38 and TTC first baby, anyone else?
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Hey lovely ladies- i read every post and im just wondering if some of us have gotten referred to REs and have had more invasive treatments suggested way too quickly. It just pains me to see everyone so upset about their results (believe me, i was too)
How long has everyone been ttc?
The reason i ask is that i got referred to a RE after my SECOND month of trying because of the blocked tube detected via the HSG. My husband's SA and my hormone levels came back fine. I swear the stress i put on myself to try to conceive quickly actually backfired. I got pregnant around the thanksgiving holiday when i had 6 days off from work -all i did was lounge around, watch tv and baby dance. Stats show a majority of people actually trying to get pregnant will get pregnant within one year.
Tui- i know your situation is different because getting pregnant hasnt been a problem for you- and Wish, i know you're already a year into trying.
I hear so many anecdotal stories about women who tried every treatment possible only to end up pregnant once they "gave up."
Just something im pondering at midnight
What does everyone else think?
How long has everyone been ttc?
The reason i ask is that i got referred to a RE after my SECOND month of trying because of the blocked tube detected via the HSG. My husband's SA and my hormone levels came back fine. I swear the stress i put on myself to try to conceive quickly actually backfired. I got pregnant around the thanksgiving holiday when i had 6 days off from work -all i did was lounge around, watch tv and baby dance. Stats show a majority of people actually trying to get pregnant will get pregnant within one year.
Tui- i know your situation is different because getting pregnant hasnt been a problem for you- and Wish, i know you're already a year into trying.
I hear so many anecdotal stories about women who tried every treatment possible only to end up pregnant once they "gave up."
Just something im pondering at midnight
What does everyone else think?
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I definitely think stress is a factor. But being proactive instead of waiting for a year has its benefits too.
I'm now 14 months in, been pregnant 4 times, and had all the tests (all normal). I haven't had hsg's or iui's, as like you say getting pregnant isn't my issue. I have fantastic progesterone levels, even when I'm not pregnant, lol, and no clotting problems. The one appointment I got with the specialist just said I have to keep trying. Good job I didn't pay for that useless advice!
Soooo with all that said and done, I'm now concentrating on other things so ttc doesn't consume me again. I'm making things like keyrings and jewellery to sell in my etsy shop. I hope to try and get it up and running this weekend. Those of you who pop in my journal will have seen some pics already, but I'll post a link when it's ready.
My opk is almost positive this afternoon, so guess what I'll be doing all weekend ! Have a good one xx
I'm now 14 months in, been pregnant 4 times, and had all the tests (all normal). I haven't had hsg's or iui's, as like you say getting pregnant isn't my issue. I have fantastic progesterone levels, even when I'm not pregnant, lol, and no clotting problems. The one appointment I got with the specialist just said I have to keep trying. Good job I didn't pay for that useless advice!
Soooo with all that said and done, I'm now concentrating on other things so ttc doesn't consume me again. I'm making things like keyrings and jewellery to sell in my etsy shop. I hope to try and get it up and running this weekend. Those of you who pop in my journal will have seen some pics already, but I'll post a link when it's ready.
My opk is almost positive this afternoon, so guess what I'll be doing all weekend ! Have a good one xx
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Thanks tui, Your doc seems amazing as well! Hard to find that today, doesn't make it better but easier. And I will have to check out the etsy stuff.
Jessiecat, I went of bc Jan 2014 and we did the wait and see game having plenty of fun BD but no BFPs. I started using OPK and we did BD timing starting Oct 2014. So we had 4 cycles prior of super good timing plus 8 months of careless abandon before we checked the goods so to speak. If you don't mind me asking how long did you try before the HSG and until the RE? I feel like it is a mixed bag for extra testing. In my head I wanted to know if there was a problem to be more proactive- aka queue the type A personality. Certainly I need to get that in check
I do have to say as crappy as it, I kind of like knowing. Especially for my situation since it is an easy fix...if by that I mean lido injections and metal rods. Ha!
Jessiecat, I went of bc Jan 2014 and we did the wait and see game having plenty of fun BD but no BFPs. I started using OPK and we did BD timing starting Oct 2014. So we had 4 cycles prior of super good timing plus 8 months of careless abandon before we checked the goods so to speak. If you don't mind me asking how long did you try before the HSG and until the RE? I feel like it is a mixed bag for extra testing. In my head I wanted to know if there was a problem to be more proactive- aka queue the type A personality. Certainly I need to get that in check
I do have to say as crappy as it, I kind of like knowing. Especially for my situation since it is an easy fix...if by that I mean lido injections and metal rods. Ha!
