Beach Bump Graduates!

[caz_hills]

Thanks Mel - I think next time she says something I'm going to say please don't say that, it makes me feel really crap. I don't want to make a big deal out of it but just make my point. Thanks for reading my rant!

So sorry that you're tired - I was just speaking to a friend who asked how bad the exhaustion is and I said it is unimaginable!!!! Alan sounds like a wonderful Dad and it's great that he is giving you a break. Hope you manage to recharge tonight. xx

 

[Blue_bear]

Dont feel like a bad mummy Mel, Joshua sleeps on his tummy every night now. In fact for the last few days he has been under the weather he has been having his naps on his tummy too. Its the way he settles and likes to sleep....

 

[melissasbump]

thanks Georgie, i think thats gonna be simlar to us, its just people make such a big thing about it, re SIDS etc, makes me panic a bit! He does settle really quick like it though

 

[Blue_bear]

i think you have to weigh these things up, is he now in his own room? J is in with us and with the sensor pad on. If you happy that he can lift and turn his own head well enough then he should be ok. Will be so much easier when they start rolling themselves over!
I find he is sleeping for longer and is SO much quieter sleeping like this because he goes into a deeper sleep i think.

 

[melissasbump]

i think you have to weigh these things up, is he now in his own room? J is in with us and with the sensor pad on. If you happy that he can lift and turn his own head well enough then he should be ok. Will be so much easier when they start rolling themselves over!
I find he is sleeping for longer and is SO much quieter sleeping like this because he goes into a deeper sleep i think.

Hes in his own room with a monitor very close to our room though and he is really strong in his neck so am confident with regards to that. If it means we all get more sleep including him then thats got to be a good thing!

 

[Hann12]

Oh Caz don't worry about offending your MIl just say it, as someone with a pain in the bum MIL I totally understand! I'd be irritated too! Definitely say something as I'm sure half the time they don't think before they speak and would be devastated if they realised how much they upset us. My MIL is actually not a horrible person (ha ha I know I make her out to be) but she is just a bit stupid and doesn't think and wants a lot of attention. I'm trying to take a step back and feel sorry for her these days as I think she is just very lonely so is doing anything she can to make herself feel better. Yours might be the same!

Mel - feeling for you and I think you are right to leave him to sleep through. If you don't have a movement mat you might feel more comfortable if you did have one if you are worried. I feel so much better knowing I have mine.

AFM- Annabelle was grouchy all day - loads of crying, especially when feeding so think the reflux is worse. Plus she projectiled twice all over me and her. However she is in bed now. I can hear her stirring and every time she does I hold my breath hoping she goes back to sleep! Greg is out this week every night until 11-2am so I am on my own.
Ah I can hear her now!!
On the upside, I think I've said I live on the 3rd floor without a lift, well a flat downstairs, ground floor with outside space has just come on the market to let so I'm viewing it at 10 tomorrow. i think I'm the first to see it. If its good then we will move to it and I won't have the issue with the pram and the stairs which is currently the bain of my life and makes going out a real pain! I want it to be really good though because if we move now it will be to stay there for the next 2 years. Fingers crossed!!

Hope everyone else is having a good night and all the babies are in bed behaving

 

[mummySS]

Thinking of Britt, Aaron and Kinley - so sorry to hear the devastating news, Britt sounds like she is being so strong. What a horrible horrible situation. My heart goes out to them. xxxxx

 

[mummySS]

Caz - it's tricky cause if it was your mum you could just tell her, but it's hard to tell a MIL something like that. But really she shouldn't say stuff like that whichever way you look at it - it's just rude. Sounds childish but can you do the same back to her??

Hann / Mel - sorry for the tricky days with your LOs. Leo was a nightmare last night too, he had a massive sleep in the afternoon which he doesn't normally do and last night he was up and wanting to play at 3am Today i've made sure to not let him sleep too long so hopefully we'll be back to 'normal' now.

Hann - exciting about the flat downstairs! I dont know how you manage with 3 flights of stairs... I went to visit my nct friend yesterday who lives up 3 flights and I couldn't breathe by the time i got in! Although it explains why my friend was in her skinny jeans 2 weeks after giving birth!

