Anyone watching this morning?

[LittleBoo]

Nudity's the norm in this house, Jack's no stranger to a naked adult wandering round trying to find a clean t-shirt (we do wash clothes but currently don't have a wardrobe )

Sex with an adult is just that, babies don't know what's going on if they do wake up, I'd rather a baby/young child witness that than the arguements so many couples have in front of their kids.

Thinking on, how are children going to understand sex as a natural, loving act when the first time they see it/talk about it properly, it's likely to be porn, or an entirely factual school subject? Hmmm... this'll be on my mind all night now!

 

[moomin_troll]

I see it as no different to if ur having sex and ur baby is in the cot next to ur bed!
I never watch this morning but what a pointless thing to go on tv and talk about

Seriously.

Oh sorry do slats of wood provide a sound barrier or prevent the child from wakin or seeing anything? Get a grip!
People who say they wouldnt have sex with a baby in their bed but would if the baby were in the same room are hypocrites. If one is seen as wrong then so is the other

 

[Button#]

If it helps I checked what my OH, who is a social worker, thought about it. He said it's not child abuse, so anyone who thinks it is please don't phone him because he's very busy!

 

[Yammas]

Im not a parent yet so I cant speak from experience but in my opinion if the child is sound asleep and oon the other side of the bed then I dont see the big deal. Its the same if the child is in a cot they can still see out and hear whats going on even though I'm pretty sure youd be discrete whether their in bed or next door.

I think its also safer as you can see the baby rather than sneaking off to another room and leaving them alone.

 

[indy and lara]

Nudity's the norm in this house, Jack's no stranger to a naked adult wandering round trying to find a clean t-shirt (we do wash clothes but currently don't have a wardrobe )

Sex with an adult is just that, babies don't know what's going on if they do wake up, I'd rather a baby/young child witness that than the arguements so many couples have in front of their kids.

Thinking on, how are children going to understand sex as a natural, loving act when the first time they see it/talk about it properly, it's likely to be porn, or an entirely factual school subject? Hmmm... this'll be on my mind all night now!

I grew up in a home where nudity was the norm, as does Em. It was no big deal when I grew up and I hope that attitude will carry on to be the case for Emma. I don't think adults chosing or not to have sex with a baby in the bedroom has any bearing on how they will be introduced to sex. As a parent it is your hob to decide when and how you will introduce sex to a child. Some people choose to tell their children, other people leave it to the school to tell everything to their child. (An aside but as a teacher I have seen girls cry when they hear about periods as they have no idea they exist.) I was very little when I asked at home (I presume someone was having a baby) and my parents were always very matter of fact and open about it. We will follow a similar path but I still chose not to have sex while she was in the cot next to our bed and I would make the same choice again.

 

[moomin_troll]

I wouldn't want my boys learning about sex by seeing me, I'd be mortified!
Like pp said its about being honest with ur children and answering their questions as honestly has possible depending on their age.
But I won't have a 5 y old sleeping in the same room as me, that is completely different to a baby of 5 weeks or 5 months

 

[EarthMama]

I see it as no different to if ur having sex and ur baby is in the cot next to ur bed!
I never watch this morning but what a pointless thing to go on tv and talk about

Seriously.

Oh sorry do slats of wood provide a sound barrier or prevent the child from wakin or seeing anything? Get a grip!
People who say they wouldnt have sex with a baby in their bed but would if the baby were in the same room are hypocrites. If one is seen as wrong then so is the other

If you're replying to me I didn't say that. I think this is a lame topic for a morning news show and pretty low on my radar of things-I-care-about.

 

[meli1981]

I wouldn't want my boys learning about sex by seeing me, I'd be mortified!
Like pp said its about being honest with ur children and answering their questions as honestly has possible depending on their age.
But I won't have a 5 y old sleeping in the same room as me, that is completely different to a baby of 5 weeks or 5 months

my six year old sleeps with me, but i dont have sex with her in the bed! whats wrong with your six year old sleeping in the same bed?

 

[moomin_troll]

I see it as no different to if ur having sex and ur baby is in the cot next to ur bed!
I never watch this morning but what a pointless thing to go on tv and talk about

Seriously.

Oh sorry do slats of wood provide a sound barrier or prevent the child from wakin or seeing anything? Get a grip!
People who say they wouldnt have sex with a baby in their bed but would if the baby were in the same room are hypocrites. If one is seen as wrong then so is the other

If you're replying to me I didn't say that. I think this is a lame topic for a morning news show and pretty low on my radar of things-I-care-about.

Yes it was to u as it isn't clear what u ment by quoting me then and saying seriously

 

[moomin_troll]

I wouldn't want my boys learning about sex by seeing me, I'd be mortified!
Like pp said its about being honest with ur children and answering their questions as honestly has possible depending on their age.
But I won't have a 5 y old sleeping in the same room as me, that is completely different to a baby of 5 weeks or 5 months

my six year old sleeps with me, but i dont have sex with her in the bed! whats wrong with your six year old sleeping in the same bed?

