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Hello ???? Where has everyone gone !!
38 and TTC first baby, anyone else?
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Aayla
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Hey! Well i am on cd 12. I started the OPK's today but unfortunately the money fell through for the IUI so we are doing Timed Intercourse. I feel very positive about this cycle. Maybe because in about 4 days it will be the one year anniversary I found out I was pregnant. Unfortunately on Sept 5 will be the 1 year anniversary I lost said pregnancy but I am trying hard not to dwell on it and just focus on the here and now.
I expect ovulation to happen around Aug 30th.
Other than that I have been keeping busy. I joined a lot of cross stitching face book groups and we do all sorts of activity and challenges that keep me focused on my stitching. Which I need because I have so many projects that have been left undone. I used to finish them all the time but then I took on so many I sort of lost the mojo for it. Now I am back and stitching more than ever. I love it.
I expect ovulation to happen around Aug 30th.
Other than that I have been keeping busy. I joined a lot of cross stitching face book groups and we do all sorts of activity and challenges that keep me focused on my stitching. Which I need because I have so many projects that have been left undone. I used to finish them all the time but then I took on so many I sort of lost the mojo for it. Now I am back and stitching more than ever. I love it.
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hi! I'm here - just been super busy and not really on BnB too too much. Sorry for silence!!
aayla - timed intercourse, not terrible! I hope you guys knock it out of the park! I'm glad you're feeling positive. I'm so sorry that your anniversary is coming up. Everything happens for a reason, I'm a firm believer. When you get your next BFP, we will all celebrate it's health and stickiness!!
star - how you feeling, girl? not long now, i can't even believe it.
I had plans this weekend with 2 old friends of mine who I haven't seen in EONS. One just got married 2 yrs ago, right under her 40 yr old 'limit', so she's almost 42 now. She's 18 weeks preg with her first - she had to undergo 2 rounds of IVF. We talked incessantly about the entire process and how mind-boggling it all is. And our other friend we were meeting up with (she was running a triathalon so we were there to support) had to go through IVF for her first 2 as well, trying for over 2 yrs. After the race, 6 of us (her husband had invited 2 of his childhood friends too) were hanging out and turns out, the guys ALSO had to go through, or may end up having to, go through the process b/c of difficulties getting pregnant. We were amazed.
Anyway, we had our consultation appointment yesterday. Talked with the counselor for almost 2 hrs about everything - how DH and I met, our families, our journey here, how we feel about our journey and others getting preg, how we feel about DE, if we think we'd tell the child and the repercussions of not telling them, etc. It was good but man, my head was literally spinning when we got out of there. And then we talked to a nurse for a 1/2 hr to go over the process, timing, how DH is to give me the PIO shots, etc. She'll order my meds, I have to inventory what I already have, etc. And then we talked to the finance lady for a few mins to figure out how to get signed up for financing this whole thing. Nutty morning!! I was tapped by the time I got to work.
But all good things - happy to get started, excited. I think it's still such a bizarre thing that I'll be carrying someone else's egg but it's all good. We talked about the differences between DE and DS and the inequalities in how the other person would feel. Like I'm ok with doing DE b/c I still get to do something - carry the child, the child will have my blood, my nutrition feeds the child, etc. But if it's DS, the guy really doesn't have anything to do with the process until the child is born. That takes a LOT away from them. I hadn't thought of that. It must be so much tougher to bond with a child that you know came from a different man. Like, even on a primal level, that doesn't really happen. So good for those guys who can work through that and see the end goal.
What's next, you ask? We sign our consent forms on Monday with my regular RE and we move forward with going online to pick our donor. Doesn't sound like a huge database so should be pretty easy, I'd think. About 120 donors on any given day (if I heard the word 'fluid' one more time yesterday I was going to stab someone), of which about 40% are caucasian. So that narrows it down quickly to begin with. Once we pick a donor and are approved to receive those eggs, they will send out a tank to get them if they aren't local. Once they are here, we'll figure out my cycle and start to get that going. I'm assuming this will all happen with the cycle after this next one, as AF is due next week sometime.
aayla - timed intercourse, not terrible! I hope you guys knock it out of the park! I'm glad you're feeling positive. I'm so sorry that your anniversary is coming up. Everything happens for a reason, I'm a firm believer. When you get your next BFP, we will all celebrate it's health and stickiness!!
star - how you feeling, girl? not long now, i can't even believe it.
