Calling determined ladies TTC #1

[TTCgamer2.0]

Well of course AF came. I decided I needed to stop obsessing. So I won't be on here anymore. You guys have given me a lot of support and I'll miss you. DH won't be able to ask "how my ladies are doing" lol, but hopefully I can get my head on straight. Thanks for everything guys!

 

[cdelmar]

Oh no ttcgamer!!!! I definitely understand and almost considered it my self (give up temping/charting, being on here etc) because ttc is hard to deal with and it seems everything adds to the stress of it! Hopefully we'll see you back!

 

[jjbubbles28]

I understand, I have 3 more months in me and then Im on a break too.

 

[Fleur828815]

Sorry AF came TTCgamer. I understanding the need to take some distance, hopefully that will help and we'll see you on the Pregnancy board soon.

Unfortunately I didn't get good news at my scan this morning so it looks like I'll be back here soon. The gestational and yolk sacs were there and measuring fine but there's no embryo (the OB/Gyn did a transvaginal scan to double check). I cried when we left and I've been up and down since then, but I'm mostly hoping whatever has to happen will happen quickly so I can start TTC again.

 

[jjbubbles28]

Im so sorry fleur. This whole process is such a roller coaster

 

[WoWndUp]

Fleur, I'm so sorry *hugs* hope everything works out for you

 

[Starlight34]

I'm sorry to hear that, Fleur. Sending positive energy your way.

 

[Fleur828815]

Thank you ladies, hoping for better luck for you.

 

[Starlight34]

I was 3 days late and very hopeful, but AF came today
That was a cruel joke my body played on me. Guess I'm out for this month. Gotta start again.

 

[Lirpa11]

Oh Fleur, I'm so sorry

I don't come bringing good news either, I just don't get it. Surely making a baby should not be so frustrating!

So I was told to stop taking BC as my cyst is gone, YAY. So AF came yesterday and I called the fertility clinic to organize the next step. They said what are we doing now... I'm like well I don't know, that's why I am calling...

Anyhow, the lady said oh we are doing the next tracking cycle, so if you come in tomorrow, pay the $260 and we will start again as the last one was cancelled due to your cyst. I said yep, no problems. But can I just get information about my husband and my tests we had done back in early august as I don't want to go through all this again to have you say that something was wrong there. She said ok, and would ring me back after the Dr looks at the results (which they have had for 6-7 weeks!!!).

Now they called back and said nope, no tracking cycle as we need to come in to discuss DH's results!! They have had this information for two months and only now asking us to come in, and they were happy to take my $260 to test my bloods and that and not even know if it will work?

OMGosh I am so frustrated and crying and angry, they should have already dealt with this in the past 8 weeks I have been on the pill. Now we are in limbo and cant do anything as we don't know what to do! that's why we are paying them...

Oh gosh I am so upset right now. It might not seem a month, 2 months, 14 months is long to them but it's been a lifetime for us and here we go again!

DH said we can adopt if we need and cant have a baby... but I don't want to do that not at first anyhow, I want my own. I want to carry a baby, give birth...

I think I'll just go crawl up and cry somewhere. Maybe have a warm bath and cry I'd like a wine, but I don't want any as I want to be healthy and increase our chances of conceiving, but I don't know if anything we even do, or don't do will help.

I feel so helpless. One bad news after another.

 

[jjbubbles28]

Doctors suck. I too dealt with that as my husband was called in "on emergency" to go over bloods 1 month later . We thought he was dying, only to be told he has gout which we told the doctor the day of blood draw, he just didnt note. I also feel your frustration of why stay "healthy" if it doesnt matter. I have given up caffeine, most carbs, and dairy for what??? Nothing as of yet. So I feel your pain, I only hope you get good results today ...

 

[Fleur828815]

Sorry AF came Starlight

Lirpa, hang in there, I know how hard it is. It's really unfair that we try to do everything "properly" and yet can't manage to fall/stay pregnant. To others, a few months extra doesn't make any difference but for us it does. Even my DH can't get why I'm so stressed about having to wait even longer now. I understand wanting to try for your "own" baby before thinking of adoption. My friends have been telling me not to give up hope although everything seems so bleak, that it WILL happen. Hope you get good results, take care of yourself.

jjbubbles, how scary to be called in for an emergency appointment ! Sometimes you wonder if doctors really see us as people or just numbers.

 

[jjbubbles28]

Any news from the ladies?

 

[cdelmar]

CD14 waiting to O.....told DH today he needs to put in an effort as much as I am in BDing because he was the one who wanted them long before I did (I always wanted kids but just wasnt ready while we dating), and he still does of course but, I told him I can't always be the one initiating or saying we NEED to have sex smh, what am I supposed to do this myself?! lol

 

[Juliars]

JJ Bubbles,

You are definitely on the right track. Especially by cutting out the carbs and dairy. Have you also cut out the GMO... a lot of proteins out there in the supermarket come from animals pumped with hormones. If you are having conception issues because of hormone irregularity, think about only getting nonGMO proteins. Usually a whole foods or trader joes would have it.

Also, the two biggest things for me were reducing stress (that was huge) and increasing cervical mucus. Some caugh syrups and evening primrose would accomplish that.

I'm excited for you!

 

[Juliars]

Doctors suck. I too dealt with that as my husband was called in "on emergency" to go over bloods 1 month later . We thought he was dying, only to be told he has gout which we told the doctor the day of blood draw, he just didnt note. I also feel your frustration of why stay "healthy" if it doesnt matter. I have given up caffeine, most carbs, and dairy for what??? Nothing as of yet. So I feel your pain, I only hope you get good results today ...

I agree Doctors SUCK... Would you believe my Dr told me in my 27th week that my daughter will be born with cancer because of my previous history with melanoma?

On top of that I was told multiple times that I would never get pregnant AND the last time I talked to my Fert Specialist was after my 3rd miscarriage and her telling me when you miscarry a 4th time I'll be able to tell you better why you're having issues.

Well there wasn't a 4th time! I should send her a xmas card with me and my daughter... what a ghoul.

Sorry for the rant.

 

[Khigg19]

Did I miss anything?! DH and I closed on our first home last Friday and have been in the new house for a week! we are without wifi until Wednesday so I've been enjoying a break from thinking about ttc! I'm in the middle of my cycle and should O soon.

 

[WoWndUp]

khigg19 Congrats on the new house!

Hope to hear good news from everyone soon

 

[jjbubbles28]

Khiggy! I was getting worried, but figured it was the house
Juliars, thanks for your words. I do not eat a tone of meat. Maybe 4 times a week. and when I do it butcher meat , mostly chicken and turkey. have to be in the mood for red meat. I will look into that gmo though. Thanks...
That is unbelievable nut wonderful about your daughter. Best wishes to you.........

 

[melewen]

CD14 waiting to O.....told DH today he needs to put in an effort as much as I am in BDing because he was the one who wanted them long before I did (I always wanted kids but just wasnt ready while we dating), and he still does of course but, I told him I can't always be the one initiating or saying we NEED to have sex smh, what am I supposed to do this myself?! lol

OMG while I was reading this I thought.. did I write this?! Damn. SAME here. DH was the one begging for kids even before our wedding and now he's like "do we have to have sex again tonight?" SERIOUSLY HONEY? I mean I get that after a while it's like "...again?" but I don't ever SAY anything. And he always determines the time of day when we do it. It's ridiculous and I'm sooooo annoyed.