Did I say there was anything wrong? My 3 yr old sometimes comes in bed with me but I wouldn't have him sleeping in my bed every night like I would a small baby

 

[meli1981]

I wouldn't want my boys learning about sex by seeing me, I'd be mortified!
Like pp said its about being honest with ur children and answering their questions as honestly has possible depending on their age.
But I won't have a 5 y old sleeping in the same room as me, that is completely different to a baby of 5 weeks or 5 months

my six year old sleeps with me, but i dont have sex with her in the bed! whats wrong with your six year old sleeping in the same bed?

Did I say there was anything wrong? My 3 yr old sometimes comes in bed with me but I wouldn't have him sleeping in my bed every night like I would a small baby

im sorry im just a pro cosleeper, so as i sleep with my six year old every night, it just seemed like you were insinuating co sleeping past a certain age was wrong. why is it different then sleeping with a baby? its the same person.

 

[EarthMama]

I see it as no different to if ur having sex and ur baby is in the cot next to ur bed!
I never watch this morning but what a pointless thing to go on tv and talk about

Seriously.

Oh sorry do slats of wood provide a sound barrier or prevent the child from wakin or seeing anything? Get a grip!
People who say they wouldnt have sex with a baby in their bed but would if the baby were in the same room are hypocrites. If one is seen as wrong then so is the other

If you're replying to me I didn't say that. I think this is a lame topic for a morning news show and pretty low on my radar of things-I-care-about.

Yes it was to u as it isn't clear what u ment by quoting me then and saying seriously

I can see how it isn't clear, oops sorry, I shouldn't get on the forums at 3am.

 

[moomin_troll]

I wasnt insinuating anything because I hadn't noticed anyone mention cosleeping past a certain age.
I stopped co sleeping with both my boys at 6 months because I didn't want them crawling off the edge if I didn't wake up intime.
Zane actually didn't want to sleep with me when he was 6 months, he wanted his own space and to me that's healthy to what ur own space and independents.
To me 6 is too old to be sleeping with ur parents everynight, I duno it just is.

It's another case of when will it end, what if other children at school find out and bully her

 

[moomin_troll]

I see it as no different to if ur having sex and ur baby is in the cot next to ur bed!
I never watch this morning but what a pointless thing to go on tv and talk about

Seriously.

Oh sorry do slats of wood provide a sound barrier or prevent the child from wakin or seeing anything? Get a grip!
People who say they wouldnt have sex with a baby in their bed but would if the baby were in the same room are hypocrites. If one is seen as wrong then so is the other

If you're replying to me I didn't say that. I think this is a lame topic for a morning news show and pretty low on my radar of things-I-care-about.

Yes it was to u as it isn't clear what u ment by quoting me then and saying seriously

I can see how it isn't clear, oops sorry, I shouldn't get on the forums at 3am.

We all do it lol

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I'm sorry but I agree with moomin_troll past a certain age co-sleeping does get odd.

I'm sure you love the bond with your daughter, but she would be bullied if it were found out she still sleeps in her parents bed.

Also, surely she needs to learn to sleep on her own at some point just sayin'

 

[Kate&Lucas]

My aunt still sleeps with her 6 year old, he has his own room but prefers to share with his mum and his friends couldn't give too hoots
I plan on co-sleeping until we no longer want to. I don't see the point in being unhappy in seperate rooms when we could be snuggled up together, just because others don't like it.

 

[LittleBoo]

I'm 20 and I'd happily bedshare with my Mum. I hate sleeping alone. I do like the occasional starfishing, in fact I love it... but like the majority, I like the security of having loved ones close by.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

My aunt still sleeps with her 6 year old, he has his own room but prefers to share with his mum and his friends couldn't give too hoots
I plan on co-sleeping until we no longer want to. I don't see the point in being unhappy in seperate rooms when we could be snuggled up together, just because others don't like it.

I think maybe its the whole where does it end thing. Yeah I agree, why be unhappy if just sharing a bed solves the problem.

What does your aunt do if her DS has to stay the night somewhere else & he can't sleep? What would you do?

I have co-slept with my LO, in the early hours of the mornings when he couldn't sleep, but I wanted him to get used to sleeping by himself & tbh he prefers it. But ofc everyone is different.

I didn't mean any offense

 

[LittleBoo]

Oh bugger no I wasn't suggesting a demonstation sorry just re-read my second to last post and had a horrid realisation. No no no no no and no.

I was just wondering in general how early childhood can lead to prudishness (is that a word?) in adulthood, such as no sex in the room with a baby who isn't even awake, to no nudity, no normality for nudity anyway, to normal childhood curiousity/desire to be nude being shunned and such, not suggesting anyone here is doing this, or that it's actually linked, just a train of thought I go off on tangents a fair bit...

So, back to bedsharing!

 

[moomin_troll]

I don't expect anyone to give a damn what my opinion is