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We stopped preventing January 2014, hoping it would just happen on it's own. Then I started temping and really obsessing about it in October. I think stress has so much to do with it though. I was on vacation from work for two weeks at the end of December/ start of January, and then I got sick, so I didn't end up going back to work until mid January. I was so relaxed, wasn't worried about a thing and really enjoyed my time however I wanted and got pregnant on January 14th, after a year of trying. Flash forward to March and I'm looking for a new job that's not as stressful and I'm hurrying to finish my house renovations in hopes that eliminating some stress will help for this next go round and it won't take another year.
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Sugar- Keep us posted on what the doc says about your clot. I guess if AF is heavy that is a good thing? Maybe the clomid isn't thinning it too bad. Prayers that you do not need IVF, but $7k sounds like a good deal!
Mdc- I think your plan is good and it still sounds promising. If your doc did not think dilation was possible for you I am sure she would have told you. So good news that they can get the swimmers where they need to be! Plus you have now confirmed that you are ovulating through temping, so that's half the battle there! Some women can not even ovulate on their own. I am still holding out for a miracle for you though and that it happens naturally!!
Jessie- My doc did not want to do any testing or RE referrals until I had a good 6 months of timed trying in. Being the personality type that I am however, I wanted to know right away if we were up against anything. What concerned me was the fact that my doc found pre-cancer cells on my cervix a couple times. Was able to get rid of them the first time with a compounded medication that I had to shove up there (was a very burning and painful ordeal), but the 2nd time (about 5 years ago) I had to have a leep procedure where they had to cut away the abnormal cervical tissue to get rid of them. So I had the possibility of dealing with a stenosed cervix because of that. But after all that, my doc insisted we try for at least 6 months before we moved forward with anything. So I really do think it was a miracle that I got pregnant so quickly with my age and past history. I am still shocked and I think my doc is too. I do feel good that he is keeping a close eye on me. Thankful that I get to see my little bean again in about a week and a half.
Tui- I can't wait to see your etsy shop! And have fun this weekend! Sending lots of sticky baby dust your way!
To every one else, have a fabulous weekend and lots of baby dust to you all as well!
Mdc- I think your plan is good and it still sounds promising. If your doc did not think dilation was possible for you I am sure she would have told you. So good news that they can get the swimmers where they need to be! Plus you have now confirmed that you are ovulating through temping, so that's half the battle there! Some women can not even ovulate on their own. I am still holding out for a miracle for you though and that it happens naturally!!
Jessie- My doc did not want to do any testing or RE referrals until I had a good 6 months of timed trying in. Being the personality type that I am however, I wanted to know right away if we were up against anything. What concerned me was the fact that my doc found pre-cancer cells on my cervix a couple times. Was able to get rid of them the first time with a compounded medication that I had to shove up there (was a very burning and painful ordeal), but the 2nd time (about 5 years ago) I had to have a leep procedure where they had to cut away the abnormal cervical tissue to get rid of them. So I had the possibility of dealing with a stenosed cervix because of that. But after all that, my doc insisted we try for at least 6 months before we moved forward with anything. So I really do think it was a miracle that I got pregnant so quickly with my age and past history. I am still shocked and I think my doc is too. I do feel good that he is keeping a close eye on me. Thankful that I get to see my little bean again in about a week and a half.
Tui- I can't wait to see your etsy shop! And have fun this weekend! Sending lots of sticky baby dust your way!
To every one else, have a fabulous weekend and lots of baby dust to you all as well!
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Hi ladies,
Sorry to be dropping in and running, Life is just hectic at the mo.
Been thinking of you all loads and hoping there are still more March miracles. Unfortunately not from me. AF arrived with vengeance last night!
I am 100% fine with it esp after AF being 4 days late. I knew I wasn't pregnant in the end and glad she eventually arrived so we can get started with this cycle!
Hope you all have a great weekend
Sorry to be dropping in and running, Life is just hectic at the mo.
Been thinking of you all loads and hoping there are still more March miracles. Unfortunately not from me. AF arrived with vengeance last night!
I am 100% fine with it esp after AF being 4 days late. I knew I wasn't pregnant in the end and glad she eventually arrived so we can get started with this cycle!
