Cautiously Pregnant After A Loss. PMA, But Not Taking It For Granted.

[ickle pand]

If you guys get pregnant now we could all be bump buddies!

 

[pichi]

haha don't tempt Ickle!! i'm using weight loss and exercise as my distraction just now haha

 

[too_scared]

Thanks ladies

I picked him up and snuggled him and he fell right to sleep. That is what he usually does. My sister keeps telling me that he will wake up when he is hungry and he will let me know but I feel like I keep soothing him back to sleep and he really is hungry. I hate that I worry so much.

How old are babies before they start eating less? I am such a "by the book" person that I am still stuck on the 8-12 times a day from the book I was reading. I didn't get a chance to finish reading it so I don't know when it is ok for that to be less. For the past few days Finn has been doing about 7 times a day. He is starting to stretch out the time so I end up stressing until he wakes.

Mrs. M., how old was Edie when you started putting her to bed and letting her soothe herself to sleep? Finn is only 2 weeks old, I don't feel he is old enough for that. Shawn wants to start soon. I have no idea how old he should be before doing this but I don't want to any time soon.

I think I have to start a journal so I stop monopolizing this thread I'm sorry, guys.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Ts: it seems to me that your doung prefectly fine! Soothing him back to sleep is a good thing too. Believe me if he was hungry he wouldn't go back to sleep, he's still be crying.
Because you're bf'ing, I'd just go with the flow. If Finn is fine with feeding 7 times, then it's great. And from what you say, you seem to be doing a great job at following his lead. Just one little advice: try and relax and stop worrying. You're doing good hun!
If he looks happy, in good health, if he is clearly striving, then no worries. Babies don't go by the book ;-) maybe try and see what you've read as guidance, and that you can manoeuvre within those guidelines.

Hi everyone! I had a right laugh with you brooding ladies! Lol!
I think babies #2 seem to be easier in general. My ds2 was! What a relief for me. I think we get more confident as well.

Sorry mmm for the pain. Hope you'll get better.

Merri: enjoy your lazy day!

Ickle: how are you today?

Mrs mig: glad Louis slept well. Well deserved rest for you.

Hope everyone is ok.

Afm: just trying to get back to my routine. I have started (again!!) my exercise routine. Just done a Leslie Sansone's walk at home video. Only one mile, but it's a start!! I aim to do the 5 miles walk like I used to.
On the other hand, the bleeding hasn't stopped yet. So annoying! Especially as I had almost literally nothing yesterday and it came back today.
Also Had a talk with dh, we may move house cause the area we are atm is quite far from where we've got all the kids activities, from where dh usually works etc... It's just really unpractical (and the park and playground next door are really dirty too!). So we'll see how house hunting goes!

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Ummi I hope the bleeding soon stops for you.
Mindy I think Ummi put it perfectly. You are doing an amazing job by the sound of it. Like Ummi said if he will allow you to soothe him to sleep he probably isn't hungry. If he was hungry he would cry more, not sleep and also be rooting all the time you held him, like Popeye smoking an invisible pipe. Also like Ummi says use books as guidelines, not rules. I wanted to do everything by the book with Edie too and I did to a certain extent but babies make their own rules. I intended to wean at 6 months like they advise but it was abundantly clear to me that she was ready at 5 months. Also I put her in her own room at 4 months rather than 6 months as she outgrew her Moses basket and the cot wouldn't fit in our room. Sometimes regardless of rules babies have to fit in around us!
You are doing a great job. You doubt yourself constantly but your baby is growing and thriving and to be honest if you don't get it right all the time (and who does?) Finn will still thrive and be happy.
You asked when I started putting Edie to bed to settle herself. She was 7 weeks old. She was so grumpy in the evenings and I assumed it was evening colic but she was just tired. She got very good at settling herself, it took about 3 nights. She has always been a great sleeper but she needs an unusual amount of sleep. It's only just becoming apparent now what a colossal amount she needs. Because it worked so well with Edie we did the same with Louis though I think he was a week or two older. He isn't quite so good at settling himself as Edie was, but he is a more cuddly baby and much more inclined to want to be in bed with me and cuddled than Edie who much preferred her own bed and her own space.
Regarding second babies being easier, I would say Louis is pretty easy going too. He has to wait for feeds etc if I am sorting Edie out because I can't just drop whatever I am doing with her to feed him all the time it wouldn't be fair.
Oh and Mindy don't worry about asking loads of questions on here. It's what we are here for.

