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[Hann12]

Thanks girls, well bad news, prolapsed two discs which is causing the sciatica and spasms. He's done a bit of massage and I have a huge strapping on my back but he can't do proper adjustments because they could harm the baby so I'm stuck really like this for the foreseeable future. And it means I have a higher chance of needing another epidural because I'm starting labour off in a lot of pain. Really quite sad and frustrated now. Gregs going to work at 10 tomorrow so I get a bit of help then. Then my mum can come a week on Monday for a coupl of days. It's better than nothing I guess!

 

[melissasbump]

Julie, cant wait to hear all about Violets birth! Congrats, so happy for you!

Hann, huge hugs to you, i can understand how your feeling expecially being pregnant but at least i had the support around me. You really are superwoman for getting on with things as you are!
I went to my chiro today and had an adjustment and also a deep massage which was really quite painful but in a good way if you know what i mean? im hoping to feel better in a few weeks, so frustrating and painful. I thought i felt better earlier, but seems to be worse. Im going back fri, cant really afford it but have to get this sorted asap.

 

[Hann12]

Mel - I don't know about being superwoman but I don't have much of an option lol! If I had people around me I'm sure I'd be using them! If I remember correctly after a manipulation (assume you had a back cracking type of treatment) it can take a day or so to settle down so you might find that you wake up tomorrow with it feeling much better. Chiropractors and Osteopaths should be able to make it feel significantly better in 1-2 sessions so don't pay for more than that if they haven't done it in that time. It might be worth getting a second opinion at that point. Obviously I've not been able to get a proper manipulation so I guess I'll need a few more sessions, although also having to pay for them which is making money tight. Let me know how you feel tomorrow

 

[melissasbump]

well i think you are!
My chiro has always done a great job before so i do have faith in him. Im paying as a member at the mo, £79 per month but thats as many sessions as i need, otherwise its £34 per session, and as soon as i feel better i can cancel the dd and just pay once a month as i normally do. Still cant afford it!
Hopefully will feel better tomorrow x

 

[caz_hills]

Oh Han that sounds horribly painful Poor you. Come on here and we will keep your spirits up!

Mel - sorry you're in pain too. Pregnancy and labour does cause our bodies to go through it!

Lovely day as always with Ajay today. Toddler group this am, then he napped for 90 minutes so I did some work and then Neel's best friend was working nearby so popped in to see Ajay which was lovely (although Neel was at work!). So it was another wonderful day at home..... back to work tomorrow! x

 

[mummySS]

Glad you had a nice day Caz

Hann, ouch, I can't imagine how painful that must be. I agree with Mel you are superwoman for managing with Annabelle. Glad Greg is around to help you in the morning at least. Really wish there was something I can do, but you know we're always here to listen, sympathise and try to cheer you up

Mel - wishing you better too, can't be easy especially with 2 to look after

Arghhh, our nanny called in sick AGAIN today, i'm so fed up with her and it makes me glad that we have decided to get rid of her anyway. I feel like a hypocrite because I have been on sick leave for 6 months (lol!) but I really think when you are working for a family (as opposed to a big company) you need to be more thoughtful about taking a sick day. This will be her 6th (paid) sick day since July (and tomorrow her 7th), considering she only works for us 2 days per week that is a lot no? If you pro rata that to her working full time she'd have taken like 20 days (my maths is terrible so I don't know exactly how many but I know it would be a lot!). And add that to the 11.2 days paid holiday she's allowed during the year, we hardly have her at all! Anyway I've had a nice day with Leo, managed to arrange a play date with an NCT friend this morning so that made the day more enjoyable

Julie - hope you and Vi are getting on well!

 

[Hann12]

Simmy - yes that's a lot of sick leave - we used to say that anything over 10 days in a year (unless it was for something like flu where you get 5 days consecutively off which is a chunk, or serious sickness). We would start to informally manage. So yes 7 days for a part timer is high!! I'm glad you are getting rid so you don't have to sort it out

I'm furious this morning - as if I didn't have enough going on Greg hasn't come home yet! He went out drinking last night and I've been waking periodically through the night and he's not been there (so not a great sleep). Just got a text from him to say he's on his way home and that he's not looking forward to going to work in the morning! It is the morning ffs and he was meant to be helping me out! Clearly he has decided to use the fact that he's going in late as an excuse to stay out later and now I have no help and a stupid inconsiderate husband. I don't know whether to be angry or just sit and cry!

 

[caz_hills]

Oh my god Han that is terrible! I'm so angry with him and I've never even met him! X

 

[Hann12]

He's still not home! He just text to say he was still in a taxi and has been out with a client that he was due to be out with next fri so he won't be out then as if that's a consolation! I'm livid, I'm exhausted and I'm in pain! Really fed up!

 

[caz_hills]

Rubbish excuse...... I don't know what I'd do if that was Neel but Han I really hope you are ok xxxx

 

[caz_hills]

This morning Neel didn't get up with Ajay but I found it hard to be annoyed as Han I kept thinking of Greg still being out. How has it gone this morning? x

 

[Hann12]

Thanks Caz, he got back at 7.35am, said it took 2.5 hours to get a taxi from soho to Chelsea to drop off the client then get back to ours. I don't think he's done anything shifty I just think he's been an idiot. He said he was going to stay up and take Annabelle to football but he's clearly drunk still so I've told him to just go to bed. I'll have to take her on my own and ask the men that run it if they can do more with her this week as I really can't. I could just miss it I guess but then I don't know what to do with her this morning. I'll see how I feel at 9. Feeling pretty rubbish right now though. He says that he got the client so it's worth it, whether he has or not I don't know. I'm just so fed up of being in pain and doing everything. I really was looking forward to having him look after her even just for a few hours this morning.

 

[mummySS]

Oh bloody hell Hann I'm livid for you!!! That really is too much. I know he has to work hard but family needs to come first sometimes, especially now!

 

[caz_hills]

I am sure it is nothing shifty - that never crossed my mind - it's more that he needs to think of you more. Huge hugs xxxx

 

[fifi-folle]

omg what a selfish idiot- nothing constructive to say sorry x

 

[Blue_bear]

Hann. I would be furious to say the least! I wouldn't have let him go to bed but maybe I'm mean! I hope he makes it up to you ASAP!

 

[Hann12]

I let him have 2 hours sleep by which point I was feeling sick, dizzy and generally rubbish so I woke him up bawling my eyes out. Think he got a bit of a shock to say the least. He's now taking her in the garden for a run around to tire her out and hopefully staying at home the rest of the day and tomorrow too. Big relief to have some help and support finally!
I can however hear Annabelle screaming at the moment like he's doing something awful but I think he's just trying to dress her and she's going mental because its not me! Well it's probably one big hangover from hell for him!!

 

[caz_hills]

Serves him right what a Wally x

 

[caz_hills]

Han sorry my last post was a bit harsh. He's made a mistake I just hope he doesn't repeat it. I just worry about you and hate hearing you upset. X

 

[melissasbump]

Hann, hope you are feeling a little better, Greg really needs to buck his ideas up especially with a new baby coming very soon. You are pretty much a single mum at times, i know he has to work hard but his family should come 1st, he wont get this time back. I hope he gets today and tomorrow off and you get a well deserved rest. xx