Kelly I totally know where you are coming from. I wasted years on selfish/immature/not "ready"/ just not right for me guys. I am lucky that I started seeing Mark at 35, a year after my marriage broke up and knew him enough to start trying more or less straight away. Otherwise I would definitely have only had one. Mindy, I didn't think I had it in me to have another until Edie was about 1.