 

[merristems]

Lol broody ladies!! You must be barking! But hey ho gotta keep this party started! Xxx

 

[kelly1973]

thanks ladies for the lovely wishes guna have a quiet evening too tired totally whacked lately just guna get a Chinese as a treat.
mindy I love the fact you ask so many questions as it helps me and im learning too.
miggins glad im not the only one that's hitting or hit in my case the big 40 lol
mmm sorry you are pained hope you relax a little today
hope,ickle,pink,merrie,ummi,pichi and everyone else how are all of you

 

[ickle pand]

I'm good here. Got a couple of parcels from my eBay spree so I'm dying to get home and try them on. I feel like I'm going to burst the zip of the trousers I have on. DH is away tonight with work. I'm so clingy to him at the moment. He's supposed to be away this weekend with cadets but he's thinking of cancelling it or at least not going until Saturday. I just want him at home every night. I've got a mountain of ironing to do, so I think I'll make a start on that, it at least sorting through which of the clothes fit me and which can go into storage.

Mindy I agree with the other ladies, he'll definitely let you know if he's hungry. As he gets bigger he'll be getting more efficient at getting the milk from you. Don't worry unless there's a reason to, like he stops gaining weight. Just enjoy your boy

 

[too_scared]

Thank you for all your advice ladies. I'm trying really hard to let things go.

Ummi, I really hope the bleeding stops soon.

Mrs. M., thanks for the advice on the sleeping thing. Finn is a great sleeper so far. He usually just goes down and falls asleep on his own unless there is something bothering him. We have been giving him a little gripe water (half the dose) if nothing else helps and that seems to help his tummy. He is a gassy little guy. He is squirming a little right now but he just past some gas.

I think you're right about the gas, Pichi.

I am glad you're having tight pants problems Ickle but, I am also really glad you have new pants in the mail today.

Hope you have a great, relaxing evening Kelly.

 

[ginny83]

TS - The ladies have said it all, it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job with Finn It's all a big trial and error process, and sometimes when you think you have it figured out they go ahead and change on you!

 

[too_scared]

Thank you Ginny How are you doing?

 

[too_scared]

I have a question for you ladies who had babies who had a lot of hiccups while still in your belly, does your LO have a lot of hiccups now? Finn had hiccups a lot when he was still in my belly. He even had hiccups while I was in labour! I was literally minutes from pushing and I was standing beside the bed trying to get my contractions to come quicker and I could feel him hiccuping! They were actually showing up on the monitor. He has a lot of hiccups now still. I was just wondering if any of you have had the same experience?

Hope you're all having a good evening.

(Trying really hard to go with the flow. Forced myself not to time between feedings today and am trying really hard to let things go. )

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Hiccups are really common I wouldn't worry Mindy! And if timing the space between his feeds makes you feel better you do it. But have faith in yourself.

 

[pichi]

i agree with mrs miggins - just go with the flow, you gave a rough idea on how long he goes between feeds so that's all you need really he'll let you know

 

[too_scared]

I'm not worried about the hiccups, I was just curious.

I let him go 4.5 hours last night with a snuggle for the last hour for wiggles that were gas pains, I'm assuming. He was tense up and then fart. Poor little guy.

We got him up after 4.5 hours because he was starting to make sucky faces. He woke up screaming hungry and was flailing and sucking his hands and just wouldn't settle to nurse for almost 20 minutes. He is still sleeping now, 4.5 hours later. It took almost 2 hours to settle him to sleep last time. I'm going on one hour and then 1.5 hours of sleep. So tired. I need to find a happy medium here.

Hope you're all well.

 

[ginny83]

That sounds pretty normal TS - it's hard with not much sleep hey! I found M quite unpredictable the first few weeks. I remember reading in books how mothers can know the different cries - but I couldn't! Unless he hadn't ate for a couple of hours then I knew it was because he wanted to be fed. Otherwise we just kept trying everything else - change nappy, swaddle, cuddles, rocking, burping, try feeding again. Can DH try settling him to let you catch up on some sleep?