Afm - I can drive again from tomorrow! Goodness it's been SOOOO frustrating to not drive. In our old flat in ealing it wouldn't have bothered me at all because we were right in the thick of things, but here in the 'burbs it's much more difficult to get anywhere good without a car. Anyway I am celebrating being able to drive tomorrow by taking Leo for his BCG

 

[caz_hills]

Simmy - great news that you can drive again from tomorrow. It's so limiting nit being able to get around yourself. Hope you get sone good trips!

Han - hope the flat viewing goes well. I don't know how you cope with a pram and those stairs, must be a good workout!

Mel - Ajay isn't on his tummy yet but I have friends inNCT whose babies prefer to sleep on their tummy.

Am still considering putting Ajay in his own roomonce he grows out of his basket rather than moving the cotbed in with us. The HV said you shouldn't until six months so that makes me cautious but he is noisey still!

 

[BlueViolet]

Britt, ! No parent should have to go through what you're dealing with. You and Kinley are in my prayers.

Caz, I agree with Hann that your MIL might not realize how her words offend you and you need to speak up. It's best not to let it go for too long because it's only going to make it more difficult to bring up and it's going to drive you nuts in the meantime. You're a great mom and don't let her tell you otherwise.

Hann, I hope the new place is nice and that you can move. I wouldn't like dealing with the stairs either. You must get a workout with the groceries.

Mel, you have to do what works for you and not think about what everyone else says. There is so much conflicting advice out there. I used to say that I would never bring Jill in bed with me and now I've gotten used to doing the morning feedings in bed with both of us napping a little bit. I suppose we're all going with the flow.

Simmy, congrats on being able to drive! It's a nice sense of freedom

I've been reading, but not posting much because I've been rushing through the night feedings so I can go back to sleep sooner. Friday and Saturday night Jill slept for 8hrs straight. I was so thrilled. Sadly, it didn't last, but now I keep hoping that it might happen again. Last night the sleep was so choppy, it was absolutely awful. I was in bed on and off for 12hrs and it didn't even feel like it amounted to 8. I also need to figure out how to get Jill to sleep on her own during the day. She naps on me, but I can't get anything done. I was hoping that by now she'd be in a better sleeping routine.

Stress is really taking a toll both on me and my husband. I noticed how we're so happy one minute and then the next we snap at each other. Tonight we had a fight over the dishwasher. It was so stupid, I'm not going to explain it. What's sad is that I didn't picture we'd end up like this...caving in to the pressure and the stress. Not that I thought everything would be all rosy either, but we can't continue like this. I wish we could take some time out for ourselves, but with Jill putting a fight with the bottle, we can't leave her with anyone else. I keep telling myself that we'll get through it and it should be better in a few months. It just seems to be so long from now.

 

[BlueViolet]

Caz, our pediatrician said we can put Jill in her room anytime as long as I get up to feed her. I'm sure we'd sleep better. She said it's probably better for her too because we make noises in our sleep too that could wake her up. Yet, in spite of this, I haven't made the transition. I'd really like to, though. Her room is right next door to ours and with the doors open I can hear her cry, but I wouldn't hear all the little squeeks she does in her sleep. I think it's going to be something to try this weekend. I've been trying to put her in her crib to sleep during the day. It hasn't worked for more than 5-10min, but at least she's getting familiar with the crib.

 

[SugarBeth]

Wow, just caught up on weeks of posts! Phew!

Devastated to hear about Kinley! Lots of hugs to Britt, my heart goes out to her.

Re:husbands, mine does his best to help out however he can. But he's terrified of changing diapers so I do them all, doesn't know how to give baths, doesn't wake up at night to her and of course I do all the feedings. But he's always willing to hold her when he's home...but I do all the baby care completely really. I hate to be parted from Katie so I dont mind.

Re:babyphotos - everyone has beautiful babies! Love all the pics!

Katie was sleeping well. Then she started teething! Now she never sleeps. Luckily the tooth is nearly through! She gets her shots on Monday though, about 4 of them. So dreading them!

She has such a personality already, I love that it's starting to shine through. She still has her pretty blue eyes too, hoping she keeps them!

I'll post pics of her when I get on the computer. She's such a happy, smiling, giggling baby! She's my little joy!

