Anyone else recently miscarried...waiting to try again a month or two....JOIN ME!!!

[JohnsonGirl]

Hi lovely ladies!
Its so rubbish this heart ache we have to go through, especially when it gets dragged out and we dont know whats really happening.

I FINALLY got a negative on a hpt today, 24 days post d&c! I feel like its a big step and i can start to move on a bit. Hubby and I are NTNP and he's going away now for a week so i guess i'll just see what this week brings. At least i know now that if i get a new bfp its because of a new pregnancy not the old hormones.

Hugs and baby dust to everyone

 

[mackjess]

I have a question for you ladies. I think my miscarriage started Thursday night when I began spotting. Friday I was bleeding bright red blood, and Saturday and still
Sunday morning. No cramps. No pain. My beta on Friday was a 44. Why am
I still getting positive pregnancy tests? And I don't mean faint lines. I took a digit that read pregnant. And a FRER and the line was the darkest I had gotten. I'm so confused.

Is your doctor planning on doing a second beta? My doctor explained that they have to be able to see a trend with it to formally call it a m/c or not. My bleeding started monday, but he explained that first trimester bleeding is a very common occurrence. My sister-in-law had what seemed like a full period at 6 wks. Of course, waiting the 2 days for the second level was torture. I was trying to stay positive, but my intuition was that I was no longer pregnant, wc the second beta verified.

As my OB explained, some tests on the market can actually detect Hcg at levels as low as 6.5 (not marketed as such). I would say even with the bleeding there's a small chance you're still pregnant. I don't want to give you false hope, but it would be worth a follow-up.

I am supposed to go Monday for my second beta. I just feel like its torture to wait another day. I was in fertility meds. I had up to 4-5 good follies. I'm wondering if I lost 1-2 and I'm still pregnant. I'm still nauseous. Still extra hungry. Still moody. Still grasping at straws. Seriously, when I took my first digital, it took 3-4 mins to show up pregnant. It took a minute or less this morning. I know none of you can say "yea you're still pregnant" or "nope, sorry" I guess I'm just venting.

Well I'm praying you are still pregnant. I got a BFP on my home test Friday and went in for Beta work. Won't get the results until tomorrow and now I am having brown spotting. It's such torture. I want to get my first results back because they can usually tell early on if it's a chemical pregnancy (what happened to me last time) and I may have to go in for another beta test and wait to see if it's increasing. Trying to stay positive, and hoping for the best outcome for both of us!!

 

[Sophiasmom]

Well fingers crossed for the both of you! We're all due for some good news!

 

[LaurenM.]

Nope, my betas dropped. I got them tested tonight and they were 27. Ugh. Well, I will be hopping back in the trying game as soon as I can. Now I'm just terrified that this is going to be repeated.

 

[Starry Night]

Hi, ladies. May I join?

I am currently going through my third loss and know I'll have to WTT for a few months. I have a minor procedure at the end of December and they won't do it on pregnant ladies in the first trimester so I have to wait until the New Year. Also, I think it will be good for me to not have TTC or early pregnancy stress over the Holidays.

I had a mmc which was discovered at 10 weeks though I wasn't told when the baby died. I was spotting for a week before the mmc was discovered and then I began to clot the next day and passed the baby the day after that. I passed the baby a week ago today and am still bleeding. With my first loss I bled for 10 days so I'm hoping against hope that it stops soon. I hate the physical reminders of my loss.

 

[Angel wings13]

Hello ladies....
My miscarriage of my little one and his/her surprise twin was in sept...(4th mc after 3 chemical pregnancies)
AF 11/2
Currently on CD12, bought my first OPK. I believe I will ovulate Friday(Assuming my cycle is now normal).

The doc thinks the 3 chemical pregnancies were due to my Grave''s Disease. But after a thyroidectomy and replacement meds, my levels are now normal. My doc is thinking the recent m/c is completely un-related. Chalking it up to random chromosomal abnormalities. I had a very enlarged yolk sac. (should be less than 5mm, mine was 11mm)

I hope she is right, because I have a 6 yr old boy and an 11 yr old boy - both totally normal pregnancies. ALL of my m/c's came in the last 4 yrs.... 3 of them 4 yrs ago....
I had just gone off my BC pill in May, and had wacky cycles, found out in August that I conceived in July....

My fiance and I are heartbroken, and I have turned into an obsessed baby crazed lunatic!

Funny how many times I got pregnant without trying (both boys and those 3 mc's were all unplanned!)

Now I am totally ready and we both want a baby, and now it seems like I have lost my chance...

But I still am a peeonastick-aholic! I'm only working this show with one ovary, but I seem to ovulate almost every month (when I wasn't on BC).

