Breastfeeding Support - 6 months and beyond!

[Eve]

Sorry I've took over the thread a bit. I don't have a hubby here to rant to so BnB get's to hear it instead.

As for calling it 'nursing' to feed. I have really never called it that. I always just say breastfeed.

I have nothing against formula. Really I don't. I'm the only one in my family that has breastfed so I'm pretty much the oddball. But does anyone else get irritated seeing a mom feeding a baby formula and they are just letting the bottle be propped up and aren't paying any attention to the baby in their arms? I've seen this in public with moms just propping the bottle and than sitting there texting on their phones. It just bothers me for some reason.

I get soooooo mad when I see a baby with a bottle propped up in their mouth! I don't understand... I love feeding Kayleigh! She is so sweet and snuggles up to me I couldn't imagine wanting someone else/thing to feed her instead of me like that! I mean, I want a little freedom back for an hour or two here and there but as said by someone else, if you don't have time to feed your baby, maybe you shouldn't have had one!

Okay. This was in response to my apology for if I offended her. I will say right off the bat, I never once called this woman stupid or anything even along those lines. I'm not a nasty person like that, especially not towards someone I've only known a few weeks.

Her-I wasn't offended until you basically called me stupid. That's rude. I have far more education than you. You say you don't like when ppl tell you how to raise your child? Well I'm gonna tell you that the way you are with Emma is going to make her a very spoiled little girl and very bratty as she gets older. You have to let your child be alone and cry that's what's natural. That's why she gets into everything everywhere and you don't discipline her. You judge us on how we raise our children, you act so superior and you are always very confrontational. I'm not going to be fakey nice I'm the kind of person who tells it how it is and there it is. I feel like you don't think about your childrens future. Emma is going to be such a mommys girl she's going to have seperation anxiety and its going to be hard for her in school and stuff, if you have a son and don't circumsize him he will be outcast. That's just how high school is, people are cruel. But do your whole natural thing and whatever you want to do. They're not my kids.

And this was my response:
Me-I'm not even going to justify this with a good response. My child gets into everything because she's just that. A kid. She's curious about everything. Your kid gets into stuff too, just not as fast. I don't discipline her? I tell her no and back her away from the situation. What do you want me to do, beat her? You think I called you stupid but I never said a single thing about you being stupid. But I see you took the mature route and called me uneducated. Well, I'm educated enough to get rid of horrible people when I come across them. So I'm sorry you don't agree with me, but I'd rather sit with my 'spoiled, horrible' child than waste any more time on this.


And although it is only the one woman that sent this email, the other 2 seem to agree with her. I emailed them and asked what their opinions were and they just gave a neutral response. The very next day I saw them post pictures on Facebook of a playdate they were having that very moment and obviously I wasn't included. It was at the mean girl's house. So I deleted and blocked them all.

Oh wow... I would go to playgroup and smack her lol... what a witch! They sound like snobs anyways who can't be bothered to really raise their children!
You are doing a great job and your little girl will do great in life as she will have her mum there supporting her and being there for her!!!! Those ladies suck!

Popele are not speaking to me also? why do they do that I am doing it for my son not to make some sort of statement to them like to spite them? My aunt slowly has broke away from me, dosnt come and see me and all I remember her repeating is formula was good enough for her kids and done them no harm, and the look or annoyance was what done it. I said nothing to her I know what its like for support here so I dont blame her or anyone. She dosnt come see my on any more and last few times i had to drag her here and she wasn't interested at all.
In my family you do as your mum did and everyone else, you dont really have a say but since i broke that no one is happy. they think they are older and wiser and I am young and dumb and since they cant help me out with advice like showing cereal in to bottles at 3 months old and choc deserts at 4 months old they are not happy.

I thought wanting and having a healthy child was applauded but it seems I am insulting them because what they did was right and I am not doing it because I dont agree. I wouldnt challenge them on their feeding so I dont know why I get it.

Anyone else that hasnt breastfeed which is everyone I know goes into a story then gives me a look like wondering why I am not taking their advice and as if i am saying something wrong with the way they fed???

Another girl used to text me a lot and call down, she didnt bf either and said she liked her life etc. thats ok I have time for it. But she would be asking me to go out drinking when I never went out before anyway and i dont drink and need to be here for son. I would have to turn her down all the time and she would be texting me I need to stop breastfeeding and get a life, got into a fight and she said I must be happy with my life then (yes i am thanks) she couldnt get her head around it then turned on me, said she tried to get me out and since i turned her down for looking after my son she took it personally. (she was a nut anyway I am glad to be rid very twisted girl).

I dont shove it in their faces yet I feel like I have been snubbed weirdly for something I didnt do the same as them. Its like a silent row simmering ready to go. I am sure it will kick off when I have this baby and they see again I will be breastfeeding in the hospital right in front of them and when and where he wants. Caused a lot of family to leave early when visiting, using excuses he needs fed we will go, yeah only takes me 2 seconds to plug him on stay....nope

Yeah the one who would rather drink than take care of her kid...good thing you were rid of her! Wow! I know what you mean totally and it's so stupid! I hate being the odd one out and being pushed away for my feeding choices or parenting styles!