I got some anti-nausea meds from the GP the other day called Zofran. I tried one today - it's a little pill that dissolves on your tongue. AMAZING! I felt like I was half human again! She also gave me a lecture about all the other meds I was taking - almost like it was a choice - I know GPs aren't at the same level of drs that prescribed the stuff for me, but it just hurt a little bit.

Then DF's mum had to chime in telling DF that she wouldn't be taking any meds for morning sickness, she'd just put up with it. I'm trying not to sound dramatic, but mentally I don't know if I can cope with the morning sickness. I miss out on spending quality time with M when I'm sick, everything on my life goes on hold because I can't function like normal. In the past 12 months I've had something like 4 months consumed with MS and it's all been for nothing. I'm really trying to be positive about this pregnancy, but when my head is in a toilet I start thinking is this worth it.

The only downside is that they're expensive! I only got a prescription for 4 tablets, and that cost $25 - I'm allowed to take up to 2 a day. Anyway, I'm going to try and hold off on them until I can have my hospital appointment on thursday and get a bigger prescription from them and triple check they're definitely OK to take.


Sorry that turned into a big post!

 

[ginny83]

Oh and TS - M always seemed to have the hiccups during pregnancy and then had them a lot for the first few weeks too

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Sorry ts i cant help much about hiccups, i rem that both had it while my belly (such a funny feeling!), and then when they were little, but cant rem how often. Don't know if that's related.

Ginny: i can totally understand why you can't cope with ms. First of all, maybe this one is very strong, and your MIL shouldn't compare. After all, would she say that to the Duchess of Cambridge who ended up in hospital? And i'm a bit like you, thinking: all this for nothing?
Just see how you feel, and if ms gets too much too handle then I dont see the pbl in taking medecine (as long as you can afford them though and they're ok to take )
And i don't understand why your gp would give you such a lecture if those medecines were prescribed by a specialist?

Hope you can get your mind off things xxx

Afm: dh has visited a house today. It was not in our plan to move, we'll see if we like it. I already know I like the area as I used to live not far away, it's close to transport links (underground and buses) and to the forest at the same time (and shops too).
Because I don't drive, it's becoming more and more difficult for me here. And when you're used to being independent, it can be tough when suddenly you're not! Lol! Hope that goes ok.

 

[Firef1y72]

I got some anti-nausea meds from the GP the other day called Zofran. I tried one today - it's a little pill that dissolves on your tongue. AMAZING! I felt like I was half human again! She also gave me a lecture about all the other meds I was taking - almost like it was a choice - I know GPs aren't at the same level of drs that prescribed the stuff for me, but it just hurt a little bit.

Then DF's mum had to chime in telling DF that she wouldn't be taking any meds for morning sickness, she'd just put up with it. I'm trying not to sound dramatic, but mentally I don't know if I can cope with the morning sickness. I miss out on spending quality time with M when I'm sick, everything on my life goes on hold because I can't function like normal. In the past 12 months I've had something like 4 months consumed with MS and it's all been for nothing. I'm really trying to be positive about this pregnancy, but when my head is in a toilet I start thinking is this worth it.

The only downside is that they're expensive! I only got a prescription for 4 tablets, and that cost $25 - I'm allowed to take up to 2 a day. Anyway, I'm going to try and hold off on them until I can have my hospital appointment on thursday and get a bigger prescription from them and triple check they're definitely OK to take.


Sorry that turned into a big post!

Hello again, I've not been much as I've been really sick with hyperemesis and and out hospital. I'm taking zofran too in a cocktail with several other anti sickness drugs for me it's not the miracle drug but it is safe and it helps a bit. I've taken various anti sickness drugs in each of my pregnancies and it hasn't affected the babies.

Afm I had my reassurance scan this morning when by my I'm 7 weeks. The Twiglet is measuring ahead at 7 weeks 5 days, with a strong heartbeat. I left scan room with tears of happiness pouring down my face.

 

[ickle pand]

Aw that's great news firefly. My reassurance scan made me feel so much better. I still have the occasional "I hope the baby is ok" moments but not full on wobbles. I'm just counting down until my dating/NT scan now (25 days).

Ummi hopefully this is a lovely house. Where I live, public transport isn't great and is expensive. I'd be lost without my car.