Hope you all have a great weekend
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Hi girls!
mdc - I can relate to your reaction of the news. I felt like my doc punched me in the gut when I was told I have DOR (diminished ovarian reserve) and we basically needed to hop right to IVF. I was hoping for IUI first. It took a day or two to sink in but now I feel a whole lot better b/c I can just leave everything to science now and there's a higher probability that I'll be all knocked up and pukey like kiley in a few months!
your temps are looking nice, btw! I love the temping story with DH. HAHA!
tui - I'd love to check out the etsy site! have fun BD'ing this weekend! Be good, and if you can't be good, be GREAT!
big hello and
to everyone else! have a fantastic weekend!
mdc - I can relate to your reaction of the news. I felt like my doc punched me in the gut when I was told I have DOR (diminished ovarian reserve) and we basically needed to hop right to IVF. I was hoping for IUI first. It took a day or two to sink in but now I feel a whole lot better b/c I can just leave everything to science now and there's a higher probability that I'll be all knocked up and pukey like kiley in a few months!
your temps are looking nice, btw! I love the temping story with DH. HAHA!
tui - I'd love to check out the etsy site! have fun BD'ing this weekend! Be good, and if you can't be good, be GREAT!
big hello and
to everyone else! have a fantastic weekend!
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Firstly 
to all who need them , that and a nice cuppa 
what ever is needed 
This ttc is not for the faint hearted that's for sure 
And ALL those years of trying desperately NOT trying to get knocked up !!!! Oh the panic once or twice
on a more serious note , mdc it sounds like your doc has your back which is a really good thing 
its a shock when we hear our journey is not taking us the route we planned but on a detour !
It took me 6 months of trying with Opk, temping and obsessing to get a chemical , then another 4 months for a BFP which ended in mmc . It then took another 5 months for a BFP . Have been actively trying this time since June to December ( 7 ) months then told STOP ! Thyroid malfunction .... Now waiting 4 months 
I'm not sure where my journey will take me next ??? But I'm so glad that its taken me here to meet you guys
to all who need them , that and a nice cuppa what ever is needed This ttc is not for the faint hearted that's for sure And ALL those years of trying desperately NOT trying to get knocked up !!!! Oh the panic once or twice
on a more serious note , mdc it sounds like your doc has your back which is a really good thing its a shock when we hear our journey is not taking us the route we planned but on a detour ! It took me 6 months of trying with Opk, temping and obsessing to get a chemical , then another 4 months for a BFP which ended in mmc . It then took another 5 months for a BFP . Have been actively trying this time since June to December ( 7 ) months then told STOP ! Thyroid malfunction
.... Now waiting 4 months I'm not sure where my journey will take me next ??? But I'm so glad that its taken me here to meet you guys
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Yea, I think we're all a bit Type A here. I was the same way- wanted to know as much information because, heck, why try so hard every month if there is something wrong from the start?? I got pregnant on the 3rd month a couple weeks after my HSG so I was able to cancel my RE appointment. I think part of my concern was that so many of my friends who are *only* 30-31 are having issues getting pregnant so i assumed at 37, I would be even worse off. What gave me hope was that my sister got pregnant quickly at 35 and my mom had my last two siblings at 37 and 38.
I don't know if it was the HSG that did it or what....probably won't ever know. Supposedly it's only a diagnostic test, but it seems like a great many women get pregnant soon after the procedure.
Kiley- i was like you- had the precancerous cells on my cervix a few years ago and had cryotherapy (i almost passed out from the pain during the procedure). I asked my OB about what problems could occur from the surgery and she said it may take a lot longer for the cervix to dilate during labor because of scar tissue.
Tui- i gotta check out your etsy shop! i bought my wedding band off etsy
MDC- i missed the post about the metal rods(?!)
Hi SK, Left, Dandi, Wish, Pothole, Sugargully, Star, KPME. Sorry if i missed anyone!!
Where's our friend from Portland/Maui??!?!
Happy Friday!
I don't know if it was the HSG that did it or what....probably won't ever know. Supposedly it's only a diagnostic test, but it seems like a great many women get pregnant soon after the procedure.
Kiley- i was like you- had the precancerous cells on my cervix a few years ago and had cryotherapy (i almost passed out from the pain during the procedure). I asked my OB about what problems could occur from the surgery and she said it may take a lot longer for the cervix to dilate during labor because of scar tissue.
Tui- i gotta check out your etsy shop! i bought my wedding band off etsy
MDC- i missed the post about the metal rods(?!)
Hi SK, Left, Dandi, Wish, Pothole, Sugargully, Star, KPME. Sorry if i missed anyone!!