Hopefully I can come on here on November 30th with a BFP!

Good luck everyone!!

 

[JohnsonGirl]

Hi and Welcome new ladies. This is definately the right place to come for a bit of support or a vent!

Im a poas'aholic too! Since my hcg stopped registering on a hpt i've turned into an opk poas crazy lady! This thursday is 4 weeks since my d&c so im hoping for af to show up.....or a new pregnancy-lol!!

 

[hopefulrog]

Hello ladies,

Firstly I just wanted to say this is the first time I've written more than one post in a forum and it's really lovely to come home and check in on how everyone's doing and have some support!

Secondly, I had a question for you all. I had my first AF post miscarriage on 3rd November so am now on CD10. I stopped bleeding on Friday but then got some random spotting on Sunday and then again this morning.

I think it may have been down to a pretty tough zumba class (I seriously need to get back in shape...) but it doesn't usually happen to me with AF, and it's weird that there's been no spotting days in between.

Anyone else had a funny AF after a miscarriage?

 

[JohnsonGirl]

Hi hopfulrog. I'm not sure about your af, I've not had my first since mmc yet so I've no experience to share. I have read on here lots of women describing unsettled periods and intermittent bleeding with the first af after mc. Think the body needs a few months to get back onto a routine.

Hope you are feeling well. Are u using opks this cycle?

 

[babydoodle]

OMG I have so much reading to do here! Its been like a week since Ive been on this site...update for me...well nothing really my levels last week were still 48 and im supposed to go back tomorrow but i actuallyhave to cancel that appt. Just been really busy with some family stuff...soooo....mackjess....i see a pregnancy ticker!!! HOW EXCITING!!! Please update about this I wish you all the luck and baby dust in the world!!! Im still waiting for my levels to drop to zero...TAKING FOREVER!!!

 

[mackjess]

TY babydoodle. I've been looking for you on here!

Just got a BFP on a home test Thursday and had it confirmed on Friday because I could *barely* see the lines Thursday. Got betas done and they went from 30 on Friday to 232 on Monday, so it's doubling every 25 hours. Haven't heard from my OB yet about if they are going to keep doing my follow ups with blood tests or if they are going to make my first appt the scan appt at 6 weeks. Really hoping they keep checking my blood, but I'll be OK if they don't.

Glad they are monitoring your numbers so closely. If they don't drop as fast as they like they can give you something to help.

hopful-my AF after my m/c was totally crazy. I had spotting at random times then cramps came AFTER the bleeding was over. It was totally backwards and just weird. Your body is adjusting back to normal especially with that first cycle.

 

[babydoodle]

oh good to hear!!! i just sent u a message!!

 

[Starry Night]

Doubling hcg is a good sign! Hope this is your rainbow!

Ugh...just can't wait until I stop actively miscarrying. Since we have to wait for the New Year to TTC it's not about getting back in the saddle or anything. I just hate feeling crummy and I hate the reminders of the loss! Also, I just miss being with DH. Last night he gave me some real nice kisses and cuddles and it was just TORTURE because we couldn't go any further (sorry, but I can't do anything sexy while bleeding from my vagina and wearing big, bulky pads and have a splitting headache...lol)

 

[Missingbaby3]

Hi Ladies, I've read your posts & I'm new on here. I was 11w4d & had my first official dr. Visit yesterday. My hubby & I were excited to hear the heartbeat & to make sure baby was ok. Dr could not spot heartbeat but didn't think anything of it. She heard static which is a sign of movement. I'm wasn't having any miscarriage symptoms either. We talked about doing the triple screen ultrasound next week & she asked us if we were ok to wait. We were fine until we heard it would be two weeks out. I wanted to tell our remaining family member that we were pregnant after this appt. so I asked for ultrasound for confirmation of a heart beat. The tech measured baby to be 7w4d I was alarmed by this. Baby should be bigger according to my lmp & ovulation date. Then the text said there was no heartbeat & baby stopped growing at that time. We were devistated & in shock! My doctor felt horible & she scheduled my d&c right away yesterday afternoon. I woke up in tears with the picture of seeing my baby on the ultrasound & knowing that I'm empty inside. I miss my baby & miss being pregnant so much. Idk what to do know do we try right away or wait. I'm 36 & liking at the complications that go up as you get older. There are so many factors that come into play. Just want to be pregnant again to make the pain go away!
My heart goes out to everyone going through that same thing & hope that we can all be pregnant soon!

 

[Starry Night]

I'm so sorry to hear what you had to go through. That empty feeling inside is very hard to take. Getting pregnant again can be a big help so I hope you get your sticky rainbow soon.