I had plans this weekend with 2 old friends of mine who I haven't seen in EONS. One just got married 2 yrs ago, right under her 40 yr old 'limit', so she's almost 42 now. She's 18 weeks preg with her first - she had to undergo 2 rounds of IVF. We talked incessantly about the entire process and how mind-boggling it all is. And our other friend we were meeting up with (she was running a triathalon so we were there to support) had to go through IVF for her first 2 as well, trying for over 2 yrs. After the race, 6 of us (her husband had invited 2 of his childhood friends too) were hanging out and turns out, the guys ALSO had to go through, or may end up having to, go through the process b/c of difficulties getting pregnant. We were amazed.
Anyway, we had our consultation appointment yesterday. Talked with the counselor for almost 2 hrs about everything - how DH and I met, our families, our journey here, how we feel about our journey and others getting preg, how we feel about DE, if we think we'd tell the child and the repercussions of not telling them, etc. It was good but man, my head was literally spinning when we got out of there. And then we talked to a nurse for a 1/2 hr to go over the process, timing, how DH is to give me the PIO shots, etc. She'll order my meds, I have to inventory what I already have, etc. And then we talked to the finance lady for a few mins to figure out how to get signed up for financing this whole thing. Nutty morning!! I was tapped by the time I got to work.
But all good things - happy to get started, excited. I think it's still such a bizarre thing that I'll be carrying someone else's egg but it's all good. We talked about the differences between DE and DS and the inequalities in how the other person would feel. Like I'm ok with doing DE b/c I still get to do something - carry the child, the child will have my blood, my nutrition feeds the child, etc. But if it's DS, the guy really doesn't have anything to do with the process until the child is born. That takes a LOT away from them. I hadn't thought of that. It must be so much tougher to bond with a child that you know came from a different man. Like, even on a primal level, that doesn't really happen. So good for those guys who can work through that and see the end goal.
What's next, you ask? We sign our consent forms on Monday with my regular RE and we move forward with going online to pick our donor. Doesn't sound like a huge database so should be pretty easy, I'd think. About 120 donors on any given day (if I heard the word 'fluid' one more time yesterday I was going to stab someone), of which about 40% are caucasian. So that narrows it down quickly to begin with. Once we pick a donor and are approved to receive those eggs, they will send out a tank to get them if they aren't local. Once they are here, we'll figure out my cycle and start to get that going. I'm assuming this will all happen with the cycle after this next one, as AF is due next week sometime.
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Wish I'm overjoyed for you! Your consultation sounded very thorough and I know good will come of it. Boat load of prayers coming your way.
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Mmm lots to think about wish but the honest first thought that came into my mind was .... Ok someone else's egg but YOUR baby 
an egg alone achieves nothing ! The way I see it if you bake a cake it is your creation , the fact the ingredients came from other sources means nothing ! It is your creation
an egg alone achieves nothing ! The way I see it if you bake a cake it is your creation , the fact the ingredients came from other sources means nothing ! It is your creation 
Aayla
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Wish I am so happy everything is coming together. How exciting!!
AFM: about 6 more days until I ovulate, give or take a day. This has always been the longest week ever! In 2 days it will be the one year anniversary of when I got my bfp. Sept 5 will be the one year anniversary that I lost that baby. I'll only be 5 or 6 dpo then so no way to know if I got a bfp for this cycle.
AFM: about 6 more days until I ovulate, give or take a day. This has always been the longest week ever! In 2 days it will be the one year anniversary of when I got my bfp. Sept 5 will be the one year anniversary that I lost that baby. I'll only be 5 or 6 dpo then so no way to know if I got a bfp for this cycle.
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Ayala, sounds wonderful you are picking up an old hobby again and keeping you busy. Sorry you cannot do an IUI, but the good ole fashioned way is way more fun 
Anniversaries like that suck mine is in Sept and not sure how it will affect me. How is the weight loss going?
Wish, I never thought about the DS issue and now I see how that could totally change the view of our SO. I initially did bring up DE (after my first round that many of my eggs dropped off after day 3) to my DH and I said I would be fine, and he was so not fine with it and I could not wrap my head around it. Now I see where he is coming from. Wow...now you are my therapist. I am so excited that in a couple months you could be preggo! Hopefully I will be right there with you because I think Oct my be a shot for us.
Hi sugar momma!
Left, wonderful analogy!
Dandi, you new avatar is beyond cute!
