!!
Hattie - So sorry AF got you!
AFM - got a date through to see my pain consultant - 19 Nov! Will chat about what next and the future pain management or permanent treatment.
We have also been really busy this weekend with night training and weaning (21 month olds) DD off her (aka my) much loved boobies!!! All going well at the so far. We are down from 5 feeds a day (1 nap, 1 feed to sleep at 7pm and 3 through the night) to 1 feed a day! (feed to sleep at 7pm) (Yup my boobies are complaining big time!!) For the rest, one of us goes in and pats or rubs her back till she falls asleep again. That will be the next to go and hopefully we can just put her to bed and she will fall asleep without one of us there.
Other than that, our week is looking really hectic with us out and about every day for the rest of this week. I am also looking forward to this weekend - fertile window is joining us!! WOOHOO Naked time here we come! (Thanks lola teehee)
Hope everyone is doing well
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Hi Ladies!
Tui - Don't apologize for being away and talking on other threads! It seems this thread goes in spurts - where it is busy a bunch and then it will be kind of slow. No big deal - we all have lives that we must attend to, obviously.
Hattie - Yep, I would be calling the doctor too. Always good to have a plan. It's good you already have some baseline tests done. I have become so impatient for all this and could just clock myself upside the head for not starting sooner. Oh well - it is what it is and all we can do it look forward, right?
Lola - Oh, you are already over halfway through your TWW wait! Hooray! Shorter cycles aren't all that bad after all. I suppose that just gives us less waiting time and a few more chances than the ladies with super-long cycles. Fingers crossed for you!!! Summer is flying by - it is hard to sit in my office and look out the window wishing I was outside enjoying the weather. I think that's why the weekends are so exhausting - we try to fit in as much as possible.
Skweek - You are one busy lady! That has to be difficult trying to wean the little one. My sister had a hard time with my youngest niece but I think it was more because my sister was having a hard time letting go! I'm glad that it's going well for you so far. Have fun with your naked time!!!
I'm glad to hear your success stories after the HSG. I'm hoping that this our lucky cycle. And it was quite painful there for a bit - much more than I anticipated. I felt like such a wimp because I had read where lots of women said it wasn't bad at all.
As for me - We are enjoying our naked time right now too - ovulation should happen in the next couple of days. No positive OPK yet but my monitor is on high and CM is showing I'm gearing up. Fingers crossed we can catch the egg this time!
Tui - Don't apologize for being away and talking on other threads! It seems this thread goes in spurts - where it is busy a bunch and then it will be kind of slow. No big deal - we all have lives that we must attend to, obviously.
Hattie - Yep, I would be calling the doctor too. Always good to have a plan. It's good you already have some baseline tests done. I have become so impatient for all this and could just clock myself upside the head for not starting sooner. Oh well - it is what it is and all we can do it look forward, right?
Lola - Oh, you are already over halfway through your TWW wait! Hooray! Shorter cycles aren't all that bad after all. I suppose that just gives us less waiting time and a few more chances than the ladies with super-long cycles. Fingers crossed for you!!! Summer is flying by - it is hard to sit in my office and look out the window wishing I was outside enjoying the weather. I think that's why the weekends are so exhausting - we try to fit in as much as possible.
Skweek - You are one busy lady! That has to be difficult trying to wean the little one. My sister had a hard time with my youngest niece but I think it was more because my sister was having a hard time letting go! I'm glad that it's going well for you so far. Have fun with your naked time!!!
I'm glad to hear your success stories after the HSG. I'm hoping that this our lucky cycle. And it was quite painful there for a bit - much more than I anticipated. I felt like such a wimp because I had read where lots of women said it wasn't bad at all. As for me - We are enjoying our naked time right now too - ovulation should happen in the next couple of days. No positive OPK yet but my monitor is on high and CM is showing I'm gearing up. Fingers crossed we can catch the egg this time!
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How's it going ladies??
Lola - are you still in for now? I hope so.
Well, it's ovulation day for me. My OPK was positive and my monitor went to peak this morning and that almost always means ovulation day. DH and I didn't BD last night because it was miserable hot in our bedroom. Guess I'll have to make sure we get in one last session today. I kept trying to motivate him by telling him that it could be our last chance to save a bunch of $$$ but it didn't work. Hehe - oh well!
Lola - are you still in for now? I hope so.
Well, it's ovulation day for me. My OPK was positive and my monitor went to peak this morning and that almost always means ovulation day. DH and I didn't BD last night because it was miserable hot in our bedroom. Guess I'll have to make sure we get in one last session today. I kept trying to motivate him by telling him that it could be our last chance to save a bunch of $$$ but it didn't work. Hehe - oh well!
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Yeah Booger, be sexy ! 
I'm still in. AF is due tomorrow?or in 2 days, since my last 2 cycles were 28 days long..It's weird how much I know I'm out.. I don't know why, it's just like that.
Skweek I hope you got plenty of naked time, and I hope it's your month!
Tui chart still looks good? I can't see it from my phone.
I'm still in. AF is due tomorrow?or in 2 days, since my last 2 cycles were 28 days long..It's weird how much I know I'm out.. I don't know why, it's just like that.
Skweek I hope you got plenty of naked time, and I hope it's your month!
Tui chart still looks good? I can't see it from my phone.
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