 

[JohnsonGirl]

Hi Ladies, I've read your posts & I'm new on here. I was 11w4d & had my first official dr. Visit yesterday. My hubby & I were excited to hear the heartbeat & to make sure baby was ok. Dr could not spot heartbeat but didn't think anything of it. She heard static which is a sign of movement. I'm wasn't having any miscarriage symptoms either. We talked about doing the triple screen ultrasound next week & she asked us if we were ok to wait. We were fine until we heard it would be two weeks out. I wanted to tell our remaining family member that we were pregnant after this appt. so I asked for ultrasound for confirmation of a heart beat. The tech measured baby to be 7w4d I was alarmed by this. Baby should be bigger according to my lmp & ovulation date. Then the text said there was no heartbeat & baby stopped growing at that time. We were devistated & in shock! My doctor felt horible & she scheduled my d&c right away yesterday afternoon. I woke up in tears with the picture of seeing my baby on the ultrasound & knowing that I'm empty inside. I miss my baby & miss being pregnant so much. Idk what to do know do we try right away or wait. I'm 36 & liking at the complications that go up as you get older. There are so many factors that come into play. Just want to be pregnant again to make the pain go away!
My heart goes out to everyone going through that same thing & hope that we can all be pregnant soon!

Im so sorry you're going through this. It sounds very similar to what happened to me. 12week scan showed baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. Its very shocking and desperately sad, add in a surgery and its scary as well. I took it really hard too. It wont make you feel much better at the moment- but it does get better, it just takes some time. I think about it every hour of every day but ive focused on trying again and looking forward to a new bfp!
DH and i waited the 2 weeks post d&c before having sex but we've not been using protection so im just trying to take a relaxed approach to it until i get my first af......which hasn't come yet (its been 4 weeks).

Try again when you feel physically and emotionally ready. Doctors have different ideas on when to ttc again so there are no real rules. It all depends on you.

Hope you feel a bit better soon xxx

 

[mackjess]

Hi Starry, Hi Missing. I'm so sorry about your losses. You have both had to go through what I would consider my biggest nightmares/fears. I've had one loss, and I'm terrified of another. If I don't hang on to this sticky bean, I hope I realize it on my own when I'm at home. Not that there is ever a good way to lose a baby, but I was glad I could deal with it before I had to face the doctor. I'm so sorry you found out when you were at the scan. I'm so scared about my scans now after the loss. Being preg again is a gift, but it's so hard. I am afraid every time I pee that I'll see blood. And I have to pee about every 5 minutes so it makes for some very long days. Only at 4 weeks now and I don't feel like it's real, I think I'm too afraid to let myself believe it yet. I don't think I will be OK until I get to hold a rainbow baby in my arms.

I'm glad you found this thread. I love this site, and look forward to seeing your successful journeys.

 

[nessaw]

So sorry for everyones losses.

Mackjess congratulations.i can imagine what a worrying time this must be.

Afm i went back to work today.tmi alert-have only got brown on my towel-is this normal?am on day 12 of miscarriage bleeding now.

Completely with you when u say about kissing/cuddling but no more with oh.think i really need that closeness now.

Hope everyone is doing ok.love vx

 

[hopefulrog]

Hi hopfulrog. I'm not sure about your af, I've not had my first since mmc yet so I've no experience to share. I have read on here lots of women describing unsettled periods and intermittent bleeding with the first af after mc. Think the body needs a few months to get back onto a routine.

Hope you are feeling well. Are u using opks this cycle?

Hi there,

Thanks for responding and actually feeling ok. I'm not using OPKs, never have done possibly as I'm worried it'll just start another POAS obsession! If I don't get my BFP end of this cycle I'll definitely think about it. I tend to rely on calendars as I'm fairly regular and also monitor EWCM. Oh and BD every other day

To Starry and Missing, I'm so sorry for what you're both going through. It's just the hardest thing and everyone will have an opinion, but I honestly think it's down to each woman and couple to go with what feels right for them. Only you'll know if you're feeling physically and emotionally ready.

xx

 

[2011Maybebaby]

Really glad to find this thread. I miscarried on Oct 15th at 6+2weeks. I felt from the start something wasn't 'right'. I bled for a week and think I ovulated 2 weeks later but my consultant said not to try til after my first af. So have been hoping to get back to normal and yesterday got AF. very very heavy but not too painful. Really happy to be back on track but also a bit sad that I got af when I should be nearly 11 weeks now.. ah well.. things happen for a reason. Def going to try everything this month. Started on Evening primrose tabs yest and going to try preseed and robitussin again this month (something worked on my ds so will try them again).. hope I ov on time this month.. cant wait to be preg again - with a sticky bean this time.