Nat, how did you deal with people getting pregnant when you were trying for so long? I'm having a really hard time with it I'm seeing te therapist Tuesday afternoon & this is one of the main things I need to figure out because so many of our closest friends are expecting & ATM, I don't want to spend time with them.
Yah Carl deserves to be put down
Can't wait to see more!!
Hi barbs...
Well to be totally honest I really didn't cope well at all...being around pregnancies made me feel really bitter....in front of them I was pleasant but when I would get home I would have a cry and feel sorry for myself and wallow ...
If it was someone I really cared about I was genuinely happy for them but deep down I would feel really down and envy them secretly ...
I also hated the fact that once they had their baby I was " not in their club" ....
But that was the attitude I would get from them not something I felt without cause if you know what I mean...
Over here we have a morning program and just a few weeks ago there was a doctor on the show and he has recently found that this is an actual condition that women suffer with....
He said that some women live with jealousy and envious thoughts towards pregnant women...even women that have recently had a baby suffer with it as they " miss" being pregnant and the special attention they would have received.
When I watched this program...I totally related to it....
I told my step father what I saw and admitted to feeling like this and he said that they kind of knew I felt like this before....
The only way I learnt to cope was to stay positive....
To keep telling myself that ill have my own baby one day and all the friends and family that were "funny" to me would get my middle finger lol ( not literally tho )
I think that as a woman that has the need to become a mum and have a family needs all the support from friends and family and those that alienate you do not deserve you...
When my close friend ( the one that was mean to me on fb) got pregnant she was quite young...she wasn't with the father bc he was abusive to her...I was with her through every step of the way..I looked after her I supported her all the way...I even helped to buy what she needed- she NEVER thanked me for this...she alienated me...I was completely not good enough for her anymore...she looked at me like " what do you know"
I forgave her for this eventually as soon enough she needed me and like a good friend I stayed in the background of her life and stepped up when needed but I felt like she didn't even notice how she made me feel...it broke my heart some days...
So as for coping I have to be totally honest I still struggle with this to date...
For example....don't get me wrong I LOVE the lovely Kate Middleton I think she's great but our due dates were almost the same give or take a week or two but every time I see her on the telly I brake down lately...so really I'm not coping very well at all...
All I CAN suggest is keep positive and stay focused on what it is we are trying to achieve...once we lose sight of this there's no way forward
One day you will have a wonderful family barbs I just know it...
And because you have worked SO Hard for this it will be even better I know it.
Hope your ok barbs and have a good day
xxx