Beach Bump Graduates!

[Hann12]

Hi all just up for night feed.

Mel I'm sorry to hear that the shopping wasn't great. I shrinked my tummy down in 2 days by using my belly bandit. I'm still not at my ideal but it gets rid of the pregnancy bump. I still use it as i bought a small one and now need to get rid of some fat and tone up but the initial stomach reduction it did really fast. Maybe try one?
I'm impressed with your diet will power - I'm still eating chocolatey treat goodness!

Hadn't thought about Halloween but am now...

I an going to think about Christmas outfits soon too - once I know what size she might be. We are in new-born now after wearing tiny baby the first 4 weeks. I'm sad she gas grown out if her little stuff!!

Will update in the morning on my friend as on iPhone and balancing precariously!

 

[Jenni4]

I feel for you Mel!! I am going a shopping tonight with friends...should be interesting! I will NOT try on pants or shorts! I only need a few billowy flowy tops to help with bf'ing and because all of my old tops are too tight. I never realized how skinny I was!! After my first I had about 50 pounds to lose...and i lost it all and my body looked better than ever! Took some work but it happened....it can happen for you too! Just don't expect results in a rush...it takes months for most of us...i still have twenty pounds to lose...but I am going to start p90x at my six week mark so I can exercise from home. Also...I am giving myself a 3month window where i am allowed to wear my maternity pants before even thinking about regular pants!

I have had two sections and have no flap of skin? Is that something that just section women are supposed to get? Maybe i just got lucky...twice!! Why is it that section women get it?

 

[caz_hills]

Morning everyone.

About c section and flaps of skin - my tummy has gone down quite a lot but I think I may have some skin which won't go away. I have my six week check up today so I hope to get going this week or next. I have a stone still to lose......

So last night Ajay fed at 8.30 and then slept until 3.30 am!!!!! He then fed again and woke up at 7.15!!! Amazing! But bad news is that I used to have insomnia and its come back. I couldn't sleep when I tried to sleep and when I did the night feed couldn't sleep again. It's horrible as I need sleep and now he is sleeping, I can't sleep. Neel was great and hugged me loads to try and help me sleep. In the end at five am I went to the spare room. Boo..... Any hints for overcoming insomnia?

 

[Hann12]

Caz - I feel for you! How about nytol or horlicks?

I had an awful night - she cried from 5pm -9.15pm. Then she ate but was too tired to have a full feed so only slept till 12.30. She went back to sleep 2.30-5 (though kept waking up wailing) then from 5 she strained and cried trying to do a poop until 8.40 when it finally happened. I then had to get a shower so she cried until I fed her at 9.15 and she is now half feeding and half sleeping on me.
I am exhausted from the crying plus my stitches wound is hurting a bit and looking angry. Possibly going to be infected again. Not good. Trying to attack it with tea tree oil now to avoid it!

Anyway update on my friend - she is def suffering from PND. She is exhausted despite getting 10+ hours sleep per day! She cries at everything, says she feels inadequate as a mother, and is looking fir things to be wrong with her baby. Her mum is living with her and was out shopping and she came back and immediately took the baby and changed her, cuddled her, put her into bed. The baby looked adoringly at the grandma. My friend is so exhausted she just wants her mum to do everything and by doing that it looks like she hasn't bonded with her baby. We tried to get her to resume coming to our weekly nct meet ups which she said she would. However when we talked about getting proper help she was obviously unwilling. She thinks she will feel better if she could just get more sleep! She gets loads so I don't think that's the issue. She has 2 naps a day minimum lasting 2 hours plus the sleep at night - she does get up every 3 hours to feed the baby but she feeds in just 15 minutes then she gies back to bed while her parents burp and resettle the baby.
So hard to help when she doesn't see the problem. She just kept saying her baby was a crier and had really bad reflux and constipation even though baby poo'd twice when we were there and she admitted she had only been sick once. The baby is a very happy content baby everytime I have seen it!
She also keeps a book which notes down number of poo's and size and consistency, number of feeds and length, amount of sleep, length of time crying etc etc so she can compare every day!
So you can see she is not right but hard to do anything but talk when she doesn't want to take help.
Anyway that's the update from me!
Hope everyone else is having a better day!

 

[Blue_bear]

I am back on another course of antib's for mine too Hann!!
Sorry quick 1 handed msg!

 

[Hann12]

Georgie have they said when you are likely to heal? I am so fed up with it! They told me that new skin would form over the open bit but that's nit happened. It just looks angry. Think I might make a dr appointment before it gets worse!

 

[Blue_bear]

Ive been going to the drs pretty much weekly as doc wanted to see if it was progressing. It is progressing...just slowly. Have been told they can refer me for re-modlling once finished antib's but its done under a general and i cant be faffed with it to be honest, its sore but not unbearable at the mo. Will just give it a bit more time i think. I am finding its getting a little itchy now that it is healing, thats annoying more than anything. ~i have no idea what mine looks like, still havent braved it!
Hope you get sorted soon!