For me I cannot remember what I have added here. So last week my progesterone randomly spiked and made my lining not hospitable so our transfer was cancelled. Which was beyond heartbreaking because that is the primary reason WHY we did another IVF. It was rough, but I had a good cry and then just turned my focus onto my growing follies. Since we were not transferring the doc suggested going one more day of stims to see if we could get some of the small eggies to catch up and sacrifice the big one. Luckily he was the same one that was doing my retrieval on Sunday. He came in and checked to see how I was doing and said he expected 8 eggs (one less than last round), and I was fine with that. However, he got 11! We were beyond excited since there were only 12 they were tracking.
Day 1 we found out that 10 fertilized and that was great, as we now have 3 more than last time.
Yesterday was Day 3 and we have 9 going strong. That is also good because we had 7 last time. However I told the sub doc (they rotate days) that I was not getting too excited because last time my eggies dropped like flies last time after day 3. He said he looked at my old report and mentioned most of them had too many cells on day 3.
Guess that usually signals they are not chromosomally normal. The doc (my usual doc) said they looked great?!?! Now did she think the looked good, worriesome in it of itself, or was she just trying not to worry me. Either way my question is why...why set me up last time to only have 2 to biopsy. Maybe because I know more this round to ask the right questions, by either way hopefully this round will be better. The sub doc said 7 of them have 7-8 cells and 2 have 9 which is normal growth. Needless to say I am cautiously optimistic, but Sat we know the number that could be biopsied and have the results on my appt 9/6. During that appt we will also discuss how to get my lining to cooperate. As usual I have my own ideas that I want to discuss and she usually follows my lead. Not sure if that is good since my doc listens...or bad that she is not really formulating the plan and let's me do my own thing.
Whew....that was a book. Best of luck everyone...exciting times ahead!
Anniversaries like that suck mine is in Sept and not sure how it will affect me. How is the weight loss going?Wish, I never thought about the DS issue and now I see how that could totally change the view of our SO. I initially did bring up DE (after my first round that many of my eggs dropped off after day 3) to my DH and I said I would be fine, and he was so not fine with it and I could not wrap my head around it. Now I see where he is coming from. Wow...now you are my therapist. I am so excited that in a couple months you could be preggo! Hopefully I will be right there with you because I think Oct my be a shot for us.
Hi sugar momma!
Left, wonderful analogy!
Dandi, you new avatar is beyond cute!
For me I cannot remember what I have added here. So last week my progesterone randomly spiked and made my lining not hospitable so our transfer was cancelled. Which was beyond heartbreaking because that is the primary reason WHY we did another IVF. It was rough, but I had a good cry and then just turned my focus onto my growing follies. Since we were not transferring the doc suggested going one more day of stims to see if we could get some of the small eggies to catch up and sacrifice the big one. Luckily he was the same one that was doing my retrieval on Sunday. He came in and checked to see how I was doing and said he expected 8 eggs (one less than last round), and I was fine with that. However, he got 11! We were beyond excited since there were only 12 they were tracking.
Day 1 we found out that 10 fertilized and that was great, as we now have 3 more than last time.
Yesterday was Day 3 and we have 9 going strong. That is also good because we had 7 last time. However I told the sub doc (they rotate days) that I was not getting too excited because last time my eggies dropped like flies last time after day 3. He said he looked at my old report and mentioned most of them had too many cells on day 3.
Guess that usually signals they are not chromosomally normal. The doc (my usual doc) said they looked great?!?! Now did she think the looked good, worriesome in it of itself, or was she just trying not to worry me. Either way my question is why...why set me up last time to only have 2 to biopsy. Maybe because I know more this round to ask the right questions, by either way hopefully this round will be better. The sub doc said 7 of them have 7-8 cells and 2 have 9 which is normal growth. Needless to say I am cautiously optimistic, but Sat we know the number that could be biopsied and have the results on my appt 9/6. During that appt we will also discuss how to get my lining to cooperate. As usual I have my own ideas that I want to discuss and she usually follows my lead. Not sure if that is good since my doc listens...or bad that she is not really formulating the plan and let's me do my own thing. Whew....that was a book. Best of luck everyone...exciting times ahead!