EDIT: Here they are, I took some of them just today (sorry for size)

https://i197.photobucket.com/albums/aa20/KatieWriter/035pp.jpg
https://i197.photobucket.com/albums/aa20/KatieWriter/088pp.jpg
https://i197.photobucket.com/albums/aa20/KatieWriter/097pp.jpg
(This one has lyrics from the lullabye from Dumbo
https://i197.photobucket.com/albums/aa20/KatieWriter/071p.jpg

 

[DragonMummy]

Caz my MIL does the same. They just have their noses put out of joint because its not THEIR baby, they feel they have to claw some control back or let you know how very skilled they are. I just laugh at my MIL now and tell her to wind her neck in but after I had Harry it was awful because I thought I was doing everything wrong! I always dressed him "wrong" so he was too hot or too cold. Etc etc. I finally got one over on her when she changed his bum. When I got him hope I couldn't find the tapes to undo his nappy. She'd put it on back to front!

Fortunately my mother isn't maternal at all, told me immediately that I am a better mother than her (hurrah! life's ambition acheived!) and that was that. my stepmum just goes along with what I'm doing now after we had a huge falling out with her deciding Harry needed potty training much earlier than I did it and kept forcing him onto a potty when he was at her house. She eventually admitted that I was right. Of course I was - I'm his mother, I'm ALWAYS right!

We'll be the same when our babies have babies

 

[curlew]

hi all

have been reading lots but hardly get the chance to post.

Caz - sorry you are having a tough time with your mil. Hopefully she will understand when u speak to her and won't have realised that she is hurting your feelings.

hann - hopev the viewing goes okay. three flights of stairs is amazing to tackle with a baby and pram.

sb - wow to katie having her first tooth. she is gorgeous.

bv - hope Jill manages to settle in her crib during the day. think most of us are having squabbles with our dh's as we are so exhausted mummies and dads seem to be less than understanding

simmy - yeh for being able to drive again. I felt so liberated when I got back behind the wheel.

mel - sorry you had such a tough day with Harrison yesterday. Hope you had a better night last night and much needed rest.

afm - having up and down days at the moment. If we have a day at home we seem to have a fairly good routine but if we go out it all seems to go wrong and Logan ends up with horrendous wind. I can't stay home all the time or I will go stir crazy, so trying to find a balance but its difficult. Also finding it tough to keep my on top of my housework as I would like but trying to chill out about it as much as possible, not easy

 

[Doodlepants]

Lovely pics SB!! Katie looks so big now!

Sorry to hear you're going stir crazy Moira! I get the same- plus feeding while out is no fun atm on account of me having to feed underarm

I haven't suffered any digs from the MIL this time- yet! It's never fun to be critisized though

Has anyone got one of those weatherproof covers for their baby bjorn? I'm looking at getting one but don't know if they're worth it?
x

 

[Hann12]

Doods - I haven't even seen them - where do you buy them?

Moira - hope you are okay. Try some of those granules that Fi and I are testing - colocynth granules. I think they are having an impact (in a good way) on Annabelle.

Been and seen the flat - its lovely. Its ground floor so the windows are tinted so its a bit dark but apart from that its ideal. There would even be room outside for Annabelle to have a paddling pool and sand pit etc. We have put an offer in so will see if its accepted. I hope it is as its nicer than our current one and bigger. Much more space for us to entertain too so fingers crossed.
Been for a coffee with my NCT friend and now home again. Annabelle is on her playmat having a giggle to herself. Its a mamas and papas one that plays music and lights up - I could not recommend it enough - she loves it. Its quite expensive though - we got it as a present!

 

[mummymarsh]

hello how is everyone???

am i right in thinking there has been more sad news from this thread xxx

 

[Hann12]

just had a very scary thing happen. was trying annabelle with gripe water and used a syringe of 2.5ml. thought i was putting it at the side of her mouth but she immediately choked, coughed and threw it up. she then was hiccuping and coughing and still making grissley noises likes something was still in the wrong hole so i put her on her front and tapped her back and she did 2 big burps. i can't hear the noise now so am hoping its all out but she is still miserable and is heavy breathing through her nose. Should i take her to the dr or do you think she is okay as i can' hear the water in her now?
so scary.....

 

[Doodlepants]

I have no idea- you could ring the doctor if you're worried though, they won't mind and it's worth it even if she's fine as it'll put your mind at ease.

The BB things you can get in mothercare:
https://www.mothercare.com/BabyBj-f...=sr_1_3&nodeId=42833041&sr=1-3&qid=1315479295

I seem to have lost my ability to add links so you may have to copy and paste sorry!

What playmat do you have? We have a light up musical one but it's fisher price

 

[Doodlepants]

Forgot to say- good luck with the flat!