 

[Doodlepants]

I want to see some pics of these Halloween outifts when you all get them!

Sorry to hear about your friend Hann, she sounds pretty bad- it's even harder when someone won't accept help, do you think she'll come to the weekly meetings again?

Well we're braving a picnic today (please stay sunny!!!) with some friends from Holly's nursery- I've never met up with anyone from there before- luckily H's friends mum and I went to school together so I know her a bit which helps!

My tummy's started playing up these last few days- I naively was hoping it'd gotten better...sigh... Nevermind!

 

[Hann12]

Georgie I have been looking at mine - it looks no different unfortunately! Have your stitches split? I have been told that I can have another episiotomy when this one heals though it has to heal first - which is taking forever! They have estimated between 8 weeks and 4 months! It has been 5.5 weeks so far whlith no change so I reckon I'm on course for the 4 months! I'm not keen on having another episiotomy though unless it happens when I am pushing another baby out! Not doing this pain again for no reason!!

Doods - not good about your tummy! Not sure what to suggest but hope it feels better soon.

My little angel is crying again sigh!!

 

[melissasbump]

Morining all.

Thankyou everyone for your kind and encouraging words re my shopping trip yesterday. I do recomend control pants though! These ones are fab and only £6 per pair! lol

Hann, your friend def sounds like a PND candidate although im no expert, you would think her mum might have picked up on it, is there any oppotunity for you to speak to her mum?
Sorry, your stitches appear to be getting worse again too, i would get back to the docs sharpish.

BB, Sorry too that you are having grief with your stiches too. Hope they gwt better real soon.

Caz, great that Ajay is sleeping so well but not great that you have insomnia, a hot milky drink helps me, or i do have something called badger balm, its like a vasaline type substance you rub into your temples, i used to use it when i was doing night shifts and couldnt sleep during the day. As a last resort, try night nurse, but i mean a last resort as it knocks you right out and you wake up feeling like you are drugged up if you dont sleep for long enough.

Doodles, hope the rain stays away for your picnic! Whats wrong with your tummy?

Jenni, i hope im like you and my flap of skin goes, trust me il be trying everything to get rid of it!

Fifi, thanks for your kind words too

Well we didnt have a great night, was up at 12, then 330 then Harrison never really went back to sleep, we are thinking of changing the game plan a bit tonight, instead of trying to get him down from seven, will let him sleep when he is ready, but will try to get a feed in around 10-11ish even if he is half asleep. Its all a learning curve isnt it! He will not be in his moses basket much longer either, is growning so long!
Today we are going to visit a couple of friends, my friend whos baby was in SCBU, he came out friday so will be lovely to see them, and also my other bestist friend Sarah.
Hope everyone is enjoying their days.

 

[DragonMummy]

hann has she seen a doc? is she getting counselling or medication? I know when I had it, meeting up with groups just made me feel even more inadequate as everyone else seemed to be doing better than me. even at my group counselling sessions they always looked better dressed or were able to bf longer than i did etc etc. one to one socialising might be better, or visiting in her house rather than making her go out. most days even getting dressed was more than i could cope with. xxx

 

[fifi-folle]

dm- yes it was a csection. My mw made a comment about needing exercise to get rid but looking at it I can't see how it would go (admittedly I was 4 stone overweight when I got preg and not weighedmyself since booking appt, will wait til new yr).
Sorry you are struggling with your nct friend. It's so difficukt to realise/accept there's anything wrong when you're depressed (I'm assuming PND is same) and until you do no-one can really help.
Shopping for me was mixed. Got a pair of jeans that cover the mummy tummy and a nursing top from matalan. What clothes are everyone wearing for bf'ing?
Proud of myself for bf'ing in public three times today!!! No-one noticed as far as I know! Before it was in front of friends/family. Even managed to use the nipple shield withou too much hassle.

 

[BlueViolet]

Finally got a chance to catch up...we'll see if I get a chance to post anything before Jill wakes up.

Hann, your friend sounds like she's definitely in a rut. I think for some people it's tough to admit having PND. I am surprised her mom isn't picking up on it either. Hope she comes to terms with it and gets help.

Mel, it's too bad shopping wasn't fun. I haven't attempted it yet. I tried on a pair of shorts I wore last summer and I couldn't even begin to zip them up. So frustrating. One of my friends handed me a few of her nursing tops and a pair of her pregnancy or post-pregnancy shorts and I couldn't fit in it...so embarrassing. What's worse is those shorts were on size bigger than I normally wore. Ugh! I'm also hungry often, so I don't know how to cut back on my calorie intake. I'm afraid it's going to affect my milk, so I haven't tried much of a diet. I tried exercising today and got through 3min on the bike before Jill started to cry...

Bb, Hann, and Mel, I hope your stitches get better soon! I can't imagine having an episiotomy. Then again, I never thought I'd end up with a section either. At least our babies are healthy!

