Okay, so this is the Copy and paste from my journal entry, sorry I wrote a book! LOL!
"Okay so it was a small traditional Dr offiCe setting. The waiting room was Crowded so there wasn't many plaCes to sit. There was no bells or whistles or extra frills. They did have a sign in the waiting room asking for patients to not have any Children with them due to the sensitive nature of fertility treatments so I thought that was really great.
My old fertility offiCe is a muCh niCer faCility with a larger overall offiCe with a spa, and massage building where patients Can do aCCupunCture before treatment. They have a large impressive lab that they let you tour and a more high end feel to the deCor and everything. It is a bigger offiCe in general.
The dr himself was overall niCe. He was older, I would guess about 50's or maybe even 60's. He answered all of my questions and explained the general proCess. I will only need 2 drugs but one of them is an injeCtable so I wasn't thrilled with that.
I asked him about 1 embryo vrs 2 being transferred and he thinks I should do 1 first and than try 2 the next time if it didn't work, but he is okay with doing 2 if I wanted him to. He said that sinCe I had twins the 1st time.
So the problem Came in beCause there was some additional testing that I didn't know about, but the DR wants me to do this test where they insert a mirsCope into my uterus and look in there. The problem is that the billing department didn't think it would be Covered by insuranCe so it Costs about 1,000.00 buCks, this is in addition to an ultrasound to look at my uterus, so this was news to me. They also Charge this $250.00 admin fee to start the FET Cyle with them. This was inCreasing the Costs from about 4,500 to over 5,500 and getting into a priCe into an area where I am not Comfortable anymore. I spoke to the billing department well I was there and I thought my insuranCe was going to Cover this testing but now it is looking like they will not. I am not totally sure but when I went through this testing with another fertility offiCe b4 my insuranCe did Cover it. Overall even though this fertility offiCe is the most affordable in my state, the additional testing and hidden fees they Charge have made me deCide to do the FET at my first CliniC and just do the drive.
I also met with the IVF Coordinator well I was there, and I didn't Care for her, she talked really fast and was Confusing as a result of it. She was saying she wanted my DH to provide an STD blood panel even though he won't even be involved with the Cyle this time at all, sinCe the embryos are already made. That makes no sense to me. They also wanted me to do additional testing that is not part of the normal routine OBGYN exam and STD panel that you would get when you go for your well women exam, so I have no idea if that stuff would be Covered or not. Long story short by the time I was done my head was spinning and I felt overwhelmed.
So I spoke to my old CliniC on the phone and asked how the FET would work if I do it out of state and I Can just do my monitoring out of town, and just go up there for the transfer itself. I CheCked with a fertility CliniC near my home to ask about monitoring me for the FET and they Charge 175.00 for an ultrasound, whiCh I would need a few but that is still Cheaper than all of the other testing Costs I would raCk up with the new CliniC. My old CliniC Charges $1650.00 for the transfer and than I would have to pay for the meds whiCh range from about 500 to 1k, so $2,650 is a hell of alot more affordable in the long run. So that is our new plan and I am more Comfortable with that. I already know and like the other DR, and had suCCess with them, so I feel better about it. We would just drive right to the City where the fertilty offiCe is, so it would only be a 4.5 hour drive this way. I might just go by myself and leave DH at home with the kids or if he is nervous about having them alone we might all go together, we haven't made up our minds yet, but I am leaning towards Otober to do it now to avoid the winter weather that happens up north, but I would for sure do it by November. I Can drive to my hometown that is about 45 minutes away from my fertility CliniC and visit with family well I am there if I have the time.
So that is the new plan and I feel muCh better about the overall Cost and proCess, sinCe I found out today that I Can do out of town monitoring and only have to be out of town for a day for the transfer. Of Course with the Commute I would have to spend the night, so I would be there 2 nights and 3 days at a minimum.
The new CliniC was really going to extremes with the testing and going beyond what I feel should be neCessary for me to do the FET. The thought of jumping through all of these hoops for the FET is Crazy to me. I am already annoyed that I have to go through so muh to get pregnant in the first plaCe but adding in extra Costs and extra testing has made me think driving long distanCe is the lesser of the 2 evils, so i Can have some $$ left in savings at the end of the day!"
Not to mention all the selfish and passive-aggressive stuff her and my narcissistic brother have said and done in the last 2 years. My enabler cousin (she's very enmeshed with my brother and sister) used to be supportive but she's checked out fairly recently (thinking my brother and sister are bad-mouthing me to her because I won't put up with their abusive and selfish behavior anymore) so I don't really hear from her, other than that one FB message she sent complaining about how my narcissistic mother treated her husband so badly a couple of years ago and she went on and on before saying she hopes my mother is nice to me (despite the fact I've told her a number of times that she's not)