Where's our friend from Portland/Maui??!?!
Happy Friday!
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Jessie - I'm still here lurking :wave: , keeping tabs on everyone's journey and cheering quietly. 10 dpo today, most likely 11 dpo by the time this is read, and trying to stay busy and breathe.
You ladies make me smile and laugh. I hope everyone has a great weekend!
You ladies make me smile and laugh. I hope everyone has a great weekend!
ive been craving a plate lunch so badly lately. :/Happy Saturday Ladies,
Pothole- Thanks for letting me know about the shoes. I ll ask if I can leave my shoes on when the time comes for the test.
Mdc- Am sorry to hear about lidocaine/metals rod/dilation etc. Any news that takes us back in this ttc journey is always hard to accept at first, and I second you in saying ttc is not for the faint hearted! Any decision you make, know that we all thinking about you and wishing you the best. On a side note, did enjoy happy hour?
Sugar- Sorry about AF. Did you find out about the clot?
Sk- I also hate when AF takes long to make an appearance…always wanting her to come quick if its not a bfp so I can move on to the next cycle. Fx for this cycle.
Tui- That sure is a positive opk to me….have fun this wkd.
Jessie, Left, Kiley- you are very appreciated in sticking around cheering us and one of these days we will all join you.
Wish, Dandi, Maui, Shar, Kpme and everybody I missed hello
It’s a beautiful day today. Its 50 degrees and sunny. Spring is here and i plan to enjoy it before its winter again! Just came home from a walk with DH and popping in here to say hi. 9-10dpo here. Had some cramping today and they seem like AF cramping. I also got 2 acne breakout in the same spot on my chin that always decide to do so when am close to my periods. Talked to DH in length about the next step if this is not our cycle and we are all in the same page. I ll have the HSG and He will have SA. Well, Ladies, hope everybody enjoy this weekend as I am….Adios!
Pothole- Thanks for letting me know about the shoes
. I ll ask if I can leave my shoes on when the time comes for the test.Mdc- Am sorry to hear about lidocaine/metals rod/dilation etc. Any news that takes us back in this ttc journey is always hard to accept at first, and I second you in saying ttc is not for the faint hearted! Any decision you make, know that we all thinking about you and wishing you the best. On a side note, did enjoy happy hour?
Sugar- Sorry about AF. Did you find out about the clot?
Sk- I also hate when AF takes long to make an appearance…always wanting her to come quick if its not a bfp so I can move on to the next cycle. Fx for this cycle.
Tui- That sure is a positive opk to me….have fun this wkd.
Jessie, Left, Kiley- you are very appreciated in sticking around cheering us and one of these days we will all join you.
Wish, Dandi, Maui, Shar, Kpme and everybody I missed hello
It’s a beautiful day today. Its 50 degrees and sunny. Spring is here and i plan to enjoy it before its winter again! Just came home from a walk with DH and popping in here to say hi. 9-10dpo here. Had some cramping today and they seem like AF cramping. I also got 2 acne breakout in the same spot on my chin that always decide to do so when am close to my periods. Talked to DH in length about the next step if this is not our cycle and we are all in the same page. I ll have the HSG and He will have SA. Well, Ladies, hope everybody enjoy this weekend as I am….Adios!
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hi girls, just popping in!
tui - I hope you caught that egg!!
all others coming to the end of the tww - FX'ed!!
my AF showed up super early this month, i'm so confused. On one hand, it explains the week of ewcm I had that seemed super early. But I don't know how I go from O'ing on cd16-18 down to cd12, potentially?! what is my body doing?! man, I honestly can't wait for IVF now...I hope this is still the plan. RE appt this Tuesday!!
I hope everyone is having a great weekend!
tui - I hope you caught that egg!!
all others coming to the end of the tww - FX'ed!!
my AF showed up super early this month, i'm so confused. On one hand, it explains the week of ewcm I had that seemed super early. But I don't know how I go from O'ing on cd16-18 down to cd12, potentially?! what is my body doing?! man, I honestly can't wait for IVF now...I hope this is still the plan. RE appt this Tuesday!!
I hope everyone is having a great weekend!
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Hi girls! It is a beautiful weekend indeed. Yesterday it poured but didn't stop DH and I from going to the outlets. This is rodeo season in Texas. We plan to enjoy the carnival and friends today. AF was shorter than norm and on the way out the door. I didn't look into it Maui, but I'll be ready if it happens again.
Stay strong ladies.
Stay strong ladies.
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