Doodle, the picnic sounds like fun. The tummy problems not so much. Hope you feel better!

Caz, hope you manage to sleep tonight. I'd suggest drinking some decaf tea. I think there are supplements you can take to help with sleep, but I'm not sure how they would affect BF.

Fifi, nice job BF in public!

Jenni, I'm impressed with how much weight you lost after your first pregnancy. I wish I had your determination. I should exercise in the evenings when my husband could watch Jill, except I feel so tired. Perhaps I need to ignore more house chores during the day and exercise instead. I noticed that I keep making excuses for not exercising or putting it off, which is not good.

The last few days flew by. Yesterday I went out for a walk and lunch with my in-laws while my car got inspected (the car place was near their house). It was so nice to get out of the house. This morning I was going to go to a La Leche League meeting and I showered and got out of the house by 10:15am. I was so proud of myself. I got to the parking lot and didn't see anyone there...it was supposed to be a picnic/meeting, so it was supposed to be outside. I checked my phone for the date/time and I got the wrong date. It's tomorrow. I was bummed, but I'll try to make it again tomorrow. It will be nice to meet some local mommies. Tonight I'm dragging my husband to a bookstore/coffee house. I'd like to buy him a Nook color for his birthday. Perhaps I might steal it occasionally

 

[DragonMummy]

fifi i have a few nursing tops, plus button up shirts and dresses (i wear a nursing vest underneath) or i get longline vest tops and wear with a cardi. i just slip my arm out of the vest strap and back into the cardi. the vests are only about £4 from saino's.

 

[Blue_bear]

Completely off topic but i thought it was really nice to hear on the news today that Amanda Holden is pregnant again.

 

[melissasbump]

B Bear, yes, great that Amanda Holden is expecting again , i really hope all goes well for her.

BV, Nice to hear from you, bummer that you got the wrong day for the meeting, hope you make it tomorrow!

Fifi, well done for the BF in public!

AFM we had a really nice afternoon visiting friends, check out my fc for hilarious pic of Harrison with my friends baby, the look on his face is priceless!
After we had been there went to my other friends and his nappy needed changing so Alan took him upstairs to one of the childrens rooms to do it, a short while later hes called me up there as Harrison has projectile pooed over my god daughters rug! We were mortified but it was really very funny! What with that and the restaraunt episode the other day Harrison is turning into a bit of a poo legend!

 

[Hann12]

Georgie I hadn't seen that - what nice news!

Linds - hadn't considered that about the group meetings, maybe I'll suggest 1:1's but to be honest I think she needs proper help and maybe even medication. I feel so bad for her. Appreciate the insight.

Sorry just getting interrupted by my ever screaming baby will repost asap

 

[Hann12]

Just saw your fb Mel! Harrison looks huge compared to Ellis!! What's the weight difference or is it a trick of the camera?

 

[curlew]

Hi

sorry not been on for a couple of days but have been trying to get us into a routine with Josh starting back at school. Have to say totally impressed that I have managed to have three of us washed, dressed and fed by 8:45 to walk to school for the past two mornings. Just hope it lasts!!!

Logan is doing fine. he had a couple of good nights sleeping from 930pm to 3am and again til 7am, the next night he slept from 10pm to 4am and then 5am to 730am. However last night it was 10pm to 1am, then 2am to 4:30AM but then didn't go back down again grrr. Just when you think you are on a winner

Hann - really sorry to hear about your friend. She does sound in a bad way.

Mel - well done on Alan for keeping you going on your shopping trip.

Jenni - hope your shopping trip goes well.

Caz - hugs re the insomnia. Only things I can think off are relaxing music and hot milk drinks at bedtime and avoid caffine for a few hours before bed. i love a camamile tea about 9pm and think it helps me chill.

BV - shame you got the date wrong for your meet up but I am sure you will be able to get yourself ready again tomorrow. Hope you meet some nice local mummys.

doodles - hope your picnic went well. You wouldn't wanted to have been here today we had some pretty horrendous showers.

BB - sorry to hear you are still suffering with your wound. Hope it heals soon.

Claire - glad niamh is doing so well.

DM - speaking of clothes - ahve you seen mothercare recently. There are some absolutely gorgeous wee party dresses in there with adorable shoes. Just had to get Logan some boots for the winter and they were sooo cute lol.

Hope everyone else is okay

 

[SugarBeth]

It's so hard to get on here and reply! I read every day though.

I had my 6 week appointment today. Katie screamed the entire time for it even though DH tries very hard to make her happy. The check up was extremely painful - turns out I had a cut that overhealed inside and there's now a "seam" and skin flap covering it, which causes horrible pain when touched. No wonder I've been hurting! She put silver nitrate on it; for the last 3 hours Ive felt like I'm in labor again with the ring of fire! Nearly died at first! Hopefully it works though, I have to go back in two weeks.

Re: Halloween: I'm so hoping to dress Katie up. But we don't really have anywhere to go with her! Maybe I can dress her up anyway, no idea as to what though.