Breastfeeding Support - 6 months and beyond!

[cleckner04]

Could you imagine a guitar teacher that has never played a guitar? They say those that can't do, teach...But I think that's a bit wrong in some cases.

 

[DolceBella]

Cleckner - I saw your posts in the BF section. I thought you did a good job of stating your position with respect. Don't worry about the other comments.. they don't really matter anyway.

 

[cleckner04]

Cleckner - I saw your posts in the BF section. I thought you did a good job of stating your position with respect. Don't worry about the other comments.. they don't really matter anyway.

I had to keep backspacing and rewording my responses. It started out much more aggressive. I just didn't understand why my post out of all the posts were being attacked. I hate upsetting people on here but I guess not everyone is going to love me.

 

[hivechild]

Cleckner, I think you expressed yourself well there. Some people just seem to want to find any reason to stir the pot and create arguments. It's gotten to the point where I find myself rarely even posting in the BF section anymore which saddens me, because in amongst all the indignant and offensively defensive attitudes, there are actually women who need help and advice. I just don't have the energy to refute every time someone helpfully advises a little formula won't harm your chances when you're desperately trying to establish breastfeeding with your 3 week old baby. It's even worse when the advice is from someone who BFed for 6 weeks before switching to formula because their LO was still dissatisfied with just their milk.

Sorry about that tangential rant...I'm not sure where it came from!

 

[lynnikins]

for the person who asked about age im 24 lol,

 

[Shiv]

I'm 30

 

[Dragonfly]

28 here

 

[polaris]

I'm 35 (had to stop and work that out, does anyone else find they kind of lose track?)

 

[JellyBeann]

24 here! Hi guys, been a while, but am back!

I'm going to my first BF group Tuesday, I'm quite nervous, as never been before, and I won't know anyone but I've been meeaning to go since I moved to this town back in February!

 

[hivechild]

Almost 35 here, too.

 

[DolceBella]

29 for me.

 

[cleckner04]

I'm 24! Just turned a few weeks ago. I couldn't remember how old I was either. I have to sit and think about it.


hivechild- I couldn't agree with you more. Your rant is pretty dead on. I've also seen a lot of girls lately, recommending formula when someone asks for help. And the girls offering the advice have only been BFing for a month or some really small amount so IMO shouldn't even being offering major advice like that. Not that I am an expert by any means....

 

[Dragonfly]

When I was preg with William everyone was reccoemding me what formula to use that made them throw up less. Then telling me not to breastfeed as it was the NHS way of saving money on the free formula they gave out.

 

[hivechild]

I'm 24! Just turned a few weeks ago. I couldn't remember how old I was either. I have to sit and think about it.


hivechild- I couldn't agree with you more. Your rant is pretty dead on. I've also seen a lot of girls lately, recommending formula when someone asks for help. And the girls offering the advice have only been BFing for a month or some really small amount so IMO shouldn't even being offering major advice like that. Not that I am an expert by any means....

You have the benefit of experience, as well as being caring and passionate in your support of breastfeeding which counts for a lot.

Along the same lines of a guitar teacher who has never played a guitar, I once had an English teacher who told me that you should live it before you write about it. I know there are wonderful resources from people like Newman, but there are some things that only a mother who has been there can understand.

 

[florabean1981]

I dont post in the BFing section much anymore either as it's gotten way too emotive & I just kinda give up in the end. Plus I dont have much advice to give anyway as I can only speak for me & harry & we've always just gone with the flow... I guess the only things I look for now are reassurance that i've done or am doing the right thing? I dunno Someone will always have some kinda negative reaction and someone will always have a positive one; each to their own I suppose.

anyways... seems like we're all in that 24-36 age bracket

 

[celine]

Yep Im a 29-er as well
cleckner I saw the bf thread about supernanny - I agree that it was getting a tad out of hand and its a shame, the negativity about bfing the 3yo actually shocked me alot. i mean who is anyone to judge

One of my friends, well lets call her a "friend" was so proud when she was bfing BUT she mostly pumped then put it in a bottle for lo to see how much he drank as she was worried about his weight, she used to be shocked that i had no clue how much my lo was getting. She would force her lo to finish his bottles and would get mad when he didnt drink so much. What really broke me was when she said she woke him up in the night to try to get him to feed and he wouldnt..I was like you WAKE him up??? her reason was otherwise he would sleep through - now she was telling me this when her lo was a month old and mine was 2,5 months and barely sleeping at all.
She stopped bfing at 6 months cos she says there is no more nutricion in the milk and is shocke dthat I bf and tells me its not good for Gabriel. Then we had a chat about baby swimming and I go about 1-2 times a week to 2 diff pools, she says she wont go again cos she went once and her lo for an infection and I resisted the urge to tell her that maybe if she was still bfing he wouldnt of gotten the infection teehee.

ok Im a meanie but still! I do respect her though cos she would pump at work for him to ensure he has alot of milk.

 

[Eve]

Everyone! I haven't been in here in a few days...

I'm 26 and OH is 27

I read that in the BF section too and was shocked...! It's one thing for someone to have an opinion, but seemed like more attacking than anything

9 months today!!

 

[Dragonfly]

Theres a few threads in here piss me off, all putting down breastfeeding and its always ok to do that but never to put down formula. I dont even bother arguing any more whats the piont someone calls it Rubbish and bull all the time anwyay.

 

[hivechild]

Celine, it definitely seems like your friend is a prime example of having the best intentions gone awry due to lack of education & proper support. It sounds like she let herself get caught up in common bottle feeding concerns like how much they're getting. It can be hard sometimes to trust in your body and your LO and I think some people just have personalities where they are unwilling to give up that much control.

 

[lynnikins]

oh man im exausted this afternoons feed is gonna be in bed and we can both just nap together afterwards providing the mattress arrives before then, i really need that cot mattress lol co-sleeping was disturbing us all so last night me and DH slept in the spare room and just let EJ have our bed all to himself i desperately need it to be the weekend so DH can take care of the boys and just bring them in for me to huggle and to feed EJ and let me sleep and catch up