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whew!!! I love it, mdc! when is the next development report? Happy to be your therapist, or at least report out on what the therapist said to us!
left - I absolutely love that analogy and don't mind if I keep it in my back pocket as a way to explain DE to a child, if and when. I love love love it! And the doc did say that she didn't even call the donor the 'biological' or 'genetic mother' - she calls them the 'genetic donor' - IIIIII would be the mother. Not her.
aayla - not long now! Best get to bumpin' uglies this weekend!!
sugar - :wave: thank you for your support and prayers!! every little bit will help
left - I absolutely love that analogy and don't mind if I keep it in my back pocket as a way to explain DE to a child, if and when. I love love love it! And the doc did say that she didn't even call the donor the 'biological' or 'genetic mother' - she calls them the 'genetic donor' - IIIIII would be the mother. Not her.
aayla - not long now! Best get to bumpin' uglies this weekend!!
sugar - :wave: thank you for your support and prayers!! every little bit will help
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left - I absolutely love that analogy and don't mind if I keep it in my back pocket as a way to explain DE to a child, if and when. I love love love it! And the doc did say that she didn't even call the donor the 'biological' or 'genetic mother' - she calls them the 'genetic donor' - IIIIII would be the mother. Not her.
Wish that's exactly it you would 100 % be the mom the " egg " was never going to be anything until you give it life . Well DH of course also has a role 
But the baby wouldn't exist without your input making you 100% mum
Wish that's exactly it you would 100 % be the mom
the " egg " was never going to be anything until you give it life . Well DH of course also has a role But the baby wouldn't exist without your input making you 100% mum
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Take the so called cake .... All the ingredients can be there sitting on a shelf . But they wil never ever be a cake until someone makes it so . Independant of the " process" of making the cake the ingredients don't amount to much
And you wish will have your very special " bun in the oven. "
And you wish will have your very special " bun in the oven.
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Aayla
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Mdc: wow. what a process. good luck this weekend! Can't wait to hear how many you will have! Hope your lining cooperates so you can transfer.
AFM: Cd 14 here. opk's are still negative but that is normal. I am no longer going away this weekend so no chance now of missing the surge or having to suddenly drive back to BD with hubby. We will definitely be getting a lot of it in. I haven't really talked about it with him so it totally keep the pressure off. I'm also very relaxed this cycle.
AFM: Cd 14 here. opk's are still negative but that is normal. I am no longer going away this weekend so no chance now of missing the surge or having to suddenly drive back to BD with hubby.
We will definitely be getting a lot of it in. I haven't really talked about it with him so it totally keep the pressure off. I'm also very relaxed this cycle.
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left - I wish I could give you the biggest hug right now. You have such an incredible way of looking at things and you lift people up to their highest. I love you for that!
good luck this weekend, aayla!
mdc - cannot wait to hear the final numbers!!!
good luck this weekend, aayla!
mdc - cannot wait to hear the final numbers!!!
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Awh wish what a lovely thing to say . Thankyou xxxxxxxx
Happy Monday,
I am happy for all the progress ladies.
Aayla all the best this cycle
Mdc- thats a good report so far. I cant wait to hear the latest update.
Wish- l am so excited for you.
I am still cheering and praying for you all ladies.
I am happy for all the progress ladies.
Aayla all the best this cycle
Mdc- thats a good report so far. I cant wait to hear the latest update.
Wish- l am so excited for you.
I am still cheering and praying for you all ladies.
Aayla
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Some opk test porn for ya ladies. Cd 18. This is a CB digi so I know the lines don't always mean anything. Test line is the right and control is the left. This is the darkest the test line has been so far. No smiley yet but If I stay on schedule O should happen tomorrow or Wednesday.
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Great line Ayala!
Wish, did you have another meeting yesterday or is it today?
Afm, I got some great news of the 9 7...yes 7 made it to freeze
last time we only had 2 make it. We are still waiting for the pgs so we should know next Tuesday. With my old age I am expecting half are not normal, but either way it is not to shabby.
Wish, did you have another meeting yesterday or is it today?
Afm, I got some great news of the 9 7...yes 7 made it to freeze
last time we only had 2 make it. We are still waiting for the pgs so we should know next Tuesday. With my old age I am expecting half are not normal, but either way it is not to shabby.
Aayla
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Wish: 
so funny.
Mdc: that is so great so many made it to freeze! FX they are all good!!
We have definitely been getting busy. Every day for the last 3 days. We will do it today as well and tomorrow. and maybe even the next day for good measure. Depends on how hubby feels.
so funny. Mdc: that is so great so many made it to freeze! FX they are all good!!
We have definitely been getting busy. Every day for the last 3 days. We will do it today as well and tomorrow. and maybe even the next day for good measure. Depends on how hubby feels.