Ugh I think I have thrush again sore sore nips and they are brighter pink! I have had way too much sugary sweets lately which I know can make things worse or bring it out... so no more for me! I got the acidophillis pills and the canesten cream etc... so I am hoping it's gone soon...I didn't expect to see it's ugly face again! Ugh!

to everyone!!!

 

[Eve]

7 Months Tomorrow!!! Yay!!! Oh and Kayleigh said Ma Ma Ma Ma Mum today!!! LOVE it!

 

[Dragonfly]

hello newbies to the group, so glad theres more makes my lonely life seem a bit more now since all have deserted me for my feeding habbits. Best of without if thats the case then.My nips are on fire due to hormones and pregnancy, must ruin more bed tops with linsinoh and make my white bras Gray lol

 

[charlieann]

Well I've had a rubbish day - lo's toothies are nipping me now - anyone got any tips on dealing with this? She's got two at the bottom, ones about 1/3 through and the others just coming out.

when we first got teeth i scream and put him down when he first nipped me. out of pain and suprise. he then cried and only did it once or twice more before stopping biting completely. it didn't take him long to work out not to bite.

 

[Eve]

7 Months!!

It's so sad when you feel deserted because of your feeding habbits I was told yesterday by a friend who is bfing (weaning now at 10.5 months) that I am obsessed with breastfeeding... because she says it's always brought up! It's a big part of what I do right now... She said I'm going to have a hard time stopping at 12 months and I told her I didn't plan to stop at 12 months, if Kayleigh didn't want to and she went on and on about it's weird after 12 months etc.... making me feel like I can't even talk to her about things anymore! Grrrrr why are people so narrow minded!!??!!??


Kayleigh said Ma Ma Ma Ma MUM lastnight!! It was soooooo cute!! I can't believe she is 7 months old today!! xx

 

[cleckner04]

Congrats Mum2J&Kx2!!! Both on the 7 months and on the mama!!!

I know exactly how you feel with the lack of support. Although my family has stopped saying anything altogether, I still have a feeling that the next time I go home people will just lecture me on why I should stop. Mostly DH's side of the family. Which is crazy because his mom breastfed! My mom didn't and she is so proud that I am. Although I have to tip toe around the subject with my mom because she didn't and she regrets it.

 

[Dragonfly]

They do give up eventually and leave you alone. Thats what happened with me anyway. I dont see them any more and when I do they never mention it. Then again I have had so many rows I think they dare to mention anything to me now.

 

[AnnaBanana9]

7 Months Tomorrow!!! Yay!!! Oh and Kayleigh said Ma Ma Ma Ma Mum today!!! LOVE it!

Congratulations! What a wonderful day of milestones - 7 months BF AND ma mamama Just lovely!
xx

 

[AnnaBanana9]

I can't believe those rude women at that baby group, cleckner04! I would have loved to say I'd have gone in all guns blazing and let them have it, but I'm so non-confrontational it's unreal - I'm a chicken, basically I shy away from conflict.

Just a thought - any of you on FB to support each other there as well?

x

 

[AnnaBanana9]

Forgot to add -- I'm Anna Pasechnick Ridley, and my profile photo is of Alyssa

 

[Dragonfly]

I am a facebook addict and would be niuce to have some fellow breastfeeders on there as no one is interesting in breastfeeding or some start formula wars when I post stuff. i dont even post things with that intention just the odd good article.

 

[AnnaBanana9]

I love FB too! Will be lovely to have other BF friends there too

 

[gills8752]

add me then!

https://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/gill.duff1

let my know your username so I know its you and not some random! lol

 

[candyfloss]

add me then!

https://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/gill.duff1

let my know your username so I know its you and not some random! lol

Just went to add you, but computer froze so don't know if it worked or not! (I'm Kate W-M) xxx

 

[Elski]

congrats on the milestone & 'mama'!!

I too, am a FB addict! Have sent you girls a friend request... dunno how to do that link that you did though, Gill, that takes you straight to my page

 

[cleckner04]

I'm on Facebook too!! https://www.facebook.com/cleckner04

 

[Elski]

Have FR you, Cleckner, I'm Elizabeth H

 

[AnnaBanana9]

Fantastic! Sometimes I think I'm the only FB addict around, then something like this happens!

Alyssa is very fidgety tonight...twisting all over the place while nursing, trying to get her hand into the other side of my nursing bra, wanting to change sides and positions often So tiring nursing a toddler LOL

 

[Shiv]

I'm Siobhan Minor ( I think there is only one of me!)

 

[Elski]

AnnaB - Does she usually lie across you or sit up on your knee?

Esmé's feeding less lately, the more food she's eating - MEH! Luckily she still loves her morning and evening feeds though!